It is easy to feel frustrated in the office. How can you live without being enslaved by frustration?

Dear friend,

I'm here to support you. Many people compare themselves to others. I've been there too.

You're already working on not letting failure control your life.

Second, you compare yourself to others, seeing their good points and your shortcomings. You think everyone else is good and you are not. You suppress yourself because you don't love and respect yourself.

Third, understand your own state of mind. If it's good, then start adjusting your cognitive part: "Others are preparing awards for students, others are preparing sample lessons, others are confident when they talk to me, or they are assertive, and others can justify their words." Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, so you can sort out your own strengths. You may not be as confident as others, but you are more confident, patient, more persevering, persistent, and honest. These are all excellent qualities. Then look at other people: maybe the person who can justify their words may not be as good as you in other areas.

Fourth, focus on what's important. What can help you do your best at work?

I hope it helps.

Best regards!

Hello. I can relate to how you feel when you say that you're constantly frustrated at work and that you really want to change the situation.

First, you need to figure out what's causing your frustration. When your colleagues are doing their work, what kind of frustration do they give you in their confident state of speaking? Do you feel like you're not as good as them? Or is it that you can't be as confident as they are, that you lack good communication skills, and that you lack a sense of control over what you want to do?

Could your sense of failure be due to a lack of self-acceptance?

Self-identity is something that develops gradually during adolescence and early adulthood. It basically comes down to three things:

First, you need to get to know yourself again and learn to make up for your shortcomings. Find a pace of life that suits you. Other people have their own strengths and weaknesses, and you have your own weaknesses and strengths. You should look more at your own strengths and encourage yourself more. Only by accepting your own imperfections can you get out of the feeling of defeat.

Second, you know what kind of life you want.

Third, you need to have the confidence to expect that you'll get what you need from someone you trust.

Take a look at whether your sense of self-identity has been formed and established. If it hasn't, you can get to know yourself again and learn to make up for your shortcomings.

Find a pace of life that suits you. Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, and you have yours. Look at your strengths and encourage yourself. Accepting your imperfections helps you move past feeling defeated.

I suggest you read more psychology books. My advice is to read this one and then try to live your life to the fullest.

I hope you can find a solution soon. Best of luck!