It is painful to manage any intimate relationship badly, as it is to manage a relationship with money.

Hello, questioner.

From your description, it's clear you crave attention, affirmation, and love. We all know that intimacy is closely tied to growing up in an intimate family environment. How much intimacy you have in adulthood depends on how you understand and accept intimacy in your original family.

You will stop at the level of intimacy you consider comfortable!

You have experienced a lot and felt a lot, both good and bad experiences. The endings were bad. Why?

You know why. When you're hurt in a relationship, you want to escape. So you hurt the other person with your words and make them dislike you with your actions. You end up back where you started, dealing with the same level of intimacy you're used to. You're disliked, criticized, and ignored.

People always want to get up from where they have failed, thereby affirming the self that has been denied. They will always unconsciously create a sense of déjà vu, and then repeat the same mistakes again and again in the past. We must break the spell of repetition.

One key factor has always been there, unchanging, like a repeated, wrong action, which has guided the whole course of events. I am going to tell you what this key "action" is.

In repeated reenactments, that core action has never been changed!

This complex is difficult to break through, but you will experience moments of happiness as long as you break through it. You need to have many failures stacked up to become the path under your feet. Don't regard this path as the bitter fruit of a complex. It is the constant process of improvement in life—you are always getting better, and you are only one step away from that window paper.

You don't have to see this intimate relationship as the whole of your life. There are still many happy moments in your life, and your life is rich and colorful. Relax.

Best regards,

Hello, host! I'm July, and I'm here to help!

I can see that your childhood experiences have shaped your relationships in ways that aren't quite healthy. It's like your family gave you a negative way of dealing with relationships. I'm here for you, and I'm sending you a big hug in the fourth dimension.

From what you've told me, it seems like your family of origin has had a big impact on you. This might be why you've developed a less-than-ideal approach to intimate relationships. It's totally normal to have negative thoughts and feelings about people and situations. And it's natural to want to protect yourself from being hurt.

Once you start doing this, you might start to worry that you'll lose the relationship and get hurt. This can make you question things, which might eventually lead to the relationship ending. It's totally normal to have negative thoughts about yourself, but try not to catastrophize things too much. It can be hard to get out of a situation when you're worrying about it too much.

The world and I love you so much!

Warmest regards!

Hello, question asker!

I'll give you a warm hug. As they say, seeing is healing. So first of all, congratulations on having seen the crux of the problem within yourself: you can't manage intimate relationships well, and you don't have a good relationship with money either. You lack a sense of security. All of this shows that the energy of the questioner is concentrated in the upper three chakras, which are overactive, while the lower three chakras, from the root chakra (responsible for a sense of security) to the sacral chakra (responsible for intimate relationships) and the solar plexus chakra (responsible for wealth), are inactive and not sufficiently active.

As the saying goes, for every door that God closes, he opens a window. In this world, there is a lack of energy in the lower three chakras, and there are many people with excessive energy in the upper three chakras. They are commonly known as people whose feet do not touch the ground, whose minds are overly active, and who are overly idealistic, neglecting the spirituality in real life.

You've been through a lot, haven't you? Depression, a bad relationship, and financial crisis. But you've come through it all, and you're stronger now than you've ever been. This is your chance to shine!

[The two sides of life: healing trauma and blossoming talent]

As the saying goes, "We are all fallen from grace. Why meet if we have never met before?" I can really relate to this! I was an unplanned birth, and I also experienced emotional neglect in my family of origin. I have serious blockages in the lower three wheels, just like the questioner. Like the questioner, I lack a sense of security, and my anxious attachment and pleasing personality have made me deeply hurt by myself in intimate relationships. I've realized that behind excessive giving is the desire to receive unconditional love, putting myself in the role of a mother and thus having supreme power over my partner. This manipulation makes my partner suffer deeply and become overwhelmed, and they will escape and hurt. But fundamentally, we have been grasping and seeking outside.

When it comes to money, I was really affected by the stress of experiencing long-term poverty during my childhood. In his book The Ladder to Heaven, the child psychiatrist Winnicott mentioned that these experiences in a child's growth process can lead to physical, emotional, social, and cognitive symptoms similar to those experienced after extreme traumatic events. I think that poor thinking and rich thinking are the main reasons why we end up in economic difficulties. We either spend money on things that don't nourish us with a sense of unworthiness, or we are driven by a sense of emptiness, a sense of lack, or external temptations to keep consuming. I really recommend that you read the book The Soul of Money. You must make money a vehicle of love and commitment and show the "best you." This transformation also requires the establishment of a sense of security and a healthy secure attachment.

