It feels meaningless, I want to change but I can't help it, I always find excuses, I want to die but I'm afraid.

Good morning, question asker!

I'm a listening dolphin float, a psychological counselor.

From what I can gather from your question, it seems you may be feeling a bit helpless and frustrated, unsure of where to turn. Is that an accurate assessment?

In your question, you come across as feeling like a complete failure. Is this truly how you feel?

Or perhaps someone gave you such a comment?

If it isn't too much trouble, could you tell me your age? It seems like you might be doing things halfway and then wanting to do something else.

Have you ever considered that what you have already done is a significant achievement in itself, and that it is often more straightforward than starting something and not seeing it through to completion?

Could I ask why you ate all the bitter fruit and gave up when it was time to reap the rewards?

It might be worth considering that at this time someone who has not seen what you have done yet has results and feels the need to comment. This could be why you feel the way you do and are struggling to continue.

If that's the case, then perhaps the issue isn't you. It seems like this person is someone you're very close to.

?‍♂️It's understandable to feel lost when you haven't had much experience. Could you tell me a bit about what you're doing right now?

If it isn't too much trouble, could you tell me your age and a bit about your upbringing?

I hope you don't mind me asking, but do your parents argue? And do you get along well with them?

I'm wondering if you grew up with your mom and dad. It seems like you might be experiencing some fears.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider the source of these fears. It's possible that they are a manifestation of inner deprivation, a lack of knowledge, and a need to learn.

As you learn more and more, this fear will gradually disappear. You might find it helpful to give it a try.

?‍♂️Your question is quite general and lacks some specifics. For the time being, I'm not sure what else I can add. I hope my answer will help you think a little more deeply about the issue.

If my answer has been helpful to you, I would be very happy to continue the conversation and see if I can be of further assistance. Is that okay with you?

I have a great deal of respect for the field of psychology.

I feel like you and I are similar in some ways. I have also been giving up halfway all the time, so I have a serious self-loathing. I always expect myself to be a certain way, a good way, but I can't do it. I know I should do something, but I just can't. I procrastinate all the time—but I'm working on it!

As for me, my mother just passed away last year, I have experienced bullying, depression, failing the college entrance exam twice, failing the postgraduate entrance exam four times, and recently being unemployed for three months. I was obviously a top student in high school, but now I am not doing as well as the academic underachievers were doing back then, of course in a social sense. Maybe it's because I've failed so many times that I'm a bit desperate, or maybe it's because my depression has returned. Or maybe it's because depression has always been there. Recently, I've been thinking about what the least painful way to commit suicide is, but it seems like there isn't one. I'm afraid to die, I'm afraid of the pain, and I don't want to live like this. Sometimes I feel that it's better to die than to live like this.

We really are similar, and it's possible that not only you and I are similar. Sometimes I think there might be something wrong with my body. You could teach yourself Chinese medicine, for example, from Ni Haisha or someone like him. Sometimes being in a bad mood is caused by liver depression or something like that. Of course, I'm only a half-baked student, but I'm excited to learn more!

There's also the amazing psychological benefit of self-relieving. It's so important to remember that there's nothing you can do about it. If you can't do what you want to do, there's no need to worry! Giving up halfway through can only be said to be unsuitable for you, and there's absolutely no need to be harsh on yourself. Just think about it like this: I read a book and can't continue reading it. It may not be a problem with me, because when I come across a book that I can't stop reading, I will read it like I chase after a drama. I can only say to go with the flow!

There's a great saying for you: if you deliberately pursue it, you will eventually abandon it. Just go with the flow, persevere, and success will come naturally! It's not a classic saying, but I just think it's pretty good.

I'd also like to recommend a few books to you: The Courage to Be Disliked, Mr. Toad Goes to Therapy, Inferiority and Transcendence (translated by Wu Hong), and more! While these recommendations may not be suitable for everyone, I'm sure you'll find something you love. Happy reading!

Good morning, question asker!

I'm listening to the sound of dolphins gently floating on the water.

If I might ask, how old are you? Have you recently gone through puberty, or are you currently experiencing it?

