I just live a normal life, why can't I stand it?

Greetings, I hope this message finds you well. I am a student who has chosen to remain anonymous.

After reading your question, I felt a sense of sadness and loneliness.

1.

I can sense that you are experiencing a profound sadness, which has led you to express a range of emotions and conflicting thoughts in your words.

For instance,

You might also consider using "can't stand it" and "considered happy" to describe your current life.

Perhaps consider using "don't like" and "bright future" to evaluate your current major.

Perhaps it would be more accurate to describe the current situation as one in which one doesn't want to continue and is living on the right track.

I believe these two sets of words belong to different language systems.

The former, "unbearable," "don't like," and "don't want to continue," are your inner feelings, if I understand you correctly.

It seems that these internal standards and requirements are so powerful that they can directly suppress your feelings. You may feel that it is safe to add the word "seemingly" when expressing that "it is completely unlike me to continue living this way."

Perhaps it would be helpful to reflect on your own words in the description: "My life has always been on the right track, but I don't seem to want to continue like this at all."

If I might humbly offer my interpretation, it seems that what you truly desire is to "cheat" just once.

2.

I sense a deep-seated hope for life within you.

While you have expressed a desire to drink insecticide, end it all immediately, and die,

It is my subjective feeling that you do not want to end your life, but rather that you want to end the pain that has built up inside over the years.

Perhaps what you really want to end is this pain. It may be that you want to release the pain of a life suppressed by powerful standards.

It may be the case that those intolerable internal struggles are, in fact, your desire to "cheat" and to live out your own alternative voice.

3.

Fortunately, you have the resources and strength within you to overcome this challenge.

For instance, you may wish to consider seeking psychological help.

For instance, the conflicting, screaming voices inside you, while they may cause you discomfort, could also be seen as a manifestation of your ongoing internal quest to find an outlet for yourself.

It is possible that prolonged "failure" (meaning not finding an outlet) may result in feelings of impatience, anxiety, and a lack of control.

It is possible that this sense of powerlessness may result in people turning to internal attacks and destruction as a means of finding the strength to find an outlet.

I can understand why you might be feeling tired.

It would be beneficial for you to establish a safe and stable relationship and seek help and nourishment from outside sources.

It might be helpful to try reading or keeping a diary.

You may wish to explore other avenues as well, without worrying about meeting certain standards.

It is possible that new opportunities may arise when you are able to express yourself more through these external aids.

Hello!

Your description makes me feel like a big stone is on my chest. It's painful.

From your description, I can see your life experiences. You seem to have been following a routine and doing well.

It's a happy, harmonious life with no worries about food or clothing.

These are the standards of happiness for many people. They are also the objects of envy.

This isn't what you want.

Maybe someone asks you, "What do you want?" You don't know how to answer.

It's not your fault. You've been living a routine life for years and have ignored your feelings.

You feel numb, tired, and empty all the time.

You seem calm, but inside you are overwhelmed with emotion. You need to let it out to start anew.

Is that right?

Find a quiet place and write down your thoughts. Then, go through them and see what's really on your mind.

Plan your future. Set goals and work towards a new life.

You seem smart and perceptive, but you don't have a confidant, so you feel depressed and lonely.

I hope you had your own new world when you were young.

Hello! I'm thrilled to answer your question and I hope my sharing will be of help to you.

From your words, I see a vibrant young person, full of life and searching for a sense of belonging.

In youth and early adulthood, everyone is probably completing a specific life task of their own, and it's an amazing journey! It's all about discovering who you are and what makes you, YOU!

If you develop well, you will gain a sense of identity in terms of career and gender roles, and have a clear direction. This is an amazing opportunity for you to find your true self and discover your purpose in life! While it can be challenging to maintain self-consistency, with the right guidance and support, you can overcome any obstacle and become the best version of yourself.

Now, let me tell you how you can develop smoothly! The following is for your reference.

[Peer interaction]

There are so many amazing opportunities during college! You can join clubs based on your interests, like the student union. You can also get involved in school volunteer and rural activities during the summer and winter vacations.

It's time to broaden your social circle and discover more space! You'll find yourself with more advantages, a sense of belonging, and a sense of value will be more easily stimulated.

If we are fish, we go swimming!

If we are monkeys, we climb trees!

"Why is ordinary life unbearably painful for me?"

As the saying goes, if we suppress our humanity, we will lose a lot. But if we embrace our animal nature, we can gain everything!

Go out there and explore! The question asker will definitely find companions who give them a sense of belonging and worth. And if things go well, the sky's the limit! The question asker will be able to set goals, have confidence in the future, and determine the three essentials in life: who, where, and what.

[Observe the lives of girls a little older than yourself, and start with the end in mind]

One thing that really struck me when I read the book "Raising Girls" is that you can observe the lives of your parents' friends to see what kind of people they are, whether you like them, and if not, what you need to adjust. If you like them, you can learn so much from them!

It's not about imitating others — it's about finding your own path!

Absolutely! Every life is unique and amazing in its own way.

Sometimes, we need to meet new people and experience new things to figure out what we truly want!

It's also a great idea to read biographies of famous people! Learning about their lives can be really inspiring. The paths they took can also give us lots of food for thought. These are all fantastic legacies that can help us clarify our own lives and actions!

[Within the limits of the rules, unleash your true nature!]

There are so many other things we can do to get our energy flowing and replace some of those "dangerous" behaviors!

The only sports I can think of are running, cycling, tennis, etc. – and they're all great!

Sweating it out while also effectively releasing some of the growth hormones and stress hormones from puberty is a great way to recharge!

And it's a process of discovering your own possibilities too!

Believe in yourself! You can do it! The simplest life nourishes a strong heart!

These processes are shaping a strong, amazing you!

That's all I want to share with you! The best way is in your own hands. Good luck! The world and I love you ???

Good day, classmate. I can relate to your experience. It was not an abrupt transition, but rather the culmination of years of accumulated stress and unexpected challenges. For a period, I was apprehrehensive about waking up the next day and confronting the day's demands, feeling as though I was making mistakes at every turn and afraid to interact with anyone, even my cherished family. The world appeared to be an endless ocean of suffering.

It is therefore postulated that a specific event may have occurred, which has resulted in the current state of tension and unhappiness.

From your description, it appears that your dissatisfaction with university began when you selected a major that did not align with your interests. Could this decision have been influenced by parental pressure?

Do parents fail to perceive the authentic self, let alone register indications of distress?

