I'm not feeling well. I always feel tired and lack energy. What should I do?

Dear Sir/Madam, I hope my answer proves useful to you. Kind regards,

From your remorse, you can discern that you believe continuing your studies will prevent this outcome. However, in retrospect, you recognize that at that time, you were bearing an excessive psychological burden, and not attending school was, in fact, a form of self-preservation. If you wish to pursue further learning and personal growth, there are numerous avenues available to you. Do not assume that your options are limited. Life offers numerous possibilities. You have the flexibility to grow and enhance your skills at your own pace, whether in terms of learning, abilities, interpersonal relationships, and so on.

To rekindle your inner vitality and become more powerful, it is essential to accept and love your true self, regardless of your circumstances. Treat her kindly, care for her, and support her. This will help you become truly powerful. When you have inner strength, you will also have the courage to socialize. You will be able to allow yourself to make mistakes in social situations and accept that imperfect self. This is a powerful and authentic approach.

I advise you to:

It is recommended that you cease any negative self-talk and adopt a more positive attitude. Learn to love yourself, understand yourself, accept yourself, and give yourself support and care in order to generate inner strength.

Research indicates that self-criticism has a detrimental impact on learning. Despite the intention to promote personal growth, self-criticism hinders learning, development, and self-improvement. Instead of fostering growth, it perpetuates a cycle of stagnation. To enhance personal effectiveness, it is essential to shift the mindset towards self-care. When individuals prioritize self-care, the learning center of the brain becomes activated, leading to increased energy and engagement.

Caring for yourself, loving yourself, understanding yourself, accepting yourself, and supporting yourself are all important, but they require practice. I recommend the books Mindfulness Self-Care, Accepting an Imperfect Self, The Miracle of Self-Affirmation, and The Power of Self-Care. I hope you will follow the exercises in the books and become someone who knows how to care for and love themselves, and become a person with inner strength.

If reading is not your preferred method of learning, you may wish to consider taking one of the many related courses available on the learning platform. These include the self-empowerment course by teacher Zhou Fan, the related exercises in the pocket exercises, and the meditation exercises on self-acceptance on the meditation planet.

2. It is necessary to implement methods for the release and transformation of repressed emotions. Taking the initiative to do so will result in increased inner relaxation.

The reason for the association between pain and love at the time in question, as well as the tendency to self-harm, is the lack of an outlet for emotions. This resulted in the emotions being expressed in the aforementioned manner. By actively releasing emotions, the inner being will become increasingly harmonious. The tendency to self-harm will also cease.

One way to start is by developing the habit of keeping an emotional diary. This involves writing down your true inner feelings and emotions. There is no need to worry about neat handwriting or the logic of the content. Just express yourself as much as you like. You can also type it on a computer. If you don't want others to see it, you can delete or tear it up after you've finished writing. When you feel like attacking yourself, you can hit a soft object, such as a pillow or a sandbag. You can also put a tumbler at home. This can become a transformation station for angry emotions. It provides a safe outlet to release our pent-up emotions without harming others or ourselves. You can also find someone suitable to talk to. If you can't find someone in your life who accepts and supports you, you can go to a professional. Professional psychological listeners and counselors will accept you unconditionally. They will allow you to express yourself honestly and provide you with a space to release your pent-up emotions. They can also help you adjust your unreasonable perceptions, rebuild your self-perception, and enhance your inner strength.

3. It is a mistake to believe that regret and self-blame will lead to personal improvement. It is more beneficial to focus on the resources and abilities we possess, to believe in our potential for growth and development, and to recognize that we are born with talents that can be put to good use. It is important to adopt a realistic outlook, to learn and grow at a pace that suits you, to avoid setting unrealistic expectations for yourself, and to acknowledge your efforts and hard work. When you see your own growth, you will gain greater trust in yourself and like yourself more and more.

While past events are immutable, this does not preclude progress and the pursuit of enhanced capabilities. An individual's learning does not define their value, and both education and ability can be continuously enhanced. Rather than dwelling on perceived shortcomings, focus on strengths and resources. Which industries align with your interests?

What are your strengths? I am confident that you will identify the direction you wish to pursue.

In regard to examinations, you have the option of taking undergraduate self-tests or professional qualification exams. It is important to ascertain the academic qualifications required for the career you are pursuing and then obtain the corresponding qualifications. By studying systematically, you will gain the knowledge and skills you desire and ultimately become a professional in your industry.

I have a friend in her 60s who, because she was interested in psychology, passed an exam to get a bachelor's degree in applied psychology from a university at this age. She then proceeded to gain related work experience through practice and continuous learning, gradually becoming more professional.

It is important to note that setting limits for oneself is counterproductive. There are numerous opportunities and possibilities available in the future. It is essential to identify one's current needs and the desired long-term outcome. Following one's own rhythm, creating a reasonable plan, and taking gradual steps forward is the most effective approach. With this method, individuals can become more powerful, achieve their desired outcomes, and live a fulfilling life.

I would like to conclude by recommending the following books: Amazing Me, The Power of Self-Growth, and Rebuilding Your Life. I hope you will consider starting by accepting, treating, and caring for yourself, as this will help you to become more empowered and give you more hope in life.

Please refer to the above for your information. Best regards,

Hello! I'm June Lai Feng.

From what you said, I understand you're feeling distressed and challenged. You may be experiencing:

Long-term stress can cause exhaustion, low energy, and a bad mood. This stress can come from feeling like you're not doing well, worrying about the future, and dealing with setbacks in life.

Second, uncontrollable temper tantrums and a reluctance to communicate with others may indicate a problem with emotional regulation. The fact that chatting with your brother does not improve the situation suggests that there may be deeper psychological distress.

If you get angry easily and have trouble connecting with others, it might be because you have trouble managing your emotions and relationships. This could be related to how you see yourself, how you trust others, and how you communicate.

Failing exams and work made anxiety and self-doubt worse. The cycle of regret and self-blame added to the psychological burden.