From your question, I can sense that you may be experiencing some negative emotions.

It's understandable to feel this way. We all have our own struggles and shortcomings. Have you ever considered why this is so? It's natural to have ideas about who we want to be when we grow up.

I wonder if you also heard the phrase "when you grow up, you'll know everything" when you were a child?

It might be helpful to consider that this is a common misconception among parents. While it's true that studying is an important part of learning, there are many other ways to gain knowledge and skills.

You observe your parents performing tasks with apparent ease and believe that you could do the same.

Perhaps the result is that you can't do it as well as you'd hoped.

?‍♂️From your question, it seems that you may be feeling a bit lost and lacking in energy. I'm curious to know more about your relationship with your parents.

If I may suggest, you could perhaps take some time at this point to see your parents when they have time and chat with them.

When you were a child, you learned to eat and walk. It's interesting to reflect on how strong and persistent you were at that time.

It may be the case that the courage you once had to forge ahead fearlessly is now gone. You may be curious as to why this is.

I believe the reason may be quite simple. It seems that you have long enjoyed the burden of being a parent.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider that the chain of time in your mind might be perceived differently. While your parents are preparing breakfast each morning, you may simply need to get up and eat breakfast.

Could I just check whether that's right?

?‍♂️So when you want to do something, the time you plan for yourself may be shorter than you expect. It's possible that in your mind, everything is only the part you can see, while the other parents are doing something that takes more time than you anticipated.

It's understandable that when you're engaged in an activity, you might not always allow yourself sufficient time. It's only natural that when you're halfway through, you may realize that it's taking longer than you initially anticipated.

Perhaps it would be best to stop because it exceeds your expectations. Do you understand?

It is important to learn things from start to finish, no matter what they may be. If you want to do something well, it is essential to learn it from beginning to end.

It is not enough to simply observe and learn on your own. Even if you learn from scratch, you will still have to practice countless times before you become proficient.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider letting go of the things that are troubling you.

I would like to express my gratitude to Yi Xinli World for welcoming me with open arms.

Dear Question Asker, You have inquired as to whether it is meaningful to persist in one's current circumstances, despite the urge to change. You have also expressed concern about the potential consequences of such a change.

First, it is important to acknowledge and commend your curiosity. Now, let us examine your question in greater detail.

You indicate that you feel adrift in life, uncertain of your direction. Alternatively, do you lack guidance on how to structure the remainder of your life?

In response to your inquiry, I must admit that I am somewhat perplexed and uncertain as to the precise nature of your question. You proceed to articulate a sentiment of disillusionment, expressing a desire to abandon your endeavors midway through their completion.

Furthermore, you perceive yourself as a failure, incapable of achieving anything of consequence. You exhibit a lack of motivation, a fear of exertion, and an inability to persevere. You feel that you are a complete and utter failure.

I will proceed to share my views with you in the hope that they may prove inspiring.

Such self-doubt is unwarranted. The fact that you can pose such a profound and deep philosophical question about your future demonstrates that you are a reflective individual who is capable of critical thinking.

The question of how one should live one's life is inherently difficult to answer. It has not only stumped you, but also countless generations of philosophers. It is a timeless conundrum. This question is inherently complex and difficult to answer. It is not your fault that you cannot answer it.

Human nature is characterized by a tendency to seek profit and avoid loss, pursue ease and comfort, and seek enjoyment.

You describe yourself as lazy, fearful of hardship, pain, and lacking in perseverance. These are not merely personal shortcomings; they are pervasive human challenges. These are the inherent weaknesses of human nature.

The capacity for greatness is inherent in all individuals. It is human nature to desire a life of ease and leisure, to shun the rigors of work and the pains of struggle. It is also human nature to seek enjoyment and recreation. However, the ability to achieve these desires is contingent upon one's financial resources and circumstances. The distinction between a great person and an ordinary individual lies in their ability to transcend the limitations of human nature and to cultivate its strengths. Nevertheless, the ranks of great individuals represent a minute fraction of the population. The majority of us choose to lead ordinary lives.