I also had a bout of mania while I was at university and ended up in the hospital for three months. I took a year off from school. Back then, I only got psychiatric treatment, but I missed out on psychological counseling. Even though I later went to a counseling room because of problems in my intimate relationships, I didn't have a high enough acceptance of psychological counseling and only tried it out a little, which started a 20-year struggle. I've been married twice, gone bankrupt several times, and I'm really in debt. I'm so happy that when I was at my wit's end, I came across the Yi Xinli platform and decided to learn to be a psychological listener. In the past six months, I've been practicing with my classmates, being empathized with, listened to, and given unconditional positive attention. I've also been answering questions on the platform. I feel like I've been healed by psychology and have also begun to bloom my talent for being understanding.

I came across an article on the Yi Xinli platform today entitled "Drive away friends? The solitude you think you want may be a fatal crisis." There was a paragraph about the essence of psychological counseling that really spoke to me. It said that psychological counseling is a process of sorting through the displayed behaviors and feelings that accompany oneself, and understanding the inner self and beliefs.

When we take care of our inner selves and understand ourselves better, our emotions will open up, and the parts of our lives that we can't seem to get through will also disappear. So I would still suggest that you go into the counseling room as soon as you can. Life is short, and there are only two things we should focus on: healing our wounds and blooming our talents.

Hi there! I'm Zhang Huili, a psychological counselor. I really hope my answer can help you, and I'd love to bring a little sunshine into your world with my experience.

Hello! I give you a 360-degree hug!

Reading your question makes me feel a rush of emotions! I'm feeling particularly anxious, helpless, angry, and panicky.

If hitting people wasn't against the law, you'd probably want to hit everyone!

If you can yell at someone without getting hit back, you probably also want to yell at people, using the most vicious words to attack them. And why not? It's a great way to let off steam!

If you can yell at your parents without being accused of it, you probably also want to yell at them when they yell at you. And why not? It's your right!

The good news is that we can't attack others as much as we want. Many people even feel that the thought of wanting to attack others is wrong, immoral, and condemnable. So many people direct the conflict of aggression towards themselves.

One of the most common forms is self-deprecation, feeling worthless, feeling unworthy of love, hurting yourself by hurting others, etc., and making a mess of yourself. In fact, you are desperately hoping to be seen by others, and you can be!

Without going into the why and what causes these situations, let's just say that there are things you can do to make your suffering a little less. And there are so many things you can do!

First, try some competitive sports! Boxing, basketball, combat sports, wrestling, judo, football, and even table tennis, volleyball, or badminton are great options. The aim is to give a reasonable outlet to your inner aggressiveness, and this will give you a sense of control.

The sense of control you gain through sports can also be transferred to other areas of your life. I highly recommend the book Take Control of Your Mind: An Authoritative Guide to Mental Health and Counseling.

Second, it's time to rebuild your relationship with yourself!

We all grow up in a variety of relationships, and the most important one is the one we have with ourselves! How you see yourself and how others see you is a matter of re-evaluating yourself.

You mentioned in the title that your relationship with money is also not good, but there is nothing about money in the description of the problem. This is probably because subconsciously you feel that you are not worth much and don't deserve that much money. But there's no need to worry! This is something you can easily fix. All you need to do is start rebuilding your relationship with yourself.

Ultimately, you still have the chance to work on your relationship with yourself!

I really think you should talk to a counselor!

I am a counselor who is often Buddhist and sometimes depressed, but I'm working on it! I love the world and I love you!

Good day, question asker. I am a seasoned individual with a lean physique.

It is important to note that while parents love their children, the way they express their love may not always be appropriate, particularly for first-time parents.

I can empathize with the questioner's situation. I am a child who experienced denial, blame, and physical abuse from my parents since childhood. I fully understand the questioner's feelings. However, it wasn't until I grew up, got married, and moved out that I realized my parents loved me deeply, but their methods of expressing love were not what I desired. Each time I returned home, they expressed regret for their actions and stated that they had beaten me excessively.

Given the prevalence of negativity in your upbringing, it is understandable that you may experience difficulties in maintaining motivation and self-confidence. When it comes to pursuing your desired outcomes and maintaining desired relationships, you may feel a persistent sense of uncertainty about your ability to achieve or sustain them. This can lead to a desire to avoid these situations altogether.

My personal advice is as follows:

1. It is important to recognize that your parents' actions are driven by a positive intention, even if they lack the necessary skills to express it effectively. It is essential to accept their intentions and disregard the emotional nuances in their communication. This approach will foster a sense of ease and warmth.