After dropping out of high school, she has less contact with others and finds it hard to make close friends. This may be because of early experiences or personality traits. Being too worried about what other people think, being cautious, and other behaviors may show low self-esteem, a lack of confidence, and a sense of insecurity.

She has also self-harmed in the past and reacted strongly to school. This shows she has suffered a lot. She is still affected by these issues.

Finally, despair from understanding oneself may be due to realizing a problem is complex and difficult to solve. It is an opportunity to seek professional help. Consider seeking the help of a psychological counselor, who can help explore the root causes of the problem, gradually guide you out of the predicament, and rebuild self-confidence and a positive attitude.

Family members should support and encourage their loved ones, not blame them for the past.

How can you improve yourself?

First, accept the past. It can't be changed. Focus on the present and future.

Learn from your mistakes, but don't dwell on them.

Your regret about dropping out of school may be weighing on your mind. However, you can't change the past. Focus on finding solutions and moving forward.

Accepting your past and focusing on the present and future can help you feel better.

Be kind to yourself. Understand that you are going through a difficult time and give yourself some tolerance and love.

Improve your self-identity and self-worth. You said you hate yourself and wish you could tear yourself apart, which shows how unhappy you are with yourself.

Accept your imperfections and build self-worth with positive affirmations. Everyone has room to grow, and mistakes are part of that.

Building a positive sense of self-identity and self-worth helps you think about yourself in a healthier way.

Don't avoid reality and indulge in games. Games may temporarily relieve stress and anxiety, but they're not a long-term solution.

Seek help and find healthier ways to cope.

Take care of your body to improve your mental state.

It takes time and effort to change, but you can improve your mental state and escape your predicament. You are not alone; there are professionals and support systems that can help you.

Have fun!

Good day. The fatigue you are experiencing is negatively impacting your daily life, trapping you in a previous situation from which you are unable to escape, causing you significant distress. I would like to discuss strategies for restoring your vitality.

What insights can be gleaned from the phrase "I hate myself, I want to tear myself apart bit by bit"? From one perspective, anger requires a considerable degree of fortitude to sustain, and the individual on the receiving end of such anger must possess an even greater capacity to withstand it.

On the surface, the inner self is perceived as powerless and socially withdrawn. However, this perception may not accurately reflect the true nature of the inner self.

One might inquire whether it is, in fact, an escape.

The intensity of the anger you experience requires considerable fortitude to endure. However, you are also the individual capable of releasing this intense anger, which is a significant source of strength.

One can readily comprehend the potency of these two internal forces.

"I hardly socialize at all." Socializing is an internal drive that stems from the fundamental need to survive in society. The internal self is preoccupied with internal conflicts, which prevent the individual from engaging in socialization.

The entire situation is replete with self-denial. One might be inclined to believe that no individual possesses a more comprehensive understanding of oneself than one's own self-perception. However, it is crucial to assess the veracity of this assertion. To what extent can one truly claim to be aware of all aspects of one's own being? It is, therefore, essential to identify those aspects that serve to distinguish one's self from others, particularly in moments of repose.

I frequently employ the following analogy: "Freud's analysis of dreams is unattainable, but his proficiency in Chinese communication is equally challenging to match."

Similarly, one may also communicate with one's "elder brother" in order to ascertain the source of the inner voice of self-criticism. What would be the result if we were to allow ourselves to integrate the two forces within us?

Given your capacity for introspection and insight, it would be beneficial for you to seek the counsel of a mental health professional who specializes in family of origin issues. This could potentially provide you with a fresh perspective.

A simplistic analysis is inherently subjective and one-sided, and it is my intention to extract a modicum of insight from it.

At Yi Xinli, we extend our warmest regards to you and express our profound affection.

Hello there!

I can see from your question that you're feeling pretty anxious about a few things, including finding a job, studying, and failing exams. I get it! I've been there, and it's totally normal to feel this way.

From what you've told me, it's clear you have high expectations of yourself and your own ideas. You want to satisfy your own needs and ideas, which is totally understandable! I can see how trying and failing can lead to frustration, anxiety, and pain. I've been in this situation before, so I can empathize with your mood and feelings.

First, it's really helpful to try to be aware of our emotions. This means noticing what our emotions and thoughts are, why we have these emotions, and what our inner self thinks.

Second, it's so important to learn to accept and understand yourself. We all make our own choices, and that's okay! Failure doesn't define us. We might not have found what we need yet, and we might feel a little frustrated or sad, but we need to understand and accept that, and be kind to ourselves.

Third, it's really helpful to find support from other people. You can talk to a counselor if you like, or you can chat to your family and see what they think. They'll be happy to help!

Find what you want to do, be determined to do it, and realize what your goals are. You can try to find something to do to help you stay motivated and focused on your goals. When you have a clear goal in mind, you'll find it easier to stay motivated and work towards achieving it. In the process, you'll feel a sense of enjoyment, acceptance, and a growing belief in yourself that you can find your own path in life.

I really hope you can get rid of your troubles soon.

Hello. I can see you're in a difficult situation.

I'm a counselor, and I'll explain my thoughts from a psychological point of view.

Your problems are:

1. I'm tired and lack energy. What should I do? ———This is depression.

2. I've been in a bad mood for over a year.

I feel tired, moody, and irritable.

I didn't want to listen to other people, so I just chatted with my brother. I withdrew from social relationships.

I couldn't muster any strength. I went back to my hometown for the Spring Festival, planning to rest and ease my emotions, but it didn't help. I lacked motivation and went home hoping to get resources, but the environment was unhelpful, and I was still depressed.

After returning, I had trouble with exams and finding a job. I regret not trying harder. There were few exam opportunities, and my results were poor. I wasn't anxious before the exams, but I was more so after because I didn't do well. I feel under pressure to succeed, and repeated setbacks have made it difficult for me to realize my self-worth.

I used to have a job that my father helped me find. I worked there for a few years, then quit. I tried to find a good job on my own, but I couldn't. Career setbacks make you feel disheartened.

