It's been six months since the breakup, and I still can't let go. I miss her so much, it's painful. What should I do?

Hello! It's clear from your account that you're craving those beautiful feelings of mutual understanding, caring for each other, and treating each other with all your heart. The breakup has brought a strong sense of loss, but it's also an opportunity for growth and a chance to embrace a new future.

You think the pain you feel now comes from your lack of strength, but in fact, when it comes to the emotions you cherish and the people you are in tune with, almost everyone will experience inner "weakness" – fear of loss, and the pain of separation is hard to bear. But here's the good news! In my work in psychological services, I have encountered many people who demonstrate a very powerful self in other areas. And you can be one of them! All you have to do is recognize that your feelings of worry about gaining and losing, fear that you are not good enough, and fear that if you lose, you will never get a good relationship again are just your mind playing tricks on you. They are not real. They are just thoughts. And thoughts can be changed. You can change them!

So, let's not be too hard on ourselves in relationships! Instead of using confrontation and control to deal with "loss," let's try to understand and accept why we can't let go. Often, a part of our core needs has been met in the past, but we can't find this satisfaction in our current lives. This sense of loss constantly reminds us to look back and search for satisfying experiences in our memories. However, this state of mind can also prevent us from exploring new relationships and finding self-care in our lives here and now.

Emotional sensitivity and attention to detail are traits that many people like and admire. You can give yourself a firm appreciation and love! We know that intimacy is a process of exploration, and it is inevitable that you will experience some difficulties and setbacks in finding a compatible other half who is willing to go the distance. But that's all part of the journey!

As part of the growth process, all experiences can help you better understand yourself and provide invaluable experience for establishing new relationships in the future!

To alleviate the pain of a broken heart, in addition to accepting your emotions and giving yourself time to heal, it is more important to focus on the present and immerse yourself in life. Expand your horizons with an open mind at work, school, in your relationships, and with your hobbies, and see and experience your own energy.

You can choose something you've always wanted to do but haven't started yet, and start today! Take that first step and watch your mood change as you make progress. It's amazing how cognition, emotion, and behavior are all connected. Sometimes we start with cognition to promote change, and sometimes we need to adjust cognition through action.

Good day, question asker. My name is June Lai Feng.

It is not uncommon to experience an inability to move on from a breakup and a persistent longing for the other person, particularly if the relationship was deeply meaningful and accompanied by cherished memories. However, it is crucial to recognize that this state of prolonged distress is not a permanent condition. To effectively navigate this challenging phase and emerge stronger, it is essential to learn to confront and manage these emotions in a constructive manner.

It is understandable that one might have numerous questions and doubts at this time, such as "Why is it so difficult to let go?" and "Why do I still experience such a strong sense of longing for her?"

These are all typical responses.

First, it may be challenging to alter our perception of the relationship, persisting in the belief that "we should have been together." This difficulty in reconstructing our perceptions can prolong the recovery process. In particular, the individual who has been broken up with may find it even more difficult to accept this reality.

Furthermore, the support of family members and the understanding of friends are also of great importance. In the absence of such support, individuals may experience heightened feelings of isolation and helplessness, which can impede their ability to move on from the breakup.

Furthermore, if one has linked one's self-worth to the approval of one's former partner and the success of the relationship, the dissolution of the relationship may result in significant damage to one's self-esteem and sense of self-worth, thereby causing considerable distress.

Ultimately, the abrupt transition from a shared daily presence and company to a sudden absence can be a painful process, particularly when the memories of the relationship are constantly reinforced.

However, it is a challenging process to become stronger and to move on from the relationship. It requires time and effort.

It is recommended that one first accept the reality of the situation, acknowledge the fact of the breakup, and avoid avoiding or denying one's feelings. It is important to allow oneself to experience the pain, while also learning to release these emotions.

It is possible to identify a secure and conducive environment in which to express one's emotions. Both crying and talking to another person represent effective methods of doing so.

It is only when this truth is accepted that the healing process can begin.

Additionally, it is essential to adopt a new perspective when contemplating past experiences. While memories are undoubtedly valuable, it is crucial to avoid becoming overly fixated on them.

It is important to learn from the experience, to cherish the positive memories, and to confront reality with courage. Despite the dissolution of the relationship, the experience has contributed to personal growth, enhancing maturity and resilience.

It is also important to allow oneself sufficient time and space to process the situation. While this period may be challenging, with the right approach and determination, it is possible to emerge from it with a renewed sense of happiness.

It is commonly acknowledged that heartbreak is a painful experience. However, it can also be viewed as an opportunity for personal growth. To benefit from this opportunity, it is necessary to learn to let go of the past and free oneself from it.

I am aware that this may be challenging to accept, but I assure you that time is indeed a powerful healer.

It is imperative to maintain a positive outlook, verbalize affirmations to oneself on a daily basis, and have an optimistic expectation of the future. It is essential to prioritize one's own needs and growth.

It is recommended that the individual cultivate new interests and hobbies, participate in social activities, focus on self-improvement, and make themselves more confident and attractive.

It is important to note that the process of ending a relationship is not an immediate one. It is a gradual process that requires time to unfold. With patience and time, one can emerge from the pain and find happiness again.