2. It is important to achieve a state of inner peace and to accept your imperfections. Nobody is perfect, so it is essential to gain an objective understanding of yourself.

3. It would be beneficial to gain new skills. Learning can enhance our resilience and provide a broader perspective on the world. While the individual in question has taken steps to remain occupied, this approach does not yield positive reinforcement and may not foster a constructive mindset.

4. Attempting to avoid a situation is often driven by an underlying fear of the unknown. However, when you take the initiative to confront the challenge, you may find it is not as daunting as you imagined.

Yesterday, my husband requested that I cancel our current broadband service and switch to a different network with the same card. I initially hesitated, questioning whether the new package would provide sufficient data.

What if the cost of switching networks is higher than anticipated? This uncertainty about the outcome made me somewhat reluctant to proceed.

Ultimately, I decided to proceed with the purchase. I was pleased with the outcome and the savings I made on the set-top box and the next month's phone plan. I encourage you to consider a similar approach.

5. Provide yourself with positive reinforcement. Gradually increase your self-assurance and you will gain greater mental strength. Attempt to engage in activities that offer positive reinforcement and seek out positive energy on a daily basis. You will become happier and happier.

6. It is preferable to release negative emotions rather than suppressing them. While it is important to express negative emotions, engaging in unhealthy behaviors such as binge eating is not recommended as it can have adverse effects on one's well-being. Effective methods for releasing negative emotions include expressing them verbally or seeking support from others. This can help reduce emotional stress and improve overall well-being.

I recommend that the questioner review "The Toad Doctor Goes to the Psychiatrist," which may prove beneficial.

Best regards,

Hello, my name is Evan, and I'm here to help!

From what you've shared, it seems like you've had some tough experiences in your intimate relationships. It's not easy to navigate these things, and it's understandable that you've had some challenges. It also seems like your relationship with your parents might not be as smooth as you'd like. It's never easy to feel blamed or misunderstood by those we love. These experiences can really take a toll on our mental health, and it's not surprising that you've been struggling with major depression. It's so important to have healthy outlets for our emotions, and it's clear that you've found ways to cope through sports and overeating. These are all valid ways to process your feelings, and it's admirable that you've found ways to take care of yourself.

It can be really tough to navigate family relationships and not feel like you're getting the love and support you need. It's also hard to learn how to interact with others in a healthy way when you haven't had the right role models. All of this can lead to some pretty big challenges in your own relationships, which can be really heartbreaking.

It's totally normal for the questioner to feel confused about their parents' behavior. It's likely that these behaviors are related to the questioner's upbringing and personality. It's also possible that the parents' own family environment influenced their parenting style. It's not that they don't love the questioner, but that they were also treated this way, so they're just doing what they know.

I really feel for the OP here. I think the reason why the parents treat them this way is probably down to their own upbringing. When kids grow up, they tend to be influenced by their family of origin and often believe that parents have absolute authority at home.

Of course, parents have different motives behind controlling their children's behavior. Some parents are perfectionists, while others are afraid that their children will repeat the mistakes they made when they were young. These behaviors may be perceived as protection by parents, but in fact, they often cause depression and harm to children.

I'm here to give you a little encouragement and help you understand your parents' motives.

Since you asked the question here on the platform, I'd also love to give you some simple advice.

It's also a good idea to learn how to spot controlling behaviors.

Sometimes parents may ask a lot of questions, but it's not necessarily a sign that they're controlling. It doesn't mean they're a controlling person or a bad parent. A controlling parent will control others in a specific way.

Some of these methods are pretty obvious, while others are a bit more subtle. Control behavior can come in many forms, from outright criticism to veiled threats.

If you notice any of the following signs in your parents, it might make you think they want to be in control.

They'll always find something to criticize you for, like your appearance, attitude, or the choices you make.

Threatening to hurt you or yourself, for example, saying, "If you don't come home right now, I'll kill myself!"

Guilt-tripping you into doing things you don't want to do is another common tactic. For example, a mother might say, "I was in pain for the whole 18 hours of giving birth to you, and now you won't even stay with me for a few hours?"

They might also monitor you or not respect your privacy, like casually going through your room or secretly checking your phone messages when you're away.

It's so important to understand the motives of the parents in treating the questioner.

I'd love to understand why the parents of the questioner treat the questioner this way. Were they also treated this way when they were young? And were the parents also taught this way by the older generation in their family when they were young?