Every day is a struggle. I don't have many friends. After leaving high school, I stopped contacting my old friends and haven't made any new ones. I only have my "brother" for company. I can't connect with people, and even shallow connections are difficult. I'm always on my guard, afraid of saying the wrong thing. I'm uncomfortable in crowds and afraid of making mistakes. Social interactions make you anxious, so you choose to escape.

Every day is a struggle. When you're tired, gaming is the only way to find peace. It's not a long-term solution. You haven't dealt with your emotions.

I have no social life. My family says I should have kept studying. I regret it more than anyone. You haven't accepted the past or the present.

I loved the pain. I would tear my hair out and slap myself. School was too much. I hated myself and wished I could tear myself apart. You were once in a state of severe depression.

I'm still in that predicament. It's hard. I hate it. I know myself better, but I still have conflicts. I need help to understand myself, accept myself, and learn to love myself.

From what you've said, I can see you're confused and disoriented. You want to change, and I can help you do that. I'm a psychodynamic therapist, which means I can help you understand your unconscious conflicts. Once we understand the root cause, we can change our perception, relieve internal conflicts, and establish a new model for being ourselves. I can help you learn to express your thoughts and find a professional psychological counselor who can help you understand yourself. Let's do this!

Good day. Over the course of your life, you have encountered numerous challenges and setbacks, which have, to some extent, undermined your self-confidence and sense of control over your life.

The sense of control is a basic human need. When repeated instances of dissatisfaction occur, an uncontrollable state is created that is difficult to bear. This can result in ruminative thinking about the past, such as dwelling on how things might have been better if one had continued studying or if one had studied harder before an exam. However, such thinking can lead to self-blame, which is known to be a significant source of fatigue and lack of energy.

It is evident that distressing or traumatic experiences have the potential to induce alterations in our physiological and psychological states. These changes can manifest as alterations in neurotransmitter activity, which may contribute to an increased proclivity towards viewing ourselves and external stimuli in a negative manner, as well as experiencing negative emotions with greater frequency. In light of this understanding, it becomes possible to adopt a more empathetic stance towards ourselves.

It is important to note that the pessimism and powerlessness currently experienced are not indicative of inherent character flaws or deficiencies in ability. Furthermore, they are not permanent states that cannot be altered. Rather, they are stress responses to past experiences, such as feelings of insecurity.

You are experiencing feelings of remorse and regret regarding your decision not to pursue further studies and to study more assiduously for the examinations you failed to pass. This kind of hypothetical thinking, which involves "looking back at the past," is indeed quite common. It often forms an automatic pattern in our brains, whereby we believe that if we had made a different choice, we would have achieved a superior result than we have now and that we should have made a different choice in the first place. However, it is not possible to accurately predict the future, and we do not have absolute freedom of choice. Our choices will be limited by the conditions of the moment.

For example, if an individual experiences strong painful feelings about attending school, it may not be beneficial to force themselves to attend school, as they may be experiencing depression. Attempting to take on excessive pressure too aggressively may result in further exhaustion. This can be likened to a wounded athlete who requires rest, healing, and recovery before resuming training and competing. Attempting to compete during a serious injury or low energy period may not be conducive to long-term development.

One might posit that your decision was predicated on your genuine emotions at the time and aligned with your needs in that particular context. It is important to exercise discernment and avoid undue self-criticism.

The individual is now engaging in dialogue with an internal representation, which provides a conduit for emotional expression. Observation of this internal representation reveals a capacity for attentive listening and the absence of judgment.

The nervousness and fear of being judged in relationships are related to the fear of being criticized and rejected for making mistakes. To gradually reduce this nervousness, it is first necessary to stop judging and criticizing oneself and to accept one's various emotional experiences without defining oneself by labels. For example, the author has experienced many setbacks in the past, and anyone who has suffered a series of setbacks may feel vulnerable and powerless. It is not necessary to equate one's current vulnerability and powerlessness with one's entire being.

In ordinary circumstances, one can cultivate a sense of efficacy in various aspects of life. This may be achieved by engaging in activities that foster positive physical and mental experiences, such as pursuing hobbies, learning a skill, observing and experiencing nature, maintaining an emotional diary, or engaging in mindfulness meditation. Once this foundation is established, one can then attempt to form new relationships. These interactions may begin with general social interactions, without setting a specific goal or threshold. Initiating a greeting, engaging in brief conversation, and pursuing further interaction based on shared interests or commonalities is a recommended approach. It is also acceptable to simply enjoy the company of another individual without engaging in prolonged conversation.

In the context of a large gathering, the opportunity to form a friendship may arise at a specific time, in a particular setting, and with a specific individual. It is not a reflection on anyone involved if a friendship does not materialize. Instead, it is important to view each encounter as a potential connection, rather than a definitive outcome.

You're trying to improve yourself and create your own future, but it's not working. You're angry at yourself for not fighting for what you want and regret many past choices. You're at a loss and tired. You're indignant, but have nowhere to turn, so you lose your temper. I understand!

I've read your description and have some thoughts.

You are a strong-willed child with high expectations. In high school, you hoped to do well in your studies but put too much pressure on yourself. You may have been comparing yourself to your classmates and goals, which drained energy. Your academic performance didn't improve, and you were in pain. You were overwhelmed and chose to drop out of school.

Your father helped you find a job, and you worked at it for a few years. You don't want to be stuck in a job you don't like and you don't want to rely on others. You want to find a way out through your own efforts.

However, exams and finding a job are hard, and people are stressed.

They are too competitive to accept they are inferior. For example, after dropping out of school, they feel they have no reason to keep in touch with their classmates. Later, bad luck makes them unwilling to communicate with anyone.

Feeling inferior to others is like being inferior. Over time, one gives up on socializing.

My opinion:

Competition is a source of motivation. The right amount of competition will encourage people to work hard.

Don't compare yourself to others. We're all different. Some are good at exams, some at sports, some at drawing. Some are slow but persistent, while others are quick but not consistent. There's no point comparing yourself to others. Focus on yourself and try to get better every day.

2. Independence. Education should teach children to live independently, take care of themselves, think for themselves, and become financially independent as adults.