One must possess the conviction in one's intrinsic fortitude and confront adversity with fortitude and courage.

In conclusion, it can be stated that every individual is deserving of happiness and joy. The world and I extend our love to you all, and it is my sincere hope that you will soon find your own happiness.

Persevere!

Hello, question asker! I have a feeling when I read your question: it seems like you broke up too easily.

You have been in love for two years, have been devoted to each other, and have had a wonderful time together. But she told me that she wanted to find someone local to marry, so we broke up. You say you are reluctant to let go, but you can still fight for it when you encounter a difficult situation!

In my experience, some lovers say they are breaking up just to see how it feels, not because they really want to break up. And it's a great way to find out where they stand in the other person's heart!

You said, "I always get affected by my partner in a relationship. If my partner shows signs of unease and has no confidence in the relationship, and wants to give up, I will also feel insecure, want to escape and leave, and become self-doubting and sentimental." But you're ready to change that!

It seems that your breakup was not due to the practical difficulties of living in different places and her marrying someone else. It was probably because neither of you had enough confidence or determination to face the practical difficulties together. But that's OK! You can work on that.

At least, at the time of the breakup, you didn't realize that she meant so much to you. Now you have the chance to realize just how much! You still can't let go after six months, but you will be able to.

You were the one who got broken up with, and you're hung up on the past. It's also possible that you're obsessed with being broken up with, not because she means so much to you.

If you really feel that you will never meet someone as good as him again in this life, you can definitely try to win him back! Many couples have gone through periods of separation and reunion, and you can do it too!

If you want to become strong inside, let go of this relationship and learn to let go. Just do the things in front of you and cherish the people in front of you!

When you're in a pickle, do something to distract and release your emotions! Try traveling, reading, writing, or meeting up with friends. Time heals all wounds, so just give it a little time and it'll naturally fade.

Dear question asker,

A relationship that was previously a source of joy, attachment, and intimacy can evoke a profound sense of distress, reluctance, and anguish upon its dissolution.

In light of the aforementioned description of the relationship, two lines of poetry came to mind: "Among the three thousand rivers, I only take a ladleful to drink," and "After seeing the vast ocean, ordinary water seems shallow; after visiting Mount Wushan, ordinary cloud seems not cloud at all."

In other words, the realization in a relationship is that this person is the only one in the world with whom one desires to maintain a long-term relationship, and that no other individual can be considered a suitable comparison.

It is this exquisite human emotion that has resulted in the transmission of innumerable poems throughout history.

This is why one cannot simply let her go at this moment, given the depth of involvement in the relationship. If it was of significant importance, it will likely continue to play a role in future relationships.

This is the realization that has been derived from this relationship.

As the adage states, there is no genuine loss in the world, for loss is another form of gain. In this case, the loss was the relationship itself, along with the companionship and anticipation that came with it. However, this loss has also brought about a deeper understanding of oneself.

"You lack a sense of security in relationships, are sentimental, not confident enough, and not brave enough," therefore, you wish to alter your personality.

The issue at hand is not the separation itself, but rather the tendency to ascribe blame to oneself. By developing greater strength of character, one can cultivate the courage and resolve to pursue one's desires. Even in the absence of consistent effort from the other party, one can maintain confidence in one's ability to provide happiness.

It is a noteworthy phenomenon that individuals aspire to undergo personal transformation. In contrast to the prevalent inclination to seek external validation, there are a limited number of individuals who possess a genuine understanding of themselves and are motivated to pursue change in response to their own shortcomings.

I would like to commend you for your courage and understanding.

The process of self-change is a significant and time-consuming undertaking. There is no need for concern.

The initial step is to comprehend the factors that have shaped your current identity. This may appear somewhat paradoxical, but it entails identifying the reasons behind your heightened sensitivity and lack of assurance in relationships. Uncovering the fundamental cause is a crucial first step.

The second step is to accept oneself as one is, despite any feelings of inadequacy or discomfort. When faced with challenges, it is natural to seek ways to avoid confronting them directly. This is an inherent human tendency, or what is commonly referred to as a "defense mechanism."

There is no definitive answer as to whether a particular action is right or wrong.

Ultimately, individuals should allow themselves the time to alter those aspects of their lives that can be modified. It is possible to discern whether a lack of confidence manifests in other contexts, such as at work, in one's personal life, and in relationships with others. Practicing in everyday situations can facilitate this recognition.

It is important to note that change does not occur instantaneously; rather, it is a gradual process. When the emotion of "escaping" resurfaces, it is crucial to allow oneself the opportunity to take the initiative in establishing a dialogue. This dialogue should encompass the expression of genuine feelings and expectations. Furthermore, it is essential to recognize that achieving one's aspirations is a gradual process, requiring patience and persistence.

I am confident that you will achieve success. Best wishes!

Hello, question asker. Reading your words is like meeting you in person.

You've done a good job of describing your feelings and current state. This shows how much this relationship means to you. I feel for you!

Let's talk about the confusion you mentioned.

