I only turned 30 and already have a herniated disc. Are the less intelligent not worthy of being human?

Hello, question asker!

As you described,

In the morning, I went for an MRI. The doctor gave me some great news: "You have a protrusion at L5S1 of your lumbar spine. You can go to a specialist hospital for minimally invasive surgery. You will be hospitalized for one week and will recover quickly. You will not experience back pain easily."

The good news is that the doctor said it was a minimally invasive surgery, which means it's not very serious. Even better, we need to have this minor surgery so that we can slowly get better on our own. I have had a minimally invasive surgery before, and it is much more difficult than being sick in general, but the process is very short, about two weeks.

Of course, our conditions are different, and it really depends on the doctor. Minimally invasive surgery is a minor operation, and we can go to another hospital to see if we need surgery. The result may be the same, because I didn't believe I would get sick and need to go to the operating table. Maybe if we go to a better hospital, the doctor will have a different opinion. Now with anesthesia, it won't hurt as much as we think. We just need to sleep through the operation, and rest after the operation. We can't overwork, but we can definitely recover!

And I was 28 years old at the time. Illness has no age limit, which means there's still plenty of time for us to live our best lives! We don't need to be so pessimistic. Instead, we can listen to the doctor's advice and stay in the hospital for a week.

After listening to the director, I walked down the street in a reflective mood. I thought to myself, "I'm only 30 and I already have a herniated disc, but I'm still young and I'm going to make the most of it! Why don't other people have it? Why is my life so difficult? I'm also a tuberculosis patient. If I had a choice, I wouldn't want to be human, it's too painful. I'm scared of marriage, but I'm excited to see what the future holds!"

What are we afraid of? Absolutely nothing! We may feel a little frustration when we are young and sick at the age of 30, but that's only natural.

Everyone has their own suffering, and misfortune is the norm. But here's the good news: God has arranged these sufferings for us to grow better, not to break us! We just need to slowly grow up in suffering and find our own direction.

My father had tuberculosis, and my sister had brain tuberculosis. The great news is that my sister is basically cured! It's important to keep your utensils separate from those of family members who have tuberculosis. When we encounter problems, we should actively cooperate with the doctor to seek solutions, and usually improve our physical fitness. We might encounter some imperfections, but we try not to deny ourselves. Instead, we look at the positive side of life!

Our lives may not be as strong or long as others, but every day we are alive is a gift! There are so many beautiful parts of our lives that we haven't yet discovered.

Marriage is the ultimate union of two families! If we are worried that our partner will not be able to accept our situation, we can communicate in advance. We need to be tolerant of each other and understand each other. ?

I'm sure we'll all be victorious over this disease soon!

Wishing you all the best! I am the meaning of life. 壹心理, the world, and I love you!

There are three aspects to consider: the view of being born as a human, the view of illness, and the view of marriage.

Let us examine the sequence of events. Due to my young age, I experienced a herniated disc and was diagnosed with tuberculosis, resulting in significant discomfort. Following this, I developed a sense of hopelessness and an aversion to marriage. It is important to note that these experiences were influenced by a multitude of factors throughout my life. I will reiterate that these reasons are merely a few examples.

The initial consideration is that of disease.

In the context of illness, the fundamental equality of all living beings is evident. This equality extends beyond the conventional distinctions of human society, encompassing not only the inherent differences between individuals but also the capacity for illness to affect a diverse range of organisms, including animals, plants, and microorganisms.

The age of an individual is not a determining factor in the onset of illness. The etiology of a landlord's herniated disc may be attributed to external factors such as "occupational disease" and "habits." It is imperative not to assume that the condition is a result of "bad luck."

The notion of "high, low, noble, or vulgar" diseases is a misnomer. A cold is a minor ailment that can affect anyone at any age, whereas a herniated disc or Alzheimer's disease are age-related illnesses that are often considered high-level diseases. Cancer, on the other hand, is a rare and often incurable disease. These are the fixed ideas and prejudices about "diseases" that the general public and non-medical professionals hold, except for medical students.