Indeed, there are numerous parents who are unable to love their children effectively, let alone comprehend their genuine thoughts and feelings. Even when they do attempt to understand their children, they often impose restrictions on their children's actions, claiming that they are acting in the child's best interest. This behavior is often driven by a lack of self-belief and fear on the part of the parents. They attempt to exert control over their children in an attempt to alter their own destiny and avoid the possibility of their children living a less privileged life than they have experienced. This form of parenting, which is often characterized by fear, can lead to feelings of suffocation and a lack of autonomy in the child.

Now that you are in college and will soon be financially independent, you have the opportunity to pursue your interests. While the world is replete with challenges, it also offers sources of joy and contentment.

A visit to the nearest park may yield insights into one's own preferences and interests. For instance, one might discover a particular plant that elicits a strong attraction. The presence of nature has been linked to positive effects on mood. Additionally, nature is perceived as a non-judgmental entity that encompasses diverse elements, including storms and rain. Connecting with nature can foster a sense of appreciation for its inherent beauty.

Once you are prepared, you may utilize alternative methods to demonstrate your authentic self to others. They may be unaccustomed to this, but it is a necessary adjustment. May you discard the metaphorical armor of "being good" and relax, allowing yourself to simply be yourself?

Hello, questioner. I am June Lai Feng.

After taking the time to read your deeply felt statement, I can't help but feel a sense of concern for you. It's clear that you've been through some challenging experiences in life, and I empathize with the difficulties you've faced.

It is important to remember that even in the face of disappointment, anxiety, and imagined struggles, there is beauty to be found in all aspects of life, both near and far.

It is not uncommon to feel that the meaning of life has passed and that there is no hope for the future. This can lead to feelings of depression and frustration, as the ideas and values we have believed in for many years may suddenly lose their meaning. It can feel as though the truths we have always cherished have disappeared, like the chaff at harvest time.

Perhaps we could also imagine that when we come to a big tree, the tree is growing, flowering, and bearing fruit. In autumn, the leaves will fall, and when they fall, they will nourish the roots of the tree and make it grow better. This is the endless cycle of life. We are also thinking beings.

I commend you for being able to share your innermost feelings with others today. It seems that you still have a good level of self-awareness, but you may have lost your way for a moment.

I'm not sure what significant changes you've experienced that have led to this sense of insecurity.

From a psychological perspective, it is possible that the inability to feel the meaning of existence may be related to the following aspects:

? Lack of a sense of meaning – We usually gain a sense of meaning through connecting with others, achieving goals, and pursuing personal values. When these aspects are hindered or missing, individuals may feel that life has lost its meaning.

Emotional distress – It is possible that emotional problems such as depression and anxiety may result in a loss of interest in life and a sense of meaning. These emotional problems can make it challenging for individuals to experience positive emotions, which may affect their outlook on life.

A lack of clarity about one's identity can also contribute to feelings of uncertainty about the meaning of life. Identity is an individual's perception and understanding of themselves, and when this perception is confused or uncertain, it can lead to a questioning of the meaning of life.

Major life changes, such as the loss of a loved one or the breakdown of a relationship, can sometimes lead people to question the meaning of life. These events can make individuals feel helpless and lost, which in turn affects their sense of meaning in life.

Some people may find themselves engaged in deep reflection on the meaning and purpose of life, which can sometimes lead to feelings of a lack of real meaning and value. This kind of thinking may, at times, give rise to existential anxiety and confusion.

A lack of self-worth can lead to feelings of boredom and meaninglessness. To address this, it may be helpful to explore one's interests, strengths, and potential in depth to enhance one's sense of self-worth.

Depression or anxiety – psychological disorders may cause a person to lose interest in life. In such cases, it may be helpful to seek the guidance of a professional psychologist.

?Interpersonal relationship problems – It is possible that difficulties in interpersonal relationships may lead to a person not feeling the meaning of life. It may be helpful to consider actively participating in social activities, expanding interpersonal relationships, and learning to communicate and cooperate with others as potential solutions to this problem.

It is possible that negative experiences and psychological trauma in the past may have an impact on our attitude towards life. It may be helpful to consider seeking support through psychological counseling and self-healing in order to move forward from these experiences and rediscover the meaning of life.

To address the issue of a lack of meaning in life, it may be helpful to consider a number of factors, including psychological adjustment, one's attitude towards life, interpersonal relationships, and physical factors.

Everyone's life is unique, and we have the opportunity to shape our own life story through positive attitudes and actions, which can help to create a more beautiful and joyful life.

If you have the time, you might find it helpful to read "Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience" by Mihály Csíkszentmihályi. This book explores the state of flow experienced by humans when they are focused and engaged in an activity. It offers a new perspective on understanding the human state of mind and suggests some practical methods to cultivate the flow experience and improve the quality of life.

I would like to share it with:

I am looking forward to a beautiful life to come.

It is a fascinating image that unfolds like a picture scroll.

In my imagination,

It is a world that is full of hope, dreams, and miracles.

In the morning,

If I may be so bold, I would like to suggest that when the first ray of sunshine gently brushes my cheeks through the curtains,

I feel their intimate contact with my skin.

It brings me a sense of warmth and care.

There is no sense of urgency or stress, only a sense of calm and peace.

The future of a good life is a vision that many people look forward to.

A world where hope, dreams, and possibilities flourish.

Could I perhaps inquire as to where?

Perhaps we could suggest that they pursue what they truly love.

And lead a fulfilling and meaningful life.

And lead fulfilling and meaningful lives.

I believe that a better life in the future is something we can achieve together.

Let us take care to hold onto our hopes and dreams.

And so on.

With the help of our collective wisdom and hard work.

May I respectfully suggest that you consider creating a better and happier life for yourself?

I hope that the world and I can bring you happiness.

Hello, question asker. I just wanted to say that I've read your account very carefully.

It's so important to understand that feeling of powerlessness you're experiencing. I'm really curious about what kind of state would make a person want to give up on life. How many times have you tried to end your life to fight against that feeling of powerlessness and meaninglessness?

You say you haven't had any setbacks before? Well, things were better in every way, and perhaps your current state is already the setback you need to face.

From my experience and common sense, I can tell you that a person in a normal, healthy, and energetic state will not think about not wanting to live. I can see that you are filled with a sense of futility and pessimistic thoughts of world-weariness. You go out and think about finding a tall building to end it all. I want you to know that death is not that easy. You may not die, but you will suffer, you may become disabled, and you will suffer for the rest of your life. So don't think nonsense.

My dear child, you are already sick, and you may already be in a very serious depressive state, which makes you think that you don't want to live. But you do want to live! The most important thing is to receive treatment. Go to the hospital and be diagnosed and treated by a doctor, then take the medicine. After that, you can seek the assistance of a psychological counselor to help you get out of this state together.

