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Is it necessary to continue working under the current situation of overtime, assessments, and intrigue in the workplace?

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Is it necessary to continue working under the current situation of overtime, assessments, and intrigue in the workplace? By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024

I previously worked remotely, but now I've moved back home due to the exam. However, the current company does not provide weekends off, and I have to work overtime an average of three nights a week. At work, user complaints require financial compensation, returning to the unit involves evaluations, and I also have to deal with colleagues' cunning and intrigue. Uncompleted electricity collection must be paid for out of my own pocket to bring the electricity bill to zero. As for the salary, including the year-end bonus, it averages 6,500 yuan per month. I'm sure I'm already depressed, and I'm not sure if it's necessary to continue this job. Should I quit, it's difficult to do anything well in the current environment.

Lilian Lilian A total of 5572 people have been helped

Good question!

Everyone who struggles at work will face challenges.

I have some opinions to share.

The questioner has introduced reasons for workplace frustration, such as no weekends off, working three nights a week, having to pay for customer complaints, being assessed when I return to the office, having to deal with colleagues, and paying for electricity. The salary plus the year-end bonus averages 6,500 yuan a month.

This is unavoidable in the workplace. Learn from disappointments and grow from them. Don't focus on negative situations.

The current situation at your workplace is just a value judgment and idea when you are depressed. The real situation is often not exactly as you imagine it.

It's important to think about why you're frustrated and how to avoid feeling depressed again, whether you stay at your job or quit and find a new one.

Do you have a career plan?

This experience will impact your ability to think clearly.

The questioner is unsure if they should keep their job and feels like nothing can be done to advance their career. This is a psychological concept called self-efficacy.

Self-efficacy is a person's belief in their ability to complete a task.

People with a high sense of self-efficacy choose challenging goals and are optimistic.

People with low self-efficacy are afraid of challenges, have difficulty making choices, and avoid or give up. They are prone to disappointment and pessimism.

If you work hard or find a new, more challenging job, you may feel more confident. But if you avoid trying new things because you think there's nothing good to do, you'll have more problems.

Keep a positive attitude when facing setbacks at work.

A positive attitude helps you face challenges, clarify your direction, and work hard to improve.

As you sought support on the platform, it can help you see things differently, change your mindset, and give you helpful advice.

Seek support from family, friends, colleagues, and others. Get advice, support, and encouragement for continuing in or leaving your job.

In the current environment, it is recommended that you focus on survival first and then try to develop.

Internal career is the combination and change of a person's knowledge, ideas, experience, abilities, and other factors when doing a certain job.

For example, your current work requires you to improve and exercise your knowledge, experience, abilities, and psychological qualities. Don't focus on negative factors like long hours, office politics, or low pay.

You can stop worrying if it's necessary to continue and if there's anything good to do. First, break down your job objectives into small goals. Then, focus on making progress and growing little by little.

And praise yourself for every little success. This builds self-belief and makes you more confident.

I hope this helps!

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Claire Elizabeth Burgess Claire Elizabeth Burgess A total of 553 people have been helped

Life is an adventure! You've worked hard to get to where you are today, and it's clear that passing the exam and landing this job opportunity was no easy feat. The sky's the limit in terms of how long you can stay in a company — it all depends on your ability, the degree to which your needs match those of the company, as well as your substitutability.

Many people do things they don't like, but there's always a way to make things better! It just depends on what kind of situation you're in.

If you're looking to make a living, there's no reason why your current position should define your future! You can absolutely find a better position that aligns with your skills and advantages. But what happens if you don't? You end up doing a job you don't like. This situation presents two types of people. One type of person is actively seeking new opportunities and using their current position to grow their skills. They're ready to take on new challenges and pursue new opportunities. The other type of person hates this job. They're not putting in the effort or getting by, which is totally understandable.

You must have something you love and are good at while working hard at your current position. As long as your finances allow, you should definitely encourage yourself to go out and try something new! Even if the salary is not as high as it is now, the high returns in the future are worth trying.

These pains are just the price you pay for solving problems in a different place. Generally speaking, if it is a goal that you are interested in and that is meaningful to your life, it will generally make you actively respond on the road to pursuing the goal. You can find ways to solve problems when you encounter difficulties, and the pain is relatively easy to solve. It is just a matter of technique, and you can try different paths. If the goal is something you are not interested in and the goal itself causes you a lot of pain, then you need to think about what your original intention was when you set the goal. But don't worry! You can easily change your goal to something you are interested in and excited about.