But being independent doesn't mean you don't need help. The main reason people work together is to divide up tasks. No one can do everything alone.

Help from others is just a chance. As they say, "The teacher shows you the way, but you have to do the work." It's okay to accept help when you need it, and then rely on yourself to improve.

3. Building a ladder. It is good for a person to have goals so that they have motivation and do not give up.

You can build a ladder between your goal and your current situation. As long as you keep building, you will reach your goal. Goals can be general or specific. You can achieve each small goal through step-by-step efforts. Perseverance is victory.

4. Interpersonal relationships: Everyone is unique and has something to contribute. There is no distinction between high and low, noble and lowly, based on material wealth, social status, or type of work.

Many people cannot do this because they don't believe it. I believe it. Belief has power. Even when working as a bricklayer, some do it for survival, some see it as work, and some see it as building tall buildings. The latter will not feel inferior, but will improve their skills.

People who are concerned about survival may compare themselves with others and feel inferior. Forget about high and low, noble and lowly, and just be yourself. Interact with others, learn from them, and help them with your own strengths.

This is the essence of relationships.

Here are a few suggestions:

1. I hope you agree that people are equal. If you work hard, you will be rewarded. Keep learning and improving yourself. There is no low-skill or high-skill work. With skills, you can rely on yourself. Without skills, you rely on strength. Keep increasing your skills. Support yourself. In work and study, keep increasing your skills. You can make your life better and bring value to others and society.

2. The future trend of social division of labor: In the future, academic qualifications will become less important. With the development of AI, many high-level diplomas and technical skills will be replaced by AI. The concentration of urban populations, the saturation of the real estate market, and an aging population will lead to many jobs requiring labor skills.

3. Set goals: Find a job that allows you to make a living based on your past experience and skills. While working, find a direction that suits you or a job skill you like. Look for opportunities to change jobs to the direction you have chosen, even if your salary will temporarily decrease. Look for opportunities for learning and training while working. As long as you set a clear goal and take steps towards it, you will achieve success if you persevere.

You don't need to think too far ahead. As long as you have the right skills, you'll be fine.

Hope this helps!

Best wishes!

Dear Landlord, I have read your description and can understand your current feelings. I hope my suggestions will be of assistance to you. As you have described, feeling tired all the time and lacking energy can be very disturbing. Here are some ways that may help to improve this state:

1. Adjust your schedule: It is essential to ensure that you obtain sufficient sleep on a nightly basis and maintain a consistent routine. Fatigue frequently originates from a lack of sleep or an irregular schedule. It is recommended that you go to bed and wake up at the same time each day to ensure that you receive an adequate amount of rest.

2. Exercise: Regular exercise has been demonstrated to enhance energy levels and improve mood. A daily exercise routine of light to moderate activity, such as walking, yoga, or running, has been shown to alleviate fatigue.

3. Dietary Recommendations: A balanced diet should be consumed, including an adequate intake of protein, vegetables, fruit, and fluids. It is advisable to limit the consumption of caffeine and sugar, as they can cause fluctuations in energy levels.

4. Rest and relaxation: It is recommended that individuals allocate time each day for rest and relaxation, engaging in activities that are enjoyable and conducive to relaxation, such as listening to music, reading, or meditation. These activities have been shown to reduce stress and restore energy.

5. Psychological Adjustment: One may consider employing psychological adjustment methods, such as meditation, deep breathing exercises, or maintaining a journal. These methods have been demonstrated to facilitate relaxation and mitigate feelings of exhaustion.

6. Seek Support: In the event that one is unable to regulate oneself, it is advisable to seek the assistance of a professional counselor or psychotherapist. These professionals are equipped with the necessary expertise to provide guidance and support in achieving inner balance.

The etiology of fatigue is multifactorial and can be attributed to a plethora of stressors and burdens. It is imperative to cultivate the ability to discern and regulate one's mental state, thereby facilitating a gradual restoration of vitality. It is my sincere hope that these recommendations will prove beneficial and contribute to a swift recuperation of energy and an enhanced sense of inner equilibrium.

In light of the circumstances you have outlined, it is recommended that you consider the following steps:

1. It is recommended that you seek professional help. The situation you describe suggests that you may be experiencing symptoms of depression or other mental health problems. A professional counselor or psychiatrist can provide help and treatment.

2. Self-acceptance: It is recommended to accept oneself as one is and to avoid excessive self-criticism. It is a natural human tendency to experience difficulties, and it is therefore important to seek assistance and to strive for improvement.

3. It is crucial to establish a support system, despite the lack of social activity previously mentioned. This can be a familial, friendship, or professional network that can provide assistance during challenging periods.

4. Participation in social activities is recommended, despite the potential discomfort that socializing may initially cause. Gradually engaging in social activities can facilitate the development of confidence and social skills. It is advised to begin with low-stress social situations.

5. It is recommended that you identify alternative methods of relaxation. While gaming can provide a brief period of respite, it is not a sustainable solution. It is advisable to explore other avenues for relaxation, such as meditation, yoga, walking, or any activity that induces relaxation.

6. **Set small goals**: It is recommended that the individual set small, specific goals, such as taking a daily walk, learning a new skill, or joining a hobby group. Accomplishing these small goals has the potential to increase the individual's sense of accomplishment and self-confidence.

7. It is imperative to avoid self-harm. This is a matter that requires immediate attention. It is recommended to seek professional help in order to learn healthy ways to cope with stress.

8. A healthy lifestyle, including regular meals, adequate sleep, and regular physical activity, has been demonstrated to improve mood and mental state.

9. **Reassess education and career paths**: It may be beneficial to consider reassessing your educational and career goals. It may take some time and exploration to identify the optimal path for your circumstances.

10. Positive mindset: It is recommended that individuals attempt to cultivate a positive mindset and focus on the achievements and progress they have made, rather than dwelling on failures and regrets.

11. Avoid isolation. It is advisable to avoid isolation, as it can exacerbate emotional problems. Even simple interactions can help reduce feelings of loneliness.