You're not alone. Many people with depression have been in your situation, and many of them have come out the other side. When you come out of this depressed state, you'll be back to your old self in no time.

When someone's mind isn't working quite right and they veer off course, they might feel a bit lost and pessimistic about the world.

I really hope you'll accept regular drug treatment and psychological treatment as soon as possible. I'm sending you all my love and I'm wishing you a speedy recovery!

You are a dear one.

I empathize with you in your experience of the meaninglessness and pain of life. You are holding on, and you will persevere.

Apart from your loved ones and practical matters, you have a deep desire to know why you are here, to live your life to the fullest, to let your life unfold, to grow, and to be what you are meant to be.

This is the strength that comes naturally with life. Parents, schools, and society can't tell us how to live or what is the right way to live. We are educated, and we carry within us a tenacious vitality and a desire to grow and live life to the full.

It will grow silently, take root, and sprout, growing into all kinds of colors and shapes, growing into what it is supposed to be.

You persist in the face of confusion and emptiness because you want to live. You want to live your own unique life. It's remarkable that you do this every day, despite the tremendous pain you experience.

I am not a professional psychologist, but I can tell you with confidence that you have suppressed a lot of your desires, true feelings, and true thoughts. It's likely that you have been suppressing yourself like this for a long time, to the point where you've become unable to feel yourself. Internally, you present a lot of chaotic, dark, and even frightening parts.

These parts are undoubtedly related to your deep repression of yourself.

Prolonged emotional repression has caused your body and nervous system to become ill. Professional doctors and treatments will provide you with the assistance and support you need.

You need to seek help from a professional psychologist and find a suitable teacher to help you through this difficult stage in your life.

Your description reminds me of a maverick girl named MANTIS, also known as Hong (her WeChat ID is "卑贱的人类").

She is a very unique, courageous, and chic girl. At one point, she also felt that life was meaningless and suffered from severe depression. She wanted to end her life.

Once she made up her mind, she made a list of things she wanted to do. She had always been afraid to do or felt unprepared to do these things, but she was going to do them anyway. She planned to end her life after completing these things.

As a result, she began to experience that life could be simple and direct, not as difficult and complicated as she had previously imagined. She lives her life courageously and directly, and has also brought new courage to many young people.

You will gain insight from Hong.

Everyone's experiences and the pain they endure are different. The same goes for the difficulties they face. You only know how unbearable the pain is when you're in the middle of it.

Life is a battlefield for one person, and others may only see some light smoke, but for that person, it is undoubtedly a purgatory that they have already walked through countless times.

Beneath the calm and ordinary life you present, there is a dark abyss. These are the feelings of your real life.

This abyss has a strong gravitational force. It makes you feel fear and pain and wants you to end it all. The only way to cross it is to face it little by little and let it reveal its full face.

You are not alone on this difficult path. In this era of rapid development, anxiety, and a lack of spiritual belonging, many people are confused as they search for their own path. Many others have finally found the direction of their lives after experiencing the darkest times of their lives.

I am certain that you will encounter people on the same journey, sources of encouragement, and friendly support in your difficult search, and you will find your own answers.

The books you like, the people and growth stories that have touched you, the teachers who understand you, and even a movie can all be powerful helpers on the journey of exploring life. You must actively seek assistance, seek fellow travelers who can give you encouragement, and seek resources that can lead you to answers. Don't fight alone.

I am confident that this will be of help to you.

Best wishes!

Hello, I'm Berek.

There are many psychological reasons why life may feel unbearable when it is no different from that of other people. First, it is important to understand that everyone has their own unique psychological experiences and needs.

This may be a lack of self-identity. Everyone seeks self-worth and meaning. If they feel their lives do not match their image or lack character, they will experience a strong sense of loss and anxiety.

In this case, we are too concerned about the lives of others, which leads to dissatisfaction with our own lives.

On the other hand, it is undoubtedly related to our psychological needs. Psychologist Maslow proposed the famous hierarchy of needs theory, which includes physiological needs, safety needs, social needs, respect needs, and self-fulfillment needs.

If some of our basic needs are not met or if we pursue higher-level needs but are unable to, we will experience pain and dissatisfaction.

Furthermore, excessive pursuit of perfection and uniqueness is a significant contributing factor to this emotion. In the social context of pursuing individuality, we may be overly eager to stand out, and once we realize that our lives are not that different from most people, we may experience a strong resistance.

Psychology offers some effective coping strategies for this emotion. First, you must accept and cherish your uniqueness while recognizing that everyone's life has its own unique value and meaning.

Second, you can adjust your mindset and shift your focus from comparing yourself to others to self-growth and improvement. In addition, you should seek professional psychological counseling. Professional counselors can help you better understand and deal with these emotions.

Finally, we must understand that life is diverse and that different people have different lifestyles and choices. We should respect and understand this diversity, rather than blindly pursuing uniqueness or excessive comparison.

Adjust your mindset and seek professional help. This is the only way to cope with these emotions and find your own happiness and satisfaction.

I wish you the best.

Hello.

You are experiencing extreme pain and struggle and have even considered ending your life. You need to seek help from a psychiatrist for diagnosis and psychological counseling.

You say there's no reason for you to live. Your description reveals your deep despair.

Your academic path has not been easy. You said you didn't want to go to school, but your parents forced you to go, regardless of the fact that you were already depressed. You got into college, but you didn't like the major. You went to college for the wrong reasons.

Who chooses a profession?

Your parents likely took care of everything when you were growing up, both materially and in terms of your study goals. They took the lead in these matters, depriving you of initiative.

Once you get into college, the goals set by your parents and teachers are already complete. You must decide what to do next. If someone else sets goals for you, you will resent them.

You are currently undergoing a transformation. In the past, your parents and teachers set goals for you and guided your life. However, after the transformation, you will take charge of your own life and lead your own life.

Transformation is painful. You must set your own goals and take your own path in life, but you may not be ready for that.

You will engage in avoidance behavior, such as drinking alcohol to numb yourself. You need to ask yourself, "Who am I?"

You may not want to know, but you should. You should also face it.

People say you're tolerant and accommodating, but that's just a mask for suppressing your thoughts and feelings. The pressure is building, like a tight string that could snap at any time!

You are a girl, but you use the male radical "he," which shows you don't identify with your gender.

If you suppress yourself in a relationship, don't present your true self, and don't identify with your gender, you'll have a hard time getting to know yourself.

You need to give yourself more patience and more time. This is the process of transformation, and it's the process of self-understanding.

