I want to ask: Why do people insult and verbally abuse others for no reason?

Hello! From what you've said, it seems like your two classmates who love to scold are having a pretty negative effect on your studies.

Have they always been like this, or did they start after they sat at the same table as you? Who were their previous classmates, and have you asked them if they were like this before?

You can discuss the situation with your teacher together.

"Why would someone abuse others for no reason and verbally bully them?"

This problem can be traced back to the experiences of these two classmates. They've probably heard a lot of abusive language or been abused themselves, and over time, they've come to think that abusing others is no big deal. They use verbal abuse to show off their power and hide their inner emptiness and vulnerability.

If they're feeling frustrated, for instance, when they see you're putting in the work and school isn't letting up, they might lash out by giving you a hard time. They also enjoy giving nicknames to others. The truth is, they're not fully satisfied with their performance but aren't willing to make changes. So, they tend to focus on other people's shortcomings to balance their inner restlessness.

If the teacher doesn't change the seating arrangement after you've complained, or if they make it worse, you can ignore them and focus on your studies. They won't call you by the name they've given you. If you really can't stand it, you can try communicating with them in a positive way and see how they react. Best wishes!

Hello! I'm thrilled to answer your question and offer some suggestions that I hope will be helpful.

We highly recommend that you seek help from the school's mental health teacher as soon as possible! It's also a great idea to let your homeroom teacher know what's going on.

First, we can get help from professional teachers and professionals to quickly relieve our emotional state and keep our physical and mental health in top form!

Second, it allows the homeroom teacher to understand your situation. Sometimes, if we don't take the initiative to express ourselves to the teacher, the teacher won't know that we are encountering such difficulties. But here's the good news: if we do take the initiative and speak up, the teacher will be able to help us! At the same time, if the students don't say anything, the teacher won't realize that there are actually a few students in the class who will secretly speak ill of the teacher or classmates, or have some bad habits. But here's the best part: if we speak up, we can help the teacher identify these students and provide them with the support they need!

We can even go to our teacher and tell them about what's going on in our school life! Or we can ask them if we can switch seats.

This is also the essence of not letting individual classmates affect our own academic performance. Anyway, for learning, we classmates really help each other and are like comrades-in-arms! We are also in a competitive relationship, which is great because it means we can push each other to be the best we can be. We need to plan for our own learning and future, and we can do it!

Secondly, regarding these two special students

Fortunately, we can turn this around! Our current situation has led to a unique opportunity to address the issue of bullying on campus. While this isn't directed at just one of us, it's a chance to work with two particular classmates. They have some negative words or attitudes towards all the surrounding classmates and teachers. But, we can use this to our advantage and get along with other students!

First, it can quickly calm our emotional state. For example, when we're feeling down, we can go with a good friend to vent and talk about it. That can make us feel much better!

Second, as we chat with each other, we realize that these two classmates aren't targeting one of us. They're just not great at dealing with people and their personalities aren't the best. At least in this regard, we can relax. It's not our problem, so we don't need to beat ourselves up or feel like we're not good enough.

Third, this also gives the teacher a chance to step in and help these two students before they affect the learning and mental health of other students in the class.

Now, let's dive into the reasons and ways of dealing with these two students!

There are so many factors that can lead to a person's behavior patterns! Family education, previous schooling, and the lack of timely intervention to shape character or behavior can all contribute to the development of certain habits. And of course, we can also clearly feel that this is a bad behavior and social habit.

While we can't 100% speculate on their cause-and-effect orientation, we can absolutely take steps to ensure we won't be affected by it! We can establish our own values and a positive social approach, and we can protect our physical and mental health in a timely manner.

And there's more! We can also help other students protect their physical and mental health as much as we can and let teachers or adults know the actual situation in time.

In this regard, if we don't want our parents to know, or if we don't think that even if our parents know, they won't be able to help us much, we shouldn't give up on ourselves. The good news is that there are still many channels that can help you!

There are so many ways to get help! We can ask for support from a mental health teacher or our class teacher, or we can call the national psychological hotline at home to get some help with our emotional problems. Or we can also find a mental health worker in our community.

However, there is also a basic principle here that we can all stick to! If the impact we receive is extreme and has a serious impact on our physical and mental health, we must still promptly inform our parents.