You said, "It's been almost half a year since the breakup, and I still can't let go. I miss her so much." What I want to know is:

1. Does anyone know you can't let go and miss her?

2. Did they help you let go?

3. What beliefs and feelings have you held onto since breaking up with her?

4. Have you had any big experiences since you broke up?

5. Do you feel any changes in yourself now compared to six months ago?

I appreciate you more now than I did six months ago. You went through a lot with your ex, and she was good to you. You think about her sometimes, and I believe you treated her well. But time has passed.

I understand your feelings of wanting to escape, lack of confidence, and sentimentality. Only partners who value relationships will have these states, so I don't think it's strange for someone to experience them after a breakup. You've taken the step of coming to the platform for help because you've faced your feelings head-on. Not everyone can do that.

You said you feel like you'll never meet someone as good as her again. You also said you don't feel strong enough inside. You said in a relationship, you are influenced by your partner. If your partner acts insecurely, you will feel insecure too. Here are a few things to think about:

What kind of relationship makes you feel safe?

2. What strengths can you bring to the relationship?

3. Have you ever been weak in your relationship?

The most healing aspect of an intimate relationship is not who gives the other person a sense of security, but rather the ability to warm each other up.

How do I change and become stronger? How do I let go?

People who love you don't need you to change or be strong. They want to see the real you.

When you feel at ease around someone, she might be your "destined one." She may first appear in various ways, but it depends on you both.

That's all for now. I hope this helps you get over your broken heart.

Take care of yourself.

Hello.

I understand your negative emotional experience of "it's been six months since the breakup, and I still can't let go."

I would like to offer some observations for your reference.

The questioner clearly states the psychological experiences of missing their ex-partner, feeling unable to let go, and feeling bad.

This experience proves that the breakup has significantly impacted your sense of security.

Safety is Maslow's second-lowest need, right after physiological. It's a very strong need.

Once your sense of security is shaken, it will affect your state of mind, causing you to make subjective judgments and assessments of yourself and your surroundings that are not objective. This is a natural consequence of the situation.

Regardless of the reason, there are still several different stages in the psychological development that characterize the aftermath of a breakup.

You are still experiencing high levels of psychological pressure six months after the breakup.

A failed relationship will undoubtedly lead to changes in mood and the emergence of irrational thoughts and ideas. These may include beliefs such as "I'll never meet someone as good as him again," "I want to escape and leave," and "I'm not confident, I'm sentimental."

However, this reluctance to face reality and accept the facts after a breakup, coupled with the tendency to dwell on negative thoughts, is also a natural psychological defense mechanism.

You will accept reality, view and analyze the fact of being heartbroken rationally, and come out of the shadow of being heartbroken as long as you let things settle for a period of time.

Once you understand the above analysis, you must understand your own boundaries to get out of the shadow of the breakup.

An open attitude towards each other with clear boundaries is the best way to deal with a breakup.

You must communicate with each other frankly about any issues that need to be resolved and set clear boundaries. This is the only way to establish a healthier relationship.

Talk to other friends to relieve your emotions.

You can also release your emotions and reduce stress by yelling, singing, exercising, etc.

Once you've reduced your stress level, you can calm yourself down, think carefully about the causes and consequences, and then reflect on and summarize them.

You should learn about the psychology of relationships and use that knowledge to improve your thinking and judgment.

Set some goals in life, work, and study that interest you. Break them down into smaller goals, achieve them gradually, and reward yourself for each success.

This will distract your attention, enhance your self-confidence, and gradually reduce your anxiety about discomfort and pain.

If the above does not relieve your discomfort and pain in time, you must seek help from a psychologist. They will provide more professional, specific, and personalized guidance and suggestions to help you relieve stress.

Ultimately, time is the best medicine. It's as simple as that.

I am confident that the above will be of some help to you!

Questioner, many people feel this way when they're heartbroken. You pay a lot of attention to relationships and are easily affected by others' emotions.

This makes you a loving, warm partner but also vulnerable.

Here are some tips to help you get over a breakup:

Accept the breakup. It's hard, but you have to face reality to move on.

Allow yourself to grieve. Don't suppress your feelings. Find a way to release them, such as keeping a diary, talking to friends, or seeking counseling.

Reflect on your relationship and learn from it. This will help you understand yourself better and avoid repeating mistakes in future relationships.

Be confident: Build on your strengths and meet new people.

You will be more confident and may find new love.

Be independent. Don't rely on others to define your value. Think for yourself and make your own decisions.

Stay positive. Heartbreak is painful, but you can get through it. Focus on the good things in life to feel happier and more relaxed.

Seek professional help if you're having trouble getting over a breakup or if your emotions are affecting your daily life. A counselor can provide advice and support to help you cope.

Time is the best healer. You will gradually come out of the shadow of the broken relationship and find happiness again.

Be patient and confident.

Hello!

After reading your description, I totally get how you feel!

First, in your description, you wrote, "It's been almost half a year since the breakup, and I still can't let go. I miss her so much. We were in a relationship for two years."

You'll find this description in many articles about emotions or similar articles: "Animals have emotions, not to mention humans." It's fascinating how people can establish such strong and fragile emotions with each other! Just from the content of your current description, you've been in love for two years and now you've broken up.