You are not alone, no matter how difficult the situation. There are people who will listen and help. Your school may have a professional counselor, and you can also seek help from a professional counselor or psychiatrist.

Hello, question asker!

You're going through something no one can truly understand. You have a happy family, are starting university, have a bright future, and a popular personality, but inside you're actually in so much pain that you don't know how to go on living. Since it's a kind of hidden pain, it means that usually few people can pay attention to it and give you support in time. First of all, I'd like to give you a hug!

First of all, I would highly recommend that you go to the psychiatric department of a hospital for professional diagnosis and treatment. The thoughts of self-harm and suicide have been around for a long time, and you have already taken action. Your risk of crisis is still relatively high, so safety is the most important thing right now. Formal treatment can also help you relieve your inner pain more quickly. During treatment, you should actively communicate with your family about your condition and get their care and help.

Secondly, from what you've described, it seems to be very similar to the symptoms of "hollowing out" proposed by Kevin Xu. It is characterized by a lack of personal spirituality, values, ideals, beliefs, and a sense of the meaning of life. Mr. Xu initially proposed this concept because he found that similar symptoms were prevalent among outstanding college students. Its root cause lies in the characteristics of the era we are in, which is anxious and confusing. This is very similar to the characteristics of the era when Kohut proposed self psychology in the 1970s in the United States.

The theory of humanism says that everyone is capable of self-realization. If we remove the obstacles, we can all develop our own rich spiritual world. But why can't some outstanding college students develop it?

It's so sad when our natural abilities are hindered. It's like we're missing out on something important. I think it's so important to have time to explore our interests and discover what makes us happy. If we're forced to study from an early age, even if it's just for an interest class that we're not really interested in, just to get extra points for school advancement, it can really limit our ability to develop our spiritual world.

If you're not sure what your interests are or what it means to do something, you might feel like you're learning something you don't really connect with. When you feel this way, it can be hard to know what to do with those feelings. If you don't have a way to express them, they can build up inside and lead to self-loathing, which is the root cause of self-harm and suicide.

But there's no need to be too discouraged. These abilities are naturally ours, so they've only been temporarily hindered. As long as we remove the obstacles, the inner spiritual world will flourish on its own. Mr. Xu offers some great tips: first, don't be too practical, and enjoy simple pleasures; second, actively seek meaningful things, try new things, and see what excites you; third, be creative, listen to your heart, and do things that make you feel good.

If you can, it would be great if you could invite your parents to learn more about mental health. When the whole family is on the same page when it comes to mental health, everyone benefits!

I wish you all the best! May you always be healthy and happy!

Everyone has different expectations and needs in life, and that's totally okay! Even if you lead an ordinary life, you don't have to put up with it or be dissatisfied.

It's totally normal to have higher expectations or more desires for life. The key is to understand your own inner needs and find ways to satisfy them.

Take a moment to think about what you feel is missing in the lives of ordinary people. Could it be more challenges, excitement, or opportunities for personal growth?

Or are there other specific aspects? It's always worth asking yourself what you really long for and thinking about how you can add these elements to your existing life.

If you're looking for a little more excitement or a chance to grow, you might want to consider making a few proactive changes. This could mean pursuing your interests, learning new skills, getting involved in meaningful activities, or finding a social circle that matches your values.

And don't forget to appreciate the little things in life! Even the everyday routine can be beautiful and fulfilling.

It's so important to focus on the happiness and well-being of the present, not just the pursuit of some idealized lifestyle.

If you're still feeling confused or unable to find satisfaction, you might also want to think about seeking professional psychological counseling. These professionals can offer more in-depth guidance and support. Have you ever thought about trying some new activities or hobbies to enrich your life?

Hello, adorable anxiety/when-i-was-a-freshman-my-approach-was-a-failure-what-would-you-all-do-in-this-situation-2298.html" target="_blank">freshman! I was so surprised and impressed when I read your question, "I want to live a normal life, but I can't accept it."

You're a bright college student, quick-witted and easygoing. You're also lucky to come from a well-off family, so you don't have to worry about food and clothing. But it seems like you take all of this for granted. You don't feel like your family and personal circumstances are the foundation of your growth and progress. You also have serious depressive and anxious emotions. This has led you to take a series of overdoses at school and when you go out. You even choose to open the windows on the upper floors to make yourself feel better. You've even had suicidal thoughts.

From a status, age, and knowledge standpoint, a beautiful college student in her senior year is truly in an enviable spot. It's a period of confrontation, conflict, and even decadence and rebellion that adolescents must navigate. Psychologists have written a lot about this and discussed the patterns.

You said, "I don't understand why people want to live. Is there anything happy about it?"

I'm so impressed by how you managed to persevere! It's incredible that you were on the brink of leaving this world, but you didn't give in. I admire your courage and openness in sharing your stories and thoughts on the platform.

The Tao Te Ching says, "Heaven has the virtue of kindness." I'm so happy you've shared your thoughts with me! I'm curious to get to know you better. I want to say, "Little beauty, what are you sad about, what are you angry about?" It seems like you've seen through everything at such a young age. Is there anything in this world you think you've missed out on?

My answer is a resounding "NO!" I'm a psychological counselor, and I've seen my fair share of situations like yours with beautiful young girls. It's so common for girls your age to have secrets they don't want anyone to know, including their own parents.

So, I chose to punish myself and shut off my emotional flow. If you trust me, I will leave you my phone number and WeChat ID. When you feel like giving it a try, we can chat about life, and I promise it will be a rewarding experience for you!

I just know you'll discover there's still so much beauty and fondness in life!

I'd absolutely love to hear from you! I really hope your dreams come true!

Hello, question asker!

From what you've said, I can't begin to imagine what you're going through. It's hard to believe that someone with such advantages could also have so many problems, feel so lacking in spirit, and still be living such a difficult life. For someone like me who has always been poor, it's difficult to understand. I do know, though, that if it's painful, it's going to be really painful, and I understand your pain.

I'm just wondering, I don't know what made you feel this way. To be honest, from your description, I can't tell that your parents were bad to you, because you said you feel guilty towards them. Then I think your parents should have been good to you. At least in the beginning, they had a place in your heart, but then you got emotional, and gradually you felt that you no longer owed them anything.

I'm surprised to hear you had problems in high school, including depression and suicidal thoughts. Despite these challenges, you persevered and got into university. It's clear you have great perseverance and intelligence.

You also said that other people see you as having a great image. I'm surprised that people's external image and internal thoughts can be so different. As you said, if you have a problem, others will be very surprised. I just feel that deep down inside, why do you have to suppress yourself so much? Why not be unrestrained and expressive?

