I used to be optimistic, but now I always want to cry. Can parents not spending time with their children really lead to depression?

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?1. Your unmet needs have been building up.

You always want to cry. You know what emotions you're feeling: sadness, grievance, anger, or resentment.

Emotions have energy, and when they cannot be properly expressed, they become destructive forces that harm others or oneself. The feeling that you want to cry is a way of repressing your emotions, and it causes harm to yourself.

Allow yourself to have emotions. "I am sad/sad/angry/aggrieved/guilty, and I am allowed to be." When you express these emotions, you will find that you have already released half of the repressed feelings.

This grievance and loneliness stems from a lack of parental companionship. You crave the sense of security that comes from your parents' companionship and their relationship with you.

If they fail to deliver on the promises they made to you, for example, "I'll be right back, I'll keep you company, I..." you will feel disappointed and learn to feel helpless.

You must perceive this emotion. It is an important gift in your life. Express it. Find someone to talk to. Keep an emotional diary. Write it on a note. Fold it into a boat and let it float away.

Pessimism and optimism are both modes. The difference is whether we feel secure enough.

You used to be optimistic, but you're now depressed and sad.

A person who only sees the good things is happy. A person who only sees the bad things is sad and depressed.

This is why some people are happy and others are sad when faced with the same thing.

Optimism and pessimism are habits and patterns of life. They have interesting differences in their thinking patterns. They differ in terms of time frame, uniqueness and universality, and behavior and traits.

For example, optimistic people consider some good things/events to be permanent, permanent, and normal.

Pessimists believe that difficulties and misfortunes are permanent and related to one's abilities. They also believe that good things only exist occasionally and are related to luck.

A person's happiness has little to do with their achievements. It is determined by where they focus their attention.

Optimists focus on what they have or what is good about things. They feel secure enough to do so.

A sense of security is something we gain from our parents' companionship, their relationship, and the way they raise us between the ages of 4 months and 3 years. If you don't feel secure, you can still achieve self-healing through post-natal compensation.

You can change your outlook. It's simple: focus on what you have and express gratitude.

If you want something, you've got to put the energy in.

I am confident that the above will be helpful to you. And I love you and the world. ?

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