Have you ever thought about whether you're still bound by your old habits when it comes to your goals? It's never too late to rethink your goals and find new paths to follow!

Yes, it may sound challenging, but it's totally worth it! The first step to change is embracing the suffering. As long as you think about it and work hard, you will definitely get better, and you'll be amazed at how quickly you'll improve!

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Hazel Shaw Hazel Shaw A total of 8409 people have been helped

The OP is depressed, helpless, and powerless in his current job. He's right: the current environment is worse than before. He has to take on more work for the same salary and face backstabbing and scheming between employees. This is a common problem in the workplace. Some units are more serious than others.

You can find another job if you quit this one. There are still some job opportunities. However, the reasons for leaving this job will follow you to the next one, such as long working hours, high pressure, and the annoying interpersonal politics. This time you can leave the workplace, but if you encounter the same situation next time, you will have to continue changing jobs. You need to find a more suitable and better job. You should force yourself to face the reality and adjust your physical and mental state.

Ultimately, the decision is up to the original poster, but I strongly believe that listing all the problems and eliminating them one by one is the best course of action. This will help identify the biggest problem and allow him to find a new way to solve it.

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Ruby Powell Ruby Powell A total of 4905 people have been helped

Hello, I'd like to offer you a 360-degree hug if I may.

From what I can gather from your description, it seems that you are currently facing some challenges in your work situation. This role is taking a toll on your energy, and you are considering moving on to something new, but it can be difficult to find suitable alternatives.

In other words, although the income from this job is not high, it is at least a job with a stable income. Resigning to change jobs is not that easy these days, and the overall environment is not ideal.

Many people find themselves in a situation where they feel that work is like chicken ribs. They may feel that they have no choice but to keep working, even though it causes them internal conflict and makes them feel as though they are working their life away.

Indeed, it is a challenging situation. Life goes on, and we still need to work to earn money. At this time, it would be helpful to consider what we should do.

If I may, I would like to share my views.

First, many people see work as a way to earn money, which is often a driving force behind their decision to work.

In today's world, many people find humor in the notion of "colleagues." In many cases, colleagues are individuals who have come together due to financial constraints.

There seems to be a sense of helplessness about having to work, which is reflected in jokes about employees pretending to work and bosses pretending to pay.

Some people approach work with the mindset that it's primarily about the money. They invest eight hours of their day at work, hoping to earn enough to spend the remaining 16 hours pursuing their interests.

It's important to remember that your work is just a means to an end, a way to make money, or a compensation for being less than ideal at work. While it's natural to want to connect with your colleagues, it's probably best to keep things professional.

Of course, it would be ideal if you could become friends, but if that's not possible, that's okay too. Perhaps the idea of becoming friends wasn't something you were expecting in the first place.

In essence, work is about earning money. It's just that some forms of income are more readily accessible than others.

Secondly, it would be beneficial to enrich your spare time. The time outside of work is a valuable opportunity for personal growth and development. You may wish to consider nurturing your existing hobbies or exploring new ones, such as painting.

You might consider going for a workout, reading a book, or joining a group, such as a book club or hobby group.

You might also consider spending time with your loved ones, cooking together, chatting, and so on.

You might also consider taking a course, obtaining a certificate, or planning your second career. You could use the money you earn from your current job to pay for your studies and gain relevant experience. Perhaps after a while, you could find a job you like with your second career. At that time, you would not have any burden if you resigned and changed jobs.

There is a story of a girl who had a passion for interpreting but her academic background was not in this field. She was determined to make her mark and so she studied while working, made connections in the industry, participated in conferences and met influential figures. She was proactive in promoting herself and her skills. Over time, her abilities grew and she was able to leverage her experience to secure employment as an interpreter, which led to an increase in her salary.

It might be said that this is a case of riding a donkey to find a horse. When we are unable to get rid of the donkey, we might consider riding it and looking for opportunities.

It is also worth noting that if one is unable to find a horse, it may prove difficult to obtain the resources to do so.

It is unfortunately the case that in order to survive and make money, we need to work in jobs that are not so happy but can provide us with financial security.

In the case of complaints at work, users are not necessarily directing their grievances at specific individuals, but rather at the service provider. It is possible that the complex dynamics between colleagues, communication with supervisors, and other factors could be eased through the acquisition of knowledge about communication.

I believe that a change in attitude, when combined with improved communication skills, has the potential to make work less unhappy.

