If you are far from home without friends and find your job incredibly torturous, what should you do?

You have been assigned to work in a foreign place, have no friends, and your work is very difficult. You are in a challenging situation. Do you feel "helpless"?

At the same time, I want to know if you feel anxious, depressed, or even scared.

First and foremost, your work as a supervisor entails a dynamic of both confrontation and cooperation with the unit you are overseeing.

First and foremost, your work as a supervisor requires a relationship of both confrontation and cooperation with the supervised unit.

Confrontation means you supervise them and they are the object of supervision, which is determined by the nature of the work. You must show your strength and reasonableness and be brave enough to offend people. On the one hand, you need to show the controlling parent side and assert your authority. On the other hand, you need to be calm and collected when dealing with problems, find ways to solve them, and find ways to get the information you need for your work.

The point of cooperation is that the purpose of your supervision is also to help the supervised unit improve the quality of their products or work. It's not about finding fault or trying to ruin their business.

The point of cooperation is that the purpose of your supervision is also to help the supervised unit improve the quality of their products or work. It's not about finding fault or trying to ruin their business.

You are there to help them by supervising them, and you are there to work with them. They must also provide the corresponding information and cooperate with you for your supervision to be completed.

You need to be able to deal with people and face problems head-on. You have to be an adult.

Your interactions with them indicate a childish mindset, characterised by feelings of powerlessness, frustration and anger. Do you perceive yourself as a powerless victim?

It's clear from your interactions with them that you've often displayed a childish mindset. You've told yourself that you're helpless, frustrated, and angry. Do you feel like a victim?

You're tired and bored, and you're already thinking about quitting. Don't you feel any pain?

You need to think about it more carefully, adjust your state of mind, mobilize your parental and adult state, communicate more with the person in charge, and appeal to their emotions and reason. Make your position clear: you are there to help them improve the quality, not to undermine it.

You need to think about it more carefully, adjust your state of mind, mobilize your parental and adult state, communicate more with the person in charge, and appeal to their emotions and reason. Make your position clear: you are there to help them improve the quality, not to undermine it.

Get the information you need and check the items you need to check, using every means possible.

You need to decide if this job is right for you. Think about whether your usual state of mind is suited to this kind of work, which requires assertiveness. If so, you are over 30 years old, and changing jobs requires a lot of consideration. Take your time to think about this.

The second point is crucial: a lack of friends leaves you unsupported under any work pressure.

You don't have any friends, and you don't have any local friends either.

You should call your old friends every now and then to vent.

You need to think about whether you can confide in your family or ask for help.

From your description, it is clear that you feel you have no friends or family to provide help.

Friends and family are our "social support systems." You can't live in the world as an island and still be comfortable.

You need to develop yourself here.

You must develop your own intimate relationships, find enough good friends, and even more intimate relationships to build your own support system!

Note: The above "mental state" theory comes from interpersonal communication analysis. For more information, see books such as "Mr. Toad Goes to the Psychologist," "I'm Fine, How Are You?" and "Today's TA."

Dear questioner, I can clearly feel from your message that working away from home not only makes you feel lonely, but also means you have the opportunity to face a difficult work environment and colleagues who don't always cooperate. Their emotional reactions also have a big impact on your work enthusiasm and make your work more challenging, leaving you feeling very anxious and uneasy. This kind of work mood makes you not very satisfied with your current job, and you have the idea of changing jobs, but you are also considering that it is more difficult to find a job, so you are very conflicted and don't know what to do. This is a great opportunity for you to grow and learn!

I totally get where you're coming from and I'm here to help!

Given your current situation, I'm thrilled to give you the following suggestions for your consideration:

1. Embrace the challenge of facing your sense of discomfort and loneliness in an unfamiliar environment. You may feel that you don't have any friends around, but this is an opportunity to grow and learn. So let's adjust our state of mind first. When you're alone, try to adjust through other means.

During your breaks, chat with friends from afar and have some fun! Let out your bad mood from the day, listen to music, relax, and find some other ways to improve your state.

2. The current work situation. I would highly recommend that you first establish your own work boundaries.

You mentioned in your statement that you went to the other company to conduct a work inspection, so it's important to be clear about your work content and position. The reason you feel that your work is difficult and the other party is not cooperative is that you have not considered what your responsibilities are as a supervisor — but you can definitely turn this around!

You absolutely have the right to ask them to resubmit the wrong content they provided to you, and to form your work report. You must be fair and strict. When you establish such an attitude, the other party will also be intimidated by your attitude.

Secondly, reporting the situation to their superiors is a great way to give feedback on your work. It's not about reporting, it's about sharing your thoughts on how they can improve. Be clear about your job duties, work procedures, and the content of the work you need to do.

Just follow the procedures your company requires, and you'll never have to worry about these kinds of emotions again!

Finally, I want to remind you that this is a great place to work! We respect each other, and when it comes to work-related issues, we focus on work rather than interpersonal relationships.

It's time to clarify your work content and establish your work principles and boundaries! I think their attitude will also change accordingly when you express your work content, and they'll be part of your work report.

3. You want to change jobs, probably because you are not happy with your current job, and you say that you are not competent enough for the job. If you are not competent enough, it's time to consider whether the job is suitable for you and whether you can improve yourself through learning!

I think you've chosen this job because you're still interested in this position, and I'm excited to see you succeed! The current setbacks at work are just minor speed bumps on the road to success. I suggest that you improve yourself through learning, and I know you'll excel!

One is to gain a better understanding of the content and responsibilities of your position, and the other is to enhance your professionalism. When you stand here in a very professional manner, your aura will be very different, and your self-confidence will be significantly enhanced.

And finally, you must have confidence in yourself, build up your self-confidence, work decisively, trust your professional judgment, and constantly increase your confidence. Then your work will definitely get better and better!

No matter what kind of work you do in the future, improving your competence and continuously learning professional skills are indispensable parts. I think that after you re-examine yourself, you will make a choice that suits you. I believe you can do it!

I really hope this helps you! I love you and I'm here for you. If you have any other questions about the workplace, please send me a private message and I'll do my best to help you.

Hello, host!

After reading your description, I can totally relate! It's like you're caught between a rock and a hard place, squeezed from both sides. It's so frustrating when your job responsibilities end up being a source of blame. It's a bit sad and helpless, but you're not alone.

Let's start by sorting things out. For supervised staff, there is indeed an element of increasing their workload, which can feel particularly cumbersome. If there are problems, it can lead to trouble. So it's understandable that they might be reluctant to deal with you.

I truly believe that if you put yourself in their shoes, you'll be able to understand them better. But is there really no good way to communicate?

Have you ever thought about trying a different tone of voice?

Secondly, this is your job, and you haven't gone too far. We're all working together, so let's find a happy medium that everyone can agree on. For instance, try starting sentences with "I" more often: "I understand... I believe... I'm willing..." It might be worth a try!

Then, this is how it is in the workplace: you come and I go. It's easy to avoid open hostility, but it's not so easy to guard against hidden aggression. So learning more about the art of high emotional intelligence communication might help us all to get along better!

I'd love to suggest a book to you: "The Art of Conversation." You should definitely check it out!

And finally, the ability to adapt to social survival is also the most basic form of communication. With the internet being so well developed these days, it's probably not a good idea to spend too much time watching videos about high emotional intelligence chat, is it?

Or maybe you'd like to watch some videos about psychology? When you have the ability and strength, the rewards will be different!

Why not give it a try? I think you'll really like it!