This doesn't mean the relationship is over! It just means it's time to change things up a bit. It's not that there's no longer any affection between you and her. It's just that reality has made you and her need to get along in a different way.

Secondly, in your description, you wrote: "When we were in love, we were very attentive to each other. I am the type of person with very delicate feelings and pay attention to details. What I will never forget is that she could always pick up on my details, and I was also able to notice her little moods and comfort her. She was also very attentive to me and could accompany me. In the end, we broke up because she didn't want to marry someone from afar and wanted to find someone local. She told me that we should end it, and then we broke up." From this description, it can be seen that from an emotional point of view, the relationship between the two was relatively good. If you look at it in an extended way, the current mode of getting along is the most suitable mode for marriage. This is a mode of getting along that many people can only achieve during the stage of being in love or while the shelf life of the new feeling lasts. However, the reality is that she didn't want to marry someone from afar, which is a practical problem that doesn't involve emotions.

At this time, there's no blame to be laid at anyone's feet. The solution is simple: change the mode of getting along, from a romantic relationship to a friendship! And here's another perspective on the problem: if relationships can change from romance to friendship, why not choose to let them go?

What does letting go mean? The meaning of the psychological model is to forget or not care anymore. Why not?

You wrote in your description that you've been feeling down for the past two days. It's okay to feel this way! We've all been there. You're worried that you'll never meet someone as good as him again, and it's hard. It's natural to feel affected by the other person in a relationship. If your partner shows signs of being insecure and wants to give up, you might feel insecure and want to escape and leave. It's not easy to be confident and not be sentimental. From your description, we can see that you're focusing on this relationship. This shows that you care about it and want to make it work. There is this drama where a man also loses his lover and can't find his own lover. His psychological teacher tells him to go to his ex-lover and learn about himself from their mouths.

He'll have the chance to discover all the amazing changes he's made! It's like taking an exam, but instead of focusing on the questions you know, you get to focus on all the new things you've learned. And that's the best part! It's true in relationships too.

I've got some great suggestions for you!

1. You can transfer your emotions by exercising, traveling, and so on. It's a great way to adjust yourself!

2. Get out there and meet new people! It's a great way to distract yourself and find your own emotional support.

And remember, if you "lock yourself up" and are unable to accept the goodwill of others, that is also a failure.

3. Let go! You can't go back in time without a watch, so embrace every moment. Every emotional experience is your wealth. Although reality is cruel, it doesn't mean that you'll find your own love. Obviously, you're too obsessed with the past, but that's about to change!

The above content is for your reference only!

Dear Question Asker, I empathize with your situation.

The pain of a broken heart is akin to the harsh, piercing wind of winter, leaving you with immense heartache and confusion. You and she were once deeply in love, and those sweet memories seem like they were only yesterday, but now they have become indelible scars in your heart.

Please be assured that you are not a weak person. Your sensitivity and attention to detail enable you to fully experience the emotions of your partner in a relationship, which in turn allows you to value the relationship even more highly.

However, the impact of losing love has led you to question your inner strength. I want to assure you that inner strength is not something that can be achieved overnight. It is something that is developed over time and through experience.

In the process, I would like to provide you with some specific advice that I hope will assist you in recovering from your heartbreak and strengthening your emotional resilience.

First, accept and address your emotions. The pain and loss associated with a breakup are typical emotional responses. Avoid avoiding or suppressing these emotions.

Take some time to reflect in a quiet place, and then reassure yourself that these emotions are now part of you. You can then proceed to accept and deal with them in a considered manner.

Secondly, it is important to learn to care for and take care of yourself. Following the end of a relationship, it is natural to feel isolated and vulnerable. However, it is crucial to remember that you are not alone.

It is recommended that you engage in activities that promote relaxation and comfort, such as walking, listening to music, reading, and so forth. Additionally, it is important to prioritize maintaining a healthy diet and rest schedule to ensure optimal physical recovery.

Additionally, it may be beneficial to discuss your feelings with friends and family. They may be able to provide encouragement and support to help you cope with the pain of losing love.

Additionally, you may wish to consider joining some social groups or participating in certain activities with a view to making new friends and expanding your social circle.

Finally, it is important to allow yourself the time and space to grow and change. Being heartbroken provides an opportunity to reflect on your performance in a relationship, identify areas for improvement, and work on developing new skills.

Furthermore, it is important to maintain the belief that an even more suitable partner will emerge in the future and that you will eventually meet someone who is an ideal match.

During this period, you may find it beneficial to read some psychology books or articles, such as "Intimate Relationships," which can assist you in gaining a deeper understanding of yourself and others, while also enhancing your awareness and coping skills in relationships.

In conclusion, although heartbreak is challenging, it is also an opportunity for personal growth and change. By maintaining confidence in yourself and your future, you will be able to overcome this obstacle and find your own happiness.

Please be assured that we will always be available to provide support and encouragement. We hope that you will soon be able to find the strength to move forward, and that your future will be filled with optimism and opportunity.

Dear question asker,

After asking you these questions, I can sense the inner turmoil, the helplessness, and the frustration.