If you are unhappy at work, you might consider changing your attitude towards work. Perhaps it would be helpful to remember that work is not the be-all and end-all of life; it is simply for living.

Perhaps you could use the money you earn from your work to help you live the life you want.

I am often both Buddhist and pessimistic, an occasionally positive and motivated counselor, and I believe in the power of love and positivity in the world.

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Zephyrine Zephyrine A total of 7852 people have been helped

Hi, I'm Bai Li Yina, and I hope my response will be helpful.

The person asking the questions said that he doesn't like his current job and thinks there's no need to keep working, but is worried that he won't find something better. What should he do?

Let's take a look at the situation.

Your current job has a lot of things about it that make you unhappy. Things like overtime, appraisals, backstabbing, low pay, and too much unhappiness to make you depressed. You want to change jobs, but you feel that the general environment is not good, and it is not easy to find a good job. It is really too much to handle. I see a hard-working you struggling to make ends meet.

The main reason you're feeling out of sorts at your current job is that the work environment is different in different cities. Some cities are faster-paced, while others are slower. I don't know what the pace of life was like in the city where you previously lived, but it seems that you're not used to the intense pace of work back in your home city.

[Questions to think about]

1. You're in a bad mood every day, which has made you depressed. Why did you decide to come back home to work in a different city? Was it because of your family or friends?

Have you talked to them about the current difficulties at work?

3. Is work more important to you than your personal life? Do you feel happy outside of work?

Do you enjoy the life you want to live, or is work your main focus?

3. What do you get out of working so hard?

Here are some recommended methods to try:

1. Outside of work, do things you enjoy and that make you happy. When you're at work, these positive experiences will help you stay positive and avoid feeling unhappy.

2. Think about the part of your work situation that makes you feel the most unhappy. What could you do to improve it a little? Start with changes you can make.

3. Be open to change. Our despair often comes from not expecting anything, always thinking that this state will be permanent. It might just be because everything is difficult at the beginning and you're not used to it. Give yourself a little time to discover the possibility of change.

4. After a period of adjustment, if you're still struggling to adapt, it might be worth asking yourself whether work is more important or your emotions. It's a multiple-choice question, but the answer is simple: although the environment isn't ideal, there are still opportunities. When your pain reaches a certain level, you'll be willing to give up some of the things you were previously hesitant about and choose to make a change.

I hope these methods help you.

It'll take time, but you'll get there. There's no need to worry or be afraid. Many people are experiencing or have experienced similar problems.

You've got this! The world and I are with you, and we're rooting for you. I hope you find your own most comfortable state soon.

I'd like to thank everyone who has liked and responded to me. I wish you peace and joy.

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Valentina Carter Valentina Carter A total of 8239 people have been helped

Hello. From your description, it seems that the combined pressures of long working hours, insufficient rest, business assessments and the burden of possible losses and advances, as well as personnel challenges, have left you feeling burnt out and torn. You are worried that continuing will affect your health, but leaving also scares you as you fear that the environment will not be good and you will not be able to find a suitable opportunity.

I can appreciate that this situation is indeed very difficult.

You mentioned that you used to work in a different city and took the exam specifically to return to your hometown. I wonder if this has given you a little more sense of security and reliance than when you were away. If you have been working away from home for a long time, this new environment may be very unfamiliar to you and the adjustment process may be challenging.

It might be helpful to think back to whether you also experienced a challenging period when you left your hometown to work elsewhere. How did you cope with that time? It could be beneficial to draw on past experiences to find some strength.

It's worth noting that burnout is a fairly common phenomenon. According to recent surveys, 70% of people in the workplace in China experience burnout to varying degrees. It's possible that the current challenges you're facing are related to the gap between reality and expectations.

If the job you imagined before you returned is different, it's understandable that you might feel disappointed and frustrated. It seems that you've worked hard to change/improve the situation, but it's possible that you've ended up in an unsatisfactory situation. The external environment is not doing well, and it's understandable that you might feel powerless, which could increase the feeling of burnout at work.

You may wish to consider making some adjustments in order to deal with this situation.

It might be helpful to view your career development as a long-term process, with your current job as a transitional phase. You may also find it beneficial to consider what elements or resources in this job can contribute to your personal growth and future development. For instance, you could think about the industry reputation.

Could I perhaps inquire as to whether there might be any training opportunities or potential contacts?

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider the professional relevance of this, and so on.

