I have just entered a new field and am setting too high a standard for myself. What should I do?

Hello, I'm Zeyu.

You have high expectations of yourself. What experience has this brought you, and what impact has it had on you? These questions will help you understand why you have such high expectations.

You've just entered a new field, and all your friends are big shots. This is an amazing opportunity for you to grow and learn. You know the gap between you and them, and you're ready to face this challenge head-on. You're determined to get closer to them, and you know that with hard work and dedication, you can bridge the gap and succeed.

Let's face this gap head on. We may feel we should get closer to them because they are the big bulls and the people we want to become. However, we know our current abilities make it difficult to quickly close this gap. This leads to a sense of difficulty, but we can do this. Quitting your job to do this full-time puts a lot of pressure and distress on you, but you have already put in a lot of effort for this cause and this goal.

In this situation, forcing yourself to relax is counterproductive. Your fear of procrastination is your instinctive reaction, and it's unfair to be angry with yourself.

Break down the goal. Start with the big goal and then break it down into smaller, more manageable pieces. Lower your standards and try to do it first. Demand the best from yourself. When your mentality changes, things will feel better. Take some time for physical relaxation or mindfulness meditation to relieve stress. Your body is the capital of the revolution.

Once you've removed the stress, you can then focus on opportunities and goals. You'll likely find that your fear and procrastination symptoms will subside. Additionally, you can ask yourself what you're afraid of and what you're procrastinating on.

You will achieve your goals soon.

Good morning, I hope this message finds you well. I just wanted to drop you a quick line to ask how you are doing. I hope you are having a good day. I am smiling. Best regards, [Name]

After reviewing your description, I have a better understanding of the question you wish to ask. In this regard, I would like to extend my support in the four-dimensional space.

The issue you raised is likely due to current thoughts and frustration, which have prompted some psychological changes. This is a normal response to difficulties. It's important to take your time and not become overly anxious, as you're already aware of the challenges you're facing. This will make it easier to find solutions.

It is understandable that you have high expectations of yourself given the competitive nature of your new field. There are many highly skilled individuals in this field, and you want to be able to match their level of expertise. This naturally leads to setting high standards for yourself. You hope to become as proficient as these individuals in the future.

Therefore, you also hope that you can quickly demonstrate your capabilities and gain the recognition and praise of these key stakeholders through these kinds of things. However, while thinking is a valuable skill, it is action that ultimately proves one's strength. Therefore, it is important to strike a balance between thinking and taking action. If you overthink and fail to take action, or if you take too little action, it can create a significant mental gap.

In this regard, I have also summarized some methods to help alleviate the current situation, and I hope they will be of some assistance.

(1) Your ability to communicate with the senior executive demonstrates your own competence. However, your tendency to compare yourself to this individual may lead you to perceive yourself as inferior, which could have a negative impact on your emotional state.

(2) Accept your true self and recognize your strengths. This will be beneficial for you in comparison to focusing on your weaknesses.

(3) Use comparisons judiciously, as excessive use can create a significant cognitive dissonance in the present. It is therefore preferable to accept oneself as one is and avoid uncritical comparisons with others.

(4) Attempt to instill greater courage in yourself to confront the present circumstances. Do not allow the setback to erode your confidence.

(5) Concentrate on the present and strive to achieve the best possible outcome. It is already a commendable effort. Avoid setting excessively high expectations, as this may lead to disappointment. Allow sufficient time for adjustment and reflection.

I would like to take this opportunity to extend my personal regards to you and to express my appreciation for your contributions to our organization.

Best regards,