We really hope that through self-reflection and timely communication with teachers or professionals, you can find an adjustment method that suits you and will not affect your physical and mental health.

The world loves you!

Dear classmate, I'm Duo Duo Lian. I hope I can help.

You got into the best liberal arts class, but it feels like it was by chance. You work hard and love learning. But your classmates' behavior is making you feel helpless.

I hug you and feel sorry for you. Meeting such classmates affects you during your senior year. I praise you for asking for help. Your classmates are attacking you, but that's how they communicate. It happens to everyone you meet. You did nothing wrong.

You're in the best liberal arts class and in your senior year, so you're under a lot of pressure. Some of you are working hard, while others are studying hard but seem lazy. Your new classmates are driven by pressure and hostile towards the outside world. They release their emotions on their classmates and teachers.

You study hard, and they are afraid of falling behind, so they attack you. You want to argue back, but you give up. It hurts me to see you like this.

You don't want to talk to your mother either. How can you release these emotions? They will explode one day. Your classmates reflect you. Your patience stirs up your anger, but it also helps you. You can express it; it just depends on your wisdom.

School is not on holiday, and their anger at school is transferred to you. They will get angry at you, but then they will express it. You become the outlet for your classmates' emotions. Think about how to face it.

Don't let their words affect you. You all think highly of me, but I'm not as influential as you are. If I died, the earth would still keep turning. Your sarcastic remarks and apparent weakness are signs of your inner strength. Your silence sometimes makes others uncomfortable.

Protect yourself. Love yourself. You deserve a beautiful life.

I wish you well.

Dear friend, I empathize with your current predicament and emotional state. Undoubtedly, you are experiencing a complex array of emotions, including confusion, anger, and helplessness, when confronted with bullying and peer pressure at school.

It is challenging for anyone to tolerate mistreatment when their contributions are not accorded the respect they deserve. It is understandable that you are experiencing these emotions and responding in a way that is intended to safeguard your well-being.

The behavior of your classmates reflects their own personal issues, not yours. You possess inner strength, and even in such an adverse environment, you persist in seeking solutions to problems, which is commendable.

During this stressful period of senior year, when everyone is striving to secure a favorable future, discord in the environment can have a considerable impact on individuals' emotional state and academic performance. The conduct of your classmates is undoubtedly inappropriate. They may have adopted an inappropriate approach toward you due to their own insecurities or anxiety about their studies.

This behavior can be understood as a form of "projection," whereby the individual projects their own dissatisfaction and negative emotions onto others. Social learning theory posits that individuals learn by observing and imitating the behavior of others.

Such individuals may experience discomfort regarding their own accomplishments, leading them to seek psychological equilibrium through the disparagement of others. This conduct is detrimental and ought to be discouraged.

It is not your fault to be in this situation. Your efforts and progress are commendable, while the behavior of your classmates is unacceptable.

Such emotional reactions, including anger and depression, are typical self-defense mechanisms. Your decision to refrain from direct confrontation is prudent.

It is your right to learn and grow up in an environment that is free from bullying and threats. Your value is not defined by the actions or words of others.

During this stressful period of senior year, any additional stress could have a detrimental impact on academic performance and mental health. However, you possess the capacity to effectively regulate your emotions, recognize that this situation is not your responsibility, and maintain a stable state of mind through self-soothing mechanisms.

Nevertheless, prolonged depression and neglect may result in the emergence of emotional issues, such as the depressive feelings you have previously described. It is possible to record the behaviour of the individual in question, including the time, place and specific remarks, which could then be used as evidence to support a report to the teacher or school management, should this be necessary.

It is advisable to limit your interactions with these classmates and to concentrate on your studies and personal development.

Furthermore, it is imperative to respond constructively to instances of bullying by identifying a trusted teacher and disclosing the pertinent details of the situation. Teachers are duty-bound to provide a secure learning environment and are equipped with the necessary resources to facilitate mediation or take corrective action.

Notwithstanding the difficulties you are experiencing in your relationship with your parents, they still represent a source of support for you. It would be beneficial for you to communicate with them or seek assistance from other adults, such as relatives or friends.