It might be helpful to consider the sources of stress, such as long working hours, strict assessments, and complicated relationships with colleagues. Which is the main difficulty? Which could potentially be relieved to some extent through self-regulation?

For instance, if colleagues are engaged in unproductive interactions, consider maintaining a certain distance, preserving basic working relationships, and refraining from involvement in matters outside of specific work. Are there any colleagues you admire and could learn from, with whom you could collaborate? You may have reservations about certain policies, such as assessments and fines. However, if you view them as part of an "internship" or "trial period," while also seeking external opportunities, will your emotional state improve?

If the workload at work cannot be changed for the time being, you might consider focusing on self-care in your spare time. This could include developing a regular routine for eating, sleeping, and relaxing activities. You may wish to place your favorite plants and objects in the office and at home, put on headphones to listen to music, or close your eyes for a few minutes of rest and relaxation. You might also consider going outdoors for a stretch and a few breathing exercises during work breaks.

It is worth noting that even when our immediate wishes cannot be fulfilled, our actions to take care of ourselves can bring a sense of internal control and autonomy.

While the external environment may not be as prosperous as it was a few years ago, there are always opportunities to be found. You might consider paying attention and patiently building up some professional contacts, or trying to submit your resume and find out about the needs of the local job market.

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Harriet Harriet A total of 6941 people have been helped

To the original poster, your work situation does sound challenging, combining high work pressure, complicated interpersonal relationships, and uncertain career prospects. These factors may have a negative impact on your mental health. It is therefore understandable that you are experiencing depressive mood.

Your health and well-being are of the utmost importance, so it is essential to assess whether the job is placing an intolerable burden on your physical and mental health. If you feel that the job has seriously affected your quality of life, then quitting may be an option to consider.

However, resigning from one's position is not an easy decision, particularly in the current economic climate. Prior to making a decision, it is advisable to consider the following points:

Self-assessment: Consider your level of satisfaction with the position, your career objectives, and what you hope to gain from the role. Evaluate whether there are alternative methods to reduce the stress you are currently experiencing at work, such as communicating with your supervisor or colleagues, seeking assistance, or implementing more efficient work processes.

Seek professional advice. Consider consulting a psychologist or career counselor, who can help you assess your mental health and provide advice on career development.

It is advisable to explore other career opportunities before making the decision to leave your current position. Doing so will allow you to gain insight into the needs and trends in the market, which will in turn assist you in assessing your career prospects and preparing for a potential career change.

If you decide to leave your position, it is essential to have a well-defined plan in place. This plan should include clear instructions on how you will inform your employer, handle your finances, and secure your next position.

It is important to remember that leaving a job is not a failure, but rather a way to improve your situation and pursue better career prospects. Regardless of your decision, it is essential to maintain a positive outlook and believe in your ability to overcome current challenges.

It is also important to maintain good physical and mental health, and to seek support and assistance to better cope with future challenges.

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Elizabeth Perez Elizabeth Perez A total of 5578 people have been helped

It's totally normal to feel stressed and confused when faced with the work environment you've described. But before you decide whether to stay in your current job, you might want to consider the following:

1. Your health comes first! It's important to take care of yourself, both physically and mentally. If work has had a negative impact on your health, it's a great idea to consider making some changes to your work environment.

It's so important to get help if you're feeling depressed. Prolonged depression can cause long-term damage to your physical and mental health, so it's crucial to seek support.

2. **Assess the work environment**: Take a deep dive into all aspects of your work environment! Consider the work itself, relationships with colleagues, support from management, work-life balance, and more. A healthy work environment is one that supports the development of employees, so make sure yours is giving you the support you need to thrive!

3. **Consider career development:** Think about whether the job is in line with your long-term career plan. If the job isn't helping you grow or if you're ready for something new, it's time to start looking for exciting new opportunities!

4. **Financial situation**: Take a look at your current financial situation, including savings, debts, living expenses, etc. Make sure you have enough financial reserves to support you until you find your next job!

5. **Action plan**: If you decide to leave, then it's time to get excited about your next adventure! Start by developing a clear action plan. This could include updating your CV, looking for new job opportunities, considering whether you need vocational training, etc.

6. **Career counseling**: Seeking help from a career counselor is a great way to gain clarity and direction in your career. They can provide invaluable advice and guidance to help you understand your career interests and development path.

7. Mental health support: If you are feeling depressed, it is important to seek help from a mental health professional. They can provide treatment and support to help you cope with your current emotions and stress. And you know what? You can do this!

And remember, you're not alone! Lots of people face similar challenges in their careers, and you've got this!