12. It is important to be patient when undergoing a period of change or recovery. It is not reasonable to expect immediate results; however, with time and effort, improvement will occur.

It is important to note that seeking assistance is a demonstration of fortitude, not vulnerability. It is crucial to recognize that one is not isolated and that there are numerous individuals and resources available to provide support.

It is recommended that individuals in need of assistance seek the guidance of a qualified professional as soon as possible in order to embark on the path to recovery.

The questioner's heart is palpably burdened by the conflict and tension of depression and fear. Despite the questioner's profound sense of helplessness in the face of overwhelming circumstances, he remains uncertain about the most effective course of action. He aspires to transform himself but is reluctant to embrace change. He is acutely aware of the potential for ridicule and harm if he makes a misstep, and thus finds himself trapped in a cycle of pain and suffering.

In the face of this situation, the questioner may choose to persist in this state of being without undergoing any change. This may result in the continuation of the pain experienced in the heart, feelings of helplessness, a reluctance to interact with others, and an inability to work or live in a normal and easy manner. Alternatively, the questioner may opt to completely lie down and give up, refrain from thinking about or doing anything, and observe the outcome.

Another key aspect is to acknowledge and accept these fears, pains, helplessness, and powerlessness within oneself. This entails recognizing that one has previously experienced such emotions and that one is currently in a challenging state. It also involves accepting the possibility of being afraid of interacting with others and of being unable to function normally and effectively at work. Additionally, it requires acknowledging the potential for saying or doing the wrong things and observing the subsequent outcomes. By doing so, one can gain a significant degree of autonomy and control over a substantial portion of one's life. This necessitates providing oneself with sufficient freedom and attempting to comprehend one's inner world. It also involves identifying one's aspirations, capabilities, and preferences and learning to differentiate between what one accepts and what one rejects.

The distinction between adults and minors is that adults bear the responsibility for their words and actions, whereas minors are not held to the same degree of accountability. Regardless of the decision the original poster makes, they will be held responsible for the positive and negative emotions and feelings that result from it, regardless of whether it is a successful outcome.

To achieve a rich, fulfilling, and happy life, one must endeavor to try, think, learn, and practice more. It is only through these efforts that one can expect to receive the positive outcomes they desire. Similarly, in order to receive compensation for one's efforts, one must secure employment and demonstrate dedication and conscientiousness in their work. In the absence of such employment, the likelihood of receiving compensation is significantly diminished.

If the questioner wishes to extricate themselves from their current state of confusion and is uncertain as to the optimal course of action, they may wish to consider this approach, which presents an opportunity for a fresh start and the potential for a more fulfilling life. The aforementioned perspectives are personal opinions for the questioner's consideration; the decision of how to proceed is ultimately theirs.

It is important to note that the fatigue, powerlessness, anxiety, and social distress that you are experiencing are challenges that many individuals may encounter in their lives. It is essential to recognize that you are not alone in this experience and that there is no need for despair.

Subsequently, an analysis of the causes of these conditions from a psychological perspective will be presented, along with a discussion of potential solutions.

1. Causes of the Problem

A pervasive sense of exhaustion and helplessness may be associated with chronic stress, inadequate rest and recuperation. Prolonged stress can result in depleted energy reserves, which may subsequently manifest as feelings of exhaustion and helplessness.

Furthermore, a deficiency in clearly defined life objectives and a sense of purpose may also result in feelings of confusion and a sense of powerlessness.

Emotional Instability and Anxiety: Emotional instability may be related to one's capacity to regulate emotions. When confronted with stress and challenges, individuals may lack effective coping strategies, which can result in emotional outbursts.

Furthermore, uncertainty about the future may also precipitate anxiety.

Social distress may result from an individual's self-perception, interpersonal skills, and past experiences. A negative self-assessment may contribute to a lack of confidence in interpersonal interactions.

Additionally, one may lack effective interpersonal skills, such as active listening, effective communication, and empathy. Furthermore, past experiences, such as dropping out of high school or alienation from family and friends, may also negatively impact social skills.

2. Solutions The following section will present potential solutions to the aforementioned issues.

It is strongly recommended that you seek the assistance of a professional counselor or psychologist. These professionals can provide a professional assessment and guidance to help you better understand your problems and find effective solutions.

Moreover, it may be beneficial to participate in support groups or community activities, where one can engage with individuals who share similar experiences and emotions.

It is essential to establish and maintain a healthy lifestyle in order to alleviate fatigue and anxiety. It is recommended that individuals obtain sufficient sleep on a daily basis, adhere to a balanced diet, and engage in moderate physical activity.

Furthermore, one may consider employing relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing, meditation, and yoga, to alleviate physical tension and anxiety.

The establishment of clear goals is an effective method for providing direction and a sense of purpose in one's life. These goals may encompass long-term career objectives, personal growth plans, or short-term daily tasks.

The attainment of goals allows for the gradual accumulation of a sense of accomplishment and self-confidence.

It is recommended that individuals learn emotion regulation techniques, as this process requires learning and practice. There are several effective emotion regulation techniques that can be learned, including cognitive restructuring, emotional discharge, and seeking support. These techniques can be learned through various means, such as reading books, taking courses, or consulting professionals.

These techniques can assist in the management of stress and the mitigation of emotional outbursts.

The enhancement of social skills is a process that necessitates time and effort. Initially, it is essential to alter one's negative self-assessment and cultivate a positive self-image.

Secondly, the acquisition of interpersonal skills, including active listening, effective communication, and empathy, is recommended. These skills should be continuously practiced. Additionally, it is advised to proactively seek social interaction and expand one's social network.

Social fears and anxieties can be overcome through communication and interaction with others.

The final step is to learn to accept and care for oneself. It is important to recognize that everyone has their own unique set of strengths and weaknesses. It is essential to develop an appreciation for one's strengths and to identify areas for improvement.

In addition, it is essential to cultivate self-care practices and ensure sufficient rest and recovery time. Only when one truly cares for oneself can one effectively navigate the challenges and difficulties inherent in life.