In the event of developing a disease that is either unlikely or contraindicated at one's age, it is common to experience feelings of distress, including questions such as "Why is this happening to me?" and "Why me?"

It is imperative to cultivate trust in the medical research community.

Medical research has been conducted for millennia, not only for the treatment of humans but also for the benefit of animal and plant doctors. These technologies are continuously being enhanced, and humans have gradually moved from a position of helplessness in the face of disease (without considering economic, national, or policy issues). As long as our capabilities and social support are in place, we simply need to adhere to the doctor's guidance.

Secondly, it is important to consider the role of individuals in this process.

In the event that the host experiences a diminished sense of self-worth due to illness, it is advisable to identify and embrace other positive aspects of life.

Such things as beautiful scenery, delicious food, family, friends, dreams, and so forth can be considered sources of beauty. As human beings, we possess abilities that other creatures do not, although we also experience suffering that other creatures will never have.

However, it is important to recognise that the world is also a fair and balanced place. While humans are endowed with a longer life expectancy and advanced cognitive abilities, this also means that they are capable of experiencing a greater range of negative experiences.

The only recourse is to identify the positive aspects of an unfavorable situation.

One may attempt to cultivate a hobby or pastime. It is also possible to expand one's social circle and spend more time with one's family. Additionally, when one is unhappy, one can engage in activities that are known to elicit positive affect, thereby alleviating one's unhappiness.

Thirdly, the subject of marriage is addressed.

The source of the host's apprehension regarding marriage is unclear. When individuals search for a life partner, they engage in a two-way process of selection and being selected.

In the process of searching and getting along, both parties must appreciate each other's strengths while understanding each other's weaknesses, which may include physiological, psychological, value-based, familial, social status, economic, or other factors. If there is one thing that either party is unable to accept, it is not the fault of either party. Rather, it is simply a matter of trial and error for both parties.

If someone has an objection, there will undoubtedly be a person who is compatible with them and who does not object at all. This person is the one the host should focus on, while those who are not suitable are merely passing interests. There is no reason to feel distressed, anxious, or fearful about this.

It is my sincere hope that the host will make a full recovery, reunite with those he holds dear, and eventually meet a partner who will share his interests and provide him with companionship.

Hello, questioner!

From your brief description, I can tell you're a strong person who's been through a lot. You've shown resilience in the face of challenges and I admire your determination. Is that right?

Your physical condition may be affecting your mood, but there are ways to turn this around! You've mentioned having tuberculosis and a herniated disc, which can be uncomfortable, especially at your young age. It's natural to wonder why other people don't have these issues.

I'm sending you a warm hug! I also want to let you know that the disease of tuberculosis is not your fault. Sometimes it may be hereditary, but that doesn't make it your fault! Lumbar disc herniation? Well, nowadays, society tends to be younger, and many people have uncomfortable lumbar vertebrae. I'm 33 years old, and my lumbar vertebrae and cervical vertebrae are very uncomfortable. This may be related to our usual sitting posture and our habit of looking down at our mobile phones. But you know what? We can change that!

The great news is that when you become aware of it, you are already on the path to change. It is never too late to change, and we just have to pay more attention in the future.

I can also feel your remorse and discomfort. If a miracle happened and your discomfort disappeared, what would your life situation be like? Just think of all the possibilities! What have you done to make the miracle happen?

Once the miracle happens, you'll be a totally different person! Who will you change?

Based on your description, I have some suggestions that I'm really excited to share with you that I think will really help!

First, adjust your mentality!

I know you must be feeling some anxiety, and this anxiety makes you feel helpless and even a little self-doubt. But it's okay! This situation is indirect, and we can change this uncomfortable feeling by adjusting our mentality. We can do this by practicing positive mental meditation to calm our minds and face it bravely. We can pay more attention to this uncomfortable feeling in the future, and it will help us a little.

Second, it's time to learn to accept yourself!