It is important to remember that feeling pain after a breakup is a very normal psychological reaction. This stems from the deep emotional bond we form in a relationship. From a psychological point of view, when we form an intimate relationship with someone, neurotransmitters such as dopamine in the brain increase, which brings us happiness and satisfaction.

After a breakup, the levels of these neurotransmitters may decline, which could potentially lead to feelings of being lost and experiencing pain. It's also important to consider that the person who ended the relationship may have previously shown a great deal of care and attention, and the same could be said of you in the relationship. This could make the wait for another opportunity even more challenging.

Perhaps it would be helpful to illustrate this point with a practical example. Imagine that when you were with your ex, you felt a pounding heart and a rush of excitement every time you saw him. This could be due to the action of neurotransmitters such as dopamine.

However, after the breakup, you may find that you are no longer able to experience this feeling. Instead, you may feel a sense of loss, anxiety and pain. This may make you miss him very much and want to go back to the good old days.

In light of these circumstances, I respectfully suggest that you consider the following methods for alleviating your pain, based on my personal experience and knowledge.

It might be helpful to accept the reality of the situation. It's understandable to feel pain when a relationship ends, and it's important to recognize that the breakup is a fact that can't be changed. Allowing yourself to feel the pain can be a part of the healing process.

It may be helpful to try to face your feelings directly, rather than trying to escape or deny them.

It may be helpful to seek support from those close to you, such as family, friends, or a counselor. They can provide emotional support and advice to help you cope better with the pain.

It is important to stay positive, even though breaking up is painful. It is helpful to believe that better people and things await you in the future. You may find it beneficial to focus on your own growth and development, and to make yourself better and more independent.

It might be helpful to try to distract yourself and cultivate new interests and hobbies to gradually get over it. It's important to remember that breaking up means that your relationship has ended, and you need to learn to let go of your obsession with and expectations of him.

In short, the pain after a breakup is a normal psychological reaction, but we can work through it and find ways to cope in a positive way. Remember, time will help you gradually move on from the pain, and you will also find your own happiness in the future.

Hello, landlord! I saw your description and I just had to reach out and give you a hug. I really hope my sharing can give you some inspiration and help!

Falling in love is wonderful! But breaking up is painful. The hardest thing for two people in love to accept is that they clearly love each other, but because of reality, they have to choose to separate.

In real life, there are so many cases where two people are forced to separate because of reality.

Parents want their children to be by their side, and that's a wonderful thing!

Your significant other's parents didn't like the idea of her moving far away to marry. As a man,

Maybe it's also because of family reasons that you're not ready to head to the woman's city just yet.

You're still stuck in grief, and I'm here to help you get out!

You gave this relationship so much, and it's time to move on.

But in the end, it broke up because of reality. And that's okay!

The relationship may have ended, but that doesn't mean life has to come to a standstill!

Let's forget the past and work hard for the future! Let's abandon all the good things of the past and start a new life.

We can travel in groups and come into contact with new things! This is a great way to replace those fleeting memories in our hearts with something more tangible and exciting.

Open up our hearts and embrace a new life! To do so, we simply need to abandon all distractions.

These are my thoughts, and I'm excited to share them with you!

Dear question asker, I can perceive the confusion you are currently experiencing, and I extend my support and encouragement to you.

The issue at hand pertains to the functioning of the human brain.

The human brain is comprised of two distinct systems: the emotional and the rational.

Your rational mind indicates that a period of six months has elapsed since the dissolution of the relationship, which is a sufficient length of time to allow for the transition to a new phase.

However, the emotional brain may still perceive the relationship as significant, given the duration of two years. Consequently, it may prove challenging to fully let go of the relationship.

It is possible that you previously spent every weekend with her, but now you are back to living alone, which may be the cause of your distress.

Indeed, the dissolution of a romantic relationship can be a traumatic experience, and the healing process may require time.

In the period preceding her return, it would be beneficial to engage in leisure activities and maintain a full schedule.

When one has a multitude of activities to occupy one's time, the fact of the breakup will become less salient.

In the event that you are unable to move on from your relationship, you may wish to consider travelling alone during the May holiday period.

It is possible that a change of environment, returning to the city in which you currently reside, may result in a more positive state of mind.

Should you remain uncertain, it would be advisable to consult with a qualified professional counselor.

A counselor is a trained professional who can provide more effective guidance on navigating challenging phases of a breakup.

It is my sincere hope that the problem you are currently experiencing can be resolved in the near future.

At this juncture, my thoughts are solely directed towards the aforementioned subject matter.

It is my sincere hope that my above answer will prove both helpful and inspiring to you, the questioner. As the answerer, I endeavor to provide thoughtful and well-researched responses on a daily basis.

I extend my best wishes to you, and I wish you well at Yixinli.

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Hello. I am Bai Li Yina, and I am here to provide you with the support and guidance you need.

The questioner revealed that he had ended his two-year relationship six months ago. At the time, he broke up with her because he could not accept her decision to marry into another family. For you, the memories are of a loving relationship. You have not been able to get over this hurt, and it is even getting worse, with more and more pain. You feel that your heart is not strong enough, that you are too easily influenced by others and give up too easily. What should you do?