It is important to remember that change is a gradual process that requires time and patience. It is crucial not to rush or be overly critical of oneself.

It is important to have faith in one's ability to overcome these difficulties and to progress towards a better future in a gradual manner.

Hello!

You haven't been feeling well since last year. You're always tired and lack energy.

You often lose control of your emotions and tend to lose your temper. You also feel very lonely and are unable to socialize, worrying that socializing will cause you to get hurt, become even more burdened, or suffer some other setback.

I'm really sorry to hear that. I hope you can find some comfort in this.

Right now, you only have your soulmate to keep you company, and you just talk to him. To people who don't know you, it might seem like you're talking to yourself, but to you, it's like a social chat.

This kind of conversation won't hurt you or exhaust you.

I think your physical condition, along with the exams and work, might be starting to affect you. You seem tired and low on energy, and you're easily frustrated.

You don't need to regret studying. At the time, you were too burdened by school to be able to do it.

At the time, you had to push through. You can pick up your studies when you're ready.

Don't be too hard on yourself. You don't have to achieve anything. It's the same with studying psychology. We don't demand to know how much knowledge we can absorb every day.

Just learn what you're ready to learn when you're able. That's also a form of progress, and you should give yourself a pat on the back and encouragement.

The longer you stay stuck in this situation, the more it'll keep you from moving forward. It's a vicious cycle of self-loathing, self-blame, and self-harm.

You treat yourself by putting the blame on yourself, hating yourself, and hurting yourself. You feel like you're worthless.

You feel like you don't have any abilities. You've kind of sealed yourself into a well with these labels.

It seems like you're stuck in a rut, unable to escape the well you've dug for yourself with your own abilities.

If you can, get in touch with a professional doctor to get the right diagnosis and treatment. Get in touch with a psychological counselor and let them help you explore the part of yourself that you cannot see.

Let your counselor be your guide as you gradually work your way out of the well you've dug yourself into.

I love you, and I think the world would love you too if you gave yourself a chance.

Hello, question asker! I can sense your inner exhaustion and helplessness right now, as if you were trapped by an invisible force that you can't break free from.

But I want you to know that every problem has a way out. You just need to find the right one for you.

First of all, I want to let you know that your feelings are real and important. You don't need to feel ashamed or blame yourself for them.

If you're feeling tired, low on energy, or in a bad mood, it's a sign that you need to rest and adjust. Stress from exams, work issues, and social challenges are all things many people face in life.

From what you've said, it seems like you have a pretty negative view of yourself and tend to blame yourself for things. The truth is, we don't always have complete control over our lives, but we can choose how to respond to them.

Try to be more tolerant and understanding with yourself, and don't be too hard on yourself. Your value doesn't depend on your achievements or the opinions of others, but on your existence as an independent individual.

I also see that you're a bit nervous about socializing. It does take courage and skill to form deep connections with others, but superficial socializing is also valuable.

You might want to start with small social activities, like joining interest groups or volunteering, and then gradually expand your social circle. When you're interacting with others, you don't have to be overly concerned about your performance. Just be sincere.

I'd also like to share a quick story about self-acceptance. There was once a girl who was always unhappy with her appearance and abilities. She always tried to change herself to meet other people's expectations.

One day, she realized that her unhappiness came from her own lack of acceptance. So she started trying to accept her imperfections and learn to love herself.

Over time, she noticed her heart becoming more peaceful and confident, and she became better at connecting with others.

In psychology, self-acceptance is a key concept. It's about being able to look at your own strengths and weaknesses objectively, accept your imperfections, and maintain a positive attitude.

When we accept ourselves, we feel more at peace and confident, and we're better able to handle the challenges in life.

I'd like to share a few suggestions with you that you can use as a reference. I hope they'll inspire you and help you find a method that suits you.

Set yourself some small goals.

Set yourself some short-term goals. You could read a few pages a day, go for a half-hour walk, or learn a new skill. When you achieve these goals, you'll feel a sense of accomplishment, which will boost your confidence and energy.

2. Find ways to relax.

Try to find an activity that makes you feel relaxed and comfortable. It could be listening to light music, painting, keeping a diary, or taking a hot bath. These activities can help you release stress and soothe tired emotions.

3. Get out there and socialize!

It can be tough to socialize when you're feeling down, but remember that building a solid friendship takes time and effort. Try getting involved in social activities like volunteering for a community organization or joining an interest group. These are great ways to connect with others through shared interests and activities.

4. Talk to your brother:

You said your "older brother" is a great source of support for you. You might want to talk to him about your current concerns and feelings. Sometimes, just listening and offering support is more helpful than giving advice.

You might also ask him for some tips and techniques on how to get along with other people.

5. Learn to take care of yourself.

Don't forget to take care of yourself and give yourself a little encouragement. Tell yourself positive things every day, like "I'm doing great" or "I'm working hard."

At the same time, don't forget to look after your physical health, eat a balanced diet and exercise moderately.

If you need help, don't hesitate to reach out to a professional.

If you feel like you can't handle these issues on your own, it's a good idea to seek help from a professional counselor or psychologist. They can provide more tailored advice and support to help you better manage and resolve your challenges.

7. Branch out and try new things:

Sometimes, we feel tired and bored because our lives lack novelty and excitement. Trying something new, like learning a new language, trying a new cooking method, or taking an interesting course, can bring you unexpected surprises and gains.

Finally, I just want to say that you're not alone. We all face difficulties and challenges, but if we're willing to face them and overcome them, we can become stronger and more mature.

Have faith in yourself and the future, and you'll be able to overcome your difficulties and embrace a better life. Go for it!

Hello, dear question asker!

When I saw you say that you lived through those days in high school, I just wanted to give you a big hug!

I totally get it. I had already fallen in love with the feeling of pain at that time. I felt so good tearing my hair out and slapping myself. The psychological burden of going to school was just too heavy. I feel so sad for you at that time.

I'm so glad you were able to protect yourself back then!

