I'm almost crazy about the fear of getting fat, but I still love to eat, and then I go and throw up everything I've eaten?

Hello, I'd like to extend a warm hug from afar. I sense that you have an inner self that is not very tolerant, and that you have a tendency to reject and judge yourself harshly.

It is important to understand why certain behaviors occur repeatedly. Often, these behaviors are a way for a person to satisfy an inner need. Being aware of this can help us make positive changes. For instance, when you want to eat uncontrollably, it can be helpful to think about your feelings and experiences at that moment. Which of your needs are being satisfied at that moment?

It is possible that some people may engage in retaliatory eating, even when their stomach is already experiencing strong discomfort. This could be explained by psychoanalytic theory as a regression to a state that a person should have when they are 0 to 6 months old, in which they are not yet aware of the satisfaction of hunger and satiety. If a child's oral desire is not well satisfied during infancy, it may be that they will respond and satisfy this part of themselves at some point in their growth.

I wonder if this need is especially strong when he feels neglected, unvalued, and unloved. What are your thoughts on this?

It is important to remember that our actions and words can influence others, even when we don't intend to. When we have low self-esteem and don't fully accept ourselves, we may unintentionally project our inner feelings of rejection onto those around us, leading us to believe that they won't accept us either.

It is important to remember that being fat is not a disadvantage, nor is it a reason to be disliked. Because fat and thin are relative concepts, as long as being fat does not affect your normal body metabolism and physical and mental health, there is no need to worry too much, as nobody is perfect.

Perhaps the best you can do is try to accept yourself. You might find it helpful to make a list of your self-acceptance strengths.

My name is Lily, and I'm the little ear of the Q&A Museum. I just wanted to say that I love you all, and I love the world too.

Hello!

When you're feeling down, what you really need is a cup of warm tea, not inwardly cursing and abusing yourself. Remember, no one can hurt you, and you are the only one who can hurt yourself and cause yourself pain. So, take care of yourself!

If you're seeking advice because you're afraid of getting fat, it means you have desires and expectations for life! But to understand yourself and life from the perspective of "fat or thin" alone is too superficial and rash. Life is beautiful, but its beauty is not only reflected in "fat or thin." The most magnificent beauty is natural and unintentional! Think about the beauty of nature, whether it's the magnificent and upright contours or the small bridges and flowing water. The beauty of life is not deliberately concealed.

So, the beauty that lasts a lifetime isn't something you can force or distort. It's natural and unrestrained, like the way children laugh and play, the face of a courier running around full of enthusiasm, the stubborn and bright eyes of a teenager, the determined and independent temperament of a girl... They're true to themselves, they know how to love and care for themselves, and they become the best version of themselves!

Each of us has incredible hopes and efforts hidden in the little details of life. If you work hard enough, you can make things easy for yourself, avoid sacrificing your health, and never subject yourself to the harsh "torture" of cruel shackles! You can live your best life by staying true to the essence of life.

To live the happiest life and gain the respect of others, we must first find ourselves, learn to love and care for ourselves, and take care of ourselves so that others can understand our inner desires and learn to respect us and treat us properly, without ulterior motives. And it's so worth it!

Respect your body and learn to cherish it!

If your parents didn't teach you how to love and cherish your body, it's time to learn! Your body is a part of you, and your mind and body are one. When you learn to love and cherish your body, it's like your soul agrees that you can love and cherish yourself. Every moment you release negative energy and ignore your self-expression, others will also think that you have learned not to respect your body, and that you can treat it casually without any responsibility. This is an extremely dangerous signal. To be the master of your own body, you must cut off all behaviors that harm your body and prohibit the release of negative energy.

Everyone loves beauty! And there are so many ways to embrace it.

Girls are born with a love of beauty, and it's so important to embrace that! But it's also important to remember that there are so many different ways to be beautiful. Not everyone is going to love the same things, and that's okay! Not only does pursuing external standards of beauty exhaust the body, but it also exhausts the mind. And how can a tired mind put on its most beautiful smile? When people pay too much attention to external evaluation and let external evaluation control themselves, they have actually lost themselves. This is like a beautiful painting that has lost its most important charm. Although it seems to have everything covered, it has actually lost its heart and put the cart before the horse. But there's so much more out there to discover!

So, caring about your figure and taking good care of your body are not contradictory! You need to take care of both, but if you can't do both at the same time, you should definitely take care of your body first. Without health, what's the use of being beautiful?

Embrace your independence and boost your self-esteem!

The questioner said that they worry that all their interactions are with people who have impure motives and are not truly accepting of themselves. This question, asked in the opposite way, is actually the answer to the questioner's question. People who do not accept their true selves, why would they want to love? Obviously, the current self has lost the correct outlook on love. And before talking about the outlook on love again, the questioner needs to improve something more important, which is to establish their own independent personality. This is something that will set them free! It will allow them to live their life on their own terms and become a complete and independent person.

Meeting a few wrong people is just a few grains of sand in the wind. But that's okay! This doesn't affect a person who wants to wait for the wind to come and fulfill their wishes. When the dust settles, the people who remain are bound to be people of the same frequency who warm you.

Wishing you the very best!