It's time to find a solution that's right for you! You have two great options: stay in your current job and look for ways to make it even better, or look for new job opportunities. Your health and well-being are the most important things in the world, so make sure you're taking care of yourself!

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Georgia Georgia A total of 1866 people have been helped

I suggest that you don't resign lightly, but carefully assess the possible impact of resignation. You mentioned the stress at work, including working weekends, overtime, being sued for compensation, colleagues scheming against each other, and having to pay for electricity if you cannot recover the cost. These are all great reasons to stay!

What you mentioned also makes me want to quit my job every minute, and I'm so excited to find a new environment that's a better fit for me!

However, we also know that quitting our job may cause us financial difficulties. But, the decision to quit may take us from the wolf's den to the tiger's den, where we will face new pressures and difficulties—and we can do it!

Who knows—it might even get worse!

On a practical level, we may be stuck in a dilemma. But there is a way out! We just have to stop seeing the current situation as being caused by the objective reality of the situation.

We can absolutely take control of our current situation! We can see the difficulties we are currently experiencing as a phenomenon in which our mental space is filled with stress and negative emotions. Then we can do something about it!

The good news is that emotions can be digested and contained well when they are listened to. When emotions are dealt with properly, we may have extra mental space to deal with the current difficult situation.

The good news is that we may be able to gradually resolve practical difficulties.

I highly recommend that you talk to your friends about your situation!

It's time to let it all out! If your finances allow, I highly recommend that you seek professional psychological counseling.

You can do this! Take it one step at a time. Start by gaining some psychological space through counseling. Then, you'll be able to solve the current dilemma. You've got this!

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Tate Tate A total of 4390 people have been helped

Dealing with stress, politics, and overtime can make deciding whether to stay in your current job hard. Think about your career goals, mental health, money, and satisfaction. Here are some things to think about:

1. Mental health: If work is making you depressed, your job is affecting your mental health. Your health is important.

2. Job satisfaction and career goals: Think about whether your job makes you happy and helps you grow. If you're unhappy and your job doesn't help you advance, it may be time to look for new opportunities.

3. Money: Think about your savings and spending and if you can afford to go without pay. If you have enough money, you have more choices.

4. Market conditions: Find out what's going on in the job market and if there are other jobs out there. Research different industries and positions to see what your skills and experience are worth.

5. Think about other options like further education, training, starting a business, or freelancing.

6. Support system: Talk to family, friends, or professionals. They can help.

Don't ignore your feelings. If work is too stressful, look for a new job.

Seek professional mental health services if you can. They can help you cope with depression. Stay positive and make a plan for your future.

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Lilyana Hughes Lilyana Hughes A total of 2544 people have been helped

I understand. A stressful work environment can affect your mood.

It's normal to have doubts about your job. You're not alone, and we can work through this together.

Your feelings are real and important. Your decision should be based on your inner voice and the pursuit of happiness.

This job may bring you money and the chance to grow in your hometown, but it also puts too much pressure on you. You have the right to decide if this job is right for you.

I'm worried about you. Mental health is important for happiness.

Consider professional counseling to share your concerns and feelings with a counselor. They can provide advice and support to help you cope.

You can also try communicating honestly with your leader or colleagues.

Communication can solve problems. Find activities that relax you, such as walking, reading, and listening to music.

I'll give you more specific advice on your future options. First, make a clear career plan and think about what you really want to do.

Then, look for positions that match your interests and goals. Learn about the requirements and prospects of these positions. Use your spare time to improve your skills and knowledge.

Spend more time with your family and friends. They can support you and help you cope with the situation.

You can also learn from their experiences to plan your future.

Believe in yourself and your abilities. You have unlimited potential. Work hard and you will find happiness and success.

Believe in yourself and pursue your dreams!

Your happiness and health are the most important things. I hope you find a job you like and live a happy life.

I wish you a happy future!

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Jillian Jillian A total of 7615 people have been helped

Good day, I am a Heart Detective coach.

I have carefully reviewed the issues and concerns you outlined on the platform. Have you experienced difficulties at work? You mentioned that you recently transferred to the unit and do not have weekends off. You frequently work overtime at night. You are required to provide compensation for user complaints. There are also assessments in the unit. Colleagues are engaging in unproductive behavior. If you cannot complete the assessment, you are responsible for various expenses in advance. Your salary is average. You are currently experiencing depression. Do you still believe it is necessary to continue in this role?

