I want to find a job, but I seem to struggle with persistence. What should I do?

Hello, question asker.

I came across your request for assistance on the platform. It seems you are seeking employment, but have difficulty maintaining it for an extended period. You appear to lack clarity on your career goals, have low self-confidence, and are experiencing a sense of confusion. Additionally, you seem to be concerned about the potential reactions of others.

Let me assist you in analyzing and sorting things out in detail.

(1) Your current situation:

I have found it challenging to maintain long-term employment in my previous roles. I am still learning and developing my skills in many areas.

I must admit that I lack confidence in myself. I am also quite fearful and afraid of being belittled by others.

I am concerned that my appearance may not meet social standards, which could lead to others viewing me with disdain. This has led me to maintain a reserved and introverted demeanor.

I am unsure of what kind of life I want, why I am looking for a job, and what work is for.

I am 24 years old and still trying to figure out what I want to do with my life.

I would like to respectfully propose that we consider the following:

(2) Changes you would like to make at this time:

It would be beneficial to consider ways to alter this situation that is currently making you feel powerless.

It would be beneficial to find a suitable job that allows you to remain connected to society.

I would also like to pursue a life of my own choosing and take responsibility for myself.

I would like to be able to make a good impression on others and to gain more confidence.

I would like to suggest that we consider the following:

It is possible that you may experience difficulties in finding a suitable job and may feel somewhat uncertain about your future. It is also understandable if you lack confidence in yourself.

1. It would be beneficial to have a clear understanding of your desired career path.

Many people find themselves in a situation where they are unsure of their career path. This can be a challenging time, but it is important to remember that taking the time to create a well-thought-out career plan is an investment in your future. It is a process that requires dedication and commitment, but it can be a valuable step in gaining clarity and direction.

It might be helpful to take a career assessment before doing career planning. This could help you choose a job that suits you based on your major, without aiming too high or settling for too low.

It would be beneficial to ascertain the reason for the previous job's brief tenure. Was it due to a lack of experience, or perhaps a lack of interest and investment? Identifying the underlying cause can help to prevent a similar situation from occurring in the future.

It might be helpful to consider what you want from life at the age of 24. This could help you to pursue and improve it for the rest of your life, and you may be able to achieve success more quickly and truly pursue the life you want.

2. It would be beneficial to have confidence in oneself when doing any work.

It can be challenging to find the right fit when you're not sure if you're qualified for a particular job. It's natural to consider other options when you feel like the requirements are too high. However, it's important to remember that every job has its own set of skills and responsibilities.

It is only when you believe in yourself that you can become more confident and determined. It is important to remember that if you give up, no matter how good the job is, it will not be as beneficial as it could have been.

I believe that confidence, perseverance, and courage are the best qualities to possess.

It might be helpful to try to pull yourself together, pay more attention to your personal appearance, wear a smile, and go to work with confidence. It's likely that no one is born looking unkempt.

It is important to remember that setbacks are part of the process and that everyone faces challenges. Having the belief that you are different and special, and that hard work will lead to positive outcomes, can be a great source of motivation.

It would be wise to remember that finding the right job is just the first step. The early stages of any new role can be challenging, and it's important to be prepared for the hard work that lies ahead. With perseverance, the work will become easier with time. It's natural to feel overwhelmed at first, but it's crucial to stay the course.

4. It is important to be honest with yourself about your strengths and weaknesses.

It is important to be realistic about your abilities and to choose roles that align with your strengths and interests. While it is good to aim high, it is also essential to be aware of your weaknesses and limitations. When considering a new role, approach it with a balanced perspective.

It would be beneficial to fully utilise your strengths, acknowledge your weaknesses, and strive to compensate for them through work. Additionally, it is advantageous to gain a wealth of work experience and adopt this mentality, which is widely prevalent in the workplace.

It would be beneficial to focus on self-growth and maintain a down-to-earth approach to facilitate personal development. It's important to note that changing roles frequently is not advisable in the workplace.

I hope these suggestions are helpful for you. If there is anything you don't understand, please don't hesitate to ask for advice. I used to work in the headhunting industry, so I can still help you with career planning if you'd like.

I'm not looking for arrogance, but rather a humble and respectful approach.

Hello, I'm sorry for you. Hugs!

You said, "I've applied for several jobs but haven't lasted long. I want to know why. My friends say I'm afraid of what others will say, like, 'How come you don't know how to do that?' And that's true. I don't know how to do it or believe I can do it, and I'm afraid to take on the challenge. I'm always scared and lack confidence. Maybe it's because I've been badly beaten down and belittled?"

Reading this passage reminded me of my original self. I understand your feelings and your helplessness very well. I was just like you at that time. But at the same time, I feel happy and relieved for you. You can ask for help because you are limited in your abilities! This is something you should be proud of.

You probably have an inferiority complex, which is why you are afraid. You want to hear what other people think of you, but maybe some of what they say is true. You are not worthless. Learn to see your own strengths. Not everything other people say is right. Everyone is different, and no one can satisfy everyone's demands. So don't pay attention to other people, don't think about what other people say about you, but focus on yourself! Find something that makes you feel proud of yourself.

You also said, "The past is the past. I want to change this situation I can't do anything about. I'm afraid of being disconnected from society because I don't have a job. I'm afraid people will look at me with strange eyes because I don't look clean. I've always marginalized myself because it's safe to do so, but that's also a lie."

If you want to change, you have to find a way. If you don't look clean, become someone who loves cleanliness. If you move, wear clean clothes and wash them. If your face is dirty, wash it well. When you see yourself clean and fresh, you will be happy. You must try it. Move! Don't complain with your mouth, and your legs and feet will remain still!

I want a job, but I don't know why. Is it to be respected? Is it to avoid taking money?

Do you lack confidence in what you say?

You don't get a job for anyone but yourself. Do things for yourself, not others. Pay attention to yourself, respect yourself, and love yourself. When you love yourself, everything changes. It's not that you go against your heart, but you will change without knowing it. Just start by eating well and dressing well.

"I don't know how to take responsibility for myself because I don't know what I want."

When you don't know anything, just start doing it.

If you're at a crossroads and don't know which way to go, choose a direction and go. You might realize which way to go as you walk. It might be a long way around, but it's better than standing still.

I hope my answer helps and inspires you. All answers are suggestions. The answer is within you. In the process of thinking about other people's suggestions and practicing other people's methods, you will find your answer.

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