It is possible to permit oneself to be regarded as an ordinary person, but it is not acceptable to be regarded as mediocre.

One can endeavor to adopt a dialectical and evolving perspective when contemplating one's own identity. All entities within the human experience, including individuals, concepts, and objects, possess dualistic characteristics. These dualities manifest as a dichotomy between a positive and a negative aspect. The former is characterized by a constructive and optimistic quality, whereas the latter is associated with destructive and pessimistic traits.

While self-reflection and criticism are beneficial, excessive self-denial, self-deprecation, and self-suppression are detrimental. It is essential to recognize and acknowledge the positive aspects of oneself and to provide affirmation, encouragement, and support.

I extend my best wishes to you, and I hope that my response has been of some assistance.

I feel adrift, listless, and uninspired. I often feel as though I am merely going through the motions, and I frequently find myself questioning my abilities and sense of purpose. I feel as though I am a mere shadow of my potential, and I often feel paralyzed by fear of failure and the prospect of pain. I lack the resilience and determination to persevere in the face of adversity.

Hello, questioner! I can see that you are currently feeling lost and bored in life, and even find it easy to give up halfway through things. But don't worry! I'm here to help. I can help you find things that will really capture your attention and keep you engaged.

This sense of futility can even make you feel decadent, but don't give up! Looking at these words can make people feel depressed, but you're stronger than that!

I don't know how old you are, but I'm excited to hear more about how you've been feeling! If you've been feeling this way for a while (more than half a year), I suggest that you pay attention to your emotional state, contact a professional counselor (there are also professional counselors on the Yixinli platform), check your anxiety and depression levels, and hope to match you with a suitable counselor for counseling.

So, in response to your question, I'm thrilled to give you my opinion and hope it'll be helpful!

Now, let's dive into some more questions!

1. You say you feel lost and your life is boring. Well, that can all change! What kind of life events do you think can break the boredom and make life "interesting"?

For example, when you're not feeling so good, sing a song and dance to the rhythm!

For example, lending a hand to someone in need is a great way to help out and make a difference! And lending an umbrella to someone in need is a simple yet thoughtful act that can make a big impact in the right situation.

For example, there are often discussions on Yixin, and you can participate, summarize your thoughts, write them down, not only sort out your feelings and thoughts, but also maybe get a reward. Wouldn't that be a very interesting thing? And it's totally worth it!

Absolutely! You can definitely find something you're willing to do, so go for it!

2. You said you give up easily when you're only halfway through something. I want to say that even quitting halfway through is meaningful! At least, in the first half of the time, you were invested in it and went through the process of thinking and executing. It may be that some things are still unresolved and have not come to fruition, but what you have done has already shaped things in some way!

Have you noticed that you want to give up when you are only halfway through doing something? Well, I want you to think about how you got to the halfway point! What circumstances and conditions supported you in doing something more or less?

What new and exciting changes can you make to what you've already achieved to make it even more fruitful and complete? What conditions and support do you need to accomplish a task and achieve a result?

Where can you find these amazing conditions and support? What's your plan to make your dreams come true?

3. You want to die, but you are afraid. I think you are amazing for daring to talk directly about your willingness to live or die. You're so brave!

I feel so lucky that you still love your life! Instead of wasting time feeling confused, why not be practical and carefree?

In your current state, thinking about the meaning of life and feeling guilty about your lack of achievement can easily lead to giving up. But you're not lost and confused! You're ready to explore the value and meaning of life. You have a desire to achieve something and you have goals you want to accomplish.

Go for it! You can do it, even if you only accomplish one thing in a period of time!

And there's more! If you feel your strength is too weak to keep going, you can join an amazing group (like some of the fantastic learning groups on the Yi Xinli platform). The power of the group, together with the torch of struggle, is also a kind of urging force that will give you more motivation to achieve your goals!

I really hope this is helpful!

You can do it! Don't give up halfway through. You might feel like you're not making progress, but you are! You're not useless, lazy, or afraid of pain. You just need to build up your perseverance. You can do this!