The lovely mother has already learned how to communicate with her children from her own family. This is a model that she has imprinted in her heart, and she will also bring this model into the family she forms.

It's only natural for parents to want to be strong and disciplined when it comes to raising their kids.

It's so important to understand your parents' motives. When you understand why they did what they did, you can release your emotions, deal with your negativity more calmly, and remain more composed.

So, if the questioner understands their parents' motives, they'll realize that their parents are just continuing the patterns they learned from their own parents. It's not that they don't care about their children — it's just that they're following a set of rules that they were taught. Is there anything worthy of sympathy?

It's time to face the influence that parents have on you.

It would be really helpful to understand what influence parents have had on the questioner. We'd also love to know what triggered the depression and suppression of the parents on the questioner.

It's important for elders to gently point out mistakes children make. This is just one way parents influence their children. The questioner can try writing down some of the ways their parents have influenced them.

Then the questioner can try to figure out for themselves whether these views are right, whether they were brought to the questioner by their parents, or whether they are just their own feelings. Try to argue with these views brought to the questioner by their parents based on the personalities shown by their friends around them, and see whether these views are common in society or just their own views.

If it's just your own opinion and not everyone thinks the same way, then you can see that these are the influences your parents have brought upon you.

It's so important to learn to be honest with yourself.

If your parents are trying to control you, and they've shaped who you are, how can you break free from their influence? Should you let them control your every word and action?

Or should you face it bravely? This is a great opportunity for you to learn to be honest with yourself. When you're able to face your concerns head-on, you'll be able to avoid repeating the mistakes when forming your own nuclear family.

It's totally normal to feel depressed and struggle to get along with your parents. These feelings and behaviors are often influenced by your original family. If you're not ready to face these issues on your own, it might be challenging to make changes. But don't worry! You can start by simply listing the ways your family has shaped you.

Let's assume their family is normal.

It can be tough for the questioner to change the behavior and thinking of their parents. It's something you have to accept as a reality. The questioner can assume that their parents are normal parents who are not very strong. So, what would the questioner be like?

If the original family of the questioner was a normal family, with a kind father and a gentle and virtuous mother, what do you think the questioner would be like? I'm sure you can imagine this scenario. Although this imagination cannot change the questioner's original family, it can help the questioner build up a better self-confidence, so that the questioner can face friends they meet and even face their fears head-on.

It's so important to remember that our thoughts are really open to our own influence. As long as you give yourself some lovely, positive suggestions and learn how to interact with others as a normal family member, you'll slowly start to change into the wonderful person you want to be. If you slowly get rid of the influence of your original family and act like you are not affected, you'll really start to feel like you're not influenced by your parents.

I really think you should seek professional psychological support.

If you feel like you don't know how to handle intimate relationships because of your parents' influence, you can definitely try to seek professional psychological support. I would highly recommend that you look for some psychological counselors or listeners on some psychological platforms, and just pour out your troubles to these professionals. I truly believe that they can help you get rid of your mother's influence and learn how to face it.

In life, it's so important to have friends you can talk to. Having people you can pour your heart out to is such a great way to feel secure inside again and gradually become stronger. It's also a wonderful way to free yourself from the influence of your parents!

When you can start to face up to how your parents have influenced you and be honest with yourself, you can start to reward yourself for all your amazing efforts. You'll find that you'll be able to stand up for yourself and move away from the influence of your parents.

I really hope my answer helps the questioner!

Hello, I'm a heart exploration coach named Fly.

You feel their pain, and you long for intimacy and wealth, but when these things come near you, you resist. The conflict and the struggle are unbearable for you. Perhaps it would be helpful to give yourself a warm hug and take a look at the problem together.

?1. Our relationships may be influenced by our experiences with our parents.

It would be fair to say that you have an unfulfilled longing for recognition from your parents. You long to be seen, recognized, and understood.

However, being criticized, blamed, and rejected time and time again by your parents, and being constantly suppressed, has caused your values to decrease, which may have led to feelings of self-doubt and self-negation, as well as sensitivity and suspicion, and a sense of inferiority.

In a parenting style like this, you may have developed your own set of coping mechanisms. You may have created a safe space for yourself by distancing yourself from your parents.

But inside, you still have expectations for your parents' love and acceptance. You are both looking forward to it and a little afraid of it, afraid that if you have it, you might lose it again.

In order to avoid the pain of loss, you have learned to avoid asking for what you need.

It is worth noting that parents' affirmation, praise, and recognition of us are very important.

