It was fine the first few times, but this time, after the counseling, I couldn't sleep?

Good day, question asker!

My name is Sunshine Dolphin Floaty, and I'm a psychological counselor.

From reading your entire narrative, I sense a certain inner anxiety. I am unsure of the number of unresolved issues in your heart that may be contributing to your current state of mind. If I could, I would offer you a hug, as if I were embracing my own self from years past.

I hope you can find it in your heart to forgive yourself and resolve all the previously unresolved issues in the course of counseling.

I'm not sure how many times you've had counseling or if you were given homework each time. You mentioned financial problems in your narrative, which is unfortunate. I hope that this time, with the help of medication and counseling, you can overcome your past difficulties, forgive yourself, reconcile with your past self, accept yourself and those around you, and persevere.

I hope you don't mind me saying that your narrative made me think of a small, frail woman carrying a heavy burden.

From what I can gather from reading your narrative, I get the impression of a small, frail woman.

You are carrying a burden that is much heavier than you. It is challenging to move forward.

I can imagine that your body is tired. It seems as though you have a lot of grievances in your heart.

It can be challenging to find a safe space to express your emotions, especially when you feel like there's nowhere to vent. Even minor issues can trigger fluctuations in your emotions if you don't have a way to process them.

Despite your best efforts to remain calm, you still found yourself losing your temper.

Could I ask why that is?

As women, we often take on a great many responsibilities within our families.

Perhaps we have been carrying for too long, taking up too much space and time.

As a result, my husband has been unable to find the time or space to perform. Perhaps it would be beneficial for us to take a moment to rest.

Perhaps it would be helpful to observe your husband's performance. It's not that your husband is weak.

Perhaps it's because we're so strong that we don't give him a chance. Could I suggest that we let go of some of that strength and give him a chance, okay?

?‍♂️The pressure of work and the pressure of family. It seems that life has presented you with a great deal of challenges.

Perhaps you haven't had much time to take care of yourself or love yourself. From now on, let's try to find ways to love ourselves, if you're open to that.

Perhaps you're unsure of how to love yourself. It might help to learn to let go.

One way to begin loving yourself is to make your life simple.

I wonder if I might ask you to consider the following.

Following this consultation, I experienced some difficulty sleeping.

If you're unable to sleep, it might be helpful to use that time to focus on healing and self-care. It can be beneficial to make peace with your past self when you're struggling to fall asleep.

Perhaps you could look for that trivial thing deep in your memory. It might be helpful to think about whether he is worth losing your temper over.

If you had the chance to do it all over again, would you still react in the same way? It might be helpful to resolve one small issue from your day each night.

Perhaps you could give yourself a satisfactory answer, and then go to sleep happily.

Could I just check whether that's okay?

?‍♂️In fact, during the counseling process, something occurred that made it challenging for you to fall asleep afterwards.

This suggests that you are already taking an interest in yourself. I imagine you spent some time thinking while you couldn't sleep.

If you find yourself dwelling on something negative, it might help to offer yourself some comfort.

You might like to consider cuddling yourself under the covers to give yourself some security.

If I may suggest, try allowing your heart to feel warm. When you do, you may find that the warmth flows to your limbs.

Your whole body will feel relaxed, and you will fall asleep slowly.

I hope you're able to persevere through this. I'm optimistic that you'll feel better soon.

I have a great deal of respect for the field of psychology.

Dear questioner,

I'm Kelly. Let's figure this out together.

Due to my personality, physical problems, bad encounters, and various setbacks (nothing serious),

We all say that our personalities are partly innate and influenced by biology and environment.

My mother has a short temper. I have been dealing with her mood swings since I was two or three years old. I was fine when I was outside, especially after I got married. For a period of time, my bad temper was exactly the same as my mother's.

My husband said my personality was bad and he couldn't accept it.

I also found a psychologist. I learned that my bad personality was caused by my early parenting style and the suppression of my emotions.

With the help of a counselor, I learned to recognize when I was having a bad temper and found some of my own problems.

We often say that life is full of trivial matters. We all argue and get emotional over trivial things.

For example:

My husband can't wash vegetables well. I used to get angry.

He might not have done the housework. I need to be more patient and show him how to do it.

Tell him the consequences of not washing it cleanly.

After communicating, he can now do a good job. I just changed my communication style.

Tell him he's making progress.

Since the 15th attack, it has gradually worsened. I have had dizziness, chest tightness, shortness of breath, numbness, weak limbs, mental confusion, fatigue, cold, and fear. In summer, I wear thermal pants and long-sleeved shirts. I also have trembling hands and feet and an inability to speak. The duration has increased from ten minutes to the entire morning. I started taking medicine in the winter of 2000.

The illness came and went. Is "15" referring to 15 years?

Is 15 years? Did something happen this year?

Do you feel like something wasn't communicated clearly?

Talk to a counselor while taking medication to understand why you're feeling bad.

This passage shows your repressed emotions and physical reactions.

Emotions affect our health.

I also lost my temper for no reason and realized some issues were suppressing me.

After the baby was born, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law didn't get along, and my husband's attitude made me angry.

I often find fault with him and see things that annoy me. We didn't communicate clearly and didn't like each other's company.

I'm getting short-tempered, and he's getting indifferent.

The couple's relationship affects the children.

I'm grateful to psychology for helping me understand my husband's issues with his mother-in-law.

I feel insecure if he doesn't help me. I hope he will help me, but I don't tell him.

