Is everything I do because of my money? Can people really be so cold?

Hello, host!

Give him a warm hug!

Money can't buy the bond between us or the ability to answer your questions.

You spent millions on the person you love. Do you love the person you love? Did you give it willingly?

Did you trade money for love at the time?

I am certain you would never trade love for money. You love him and support the career he wants. So you spent millions of dollars in the hope of getting your lover's love.

A good relationship requires boundaries. You don't have to do whatever he wants just because you love him.

Love him. He needs more respect. For example, now it is possible that he just wants to be left alone and give each other some distance. This is a good choice.

Don't be anxious. Don't keep checking to see if he loves you. You need to feel secure in yourself. He'll come back to you when he's ready.

If he doesn't come back to you, it means he doesn't love you. There's no point in trying to convince someone who doesn't love you.

Talking about money is not a small matter. Regardless of whether there is an emotional connection, the money needs to be made clear because you are not yet married. Do you agree?

Money is a sensitive topic, and discussing it can lead to hurt feelings. However, when money is involved, it can also make the relationship less pure.

I will grow from this relationship.

The world and I love you!

It is unfortunate that you have experienced such a disappointing outcome, despite your considerable investment. It is possible that the financial aspect is not the primary concern; rather, it is the emotional investment and expectations that matter most.

When all hope and effort have been exhausted, it is challenging to maintain the belief that there is still someone worthy of investment.

I trust you understand that the indifference and ruthlessness of one person does not mean that everyone is the same. It is only when you emotionally regard everyone as so cold that you can accept the current ruthless reality to some extent and reduce the attacks on yourself.

I previously encountered an individual who exhibited similar behavior in relationships. He consistently demonstrated a tendency to invest heavily in others, even going into debt to please and satisfy them. Despite these efforts, he was ultimately unable to establish and maintain a long-term, stable intimate relationship.

Through counseling, he came to understand that his actions were driven by a lack of self-confidence, and that he was seeking to satisfy the other person through material means alone. This approach has the disadvantage of focusing solely on the material aspects of the relationship, while neglecting the emotional dimension.

An intimate relationship is defined as an emotional connection. While material conditions serve as a foundation, they are not the essence. When significant investment is made in a relationship with an unloving partner, there may be underlying insecurities. The belief that financial investment can drive romantic feelings is a common misconception.

From this perspective, it is important to consider whether the other person is truly in love with you or simply interested in your material conditions.

It is not necessary to deny your capabilities. You simply need to modify your approach to relationships.

Have confidence in your ability to form a fulfilling relationship.

Hello, I'm Huang Xiaolu.

From what you've said, I can tell you're feeling lonely and afraid. You've given him everything, but he's only given you a cold shoulder. He's not even willing to lie to you.

This cold language made you feel like you'd fallen into an abyss, unable to get out. It was dark around you, and you didn't know what you could do. You hate this man, but you feel more heartache, self-blame, and denial of yourself.

Six months have passed, and you're still not fully recovered from this incident. But I can also tell you're trying very hard. You've probably tried many ways to get yourself out of this gloom and trough and are once again willing to embrace the beauty of love. I believe that this day will definitely come, and that the breeze, the moon, and the beauty will definitely be waiting for you somewhere in the future.

First, love yourself. It's not your fault that he left because he didn't understand you or value you. It's never your fault if the person you love doesn't love you back. You just haven't met the right person who truly understands you.

So don't dwell on it, do the things you enjoy, get things done at work, focus on your personal growth, pursue your hobbies, and pay attention to the things in life that make you feel good, happy, and fulfilled.

Second, protect yourself. Especially with the help of the law. We're not looking for revenge or to get even, but we want to learn how to protect our lives and property. Love isn't everything. There are other things in life.

I'm happy to spend money on you when I love you, but if you've been deliberately deceived, the love you've given can't be recovered. It'll be a lesson learned for life. The time you've invested can't be recovered, but it'll be a valuable experience in your memory. However, you can recover your self-esteem and money through legal means.

A million is a lot of money. You can consult a lawyer to get it back. The other person pretended to love you for money, so he has to pay for his actions, not you!

Finally, don't forget there are still people around you who love you and can give you the love and care you need. Find someone to talk to and keep you company. If things don't improve, you can always seek help from a professional. A psychologist should be able to help you.

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Hello, dear questioner. It's like meeting someone in person when you read their words. I can feel your inner pain and helplessness, and I'm here to help. I'll describe my point of view, and I hope that my next answer will be enlightening and helpful to you.

I just wanted to check in and see how you were doing. I remember you mentioned spending millions on a guy, but in the end you got her cold words. I'm only with you for your money. I'm here for you if you want to talk through it. You can also refer to my speculation to see if it matches your current situation.

It's so interesting how our interactions with our parents as children can affect our relationships with others, especially those we're close to.

If we didn't have a good, close relationship with our parents when we were kids, we might end up wanting more when we grow up. But this kind of wanting can hurt us even more, and it can be a really tough lesson to learn. But in the end, it's still the same result as when we were little, with no change.

I'm wondering if your relationship with your parents was a bit cold when you were a child? I'm not sure if you've mentioned your relationship with your parents, so I'm just guessing here. Please forgive me if I'm wrong.

It's because of a lack of love in childhood. If someone gives you a little warmth, you'll cling to them like a life preserver. You'll spend a lot of money on them, but the result is clear. Even if you've noticed something's not quite right with the other person, you'll still convince yourself otherwise.

If you'd like to make some changes, you might find it helpful to chat with a professional counselor. They can help you understand your current situation better and why you're drawn to certain people.

Wishing you all the best!

Oh, the world and I love you!

I'm 24 years old. I spent millions of dollars on him. Then he said he had never liked me and would never like me. Everything he did and said before was because of my money. For half a year, I've been constantly depressed, full of fear of men, and very insecure. I often feel that the world is very cold. I'm really struggling at the moment. I'd be really grateful for any advice.