A child who is often affirmed, praised, and recognized by their parents tends to have a high sense of self-worth, is full of energy, and expresses confidence. It seems that the positive feedback he receives from his parents contributes to his confidence in himself, and this confidence seems to be intrinsic, as though it is simply a reflection of who he is.

As we experience our parents' love and unconditional acceptance, we gradually develop the capacity to love and connect with others. We learn to love ourselves, to accept the love of others, and to love others in return.

I believe these are the "psychological nutrients" we need to help us grow and develop physically and mentally in a healthy way.

When there is a lack of psychological nourishment, it can lead to feelings of insecurity and a difficulty in loving others. The heart is naturally thirsty and will keep searching for ways to feel safe and loved. To achieve a sense of inner security and to fully enjoy these feelings, it may be helpful to address any underlying issues.

It seems that a sense of security is related to a person's sense of worth, which in turn may come back to the level of affirmation, praise, and recognition that our parents give us.

3. Some suggestions on how to achieve self-growth and self-salvation

You have been on this journey of self-discovery for quite some time, and it has undoubtedly been a challenging one. You have experienced feelings of a lack of inner abundance, a lack of security, and you have also faced the challenge of severe depression.

When a person is lacking in some way, they may turn to external, material things to fill the inner emptiness.

It is akin to an abyss: "When you gaze into the abyss, the abyss gazes back at you." Perhaps the only way to be saved is to turn inward.

When we are internally rich, we find that the outside world follows suit.

When you were young, you did not have complete independence or judgment, and your parents' "ignorance" and limitations inadvertently caused you serious harm. This was not your fault.

It's possible that they don't fully understand how to love and protect you, or how to express their love for you. It's also possible that they're experiencing similar challenges.

When you become an adult, you have the opportunity to be your own "significant other" and provide yourself with psychological nourishment. You are stronger than you think, dear you. Learning can empower you and rewrite a new chapter in your life.

"You should fly to your mountain like a bird" has always resonated with me. It is the author's autobiography and offers a compelling model for transforming one's destiny. I believe that self-growth, awakening, and self-salvation can be achieved through learning.

You might also find it helpful to read the book "Psychological Nutrition" at the same time. Many of the challenges we face in life can be traced back to a lack of "psychological nutrition." Writing and meditation can be powerful tools for fostering inner peace and clarity. When we are calm enough, our original wisdom will naturally emerge. Through writing, we can gain insights into our patterns and emotional needs.

If you feel it would be helpful, you can consider using the power of psychological counseling to achieve self-healing through professional techniques.

I hope these words are helpful to you. I also want to express my love for you and for the world.

If you would like to continue the conversation, you are welcome to click on "Find a Coach" in the upper right corner or at the bottom of the page. I would be delighted to communicate and grow with you one-on-one.

I hope you can find comfort in the embrace of the questioner. I hope you feel some warmth and support, and I hope my answer can be of some help to you.

From what you've shared, it seems like you've been trying to break free from the patterns of your past and become more aware of your own tendencies. You're aware of how your upbringing has shaped you, and you're seeking change, but it might not be as evident as you'd like. It's understandable if you feel discouraged or even blame yourself. However, it's important to remember that you're not to blame. Have faith that things will gradually improve and that we can break this cycle and establish more positive patterns.

If I might offer you a suggestion, it would be this:

If you can manage your relationship with yourself, it may also positively impact your other relationships.

You mention that the voice that belittles and criticizes you is always there, and the people and things around you seem to reflect this. This may be due to a psychological phenomenon called "projection," where we project our inner feelings, emotions, and thoughts onto others. When you feel that you are not good enough, you may tend to believe that others also think you are not good enough; when you don't like yourself, you might feel that others don't like you either; when you consistently belittle yourself, you may sense that others are also using similar words to criticize you.

It might be surprising to learn that this is not actually the case. As long as we can adjust our inner feelings, emotions, and thoughts, then the external world we perceive will also be different. And when your emotional quotient is relatively high and your thinking is positive, then the things and people you attract will also be more positive. This is what we call "tuning in."

It may be helpful to consider that if we want to change other relationships in our lives, whether they be intimate relationships, relationships with friends, or relationships with money, adjusting our relationship with ourselves could be a beneficial step. When we can reconcile with ourselves, accept ourselves, identify with ourselves, and believe in ourselves, it may be that we naturally attract positive and harmonious relationships.