As you mentioned, you reached your limit and even shaved your head bald. It's a drastic move for anyone, let alone a woman. I'm genuinely sorry to hear that. I give you a hug again.

I really want to help you, but I also know that words may be particularly powerless for you. I really hope you can go to a proper hospital and find a famous counselor or psychotherapist and ask them for help. It would be really beneficial for you as a freshman in college.

I hope you can get the help you need soon. I wish you could experience a little more of the beauty in the world. The world and I love you!

Hello! I get what you're saying. Things have been going well for you, and everything is falling into place.

It seems like you're being pushed through this process. Your sense of morality is fading, and as you mentioned, you have the freedom to choose another way to end your life. Gradually, you're not feeling as guilty towards your parents.

I'd like to ask, is this the freedom you're looking for? If you don't have expectations of the world, you'll never understand why other people live the way they do.

Throughout history, people have had different ideas about how to live. Some want to accomplish a mission, while others want wealth and power. Some are just ordinary. They don't have any major achievements or anything to attract attention, but they appreciate what they have and are happy with it. They keep exploring life but don't demand too much of themselves. Why should we keep the idea of living to get something or become someone?

Can't you enjoy the simple pleasures of watching flowers bloom in spring, the lush greenery of summer, or the unique human customs and styles of autumn and winter? We're intelligent creatures, adept at recording things and seeing things from the perspective of our ancestors. This allows us to approach problems and view the world from different angles.

I really think you should view the world we live in, which seems so similar, in this way.

Dear Questioner,

Hello!

You seem unhappy. What makes you so pessimistic? I think you've experienced a lot of pain. Let's look at these problems together.

1. Your life has been ordinary from childhood to adulthood. You have both parents, enough to eat and wear, a happy family, never been bullied, good studies, and a major you don't like but has a bright future.

You're a freshman in college, but you don't want to continue like this. You don't want to live anymore.

Your life seems unhappy. You like your major, but it's not your passion. Studying a major you don't like will make you feel reluctant or regretful.

The ABC model of emotions says that it's not what happens to us that makes us feel bad, but how we think about it. Could your disappointment in life be because of this professional choice?

We can look at this from two perspectives. If you didn't choose your major, you may not like it. But college is still meaningful even if you don't like your major.

A dull life doesn't inspire passion. Coupled with dissatisfaction with one's major, I don't want to live like this.

2. You used to feel guilty for not repaying your parents, but now you don't. You probably won't feel guilty if you drag others along with you. You don't understand why everyone wants to live.

You want to know how people manage to hang on. There was a time when you were so depressed that you tried to kill yourself by drinking insecticide and stayed home for two weeks.

You regret drinking the insecticide. Your family took you to school, where you went for two years.

You ran away from home once and shaved your head. After taking the college entrance exam, you realize that your life is painful.

You feel pain in everyday life. You have material wealth but lack spiritual wealth. You don't have noble ideals or beliefs. You don't believe in God, love your country, or have ethics or integrity.

In class, you fantasized about suicide.

You got into university despite the pain and hardship. You're outstanding and strong. How did you do it?

3. You drink because alcohol blocks pain and anxiety. You've never become addicted because you've always been a good student.

You haven't become addicted to alcohol, even though you're in pain and anxious. It seems like you want something other than being a good student.

4. You take too much medication, but you don't want to die. You look for a high window in new places.

Why are you so desperate about life? An open window lets in light and fresh air. It's the same window, but its meaning depends on us.

Effects and meaning affect each other.

5. You are tolerant and gentle when others judge you. No one knows what you want to do. If you do it, they will be shocked.

You can't take it anymore. When he loses it, something terrible will happen.

You seem to have been living up to other people's expectations, rather than being yourself. If you can't express yourself authentically, you'll experience a lot of internal conflict and eventually become exhausted.

You can express your true feelings. Everyone has the right to be true to themselves.

6. You are a girl, but you feel awkward calling yourself "she." This shows you are brave and fighting back.

Fight back against those who force you to be something you're not. Adults should solve their problems like adults.

I hope these tips help!

"Why can't I live a normal life?"

Hello, I was also rebellious and confused in my youth. When I saw the title, I thought, "Of course you can live differently. You're special." If the future you is outstanding, what will it be like?

How did you feel?

I was shocked when I saw how much pain you've been hiding.

Protect your life. Your situation is not high-risk. We're concerned about you. Yixin has chosen your question for a discussion on happiness. You've attracted attention and lucked out!

Good for you!

Many people like you, including me, worked hard in high school.

My roommate in college was also a good student with excellent grades. She came from a poor rural family, but was supported by scholarships. She completed her studies smoothly. She was usually quiet, but also carefree. When she graduated from college and planned to take the postgraduate entrance exam, she seemed like a different person. She spent all day reading online fantasy novels. We thought she was under too much pressure. In the end, she told us that she wanted to experience some setbacks, so she did it on purpose!

We were all shocked. She got excellent grades and became a hardworking laborer, instead of pursuing a career in science.

This is bad for everyone. It's also a failure of our education system. I don't think any of you are at fault. Having too much success is not a complete life.

How can you enrich your life now?

If you want a different life, just be yourself. Parenting is a journey that gradually grows apart.

You can become independent and be yourself by breaking away from your parents' care. I hope your parents will always support you. Just as the song "Blooming Apart" says, parents will be happy to see you grow up!

Finally, embrace your experiences. They are your journey to becoming yourself. But please don't hurt yourself. The human body and brain are precious because we can reflect on ourselves and change. Other animals cannot do this. Do you have the courage to face it and turn over a new leaf?

Good day. I would like to express my empathy for your situation. Despite the outward appearance of stability, it is evident that you are not at ease.

My parents are perplexed by my apparent unhappiness, given my academic performance and imminent employment prospects. It is challenging to maintain a positive outlook when we are expected to excel academically and suppress our individuality.

I observed that you indicated your family was unsupportive of your educational pursuits and compelled you to attend school. It is evident that parental influence can exert control, as depicted in numerous television dramas where parents mandate their children's studies and activities they may not prefer.

It is important to note that children in the rebellious stage can be challenging to navigate. When they engage in self-harm, parents often experience a sense of shock and regret.

I also contemplated suicide during my high school years. I was isolated and felt that I could not stand to be in school for even a minute, but I still did not harm myself. Life is a singular opportunity, and it is unwise to waste it on such matters. From what you have told me about yourself, you are tolerant, gentle, and submissive. It seems that your parents do not frequently see or notice your needs, arrange everything for you, and that you are unable to have your own opinions and do things.