I am reluctant to resign without a compelling reason. In the current business environment, it is challenging to excel in any role. What is the best course of action?

Indeed, from the situation you described, it seems that you are experiencing difficulties at your new workplace. In addition to the limited time off, the assessment process is also quite rigorous. Furthermore, there is often a conflict of interest and intrigue among colleagues, which can lead to feelings of exhaustion, anxiety, and a lack of motivation. It is understandable that you might be considering alternative options. Could changing jobs be the best solution?

I am here to assist you in analyzing and organizing your thoughts.

1. Attempt to maintain composure and sound judgment.

If you are unable to adapt to the situation and feel the need to quit, it is advisable to reconsider. If there is no room for development in this company, you may choose to leave. However, if the reason for your departure is external and you have not attempted to resolve the issue, it is not an appropriate course of action. It is recommended that you remain calm and rational and carefully consider your continued employment or departure. Given the current environment, it is important to value your current role. No job is without challenges. It is helpful to avoid focusing on these issues and to view them from a different perspective. It is important not to perceive yourself as an outsider. After work, it is beneficial to relax your mind, get sufficient sleep, and avoid dwelling on the company's difficulties. It is crucial to adjust your mindset as soon as possible.

2. Adjust your work attitude to align with the company's expectations.

Regardless of the circumstances, maintaining a positive attitude is crucial. Focusing on one's work and avoiding distractions can help alleviate feelings of depression. Prioritize doing your job well and fostering positive relationships with colleagues. Adapting to a new environment may require time and effort. Some individuals may find it challenging to excel in all areas, and that's okay. However, it's essential to recognize that having a negative attitude at work can lead to unfavorable outcomes. If you consistently display a negative attitude, your company may view you as a liability and seek your departure. Having a positive outlook is vital for success in any professional setting.

3. Perform your duties in a conscientious and diligent manner.

A serious, hardworking individual with a passion for learning is someone colleagues are willing to respect. They are willing to work hard and take responsibility at work, and leaders feel at ease handing them work. They get along well with their colleagues and never complain about anything or engage in unethical activities. Everyone certainly sees this and remembers it. You can also try to think differently. First, do your job well. In the first step, try to find a way to complete your assessment tasks. Try not to be a hindrance. An excellent employee is easily appreciated by leaders. If you adjust your mentality, it will be easy to integrate into your team. Maybe it won't turn out like this now. Just try.

4. Maintain an open mind.

It is important to note that similar issues may arise when changing jobs. The working environment, workload, and relationships with colleagues and supervisors can all contribute to challenges. It is possible to either remain with the current company or transition to a new one in order to adapt to a different work environment. It is inevitable that disputes and struggles will occur in any workplace, and it is not uncommon for employees to feel overwhelmed. However, it is crucial to avoid making hasty decisions based on these challenges. Instead, it is essential to find a solution to the immediate problem. If the situation persists and is no longer suitable, it is acceptable to make a decisive exit.

People are social animals, and an absolutely harmonious work environment does not exist. However, it is possible to encounter a work environment that is relatively free of conflict. It is important to remember that, while some people may have unusual personalities, they are not representative of the entire workforce. Furthermore, the more intense the conflict of interests, the more challenging it may be to maintain a harmonious work environment. It is therefore essential to treat any conflict with a normal attitude.

I hope this information is helpful to you. If you require further assistance, you may contact me via my personal homepage. Select the Heart Exploration service, and we can communicate directly. Best regards, [Name]

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Maxwell Jonathan Lee Maxwell Jonathan Lee A total of 2817 people have been helped

Hi, I'm Strawberry.

People work for money, to feel useful, or for fun. If work is too much, think about why you do it and if it's worth it.

Long-term unreasonable demands affect emotional well-being.

The questioner used to be responsible for some of the work in a different location. They were able to adapt. After the exam, the job position was transferred back home. It was thought that it would improve, but it has caused internal conflict.

I work weekends and three days a week overtime. Long hours have reduced my free time and energy.

The work is very demanding. There are lots of strange rules. You have to pay compensation for user complaints, assess units, deal with difficult colleagues, and pay for incomplete work. All of this is very exhausting.

Fear of what might happen

The questioner has not thought about quitting, but finding another job with the same income is unlikely. Coupled with the financial pressure, the questioner cannot just leave.

The questioner knows he is depressed and doesn't know why he keeps going. He thinks he'd have to face worse work and life without this job.

How can you cope with exhausting work?