I know that there may not necessarily be only these two things in your life, and there are other things mixed in that make you feel very uncomfortable. It's okay! We have to learn to accept ourselves and allow ourselves to have negative emotions because they have already happened. If we keep rejecting them or even stay stuck fighting against that uncomfortable feeling, we will keep creating internal conflict. At this time, we might as well calm down and learn to hug ourselves and accept ourselves. Only in this way can we not fall into negative emotions, and only in this way can we have the strength to face a beautiful life in the future!

Then, look for positive experiences!

Everyone has their own unique set of challenges, and that's totally normal! When we come across obstacles that make it tough to find peace or even trigger negative emotions like self-doubt, it's time to turn inward and explore our own experiences. Ask yourself: When have I been the happiest? When have I felt the most comfortable? When did I feel the most valuable?

What time period makes you feel happy and content? Let this amazing feeling fill your body! This may be similar to meditation, but this positive experience can drive us to be proactive, make us feel the value of life, and give us more motivation.

Now for the fun part! It's time to learn how to release those negative emotions.

I've always said that negative emotions are totally normal, but if we let them build up over time, they can really take a toll on our bodies and minds. The good news is that we can learn to release those negative emotions, and it'll also help our bodies! When we let go of our emotions, we'll feel calm, less anxious, and more empowered to face life head-on. And the best way to do that? Get moving!

And finally, seek help from external resources!

Sometimes, it's totally normal to feel like you're stuck in a rut. Those negative emotions can feel like a noose around your neck, constantly pulling you down and preventing you from breathing. But there's no need to suffer in silence! You can seek help from professional counselors, who will use their professional skills to help you adjust your perceptions and delve deep into the root causes in your subconscious mind. This will give you the strength to grow and thrive!

And there's more! If you're interested, you can also join the psychological process and learn while growing and healing yourself. This will be of great help to us!

In the end, I want to tell you, it's okay! Nowadays, various diseases tend to affect younger people. You, for example, are 33 years old, and you have problems with your cervical spine, a bulging disk, back pain, lumbar spine pain, myopia, and many other problems. But guess what? When we stop caring about these uncomfortable feelings and try to reconcile with them, our hearts will slowly calm down, our mood will improve, and our bodies will feel better! We should not focus on the bad parts, but actively look for the good parts!

And the great news is that it's never too late to change! For your herniated disc, you can absolutely make standing meditation a part of your life more often, and it will make a world of difference. You can also try hypnosis multiple times, and it will help you relieve that uncomfortable feeling.

I hope my answer can be of some help to you.

From my understanding, it seems that many people under the age of 30 may experience lumbar disc herniation, including myself. This appears to be a relatively common issue, though the severity can vary from person to person. The director mentioned that you have the option of going to a specialist hospital for minimally invasive surgery and staying in the hospital for a week. This could potentially allow for a quick recovery and reduced likelihood of experiencing back pain. It seems that as long as you are willing to cooperate with the treatment, you may have a good chance of recovery.

If I might offer you a suggestion, it would be this:

1. It is possible to live our lives to the fullest despite physical ailments.

A friend of mine was diagnosed with early-stage liver cancer before the age of 30. Despite the challenges he faced, he remained positive and resilient. He went on to pursue and complete a master's degree from Tsinghua University, thrived professionally, and became a father to two children. It has been ten years since his cancer diagnosis. He maintains a healthy lifestyle, including regular check-ups, a routine bedtime, and a balanced diet. His cancer cells have not worsened or spread, and he continues to enjoy a fulfilling life.

I also have a friend who was diagnosed with tuberculosis in her twenties. At the time, she was alone in the hospital receiving treatment. On the first day, she was very depressed and cried for a long time. As she cried, she came to understand that crying would not solve the problem. So she stopped crying and began to consider what she could do in the hospital. She discovered that she could still read and study in the hospital. So, during her hospitalization, she made the most of the time when she didn't have to do anything to read and study. Later, after she recovered and was discharged from the hospital, her academic performance also improved a great deal.