If feelings are suppressed for an extended period, there is a risk of lashing out and causing harm to oneself. I empathize with your situation and recognize that your parents may have been raised in a similar manner. However, it is crucial to avoid self-harm.

I would like to encourage your friends here to persevere in their own endeavours. There are many opportunities for you to discover your interests at college, and to become independent.

The future will present a wealth of promising opportunities. Following graduation, it is advisable to secure a fulfilling position, establish financial independence, and pursue your desired objectives. Seizing the moment to create a fulfilling life is also highly recommended.

I wish you the best of luck!

Good day, question asker. My name is Jiang 61.

Firstly, I would like to thank you for raising the question of what constitutes happiness. This has provided us with an opportunity to engage in a collective reflection on the underlying reasons behind our desire to deviate from the conventional path of a normal life.

"After reading your detailed introduction, I will now proceed to discuss it with you.

1. Introduction

1. Life

The subject's living environment is described as follows:

You stated that your life has been, on the whole, unremarkable, yet you consider yourself to be happy. You have both parents, you have no concerns regarding food and clothing, your family is relatively harmonious, you have never been bullied, your studies have consistently been of a high standard, and you were admitted to a major that you do not particularly enjoy, but which has a promising future.

I am currently a first-year college student, and I believe that my life has been on an appropriate trajectory thus far. However, I do not wish for it to continue in this manner.

As stated in the questioner's introduction, the questioner was raised in a family environment characterised by love, financial stability, and a harmonious relationship between parents and children. Despite these positive circumstances, the questioner's chosen field of study does not align with their personal aspirations.

The questioner indicates that he has consistently experienced a relatively straightforward and uneventful existence, adhering to the conventional trajectory of life. Nevertheless, he expresses a desire to deviate from this pattern.

I am disinclined to continue living.

The subject stated, "I was no longer interested in living, and nothing motivated me to continue living. Previously, I experienced guilt for being unable to repay my parents for raising me. However, I currently do not feel any guilt, and I anticipate that I will not experience guilt even if I cause the downfall of a few individuals."

The question of the motivation behind the decision to live is a complex one. What factors contribute to an individual's desire to continue living? Is there a singular, defining factor that influences this decision? In order to gain a deeper understanding of this phenomenon, it is essential to identify the sources of happiness that drive individuals to persevere through life's challenges.

"Please describe the strategies you employed to persevere."

The questioner expressed a strong desire to end his life and a lack of motivation to continue living. However, his experience was not as straightforward as he described, encompassing a range of emotions and perceptions.

It can be speculated that the question owner has always lived in an illusory environment that is conducive to their well-being. This environment may be one in which the question owner lacks control over certain aspects of their life and is able to live in a manner that aligns with their needs and preferences. This may result in the question owner experiencing the positive aspects of life, including happiness, comfort, and joy. In light of this, it is important to consider how the current situation can be altered and how perseverance can be achieved. The question owner is likely contemplating these matters.

3⃣️, Depression The subject also experienced depression. This manifested as a two-week period of self-isolation during which the subject consumed insecticide with the intention of suicide. The subject subsequently reflected on the potential efficacy of the insecticide consumed, noting that it could have been stronger.

The individual in question must now fight.

You stated, "At one point in time, I experienced a profound depressive episode after consuming insecticide with the intention of suicide. I remained at home for a period of two weeks and was unable to attend school. I subsequently reflected on the fact that the insecticide I ingested was not sufficiently potent."

Subsequently, my family was no longer willing to tolerate my behavior and accompanied me to school, where I proceeded to attend classes. It has been two years since that incident, and I have not engaged in any noteworthy activities outside of the aforementioned instances of running away from home and shaving my head, which were merely symbolic acts of rebellion.

After taking the college entrance examination, I came to recognize that the challenging life I had begun to lead was, in fact, just the beginning. Prior to this, I had been living a relatively good life. I am at a loss as to why an ordinary life is so unbearably painful for me.

"

The questioner was driven by an unbearable, unchanging reality that he was unable to alter. This led him to flee his home and attempt suicide, seeking to resist the circumstances of his life. The family was unable to comprehend the situation and persisted in allowing the questioner to live according to their own desires.

Furthermore, there is a lack of spiritual nourishment.

The subject reports feeling materially wealthy but spiritually impoverished. They express a lack of noble ideals or lofty beliefs, as well as a lack of belief in a higher power, patriotism, and concern for moral rectitude. During class, both then and now, the subject reports fantasizing about various suicide methods, expressing a desire to end their life immediately. They report a lack of interest in the lecture and a desire to use a readily available item in the classroom to end their suffering.

I must concede that I am not particularly adept at the process of studying, nor do I possess the requisite talent for scientific research.

The term "paralyzed" is an accurate reflection of the questioner's genuine thoughts. While the questioner received material sustenance from their original family, they lacked spiritual nourishment. This deficiency represents a fundamental need for the questioner and serves as a driving force in their life.

In the absence of spiritual pursuits, the individual in question is rendered powerless, depressed, unable to release pressure, unable to perceive the meaning of life, and inclined to consider alternative paths.

The term "paralysis" is used to describe a state of immobility or lack of ability to function.

You state, "I enjoy consuming alcoholic beverages. My initial experience with alcohol led me to comprehend the reasons behind its widespread addiction. It impairs one's sensory perception, rendering distressing experiences and physical pain less acute."

However, I was never addicted because I consistently portrayed myself as a model student, and model students do not become alcoholics. Additionally, I frequently attempted suicide by overdose, and although the dosage was not lethal, I contemplated the potential consequences.

What if, this time, I were to die?

"Upon entering a new environment, I seek out a high-level window that can be opened, providing a sense of security and the knowledge that I have an exit strategy. This may appear to be a trivial joke, but it is, in fact, a highly practical solution for me."

The helplessness of the questioner evokes a profound sense of sadness, yet her parents remain unaware of this. It is evident that the parents' excessive self-love has inflicted significant harm upon the questioner. To cope with the overwhelming distress, the questioner turns to alcohol as a means of temporarily numbing her thoughts and experiences.

The subject has presented herself as a model student, managed her addiction, and gained her parents' approval. However, she has also been grappling with existential issues, including suicidal thoughts and self-harm.

The subject's physical appearance was not a significant factor in the observations made by the questioner.

"If others comment on me, I should be tolerant, gentle, and perhaps somewhat submissive, sullen, and intriguing. No one is aware of my true desires. If I act upon them, they will likely be taken aback and remark, 'I did not anticipate that. He would not do such a thing. He is not like that. He has always been calm and emotionally stable.'"

