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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
First and foremost, it is imperative to recognize that regardless of our appearance, body shape, or skin condition, we deserve to be liked by others and to meet people who like us and who we like.
Second, we must adjust from the inside out to address these physical appearance matters.
Seek out a professional doctor or find a way of conditioning that suits you. It is a very good state of mind to do so.
Improving one's body shape through sports and fitness is the right way for us as individuals to pursue beauty.
There is no right or wrong way to do this. Find what is safe, healthy, and suitable for you.
If you have a medical condition or skin problem, find the right doctor to help you. If you want to improve your body shape, get a fitness coach to help you.
We must also adjust our inner selves.
There is no standard answer because there is no definition of beauty.
There is no standard answer, which means there is no such thing as the most beautiful state. But if we excessively want to make ourselves beautiful, it may cause us to harm our bodies. Therefore, we must adjust our aesthetic sense to align with our current situation.
Everyone loves beauty.
There is nothing wrong with us becoming more beautiful. In the process, we must be appropriate and find the state that suits us best.
In our daily lives, we must accept our different states. Illness may cause our skin to be less beautiful, and our complexion may be less than Snow White-like. We must accept our different physical characteristics and redefine our view of beauty. Some people find pale skin attractive, while others find a wheat-colored complexion attractive. We must accept different states.
Finally, I'd like to address some social concepts about the outside world.
Let me be clear: we don't dislike our current situation. What we worry about is that our future friends or lovers will dislike us. And so we start to dislike ourselves.
We must accept that our future relatives, friends, and lovers will never dislike themselves. This means we have no reason to dislike ourselves now.
We need to decide what kind of friends and lovers we want. Do we want someone who likes us for our beauty, or do we want to find someone who likes us for who we are?
The fact is, people perceive scars and imperfect skin differently.
For example, I once had a classmate who was also a very good friend. When I learned that she had a big scar on her belly from an operation, I immediately felt sorry for her. I realized that she had had such a serious illness in the past and had even had an operation. For a young girl, having such a scar would definitely have an impact on her inner feelings, and I could understand why she would care so much about how she dressed.
When faced with someone important or someone we like, and we learn that they have had an illness or been hurt, or that they were born with this skin condition, our reaction is not to think that they don't look good or that we don't like them. We feel sympathy for them and want to be kind to them.
Ordinary people see all kinds of people when they go shopping. They see people missing a finger and people with mottled skin. My first reaction is surprise. Then I'm curious about their experience. I don't feel disgusted or reluctant to contact them.
In future social interactions, whether ordinary or intimate, we are looking for people who like and are attracted to each other. It is a process of selection and elimination, and this process does not require self-denial, nor does it require the same of the other person.
We don't need to find someone who is good to us. We need to find someone who is already very good.
You need to be more confident, or you need a more refined aesthetic sense. Even if you encounter someone who dislikes you or is unfriendly, you must understand that this is just their narrow aesthetic sense. No one is perfect, but everyone is the best version of themselves.
Don't change yourself to suit other people's prejudices. Follow your own feelings and live your best life.
You will become a better version of yourself with the ideal look through continuous exploration and experimentation. You will always be yourself and attract people who like you anyway.
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I can totally understand how you feel. It's really hard to be confident when you're so selfconscious about your body. But the truth is, scars and stretch marks are just part of who we are, they tell a story of our struggles and growth. A true partner will love you for all of you, not despite your imperfections.
It's tough when you're worried about what others might think, especially someone you care about. But remember, the right person won't judge you by your appearance. They'll see past the surface and appreciate you for who you are inside. It's important to find someone who values you as a whole person.
Everyone has insecurities, but it's how we handle them that defines us. Try to focus on the things you like about yourself and build from there. Confidence comes from within, and the more you practice loving yourself, the easier it gets over time.
You deserve to be loved and appreciated just as you are, scars and all. The key is to shift your perspective and realize that these marks are not flaws but signs of strength. When you start to see them that way, others will too. It's all about changing the narrative in your mind.
Don't let your fears hold you back from living fully. You're beautiful in your own unique way, and there's someone out there who will see that. Take small steps towards accepting yourself, and with time, you'll gain the confidence to show more of who you are without feeling ashamed.