Although you may currently feel helpless, you have the capacity to overcome this challenge. You have already demonstrated resilience and the ability to regulate your emotions, which are highly valuable personal qualities.

It is imperative to maintain your passion for learning and to refrain from allowing the actions of others to negatively impact your future prospects. Your future is your own responsibility, and you must not allow anyone to impede your progress.

Please be advised that your efforts are duly noted and appreciated.

Hello!

Your description shows you are confused and helpless. You can see this uncomfortable emotion, and you are brave enough to face it.

I'm sorry for you. I give you a hug.

Everyone's character and behavior are related to their family, education, and experiences.

It's because of home education. They haven't developed a good parenting model.

You should talk to your teacher. Don't bear this feeling alone. You have a lot of pressure from your studies. They're making you feel bad. Tolerating them will only make you

It's uncomfortable, so you have to seek help from others and your teacher.

You said you have a bad relationship with your parents and don't want them to know. You can try communicating with them.

If they help, great. If not, you can also call the school psychologist or 12355.

Secondly, I suggest you don't let others influence you. We all face confusion in life, which can affect our studies.

You need to be strong, not let the outside world bother you, do your own thing, learn from your mistakes, and stay away from them. At the same time, you must stand up to them.

Show them your boundaries and let them know where you draw the line. Don't argue with them, but don't let them push you around.

You must know how to draw the line so you don't harm yourself or go beyond the legal boundaries.

The last thing I want to tell you is that you are in control of your own life.

You can find ways to protect yourself and learn in a relaxed environment. You can do it. Ask us anything. We're here to support you.

Hi, I'm Coach Yu, and I'd like to talk about this topic with you.

First, let's talk about boundaries. It's important to know the boundaries of others and your own boundaries because they distinguish you from others. Many emotional and interpersonal psychological problems that are common in today's society are related to the difficulty of maintaining appropriate boundaries.

If someone crosses our boundaries, our body will send out some signals, such as a faster heartbeat, a feeling of heat all over, restlessness, and sweating.

Sometimes we don't want to offend others, sometimes we don't want to damage relationships, and sometimes we avoid potential risks (such as bullying and retaliation), and ignore signals that our boundaries are being violated. We're afraid to establish and maintain our own boundaries and we don't protect ourselves.

We can ask ourselves what we feel when we hear these two students calling me names, and what our physical reactions are. Do we feel uncomfortable?

Do you feel offended for no reason?

We can also ask ourselves, in response to these verbal behaviors of these two students, have you thought about how you'd react? If you were to react, what would you say?

What should I do here?

We can also ask ourselves what we need when we've been feeling down lately. What do we need when we want to get away from this class?

What do I need to talk about this with a classmate? What do I need to keep to myself and not talk to my parents?

We have to accept that we can't rely on others to protect us. We can't control what others say or do, and we can't expect others to know how to behave. We need to take the initiative to establish our own boundaries and clearly express to others our discomfort when we are being violated. If necessary, we should take some warning words and methods.

Let's talk about projection. I'm sure many people are familiar with this term. Projection is when we blame others for our own feelings or behaviors.

In life, we may think it's not our own bad character and behavior, but someone else's. This kind of thinking can make us feel less uneasy and anxious, and achieve a state of psychological balance. As the questioner wrote, they especially like to talk about other people's bad things, give nicknames to others, and like to swear. They think they have learned well, so they don't like people who study hard.

As the cross-talk master Guo Degang said, the person who wronged you knows better than you how wronged you are. Instead of staying silent and sulking, it's better to find a way to shut them up with solid proof.

We can talk to one of the two students and let them know we're not comfortable with some of their words and actions. Hopefully, this will help them respect their classmates and teachers and maintain a good learning atmosphere. Communication can not only help us release our pent-up emotions, but also let the other person know what they can do to improve.

If they accept your point of view and show improvement, we'll keep an eye on things. If they're set on doing something, we can also loop in the teacher or relevant school leader.

Finally, love yourself. The questioner is aware of their emotions and has clear values. Let's start by caring for ourselves, taking care of our bodies and our feelings.

We can learn to manage our emotions. When you think of these words or see yourself acting in an aggressive way, try to write down what you're feeling in that moment. It's okay to be honest and open in your writing. This will help us understand where our emotions come from and what they mean to us, and also help us figure out the real problem.