It was observed that when the questioner discussed the impression of outsiders, she stated, "Perhaps somewhat submissive." This may be a pertinent topic for discussion. From the perspective of parents and external observers, the questioner may have consistently been regarded as a model student and exemplary individual.

Therefore, it can be reasonably assumed that the subject in question should also exhibit a stable emotional state. The aforementioned previous poster has engaged in a series of rebellious acts that have evoked a strong emotional response from their parents and other external observers, who find these actions to be highly unusual and surprising.

3. Terminate all existing relationships.

You stated, "At this juncture, an individual has reached his or her limit. When the emotional tether is severed, a catastrophic outcome will ensue."

(I am a female, yet I feel somewhat peculiar about referring to myself as "she." I am uncertain as to why, so I will simply use "

The text is written in the third person.

The questioner employs the third person to more effectively convey her current emotional state. The questioner is a young woman who has invested significant effort into attaining the autonomy and lifestyle she desires, yet has not yet received the requisite understanding or support from her parents. She experiences a sense of depletion in her energy reserves and a concomitant diminution in her prospects for attaining the freedom of thought and action she covets, as though a string has been pulled taut, extinguishing the hope of continued existence.

The survival instinct is a fundamental biological mechanism that enables organisms to survive and reproduce.

The original poster (OP) has identified a source of support and has come to this forum with the hope of finding strength, understanding, and spiritual support. It is evident that the OP has a strong sense of self-worth and a determination to persevere.

Let us endeavor to identify a solution that will enable us to extricate ourselves from this situation collectively.

2. The Source of Suffering

1. The impact of upbringing in the original family

The term "native family" is used to describe a family that is native to a particular region or country.

The term "original family" denotes the family in which an individual is born and raised. The atmosphere of this family, its lifestyle and habits, the role models the children learn from in the family, and the interactions between family members all influence the children's future behavior in their new family.

The parents of the subject in question are notably strong-willed.

From the initial presentation of the subject, it is evident that the parents provide the subject with a superior material standard of living, advocate for what they perceive as beneficial for the subject, compel the subject to engage in activities that are disagreeable to them, and engender a sense of insignificance and lack of fulfillment in the subject. This has resulted in the subject's depressive state.

2. Personality

The questioner's personality is a combination of a pleasing type and a calm type. Their previous life was largely defined by their parents' expectations, leading them to be perceived as compliant and academically successful by external observers. However, this facade conceals the questioner's genuine inner needs and emotions.

Individuals with a pleasing personality tend to prioritize the satisfaction of others over their own needs and feelings. They often exhibit a tendency to conform to the expectations and desires of those around them, seeking to maintain harmonious relationships and avoid conflict.

A pleasing personality is one that is characterized by a tendency to blindly please others without sufficient attention to one's own feelings. This state of mind is considered unhealthy. The essence of pleasing others is that they are of greater importance than oneself. In order to please others, one must make them feel comfortable and ensure that they feel safe and loved.

As a result, the questioner's attention is primarily directed towards the opinions and actions of parents and other individuals, while their own feelings are largely disregarded. This leads to the suppression of emotions, which cannot be released, and ultimately contributes to the development of depression.

The calm personality type is characterized by a tendency to remain composed and tranquil in the face of stressful or challenging situations. Individuals with this personality type tend to exhibit a high level of emotional stability and resilience, often displaying a capacity to adapt and cope effectively in the face of adversity.

Those with a calm personality tend to exhibit the following characteristics:

The characteristics of this personality type are as follows: slow and deliberate, cautious, gentle and stable, and seeking harmony.

The individual displays the following strengths: easy-going, adaptable, thoughtful, and tolerant.

The disadvantages of this characterization include a tendency toward slowness and lethargy, a lack of readily apparent remorse, a reserved demeanor, and a tendency to remain on the sidelines of social interactions.

The questioner displays characteristics of humility, gentleness, and tolerance, yet exhibits a reluctance to express themselves, or perhaps lacks the capacity to do so. Consequently, despite the presence of thoughts within the questioner, they are unable to persuade their parents to acknowledge their genuine needs.

Consequently, the questioner has been subjected to considerable distress, unable to extricate themselves from the situation, and has resorted to other forms of self-harm.

3⃣, Desire Desire can be defined as a strong longing or craving for something or some situation. It is an intense emotional impulse that can be either material, such as the desire for a desired gift, or spiritual, such as the desire for a fulfilling and exciting life. Regardless of the type of desire, it is a powerful motivating force that drives us to pursue what we want.

The concept of longing can be defined as a strong desire and earnest hope. It is characterized by an intense emotional impulse that drives an individual to pursue a specific object or situation. This desire can manifest in various forms, including material or spiritual cravings, and is often accompanied by an urgent hope for fulfillment.

Longing can be defined as a strong desire and earnest hope. It is an expression of a powerful aspiration towards a specific object or situation. It is an intense emotional state, characterised by an urgent desire for fulfilment.

Cravings may manifest as material desires, such as the longing for a desired gift, or as spiritual aspirations, such as the desire for a fulfilling and exciting life. Regardless of the specific type of craving, they all give rise to a powerful emotional impulse at the core of our being.

The emotion is repressed.

From the entirety of the introduction provided by the questioner, it is evident that the questioner previously led the lives of others, namely their parents, rather than their own life. Consequently, the questioner's emotions were suppressed. The questioner pursued a spiritual life and a happy life, but these were withheld from them by their parents for various reasons.

It can be concluded, therefore, that the material life that parents believe they are providing is unable to facilitate the subject's experience of happiness and spiritual pleasure.

3. Recommendations for Further Action

1. Professional counseling

Professional counseling is recommended.

From the questioner's introduction, it is evident that the questioner's mental state has been significantly compromised, to the extent that the questioner has repeatedly contemplated suicide. Therefore, it is advised that the questioner promptly seek professional assistance to facilitate the healing process from the psychological trauma.

It is recommended that the questioner seek a happy life.

Professional counselors can facilitate emotional healing and provide guidance in identifying personal strengths, defining life goals, and developing a sense of well-being.

2. Family Therapy

Family therapy

The term "family therapy" is used to describe a specific treatment theory and method that views the psychological problems of family members as a whole from a systemic and dynamic perspective. The main objective of this approach is to achieve symptom treatment by changing the way family members interact around the symptoms.

It is recommended that all parties participate together.

In the absence of parental participation, approval, understanding, and support, the questioner's desire for spiritual fulfillment and an independent life will remain unmet, perpetuating a cycle of unfulfilled psychological needs.