It is important to remember that everyone will have their own disappointments. Often, we only see the surface-level aspects of others, but it is crucial to recognize that they are also experiencing pain. However, if we can accept and carry their pain with them, it will not define us. We can still live the life we want.

2. Consider enhancing your sense of worth and your sense of deservingness. You are inherently worthy, and your existence is valuable.

It is important to remember that a person's sense of value and sense of entitlement are subjective feelings. For example, for the same score of 80, some children may feel that they are very bad, while others may feel that they are very good.

If we feel that our sense of worth and entitlement is low, we may find that when others praise us, we feel embarrassed and that we care about what others say, constantly attacking ourselves.

How might we enhance our sense of worth and worthiness?

Firstly, it is important to have an objective and clear understanding of ourselves. It is beneficial to acknowledge both the positive and negative aspects of our lives, as well as the various good qualities we possess. Secondly, it is helpful to regularly give ourselves positive affirmations, such as "I am valuable," "I am responsible," "I am worth it," and "I approve of myself." Additionally, establishing positive feedback through consistent actions, such as exercising regularly, can help us recognize our resilience. Reading can also be a valuable tool for personal growth and self-development.

It may also be helpful to consider the value of supportive relationships, which can provide a sense of recognition and support.

3. Consider shifting your perspective and learning to focus on the positive aspects of your life. You may find that recording three good things each day can help to enhance your inner sense of well-being.

It is natural for us to focus on the less positive aspects of our lives, which can sometimes lead to feelings of anxiety and depression. However, it is important to recognize that there are also many beautiful aspects of life. There is a saying that goes, "The world is not lacking in beauty, but rather in eyes to see it." Our attention shapes our perspective and growth.

It's understandable that when we're focused on the negative, it can feel like negativity is everywhere in life. However, when we shift our focus to the positive and the beautiful, we may find that happiness and beauty are always around us.

We gently suggest that you consider recording three good things every day to improve your sense of well-being. You might find it helpful to do this before going to bed every night, by writing down or remembering three good things that happened that day. These could be things like eating a good meal, seeing a beautiful view, reading a good book, saying a kind word, getting support or help, or accomplishing something through your own efforts. If you keep doing this, you may find that your perspective gradually shifts, your inner world becomes more fulfilling, and the world you see also appears in a more beautiful state.

We hope you find this information helpful. Best wishes!

Hello! I'm happy to help. I hope my advice helps you.

If you get timely and professional treatment, your lumbar disc won't affect your normal life and work. You don't have to worry too much. But after listening to the chief physician's advice, you felt no relief. You fell into a strong state of self-pity. You thought you shouldn't have gotten this illness. You thought getting this illness means you are very unlucky. You thought everyone is luckier than you. You thought your life may become even more gloomy as a result. This is a cognitive bias of over-exaggeration and catastrophizing. When you fail to promptly recognize this bias in yourself, you may fall into the trap of learned helplessness. You may become unable to extricate yourself. You will always focus on the worst-case scenario. You will put yourself in the position of a victim. You will be unable to see the resources and abilities you have to cope with your current predicament. You will be even less likely to try to actively seek support and help from the outside world.

What do you think?

Our feelings are not caused by people or things. They are caused by how we think about people and things.

Your negative attitude towards life is due to your lack of self-confidence and low self-esteem. Your inner self affects your cognitive model, which is also related to how you were raised and your knowledge and experience.

You want to make changes by learning and growing. What do you think?

First, accept yourself. See your strengths and weaknesses. Keep a gratitude journal to build self-confidence.

Take up new interests to gain more control. Try exercises that make you happy to feel more in control and enjoy life.

Second, change your thinking patterns. Everything has two sides. No matter what happens, remind yourself to first see the good, then face it. If the worst happens, can you cope?

Or are you afraid of facing the uncertainty? Then, allow yourself to not be good enough, to lose control of your life, and let go of the expectation of a perfect self. Everyone has limitations, and every deficiency is an opportunity for you to learn and grow.

Fear and bravery go hand in hand. You have the potential to deal with anything. Keep improving and growing, and become more confident.