Introvert, self-harm, friendship between three people, patriarchal family, declining grades

Hello! I just wanted to send you a quick 360-degree hug.

I don't know all the details of your situation, and I can't really tell much from your brief description, but I can imagine that you're having a hard time, and you're probably not too old.

My first suggestion is to go and talk to a counselor. If you're a student, your school probably has a psychological counseling service. Even if your school doesn't have a counselor, it'll probably buy psychological counseling services from the community.

You can look for resources in this area.

If you don't want to look for help at school, you can seek help from social counseling services. Some places have a public welfare psychological hotline organized by the health commission. You can search online for related information using the keywords "public welfare psychological counseling," and be sure to filter through official channels.

Right now, you need a professional to give you the support you need. I don't think there's anyone around you who can provide the high-quality companionship and comfort you're looking for. So, don't hesitate to seek help from a professional.

If you're short on cash, you can always turn to public welfare or official public welfare consultation. The people who answer the phone are all qualified and relatively professional. It's probably best to avoid social organizations, as it's often more difficult to distinguish between the genuine and the fake.

Second, if there's no way to solve the problem right now, just put it aside for now and focus on what you can do, like improving your grades.

You said it was a patriarchal family, and I'm guessing it was probably a high school girl. You might want to put other things on hold for now, like friendships, the original family, and anything else you can't handle right now or don't have the ability or wisdom to handle.

Focus your time and energy on what you can handle now.

You have the power to control your learning. You get to decide whether or not to learn, how to learn, and how long to learn for.

There are a lot of things in life that aren't really that important, especially people and things that you only have for a short time. When you look back years later, you'll probably realize that you made a big deal out of a small matter.

But right now, you feel like this is all really important, and if you can't solve it, it's like the sky is falling.

If you can't change other people, focus on yourself and improve your grades.

Third, I suggest you get some exercise in, even if you're feeling stressed from studying. Try to fit in some exercise every day, like going to the playground and running 800 metres or so.

Exercise is a great way to regulate your emotions.

Fourth, try writing down all your disappointments. Don't worry about the writing style, just get it down. You can even write about how you want to take revenge and slap them in the face. You're the only reader anyway, so just write whatever you want.

Write it down.

You might want to give these methods a try.

I'm a counselor who is often depressed but often optimistic. I love the world and I love you.