Family therapy assists parents in modifying their cognitive biases regarding parenting practices and in recognizing the distinction between what is beneficial and harmful for their children. This enables parents to comprehend and support their children's ideas, meet their needs, and address their psychological trauma.

3⃣, Mastering happiness The concept of happiness can be defined as a series of feelings of joy and pleasure that humans subjectively experience based on their own sense of satisfaction and security. It is a subjective feeling that can be derived from various aspects, including family, work, interpersonal relationships, health, and so forth. However, it is important to note that happiness cannot be bestowed upon an individual by another person; rather, it is something that must be pursued and attained through one's own efforts.

The concept of happiness is multifaceted and subjective. It encompasses a series of feelings of joy and pleasure that humans subjectively experience based on their own sense of satisfaction and security. It is a subjective feeling that can arise from various aspects of an individual's life, including family, work, interpersonal relationships, and health.

Happiness can be defined as a series of feelings of joy and pleasure that humans subjectively experience based on their own sense of satisfaction and security. It is a subjective phenomenon that can be influenced by various factors, including family, work, interpersonal relationships, and health.

The concept of "mastering happiness" is a subjective one, and it is therefore difficult to define. However, it can be understood as a state of emotional well-being and contentment that one achieves through a process of self-discovery and self-actualization.

Happiness is not something that can be bestowed upon an individual by another person; rather, it is something that must be pursued and attained through one's own efforts.

It is commendable to express one's needs and endeavor to gain the understanding and support of one's parents. It is beneficial to engage in activities that bring one joy and happiness, even if they are of a trivial nature.

Upon attaining a minor objective, it is beneficial to offer oneself a reward and permit the experience of the associated positive emotions, including joy, pride, and a sense of accomplishment. When such experiences are allowed, it becomes evident that the attainment of happiness is within one's own control.

The experience of joy in life provides insight into the meaning of human existence. It imbues individuals with strength and motivates them to engage in activities they deem worthwhile.

While it may be perceived as ordinary, it has the potential to evoke a sense of spiritual happiness and impart a sense of self-worth and purpose. It is this quality of life that I believe the questioner is seeking.

This is the topic I intend to address with the questioner, with the aim of providing some assistance. In conclusion, I wish the questioner the very best for the future.

Hello, I'm Bai Li Yina, and I hope my reply can provide some warmth and help.

The person asking the questions says that even though she has no financial worries, has never been bullied, has a harmonious family, is an excellent student, and is seen by others as emotionally stable, gentle, and interesting, she still feels like her current life is unbearable. She feels like killing herself every day and has tried to commit suicide before, but failed. Why is this so? Even in the midst of extreme pain, it seems that you don't understand why you are like this.

Let's take a look at the situation.

You said you had two parents, you never lacked for anything, your family was harmonious, you were never bullied, your studies were always good, and you got into a promising major. All of this is a very good life in other people's eyes, but it's not the life you want inside. For you, life is currently pretty bad.

You've lost the desire to live, and there's no reason you have to keep going.

I see an excellent girl who is trying hard to live for others, but she has completely failed to become herself. She has been doing what others want her to do. You are like a canary in a cage. You have experienced so much, and those words that are so lightly said are heartbreaking to watch. You try so hard to suppress yourself and not let the people around you discover your true self, and it is really so painful. I really want to give this girl, who is making others so sad, a warm and big hug.

[Questions for deeper thought]

1. When did you first feel like you didn't want to live anymore? What happened at that time?

What did you think was missing?

2. If you could start over, what would you want to be like?

3. What made you happy? Who are your friends?

4. After each act of rebellion, do you feel happy and cheerful on the inside? Who's suffering makes you feel touched?

5. Can you tell me why people catch colds and have fevers? Why do people get sick?

[Recommended method to try]

From what you've said, it seems like not wanting to live is related to material life and experiences of being oppressed. However, material deprivation can be tolerated and improved with effort. It is the spiritual deprivation that is most desperate and painful. Because you often can't find the reason or a way to improve the situation, it seems like nothing is right. It's like being in a quagmire, sinking deeper and deeper. You've tried countless times to climb out, but you find it hard to get out.

From the time you started to think about ending your life until you attempted suicide for the first time, what was your family's attitude towards you? You said your family couldn't stand you anymore, but what are your thoughts on their attitude towards you?

Do you feel like they don't understand you or see your pain? Did you even consider suicide because you hoped they would see it, understand it, and let them know that you were already in so much pain?

You don't understand why you don't want to live anymore. Sometimes it's like you know you're not feeling well and you're sick, but you don't know exactly what's wrong or what caused you to feel unwell. These are things that require a professional doctor to give a diagnosis after various indicator examinations.

Your heart may just be sick, and all your current feelings and pain are just uncomfortable reactions. The important thing is to keep working with your treatment plan and you will recover. We don't need to worry about the cause of the illness. As long as you no longer want to live every day in such pain, try to determine through a professional psychiatrist's diagnosis whether you can recover as soon as possible.

I hope you can overcome your mental suffering soon and find a way of living that suits you better. Change takes time and patience, so don't worry or be afraid. Many people are dealing with similar issues.

The world and I are both rooting for you. You've got this.

I appreciate your support, and I wish you well.

Hello, question asker!

Reading your description, I feel so sorry for you. I want to give you a hug! I'm here to help. What makes you feel helpless and powerless in life? You don't know why you're living, and it's like you're a walking corpse. You also wrote: Your material life is very rich, but your spiritual world is very lacking.

This is an incredible opportunity for growth and awareness! It's a chance to bridge the gap between generations and embrace the spiritual world. When raising the next generation, we're all on a single plank bridge, opening our horizons to new possibilities. Life becomes more vibrant and we're surrounded by people, creating a rich tapestry of connections. When we shift our focus from material things,

Our spiritual world is just waiting to be fulfilled, and our thinking is ready to burst into action! We're about to find out why we're here.

Questioner, you wrote about "drinking alcohol." I feel that you still have a lot of self-control, which is great! The fact that you can describe all of this also shows that you are eager to change the status quo, which is fantastic! However, in the Internet age, communication with family and friends has become more distant, and our inner emotions cannot flow, becoming stagnant.

Questioner, after we become adults, we get to grow and take responsibility for ourselves! You can show us an unseen side of your life through your writing, so that we can get to know you. Thank you!

You know, living an ordinary life can also be really colorful! There's absolutely no need to prove anything or compare yourself to others. Just like the grass along the roadside, there are so many different views. Let life flow! I wish you the best and really hope you can communicate with us more. Thank you!