The questioner realizes that he has given work a greater role in his life than it deserves.

We have 24 hours a day. Most of it is spent at work. When we are depressed at work, it can affect our health in the long term.

This job may earn you more money, but it also puts you under a lot of pressure and makes you feel bad. You want to resist, but you have to do what you're told.

Would you rather have a less stressful job with a lower income but a more relaxed work atmosphere that helps you maintain a stable mood?

Affirm yourself: You can do the job, despite the strange demands. You are resistant because you cannot accept unreasonable demands. You have ability and strength.

The questioner is unable to make a decision right away, which shows that they doubt their abilities. They want to escape but are afraid of facing new challenges.

Don't quit your job right away. First, find a job that suits you better. Believe that opportunities are for the prepared.

☀️Relieve emotions: When you can't leave a job, stress can make you depressed and anxious.

Find someone you trust to talk to. This person can listen to you and help you think about things in a different way. This can help you feel better.

If you have unreasonable work content at your workplace, you can learn to refuse it or propose a better arrangement. Don't make things difficult for yourself. Instead, express your thoughts and emotions and face the consequences.

Hope this helps! Good luck!

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Juniper Hughes Juniper Hughes A total of 4505 people have been helped

Good morning, my name is Xin Tan Coach Yu, and I would be grateful for the opportunity to discuss this topic with you.

Let's start with work. Many people feel that their work is not as engaging as they would like, that interpersonal relationships are challenging, that the work schedule is not ideal, and that the salary and benefits could be more competitive. If they were to change jobs, they would likely find more passion and vitality, and perform better.

It could be argued that this way of thinking is based on replacing the goal of "success" with "enjoyment." It is important to remember that even if a job is in line with your interests, you may not be able to do it well in the real world.

Given that the work must align with one's knowledge and abilities, it is understandable that when one is unable to fulfill the job requirements, the work may lose its appeal.

As the original poster mentioned, the company's new policies have introduced new challenges, including overtime, appraisals, and potential conflicts. It's understandable that this may make it difficult to decide whether to continue.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider whether the job we took home originally was our true choice, or if it was a result of a balance of other factors.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider what factors we took into account when choosing this job. Have there been any changes in these factors since then?

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider what our ideal job would be like and what competencies we would need to succeed in it.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider the gap between my current situation and my ideal job. It might be beneficial to take a fresh look at ourselves. Only when we know what we need and what we can do will we be able to make better choices.

Let's consider the possibility of leaving your current position. At any stage of your career, it's natural to question whether your current role is the best fit for you. Even executives and top-level professionals from Fortune 500 companies may find themselves contemplating a career change or even leaving their job to pursue further studies.

It might also be helpful to consider why we are resigning. Is it to "chase" or "escape"? If our reason for resigning is to "escape" rather than "pursue" a better option, we may find ourselves facing similar workplace challenges in our new role, and potentially caught in a cycle of resigning and searching for new employment.

On the other hand, if you are seeking better career development, a higher quality of life, and your own time and space, you may wish to consider resigning, even if it means doing so without notice.

I'm not sure if continuing in this role is the best decision for me. Perhaps it would be beneficial to consider resigning, given the current circumstances and the lack of support I'm experiencing.

However, when we begin to consider the concept of resignation, it can often become a persistent and distracting thought. Not only does it have an impact on our work performance, but it also requires our attention from time to time, which can affect our mood.

Finally, let's turn our attention to the present. The original poster has indicated that he is currently experiencing depressive symptoms. While this may not be a formal diagnosis from a medical professional, such labels and self-suggestions can undoubtedly have a significant impact on one's work and life at this stage.

If this situation is causing you distress, it might be helpful to speak to someone you trust, such as a family member or friend, about how they can support you. You might also find it beneficial to speak to a counselor, as releasing emotions can help to relieve feelings of heaviness and blockage.

It would be beneficial to strive to do our current work well, not just for a promotion or a pay rise, but also for ourselves. As any job requires skilled skills and perseverance, whether you continue to do it or change jobs in the future, work for someone else or start your own business, it would be helpful to first build yourself up like steel and sharpen yourself like a sword.

Sometimes, it's not that the work is inherently boring, but rather that the anticipated outcomes may take longer to materialize than anticipated.

It would be beneficial for us to empower ourselves, use our spare time to recharge by reading, go out more with colleagues and friends to participate in group activities, experience different lives, and experience real interpersonal relationships. When your mood is happy and your core is stable, you may come to realize that we always have the right to choose.