Let's analyze the situation.

The beauty of being in love for two years was defeated by real-life problems. Your heart is full of conflict and pain, but you can't do anything about it. The feelings of reluctance at the time of the breakup were just suppressed. You haven't found a better girl than her in the past six months, so your heart is filled with more feelings of remorse. If you hadn't been influenced by the other person at the time, it might have been a different ending. Repeated speculation is also a kind of self-harm. You are now like standing in the whirlpool of pain. You've become aware of your own problems, and now you can fix them. Let's take a look at how to get out of it together.

When two people are in love, it's usually sweet. In reality, it's a critical period that tests whether the other person is suitable. If you've always needed the other person to give you confidence, this girl may not be right for you, at least not at that time.

Our growth process is full of pain and setbacks. You learn from your mistakes, as the saying goes. This breakup has made you aware of your shortcomings and given you the motivation to change. You have done this to become a better person and to prepare for the next time you find happiness. The suffering of the past six months has not been in vain.

When you think of how much you loved her and how much you miss her, thank her for making you a better person. You will become even better than you were before, and you will live up to the good times you had together. When you become better, you will definitely attract good girls, and the future is bright. Who knows if the right person will appear tomorrow?

Boost your self-confidence in many ways: praise and acknowledge yourself, smile in the mirror daily, and tell yourself, "I will do better today." When you feel the urge to escape when faced with difficulties, treat the problem you want to escape from as an exercise. Overcome your habitual thinking of wanting to escape and face and solve the problem. No matter the outcome, praise yourself for your courage if you didn't choose to escape.

If you still can't feel confident in yourself and feel insecure, seek help from a counselor. They can help you identify the root cause of your lack of confidence and insecurity and provide guidance on how to address it.

I am confident that the above methods will help you.

You will get through this. It will take time and patience, but you will get through it. Don't worry or be afraid. Many people are experiencing or have experienced similar problems, and you will get through this too.

The world and I are with you. You are not alone. I am certain that you will find your own most comfortable state soon.

I appreciate those who have liked and commented on my posts. I wish you peace and joy.

Hello. I can relate to how you're feeling. When you're in love, it's a wonderful feeling; when you're heartbroken, it's a painful one.

I think it's important to remember that we're all adults here, and it doesn't really make sense for me to offer you comfort in this situation. I don't think that's what you're looking for either. I'd rather be open and honest with you and tell you everything.

1. We all have egos, and when we gain or lose them, it's really just about our own self-interest. The frame of reference is always ourselves. The same goes for falling in and out of love.

So, heartbreak is basically a normal emotional response to losing something you wanted, after your needs have been met.

2. It's an objective fact that one is selfish because of one's ego, and there's no right or wrong in this. A person will always suffer more when they lose something they've already gained. The length of the suffering depends on when a replacement appears and how much it satisfies the ego.

3. It's normal to feel the way you do after a breakup. You're also coming across as a bit self-centered and selfish. There are a few details in your description that might help me understand the situation better.

First, you only thought about the good experiences in the past "occasionally" in the past six months. This shows that the good experiences in the past are matched by the frequency of "occasionally" and are not particularly important. Second, you felt really homesick "these past two days." However, your mood may have been affected by other things in the past two days. You thought about the good experiences in the past because you were driven by your own needs. This doesn't mean anything. Third, "I feel like I'll never meet someone as good as you again." If you think about it carefully, you are expressing how good your past lover was. You are feeling very happy about your own feelings. You are still satisfying your own needs. You are just worried that you won't meet someone else who makes you feel the same way in the future. Fourth, "I always get affected by the other person in a relationship. If the other person shows unease and has no confidence in the relationship and wants to give up, I will also feel insecure and want to escape and leave. I am not confident and sentimental." If you think about it again, this is an expression of how your sense of self-security is easily affected by your romantic relationship.

4. Moving on to facts and opinions, there are a few facts in the description: you've been together for two years, you care deeply for each other, and she can get your details and accompany you to make you feel satisfied. There are also a few opinions that may not be facts: whether she's happy to feel your care, whether you can feel her emotions and comfort her, and whether you think her reason for not wanting to marry far away is the real reason.

Facts are usually pretty accurate, but opinions aren't always objective.

5. So, when she gave her reasons for not wanting to marry far away, whether it was her own idea or something her family had forced her to say, she had made a clear choice between the constraints of objective conditions and continuing to develop things with you. At the same time, you had also made a clear choice. You couldn't choose to go to her area so that you could be together. So, think about how much the conditions will restrict the necessity of you being together.

From what you've said, it seems like you're looking for advice on how to move on from this situation. You've also asked how you can change yourself and become stronger inside.

How can you let go? Based on what I've said above, my answer is:

1. What should I do? Look for something or someone that can give you the same kind of experience as your ex. That way, you'll feel better.

2. How to change yourself: If you feel like you're really bad at something, you should change. But if you think that a lot of what you consider bad is just the psychological state of a normal person, you don't have to obsess about making yourself change.