We can learn to distract ourselves and not pay excessive attention to them. When it happens unconsciously, we can try to tell ourselves to stop, take a deep breath, and do something else, such as listening to music, stretching, etc., to distract ourselves. Meditation and mindfulness are also very good ways to regulate.

Given that this is an issue you're struggling with, it's understandable that you're having trouble overcoming it immediately. It might be helpful to seek support from your parents. After all, you're currently in your third year of high school and are facing a lot of academic pressure. Having the understanding and support of your family is really important.

If you need help, you can also find a counselor. It's important to have an outlet for your emotions.

Use the weekend to get out into nature, enjoy the fresh air, and listen to the birds and smell the flowers. Treat yourself to some self-care.

When we see the truth of life, we can let go of our burdens, relax our hearts, stop demanding things from others, stop being too hard on ourselves, understand ourselves better, and ignore what others say about us.

I'd also suggest reading "The Courage to Be Disliked."

To truly grow and transform yourself, you must learn to love others and adapt to people and situations. This allows you to correct your energy field and avoid or alleviate negative emotions.

To truly love others is to wish them happiness and accept or forgive everyone, the outstanding, the ordinary, and the weak mentally. If there are mistakes or shortcomings, they can be corrected. Everyone has the right to happiness, regardless of the relationship, whether it is right or wrong, gain or loss. We all hope that others can be happy. People can bring each other spiritual comfort and even joy. It is good to love and accept others and oneself, to tolerate shortcomings and lack of ability, and to be kind at heart. In other words, it is beneficial to others or society, not to despise or reject ordinary people, not to be jealous or intolerant of outstanding people.

If you don't get along with most people, it will lead to negative energy and negative emotional problems. You must correct your energy field to truly love others and adapt to people and things. This will make it more likely that you will find and have a loving and suitable relationship and career. You can also share and exchange what you see, hear, think, feel, or are interested in with others in real life and on the Internet. This could include books, movies, music, etc. You can do this with others in real life and on the Internet, such as the Douban community.

Love your life and be content with the little things.

Negative energy affects your physical health. Keep your body comfortable and healthy with a full-body massage. The head massage includes the forehead and face, which also have meridians. Massage the head with deep, firm strokes, and massage the stomach with a firm massage brush. Do not massage the stomach on an empty stomach, and then take a walk.

If you have negative emotions, thoughts, or behaviors, you will not feel comfortable physically or mentally. You will often encounter unhappy people and things, interpersonal conflicts, relationship and marriage problems (which will affect your magnetic field), and even problems in your academic or career life. This is because when you are too self-centered or pursue self-interest, you accumulate a lot of negative energy. The more self-centered you are, the more your magnetic field will be out of alignment with other people's. You need to learn how to truly love others and adapt to people and things, correct your energy field, resolve conflicts, improve your emotions and interpersonal relationships, and better solve the above problems. In addition, if you know how to truly love the people and things in the world, you will not be too attached to love, reduce negative emotions such as separation anxiety and pain, and will not feel lacking inside. You will be able to feel happiness and make your life fulfilling and meaningful.

They can also help those around them grow and change together, if necessary.

Excessive self-centeredness manifests itself in different ways for different people. It can take the form of pursuing self-satisfaction, striving for self-interest or repressing self-deprecation to please others, blindly giving in to gain, being afraid of losing, or disregarding the gains and losses of self-interest and emotions. It can also take the form of being too narcissistic or inferior, paying too much attention to oneself, generating pressure and worry, social phobia, being caught up in one's own emotions and thoughts, attaching too much importance to what others think of oneself, not accepting one's own shortcomings and deficiencies, forcing oneself to be perfect, being obsessive, controlling, possessing others or forcing others to satisfy oneself, otherwise resenting and being unable to let go of oneself to forgive and forgive, brooding.

If you pursue the self, you will become anxious, depressed, and tired, and you will be unable to adapt to the people and things in your school or workplace environment. If you truly love others and adapt to people and things, you will naturally look down on the self and restore positive energy.

In short, do what you can, have good intentions, and do no harm to others. Nobody wants to suffer, so there's no point in retaliating and intensifying conflicts.