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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
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It is understandable that you may feel a sense of injustice, anger, and innocence when your parents place more blame on you for the challenges in their marriage.
It is important to recognize that feeling aggrieved and angry is a natural response to feeling unappreciated, unloved, and wronged. These feelings often stem from a deeper need for understanding, respect, and love.
It might be helpful to consider that even though you may already know deep down that your parents' unhappy marriage was not caused by you, you still seem to be affected by it. It's possible that you may also agree with and internalize their attribution to some extent, which could mean that you feel some responsibility for your parents' unhappy marriage.
If you feel uncomfortable or hurt by your parents' words or actions, you might consider speaking with them about your feelings and how you would prefer to be treated. This could help them to understand the impact of their words and actions on you.
If you have already realized that you should not be responsible for the more subtle verbal and behavioral harm from your parents, then you might consider using critical thinking to question their words and deeds, return their emotions to them, and let them take responsibility for their unhappy marriage. Moreover, in your parents' unhappy marriage, you were originally an innocent victim who desperately needed to be treated gently. What do you think?
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I can feel the weight of your words. It seems like you've been carrying a heavy burden, and it's understandable to question your impact on others when you're feeling this way. Sometimes, people say things in the heat of the moment that don't truly reflect reality.
It sounds like you're questioning your worth and role within your relationships. Everyone makes mistakes, but that doesn't mean you are the sole cause of any problems. It's important to remember that you deserve to be treated with kindness and respect.
Feeling this drained and constantly secondguessing yourself is exhausting. It might help to talk to someone who can offer you support and a fresh perspective, someone who can remind you of your value and importance.
You shouldn't have to bear this burden alone. The thoughts you're having seem very isolating. Reaching out for help could be a step towards feeling less overwhelmed and more understood. Your feelings are valid, and it's okay to seek comfort from those around you.
The echoes of others' words can linger and hurt long after they're spoken. It's crucial to also listen to the voice inside you that knows your own worth. You matter, and it's okay to take a break and care for yourself amidst all these reflections.