I'm lonely and sad, but there are people who like me just the way I am, right?

Good day, question asker. I will respond to your inquiry.

Let me extend my sympathies to you first. From your description, I can sense your loneliness and sadness. Moving dormitories today must have been quite a challenge, right? Today, you are not only tired physically, but also mentally. You are quite lonely and feeling quite bad.

You have indicated that you experience negative emotions and dislike others. Is this your personal assessment, or has something occurred that has led you to this conclusion?

However, I believe your current approach may be misguided. It is important to recognize that everyone is accepted and liked by others, and that it may take time to find such individuals.

You lack the quality of good friends. In fact, you do have friends. However, they are not the kind of friends you believe you require to provide the necessary support and assistance.

You have indicated that you are concerned about whether others hold positive views of you and whether you are perceived as inferior. You have also described yourself as a meticulous individual who considers the views of others, leading you to be overly concerned about how you are perceived. Alternatively, you could consider relaxing and interacting with people, putting aside your own thoughts, and simply being yourself.

You are currently experiencing feelings of sadness and loneliness, and are seeking guidance on how to adjust your mindset. This demonstrates your ability to effectively address challenges and your commitment to personal growth. I encourage you to consider the following strategies: dedicating time to self-study, joining professional organizations, communicating with a diverse range of individuals, and developing a positive self-image.

I hope this information is helpful to you.

Please be aware that time is of the essence. I appreciate your attention to this matter.

Greetings. I am the place of peace.

A 22-year-old female who lacks a best friend reports feelings of sadness, loneliness, and depression.

From your description, I can ascertain that you have a strong desire to be loved and recognized by others.

It is essential that you identify the solutions yourself, as you are the most knowledgeable about your own challenges and the primary decision-maker in your life.

You are the sole proprietor of your experiences, thoughts, and feelings.

Perhaps we can take a moment to reflect on the origin of these feelings.

Please describe the pattern of your relationship with your parents when you were a child. Please also describe the feelings that your parents' attitude towards you gave you.

Please describe your response.

Please indicate whether you felt seen and accepted.

Were you provided with care and affection?

If you are currently enrolled in a university program, could you please describe your previous experiences interacting with teachers and classmates during your primary and secondary school years?

Please indicate whether you currently feel this way.

In the description, "I always feel that the negative emotions I have will not make me liked," it would be helpful to understand which negative emotions are being referred to. Please provide more detail. Has anything changed since the last time this was discussed?

In the event that you find yourself in a negative emotional state, have you attempted to implement a strategy to improve your mood?

To untie the knot, you must first identify your own inner needs. You may now wish to take some time to quiet your mind, reflect on the past, and embrace the timid, fearful child within who craves love, understanding, and attention.

First, you need to learn to communicate with the inner child, who desires love, attention, and understanding.

It would be beneficial to express your support and assurance to the younger version of yourself. Let him know that you will not abandon, alienate, or isolate him. Affirm that you have always cared for him and loved him.

Inform him that he is worthy of being seen and deserves the positive outcomes he desires.

It may be beneficial to consider reconciling with your younger self or with your parents.

As a 22-year-old woman, I advise you to learn to listen to your inner voice. Take the time to identify your unmet needs.

When you learn to listen to yourself and provide constructive feedback, the obstacles in your way will become clear.

It should be noted that this is not a process that can be completed in a short period of time. Therefore, it is important not to rush or push yourself too hard, but rather to allow yourself the necessary time to complete the task at hand. As long as you remain committed to the path of self-awareness and self-growth, you will find that the time you invest will be well worth it.

I wish you the best of success.

Hello! Let's learn to take care of ourselves and watch over the good things in our lives!

You were 22 when you moved out of your dorm and felt lonely without friends. I'm here for you!

You don't have any friends because you think you have too many negative emotions. You worry that people won't like you. You feel inferior, so you hide and become lonely.

This is the problem you're facing.

You want to make friends, be liked, have good friends, and stop feeling lonely.

If you can see this today and ask for help, it will help you change your mind. I believe you can achieve your goals if you work hard.

What do we need to do?

Mr. Li Songwei said that relationships are about cooperation. The best relationships are win-win, where both people get what they need.

1. Discover, accept, appreciate, and develop your own uniqueness. See what these qualities can help others achieve.

Start with something small and learn to see your own value. Think about what you can do and how it can help others.

If you look good in photos, use that to your advantage. If you cook well, share that too.

2. Be interested in others.

From today, tell yourself you're interested in the people around you. See what they need and if you can help.

If others need appreciation, can you praise them? This satisfies their needs.

3. Finally, ask for help when you need it.

People are more likely to like and become friends with those who help them. Asking for help also satisfies their need to be needed.

If you can break away from your assumptions and engage with others, you'll see that things are different.

As the saying goes, everyone has flaws, and everyone likes someone who is imperfect. Making friends is a mutual decision. We try to be our best selves, and we believe that we have value.

This will lead to your own circle of friends.

This doesn't mean we should make friends with a utilitarian outlook. It means we should interact and help each other. As the saying goes, "No discord, no concord." Friends need to cross paths.

Good day, my name is Zeyu.

Regardless of whether one is experiencing feelings of loneliness or sadness, it is important to recognize that one is deserving of love and affection. It is a fundamental truth that everyone is worthy of love and acceptance, and it is therefore inevitable that someone will like you.

It is inevitable that, regardless of the number of friends one has, feelings of loneliness will eventually emerge. This is not a phenomenon that can be influenced by the presence or absence of friends.