2. Consider embracing the limitations of your family of origin and learning to be your own inner parent.

It can be challenging to change our parents because they are also influenced by their own original family and have become the way they are now. It's important to accept that they are imperfect beings and not have too high expectations of them. We should try to see them for who they really are, recognizing that they have limitations and may not be able to give us what we need.

If they themselves are unable to provide a sense of security and love, it is perhaps understandable that they are unable to provide these things to us. It may therefore be helpful to accept and acknowledge that they are just the way they are.

It is important to recognize that we are the primary source of support for our own lives. While others can offer us valuable assistance, we have the capacity to provide for ourselves in ways that others cannot.

It might be helpful to consider that within us, there are two parts: one that is particularly vulnerable and helpless, which could be seen as our inner child; and another that is warm and powerful, which can give us support and love. This could be thought of as our inner parent. It may be beneficial to identify our inner resources and learn to be our own inner parent, giving ourselves the care, nurturing, approval, support, affirmation, encouragement, and love that we want.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider what you expect from your parents. You may find it beneficial to give yourself the same care and attention you would give to someone else, and to take care of your own needs and feelings. This could help you to feel more powerful.

3. It may be helpful to practice self-identification on a regular basis to enhance your sense of self-worth.

You might find it helpful to practice in the mirror to improve your sense of self-identification. For example, you could set a regular time, twice in the morning and twice in the evening, to look at yourself in the mirror, look into your eyes, and say, "I approve of myself!" Louise Hay, the author of "Life Rebuilding," suggests that this exercise is most effective when done 300 to 400 times, and it can have a significant effect. It's important to persevere with the practice!

As an alternative, you might like to try the following self-identification exercise:

If I might suggest, begin by looking for feelings of warmth. Find a comfortable position that suits you, whether that means closing your eyes or keeping them slightly open. Whatever you do, make sure you feel relaxed.

If you are able to do so, you might like to place your hands on your heart or wrap your arms around yourself and see if you can mentally picture the person who is most important to you, someone warm and someone you can trust. If you cannot visualize this important person, you can also imagine the feeling.

If you are able to do so, please proceed to the next step.

If you could, please specify. Focus on that person and make their image clearer, paying attention to the sensations in your body.

Could I ask whether you feel relaxed or tense?

If you're experiencing feelings of fear or worry, you're not alone. Many people find themselves grappling with these emotions at one point or another.

Take a moment to notice the sensations in your body. If you notice tension or stress, allow yourself to stay with that sensation and become more aware of that part of your body. After you have done this, you can write down your feelings.

I wish you the best. If it is helpful, try to imagine someone important to you and imagine that they would say the following words to you: (If you don't find the following words helpful, feel free to use your own words.) Complete this exercise at least 10 times.

You may also choose to write down your feelings: may you be at peace, may you be happy, may you be healthy, and may you receive more love.

If you find yourself feeling belittled and in a bad mood, you can soothe yourself in the way described above. While we cannot change our early experiences, we can choose how we respond to them in the present moment.

If you can learn to take care of the child inside who feels belittled, and give her unconditional acceptance and love, and spend more time with yourself, you may find that you can gain inner harmony and strength, and open up a brand new mode of life.

Please note that the above is for reference only. Wishing you all the best!

Hello, I'm Gu Yi. I try to be humble and modest, just like a valley.

It would be beneficial to gain knowledge about intimate relationships.

It is a painful experience to destroy something you love with your own hands. Living with this fact will undoubtedly have a negative impact on your state of mind.

From birth, we naturally form close relationships with our parents, and then move on to more complex relationships. It is therefore important to ensure that we receive the love and support we need from our parents, as this will help us to grow up in a healthy way.

In the past, we were young and perhaps didn't have the self-awareness that we have now. It's important to recognize that we've grown up and have the ability to perceive ourselves more accurately. At this time, it would be beneficial for us to have a new understanding and plan for ourselves, and to face ourselves bravely.

If I might offer a suggestion or two:

Perhaps it would be helpful to take a step back from the past and focus on establishing your own intimate relationship. Most relationships feel quite comfortable at the beginning, with a little mystery. However, as the relationship progresses, it's natural for the nuances to become apparent, and it can be challenging to see the flaws.

It is important to recognize that we have the capacity to thrive when we are in our strengths, but we may face challenges when it comes to our weaknesses. To navigate these differences and build a stronger relationship, it is essential to make adjustments to our mindset.

It's important to remember that the past does not necessarily reflect the future. Even if we were unable to do something in the past, we can still learn and grow, with the right mindset and approach. It's essential to be patient with ourselves and with others, as this can help us to see things differently.

I wish you the best.