3. How to make yourself stronger inside and how to let go: It seems to me that you are actually quite strong inside, because in the past six months you have only occasionally thought about the good old days. I wouldn't recommend becoming even stronger, because if you do, you'll become someone who says, "Although we had good times in the past, her leaving won't affect my emotions. That's not in line with human nature, and it'd be like becoming a robot."

It's also a good idea to take a step back and think about each experience. What can you take away from two years of love? What is truly unforgettable love?

This could be useful for future relationships.

Hello! I'm a heart coach, and I'm here to tell you that life is an amazing journey! It's not just about appreciation, but about blossoming and growing.

After listening to your story, I realized that you have a rare, intimate love that understands you. You love each other very much, and while you're not destined to be together, you can still spend your happy life together!

You are sad and upset, and six months after the breakup you still haven't been able to get over the pain. But don't worry! I'm sending you a warm hug from afar to help you through this tough time.

The sadness of unrequited love

You're free to move on from this relationship and embrace new opportunities! While it's natural to feel a range of emotions, including sadness, unhappiness, and regret, you're also experiencing a unique sense of freedom and possibility.

You were once very much in love, and you loved each other. As you said, you are emotionally sensitive and pay attention to details, and she can capture all these details about you. It's incredible how she can capture you so perfectly!

But romantic love ultimately lost out to reality. She didn't want to marry far away, and out of consideration for reality, she decided to let go and pursue happiness again. You were also forced to choose to let go because you loved her.

Your respective feelings are also the feelings of the other person. You feel for her and respect her choice, but you choose to feel even more for yourself. She is also very helpless, and behind her resoluteness is more of a bleeding heart.

Love transcends reality and reason, but life is more real and concrete. You both understand, and you both know each other better, but you cannot solve this "stumbling block" that stands between you.

For example, you could move in with her, you could compromise and settle down somewhere, or you could work together to do better and place both sets of parents near your new home. You chose to break up, but you made the best temporary choice you could, and now you get to make the next best one!

?2. The incredible gift of life she has given you in this relationship!

Embrace this relationship with permission and acceptance. It has already appeared in your life and left you with fond memories, so celebrate them!

Embrace your sadness, and accept it as a natural part of life. When you understand your emotions, you'll realize that sadness is simply a feeling of regret and longing for the relationship. When you're satisfied with your emotions, you'll find yourself longing to see your ex again, to see each other, and to see the relationship. Even though you've broken up, love will continue to flow! Keep that connection alive by staying in touch with your ex, becoming friends, or even maintaining a distant relationship with them.

"We said forever, but somehow it ended. In the end, when I think about it, I can't even figure out what caused us to part in the first place. Then you suddenly wake up and realize that relationships are actually so fragile. They can withstand the storms, but they can't withstand the ordinary." — Eileen Chang, "Love" Oh, the irony! We said "forever," but somehow it ended. In the end, when I think about it, I can't even figure out what caused us to part in the first place. Then you suddenly wake up and realize that relationships are actually so fragile. They can withstand the storms, but they can't withstand the ordinary. But, what a ride it was!

Many people have matured and grown through love, and there are many talented people who have achieved a romantic and talented life through love. You are the same! She appeared in your life and left you with an important lesson in life through this relationship: either learn to let go, learn to accept, or learn to be carefree.

Be grateful for the relationship, be grateful for her, and you will continue to receive more precious gifts from life in this relationship!

I really hope the above is helpful to you! The world and I love you!

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Dear question asker,

From your account, it appears that you and your former romantic partner shared numerous affectionate experiences.

The willingness to make sacrifices and the recognition of efforts are perceived as beneficial by the partner, which in turn fosters a desire to create more positive interactions.

The geographical distance between you and your partner has led to a perception that your love is still intact. However, practical considerations have made it difficult for you to be together. This situation bears resemblance to that of Romeo and Juliet, who despite being in love, were separated by geographical constraints.

The harsh reality is that if one truly loves another, distance is not an insurmountable obstacle.

One can posit that if a woman is provided with sufficient security and a stable, happy life in one's city, she will be less likely to choose another partner.

To illustrate, when Da S and Wang Xiaofei married, they initially resided in Beijing. She derived pleasure from the admiration of the capital's young master and the material comforts that gratified her. However, the relationship subsequently declined, compelling her to return to Taiwan. Wang Xiaofei was constrained to traverse the distance between Taiwan and Beijing on numerous occasions.

The discrepancy can be attributed to the alteration of external circumstances that the woman previously prioritized. The reality of a wealthy wife's lifestyle differs significantly from her initial expectations.

You indicated that when your partner expressed doubt in your relationship, you also experienced a sense of uncertainty and a subsequent physical distance from the situation.

Was a lack of confidence and self-assurance also a contributing factor in the dissolution of the relationship?

Your assertion that you care about details is, from another perspective, indicative of a tendency toward sentimentality that may impede your ability to prioritize your goals. Additionally, your lack of decisiveness may hinder your capacity to assume responsibility and create a life that is satisfactory for both parties. Motivation and responsibility are also essential qualities for a man in a relationship.

It would be prudent to consider your own expectations and the concessions you are prepared to make in a relationship. It would also be helpful to ascertain your partner's expectations and requirements.

It is imperative to identify a common objective and to pursue it with unwavering resolve.