After studying psychology and reading Nonviolent Communication, I learned to tell him my true thoughts and he learned to understand me.

Love yourself and take care of your health.

After the epidemic, I have seen that many people are stressed and scared by the new situation. This has affected our psychology, and this is a common problem for a large part of the population. Because of this, I will live each day to the fullest.

[About medication and treatment]

Take your medicine on time.

Be more aware of your emotions. When you're angry, tell yourself to love yourself more.

Is anger helpful? Can it solve problems?

Think about yourself.

Take a break. Count to 10, drink some water, or read a book.

If money is an issue, tell your counselor. They might be able to recommend a cheaper counselor or teacher. You can find the right one for you.

You can also learn about psychology to understand yourself better.

I had a conflict with a colleague and had an acute attack. The doctor increased my medication and advised me to take it on time, get regular psychological treatment, strengthen my nutrition, exercise regularly, undergo light therapy, change my environment, or take a six-month leave. I took a month's leave at home.

My boss gave me some temporary work. My last few therapy sessions went well.

Why can't I sleep after seeing a counselor?

Acute attacks are triggered by external stimuli. You dealt with them promptly by going to the doctor.

Do what your doctor says.

Eat right, exercise, and get sun.

Take care of yourself.

If you feel better, maybe your work problems will too.

Psychology and counseling take time to work. If you can see some problems and learn to solve them, you will have better relationships with others.

If you can't sleep after counseling, it's probably because:

1: Did a counselor's words resonate with you?

2: Does thinking cause insomnia?

3: Insomnia is nothing to worry about.

4: Relax and feel your emotions.

5: Talk to yourself and keep a diary.

6: Use psychology in your everyday life to help you solve problems.

7: Keep learning.

Happy New Year!

To keep talking, click "Find a coach" in the top right or bottom. I'll talk to you one-on-one.

Hello. From what you've said, it seems like you're feeling a bit confused, a little disappointed with psychological counseling, and a little worried about yourself. It's clear that your mental health is a bit off-kilter, and you've already started experiencing some physical symptoms. You're eager to improve, so when you started having trouble sleeping, you got a little anxious and a little skeptical about psychological counseling. I get it, and I really hope I can reassure you.

I'd like to ask you a few questions about your insomnia. How long have you been experiencing it, and has it always been this bad?

I think there are probably a few different situations where you might run into this problem.

First, mental health problems can cause a lot of physical symptoms on their own.

Your psychological problems have been getting better for several years now, and you've experienced a lot of physical discomfort, similar to what you'd expect from a panic attack. It seems like you've never sought psychological counseling, though, and you've only been treated with medication.

If you just take medicine, you're only controlling it with medication, and you're only solving your physical condition. Your psychological problems have been piling up like this, so you're prone to relapse. For example, if you say you have a quarrel with your husband, you'll relapse.

Mental health problems can cause a lot of physical discomfort, and it's not uncommon to experience early awakening, insomnia, and sleepiness.

Second, psychological counseling works on the human heart and will touch on some deep-seated issues.

Psychological counseling is about exploring your inner world. The counselor will help you figure out what's going on inside you, and you'll have to think about your worries and pains. When you think about the past, some things will make you sad, cause emotions, and even feel unbearable, which will affect your sleep for a long time. Psychological problems don't develop overnight, and it takes time to adjust to feeling better. In the meantime, there will indeed be discomfort and pain.

Third, it's possible that the counselor's approach isn't right for you, which is putting too much pressure on you.

How qualified is your counselor? Have they got a lot of experience?

Your psychological issues have been going on for a while, so you need a counselor who can handle them. If you feel that your insomnia is quite serious and has not improved after a few days, you can talk to your counselor to see how to make adjustments. This way, the counselor will get to know you better and make appropriate changes.

Similarly, your counselor will adjust the treatment plan as needed based on your changing condition.

I hope this will put your mind at ease and give you a little confidence and strength.

Hello, I'll do my best to answer your questions. By posting your question here, you've shown that you're determined to make a change and that you're looking for better ways to handle the situation.

You're taking the initiative here, and I admire your courage. I'm happy to help.

I typically answer questions with a few brief sentences because it takes a lot of brainpower to type, and it's quite taxing. I hope you can take some time to reflect on my answer.

When I saw your question, I knew I could use my knowledge to help you find the root cause. Events are only the surface; you need to understand the root cause before you can find a solution.

1. Wearing thermal underwear and long-sleeved shirts in the summer is a way to protect yourself and get your body to defend you. It's like wrapping yourself up as if you're safe.

You can't be hurt. It's like protecting yourself.

2. I don't want to talk because I don't feel like it helps. I don't get much support from others.

Over time, you gradually become less inclined to speak up. How many times have you had a relapse?

Is this the second time? You need to follow the doctor's advice.

Take the medicine. It's designed to boost serotonin production in the neocortex.

Serotonin is a chemical produced in the body that can make people feel happy. It's important to take your medication on time, as prescribed by your doctor.

There are lots of ways to boost serotonin in the brain. Things like exercise, video games (which is why video games are addictive), watching your favorite TV series, eating your favorite food, etc.

You can't rely on just one method to adjust your coping strategies. You need to use a combination of cognitive-behavioral approaches, humanistic approaches, emotional catharsis, auditory-visual processing, family systems management, and so on. The most important one is subconscious adjustment, also known as hypnosis, to change the wrong values in the subconscious.

I wish you the best of luck.

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