I know you said it, and I just wanted to say that I see you saying it, and I'm here for you.

Your parents regret not letting you continue your studies, and you yourself say that you regret it even more.

I really feel for you, though. If you'd stuck it out, I honestly don't think your health would have been able to handle it, especially compared to your physical health. It's like everything was just a big, grey cloud hanging over you.

I know you've had a tough time over the years, but I truly believe that everything happens for a reason.

I'm sending you lots of hugs for all those difficult years before you got divorced and were working!

Life goes on, my dear friend. It's almost time to stop working, which I know isn't satisfactory for you. This is true for so many of us, no matter who it falls on. It will be hard for us to feel, think, and be energetic.

It's totally normal to feel this way right now. There are

There are so many people out there! And they're all university students.

We totally get it. Finding a job is also quite difficult.

So, how can we make our situation a little better? I'd love to share my views based on what I know.

First, give yourself a break. You're trying to feel better, and that's okay!

Don't forget to talk to your soulmate! It's a great way to solve problems on your own.

It's totally okay not to ask for help from others. It's really good to allow such a self.

Speak when you remember to speak. Your approach is the same as the method devised by the famous psychologist, which is really great! What a good idea! Reward yourself for this when you get the chance.

Second, try to live in the present. Everything you experience in the present has its own reason for existing and happening.

You can live in the present, and that's a wonderful thing!

Oh, didn't Inamori Kazuo say something like that? While you're alive, say thank you!

Every moment, try to give your soul a little something extra. It also says:

You can keep taking exams in your hometown if you want to!

This is really great! It's all about living in the moment.

And don't forget to include your present-day self!

Next, let's take a look at the national environment. As you can see, not only is China experiencing a slight downturn, but the entire world economy is too.

And then there's the emergence and renewal of artificial intelligence.

I'm really sorry to say that it's going to be very difficult to find a job in this environment.

Let's put it in the context of our country. Take a look, my friend.

And you'll be able to see what's going on in the world right now. That way, you won't be too hard on yourself.

And finally, believe in the power of belief. It's so important to believe that the darkness before dawn will eventually pass.

Dawn will come no matter what, and no one can stop it. I know it might feel like it's taking a while, but I promise you it will get better!

And every step you take will be higher and higher!

Believe in yourself, my dear friend. Now, make a fist.

Raise your hand high and cheer for yourself! You can do it! The world is behind you, and I love you!

You can do it!

Hello, question asker. I can see you're feeling confused right now, and I'm here to support you.

It's totally understandable to be a little cautious when socializing, especially when you're trying to guess what other people are thinking.

It's totally understandable to have had some bad experiences in the past when it comes to socializing.

So ever since then, you've been a little afraid of forming deep connections with people.

Because they were afraid of themselves, they might have been hurt unnecessarily.

If this is the case, I really think you should seek professional psychological counseling.

A counselor is a professional who can give you some great advice.

It's totally understandable that you care more about what others think of you. It's related to your family of origin, which is totally normal!

It's totally possible that whenever you had a problem when you were growing up, your parents would give you some negative feedback.

If you grew up in such an environment, it's totally possible that you've taken on your parents' opinions of you as your own voice.

But the truth is, you're now an adult! You're so different from the child you once were.

For example, you're taller than you were as a child, and you're stronger than you were when you were younger. You're also more powerful on the inside!

So now you know that evaluations are always self-imposed; they are not given to you by others.

I would really love it if you could find the time to read Embracing the Inner Child.

I really hope the problem you're having gets solved soon.

All I can think of now is the above, dear friend.

I really hope my answer helps and inspires you, the questioner. I'm the answerer, and I study hard every day.

I just wanted to say that I love you, the world and I, and I wish you all the best!

Take care!

Good morning, I hope this message finds you well. I am writing to inquire about a matter that has been on my mind. I would be grateful for any insight you could provide. Best regards,

My name is Timyi.

From your questions, I can see that you are feeling tired, anxious, and hopeless. I want to offer you my sincerest support and comfort.

While the changes only began last year, there was likely a gradual process of formation behind them. Perhaps it would be helpful to take a look at your feelings and behaviors during this process and explore some coping strategies together.

If I may, let's first sort out the relevant items.

If I may, I would like to inquire about your outward emotions and behaviors.

1. Current emotions:

A: I often feel tired inside, lack energy, and have bad moods. I sometimes find it challenging to control my temper and am not always as open to listening to others as I would like to be. I tend to turn to my brother for support in these moments.

B. He feels regretful and has been blaming himself for not trying hard enough. He has been feeling anxious and fearful before the exam, and even more so after the exam because he did not perform as well as he had hoped.

2. Past emotions and behaviors:

C. I regret not continuing my studies more than anyone else. I feel immense pain and frustration. I feel that the psychological burden of going to school is too heavy. I hate myself and want to tear myself apart bit by bit.

Despite the passage of time, you find yourself still in the same difficult situation, unable to escape and feeling a great deal of hatred. As you gain a deeper understanding of yourself, you may also experience a growing sense of desperation.

Let's take a closer look at the underlying issues.

1. Studies: There were some challenges at school that led to a decision to leave high school and pursue other avenues.

2. Work: My father was kind enough to help me find a job once, but I ultimately decided to move on after a few years. I've been trying to find a good job on my own, but it's been challenging.

3. Social: After dropping out of high school, he stopped contacting his old friends and never made any new ones. He seems to feel burdened by having to connect with other people, and is always on his guard, afraid of saying the wrong thing. He is constantly second-guessing other people's thoughts, and is extremely uncomfortable in crowds. He makes a lot of mistakes.

4. State: It would be fair to say that you have a tendency to feel overwhelmed and exhausted. However, you do find moments of peace when you are fully absorbed in an enjoyable activity.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider your approach and behavior in this situation.

1. Attitude: a tendency to be non-accepting. Manifestations: a tendency to lose one's temper and to withdraw from others.

2. Behavior: violence against oneself (or punishment). Manifestations: pulling one's hair, slapping oneself, hating oneself, even wishing one could tear oneself apart bit by bit.