I would like to suggest the movie Forrest Gump as a potential source of inspiration.

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Ursula Patricia Wilson Ursula Patricia Wilson A total of 1941 people have been helped

Hello, landlord.

Hello! I am a middle-aged man who is eager to provide assistance and looks forward to your feedback.

From reading the question description, it's clear the poster is anxious and helpless. I'd give them a warm hug if I could.

Before we proceed, it is essential to distinguish between fact-finding and value judgments. Fact-finding is akin to a question with a definitive answer in an exam. Your height, for instance, can be ascertained through measurement.

However, there is no standard answer to value judgments. For example, when I say you are too tall, this is a value judgment. Everyone has different standards for "tall."

I mention these two concepts to illustrate that our answers are based on personal understanding, experience, and values. Therefore, the perspectives, directions, and ideas provided are for your reference only and are not standard answers.

The problem the host is facing is not a good fit for the current work situation. It's clear that the current situation is affecting the host's life and work. When it comes to whether or not to continue, that's a very personal question.

The landlord must make this decision.

I believe that, given the current circumstances, it would be prudent for the landlord to temporarily postpone resigning until a more suitable career opportunity presents itself.

The next question is: How can I do better in the current situation? The answer is simple: accept the reality, which is indeed not ideal. Accepting before changing is my own consistent principle, and it's the only way to make progress.

First, ask yourself: Can't I be the only one at work who can't get it done? Or is everyone having a hard time in the current environment? If it's a structural problem in society, it's not your problem. Other industries are not necessarily better than they are now.

The second question to consider is: In the current situation, I will improve my work skills. I will optimize my current workflow in the existing environment.

It needs to be optimized.

You should also consider how colleagues get along with each other. Have you tried communicating and exchanging ideas? I highly recommend reading about Nonviolent Communication. It's crucial to maintain relationships with others, and misunderstandings often occur because communication is ineffective.

Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is a communication technique invented by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg. Its main points and process are as follows: 1. Observation: Describe a specific behavior or situation objectively and without evaluation or interpretation. 2. Feelings: Express the emotional response caused by a behavior or situation.

3. Need: State your need clearly and avoid confusing it with a specific strategy. 4. Request: State your request to meet your need in a positive, clear, and executable way. Avoid using the word "demand."

The fourth question to consider is: If I were to quit my job, is there anything I want to do? If so, I should make preparations in my current profession. Even if you really want to quit your job, you should still be prepared. This means having the relevant job skills and work experience. You should also consider whether you can use some free time to conduct some research and investigation.

The fifth question to consider is: Even if other people are not treating me well, I will make myself feel more comfortable. There is a line in Da Zhangwei's song "The Law of Everything Blooming": As long as I don't care, no one can hurt me.

You must also consider what resources you can find in the current situation. These include how long your own financial situation can support you, who you can turn to when you are sad, and who you can turn to when you want to change jobs.

Sorting through your social resources will also help you understand yourself better.

You must make a detailed plan, regardless of whether you decide to continue working or resign. If you choose to continue working, you can reduce stress by improving your efficiency and adjusting your attitude.

If you decide to quit your job, you must prepare for life during unemployment. This includes saving expenses and finding a new source of income.

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Caleb Anderson Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.

This job sounds really challenging and it's affecting my mental health. The lack of weekends, frequent overtime, and the stress from user complaints and internal politics are overwhelming. Plus, having to cover for uncollected electricity bills out of my own pocket is just too much. I think it might be time to consider looking for a new opportunity that values worklife balance and doesn't require employees to pay for the company's losses.

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Alexander Anderson The passion of a teacher for education is a fire that burns brightly in the hearts of students.

The situation you've described seems unsustainable and unhealthy. It's important to prioritize your wellbeing. With the current conditions, it's hard to see how you can perform at your best or find satisfaction in your work. Perhaps it's worth exploring other job options that offer better support and a healthier working environment. Your skills and experience are valuable, and there should be a place that appreciates them without compromising your personal life.

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Truman Davis You are not a failure until you start blaming others for your mistakes.

It sounds like you're in a tough spot with this job. The pressure of constant work, dealing with customer issues, and the financial burden of paying for electricity bills is taking a toll on you. A salary of 6,500 yuan per month, even with a yearend bonus, doesn't seem to justify these challenges. It might be beneficial to reassess your career goals and look for a position that aligns more with your needs and provides a fair compensation package. Taking care of yourself should come first.

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