Loneliness is a subjective phenomenon that can be experienced as a constant state. The intensity of this subjective experience is closely related to the way it is perceived and the individual's subjective experience.

"I am under the impression that I will not be regarded as a likeable individual if I exhibit negative emotional states."

It is a common misconception that negative emotions indicate a lack of likeability. In reality, individuals who genuinely care for another person will accept their negative emotions, whereas those who do not like you may not necessarily like you because you do not display negative emotions.

It is my contention that this negative emotion cannot be evaluated as either right or wrong. Given that negative emotions are an instinctual response, they serve to inform us of our emotional state and situational context while also providing guidance on problem-solving strategies. When we utilize negative emotions in a given situation, they can assist us in navigating challenges, and vice versa.

It is understandable to experience concern regarding the level of approval or acceptance from others. However, it is important to recognize that the perception of being liked or disliked by others is not a significant concern in and of itself. There will always be individuals who do not hold positive sentiments towards us, and similarly, we may also find ourselves in a position of disliking certain individuals.

It is not possible to ensure that everyone will like us; however, we can choose to maintain amicability and sincerity with those who hold positive sentiments towards us, and to offer apologies and forgiveness to those who do not.

The sensation of loneliness can be attributed to the absence of positive social interactions and the subsequent emotional distress that ensues. To alleviate this predicament, it is imperative to engage in altruistic behavior, extending a helping hand to those in need. This act of benevolence entails a genuine interest in others, which necessitates a prior affinity or liking for the individual in question. In return, the act of giving will be reciprocated. Ultimately, the phenomenon of love is contingent upon a mutual understanding and respect.

One may attempt to obtain support and affection from a collective by joining clubs or organizations that align with one's interests. This can serve as a means of initially escaping from feelings of loneliness. Subsequently, one may endeavor to seek out individuals who share similar interests, gradually fostering a sense of friendship.

Should these methods prove too challenging, it is recommended that one engage in charitable work. This will prove beneficial in the long term.

Should these methods prove ineffective, it is recommended that the individual engage in activities that are enjoyable and that provide a distraction from the feelings of loneliness. These activities might include reading, listening to music, watching a movie, going for a run, or engaging in physical activity.

Ultimately, it is my hope that you will be able to come to terms with your feelings of loneliness and find a close friend with whom you can share your experiences.

Hello!

I'm Kelly. We don't have any good friends, so we feel lonely and think that other people don't like us. It's normal to feel this way when you're in a bad mood.

✍️[About loneliness]

Dear, You're in adolescence, and you're more sensitive and confused. College is different from high school because students come from all over the world. Many people have this mentality in college. Your daughter was popular before college, and you had good friends in high school, right?

I encouraged my daughter to

1: Find new roommates and hang out with classmates.

2. Stay in touch with old friends.

Join a school club. You'll meet nice seniors who can teach you a lot.

4: Smile more and help people in the dormitory.

5: My daughter says good habits make a good impression.

6: Read more books when you are lonely.

Adler said, "We must connect with others. If we isolate ourselves because we are humble, we will perish. We must transcend."

If you feel lonely, try something else. When you interact with people and are enthusiastic, others will like you.

Mr. Irwin Yalom of Stanford University, an existential psychologist, says in his book "Be Yourself" that he was lonely as a child and throughout his school years, no teacher ever praised him. He also had a difficult relationship with his parents, especially his mother. Loneliness made him fall in love with reading, especially biographies of famous people.

And the philosopher Bertrand Russell was also lonely. He had no parents and grew up with his grandmother.

And others.

Lonely people spend time alone, find hobbies, and enjoy solitude while studying. If there are no friends, books are friends.

✍️ Negative emotions

If we're in a bad mood, we can remember who loved us. Mom and dad?

Elders or classmates?

What happy memories do you have?

They're not with you now, but they're in your heart. You're in theirs.

Think this way.

You don't have any friends or family right now.

You tell them someone will respond.

I care about you just the same.

How low self-esteem is formed

The famous Austrian psychologist Alfred Adler said that inferiority is when someone feels they can't handle a problem and that they can't solve it.

You're just feeling lonely.

You're feeling down.

Everyone feels inferior sometimes.

Do you believe in yourself? Ask yourself.

You can go to college and pass the entrance exam, so you have no reason to feel inferior.

Don't be afraid. This feeling won't last.

Face your problems, overcome them, and surpass yourself today.

✍️ Adjust your mindset.

I read it today and liked it, so I'm sharing it with you.

Alfred Adler said that the "inferiority complex" is when you're confused about problems.

To overcome loneliness, start by:

Accept yourself, adjust your self-perception, and know that loneliness is only temporary.

Accept your feelings, accept that you are unhappy and have no friends, and think about your past. What happened, and what made you feel this way?

Second:

Focus on your strengths to motivate yourself.

Set a daily goal and note your achievements for at least a month. For example, smile and see how people react.

Positive reinforcement helps people improve.

Third point:

Positive suggestions for yourself.

If we think we're bad at socializing, we'll be afraid to socialize, which will make us worse at it.

These are all our choices.

If we think we're good at socializing, we'll be more confident.

Yixinli has a free social platform where you can interact with others and meet people who care about you.

When you're lonely, come here and find us. You can ask questions or go to the group.

Believe in yourself. You are a lovely girl. You are just tired or not used to the new dorm. The new environment makes you feel lonely.

The new semester will be better.

I'm Kelly.

I love you, world.