Perhaps we could consider exploring some potential coping strategies or feasible solutions?

1. When there are many problems at the same time, it may be helpful to consider prioritizing the most pressing problem to be solved at the moment. This could include emotional problems, as they can have a significant impact on our well-being. Prolonged negative emotions can take a toll on both our physical and mental health, leaving us with limited energy for activities such as learning, finding a job, and socializing.

2. It would be helpful to consider what attitude and behavior you adopt and what they will bring you. I believe that not accepting yourself can cause internal conflict and serious damage. Similarly, violent behavior can hurt both your body and mind and make things worse.

3. It is important to recognize that punishment is not a solution for the challenges we face. Punishment does not offer constructive guidance and may not provide the hope we seek. Instead, it is essential to listen to ourselves, accept ourselves, and love ourselves.

4. Emotions can be managed. I'd like to share with you some methods of emotion management taught in the training of listening coaches: improving the granularity of emotions, feeling, naming and expressing emotions (the higher the granularity of emotions, the more stable the emotions), understanding the background of emotions: cognitive-emotion ABC theory (different perceptions of events lead to different emotions), emotional self-discipline, we are in control of our emotions (ways to adjust negative emotions), as well as exercises to improve the granularity of emotions, reframing exercises, stress prevention training deep breathing method, intentional dialogue exercises to make the horse stop...

If you are unable to adjust your emotions, you may wish to consider seeking professional help from a counselor.

5. With regard to one's occupation, it may be advisable to select a position that is commensurate with one's own resources. If one were to pursue a role that exceeds one's capabilities, it could potentially lead to a sense of exhaustion. In today's society, there are numerous avenues for leading a fulfilling life, including roles such as supermarket cashier, cleaner, or delivery person, which can provide a sense of normalcy.

Could I just check whether that's the case?

6. Life is full of challenges and difficulties, and this is a lifelong topic of growth for us. Pain has a special meaning for us, and there is value in it. It would be beneficial for us to find a way to reconcile with pain.

Perhaps it would be helpful to take some time to quietly consider what we want to do and what we want to stop doing.

Could I ask what needs to be restarted?

For life, whatever we experience is a process, not an ending. Perhaps it would be beneficial to consider whether regarding the process as the ending would be advantageous.

I believe that the part of you that wants to succeed is waiting for you to give it the nutrients it needs to grow. It is my hope that through learning and practice, you can find a way out of your predicament and start anew.

I would like to extend my love and appreciation to the world and to you.

From your description, I can sense that you are experiencing a great deal of exhaustion, struggle, and loneliness. Since sometime last year, it seems that you have been going through a period of transition. It appears that a sense of powerlessness and lack of vitality has become a part of your life.

I can only imagine that this feeling is like being bound by an invisible shackle, making it difficult for you to pursue your life.

1. Gain insight from the perspective of life stress.

It seems that you are facing a particularly intense level of pressure in your life, which is something many of us can relate to. Whether it's the pressure of exams or the pressure of finding a job, it can all make you feel anxious and fearful.

In light of the imminent suspension of the exam, it is understandable that you may feel particularly nervous and apprehensive about the prospect of losing this last chance. The uncertainty about the future and the fear of failure can undoubtedly intensify the pressure you are facing.

At the same time, I empathize with your situation at work. You previously had a job that your father helped you secure, but after leaving, you encountered challenges in finding a suitable position on your own.

The sense of falling from having to having nothing, and the confusion about your future career development, all contribute to a challenging emotional experience.

2. Feelings from a social perspective

In terms of social interaction, you mentioned that you have very few opportunities to engage with others, that you find it challenging to form deep connections, and that you sometimes feel overwhelmed in more superficial social situations. This sense of loneliness allows me to imagine the internal struggles you may be facing.

You seem to desire connection with others, yet you appear to be hesitant about forming close relationships. This internal conflict may be hindering your ability to integrate into groups. Additionally, you mentioned that you exercise caution when communicating with others, perhaps due to concerns about saying the wrong thing. This heightened sensitivity and caution might be contributing to your feelings of exhaustion in social situations.

Thirdly, it might be helpful to consider your inner self-awareness from a different perspective.

In terms of self-awareness, you seem to experience a great deal of regret and self-blame about your past. You mentioned your experiences after dropping out of high school and your regret about your choices and decisions.

This sense of self-blame may be preventing you from letting go and making it more challenging for you to face your inner self. You also mentioned your fondness for pain. This self-harming behavior may be a way to vent your inner pain, but it may also be making it more difficult for you to move forward.

Fourth, it might be helpful to consider your emotional needs from a different perspective.

In terms of emotional needs, it seems that you are longing for the understanding and support of others, yet you appear to be hesitant about showing your vulnerability to them. This conflicting mentality can make you feel uncertain and confused when seeking help and support.

You desire a person who can truly comprehend your inner self, yet you are concerned that your genuine emotions might be misinterpreted or overlooked. This feeling of solitude and vulnerability intensifies your longing to find a reliable individual with whom you can share your thoughts and feelings.

5. Advice from a positive perspective

I want to reassure you that you are not alone in facing these difficulties. Many people have experienced similar challenges and have found ways to overcome them.

First, it might be helpful to learn to face your feelings and emotions, rather than trying to suppress or deny them. Second, you might like to consider seeking help from a professional counselor, who can provide the support and guidance you need.

At the same time, you might also consider making some adjustments to your lifestyle and mentality. Setting practical goals and plans, and keeping yourself occupied and moving forward every day could also be beneficial. Finally, I would like to remind you not to over-blame and deny yourself. Everyone has their own bright spots and value. As long as you are willing to discover and explore, you will definitely be able to find your own way out of the current predicament.

During this process, I hope you can remain patient and confident, believing in your ability to face and overcome these difficulties. At the same time, I also hope that you can courageously confront your inner self, acknowledge your feelings and emotions, and not be afraid to confront your weaknesses and shortcomings.

I believe that this is the only way you can truly grow and progress towards a better future.