If one is unable to trust one's own words, it is challenging for a partner to do so. This lack of trust can lead to doubts about the reliability of one's commitments, including the willingness to support a partner through challenges and difficulties.

It is recommended that you persevere.

Hello, I'm Zeyu, and I'm thrilled to be here!

"It's been six months since the breakup, and I'm ready to move on. I miss her so much, but I'm excited to start this new chapter. What should I do?" In this case, we'll start by releasing those painful emotions, and then we'll talk about what's next.

After a breakup or a failed relationship, it's natural to still have feelings for the other person and miss them. It's only human! From an objective point of view, we've ended things with her and there's no going back. But on an emotional level, or in our desire for this relationship to still exist, this conflict between ideals and reality has intensified our attachment to the past relationship and our avoidance of reality. In this process, from the questioner's description, we can feel that at the moment we lack awareness of our own abilities and ignore other possibilities. We only see the experience brought to us by the other person's departure.

To let go, we can start by accepting what is happening. When we stop fighting against the truth, we can feel less pain. It is important to emphasize that accepting does not mean resigning ourselves to fate. Accepting means knowing that things have happened, that the other person has gone, and that life will continue. Try to think about the lessons that the relationship has taught us when you are calm.

The relationship was indeed important to us, but losing it may also indicate that the relationship was not flawless. Breaking up does not mean that we or the other person is at fault, but rather that fate has played a trick on us. We can only accept this in reality. In reality, we can let ourselves miss the other person, but we must be careful not to indulge in it. This pain can be eased by time, and we can remember the other person and the relationship, but apart from the person who was once there, we have more things to look forward to!

If you're still struggling to let go, why not take a break and explore somewhere new? See the sights, go on an adventure, or travel to an unfamiliar city. If that's not an option, find something meaningful to do that will distract you from the pain of the past.

Good morning, my name is Coach Yu, and I would like to discuss this topic with you.

It is unfortunate that two people who once loved each other were unable to overcome the emotional hurdles together. Although the relationship has ended, it seems that you still have some difficulty letting go. While you are trying to reassure yourself that you are fine, you are also reluctant to deal with the end of the relationship mentally.

As the original poster wrote, it's been six months since the breakup, and I'm still struggling to move on. I find myself missing her a great deal.

It would be beneficial in the long run to achieve a true psychological closure of the intimate relationship. This would allow us to renew ourselves and see ourselves clearly, as well as inspire all our important relationships and help us face them better.

Perhaps the first step is to accept this inevitable emotional experience, which is a real loss and departure.

It might be helpful to consider making some practical and physical spatial divisions. For instance, you might want to think about getting rid of things that always remind you of your ex, such as photos, gifts, and souvenirs. You could also consider changing the layout of the room and the arrangement of the furniture to create a brand new sense of environment and space.

It may also be helpful to try to actively face this ended relationship, say goodbye to the old self, and mentally make room for a brand new self to grow. For example, you might ask yourself: What were your feelings when she proposed to break up?

I wonder what it means to me to lose her. I also have other feelings about this relationship.

It might be helpful to consider what the scene was like at the time. You may find it beneficial to record and organize these memories and feelings. Which feelings and emotions were triggered by the breakup, and which were amplified by past experiences? Your writing is only for yourself, so please feel free to write about your feelings honestly and frankly. This may assist us in understanding the origin and impact of emotions and in clarifying the root cause of the problem.

As a final step, you might consider performing a small ritual to formally announce the end of the relationship to yourself. For example, you could write a letter to yourself or go to nature and express your feelings aloud.

Perhaps the next step would be to consider rebuilding meaning in our lives, which could involve finding new meaning after the relationship ends.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider whether there might be any unexpected benefits to having taken a break from the relationship. If so, what might they be?

It might also be helpful to consider whether the breakup has affected our views on love and our values.

It might also be helpful to consider whether this relationship has changed our view of ourselves in any way. Have we gained any insights about love as a result?

We allow ourselves the space to linger and reminisce, to gradually accept and say goodbye when the time comes. It is important to respect the rhythm of your own emotions.

In our present lives, when we are emotionally anxious, we might like to consider asking ourselves, "What am I worried about? Is there any truth in it?"

When we learn to accept our emotions and allow them to flow, we may find it easier to avoid engaging in behaviors that distort our emotions due to repression.

It might be helpful to seek support from someone you trust, such as a family member or friend, who can offer positive guidance. If you feel comfortable doing so, you could also consider speaking with a counselor or joining a support group, as releasing emotions can help to relieve feelings of heaviness and blockages in our hearts.

It would be beneficial to relax our minds. On weekends, we could consider inviting friends and family to go out for a walk or join some social groups to experience the beauty of nature and real interpersonal relationships, which could help us to stay happy. At the same time, we could try adjusting our sleep through meditation and mindfulness, enriching our inner world through reading and exercise, because life is a cycle, and we can choose how we interact with it.

For those interested in further reading on this topic, we suggest the book "Life is Worth It."

Hello! I'm a heart detective coach with years of experience, and I'm thrilled to be able to give you some advice.

It's been six months since you and your ex broke up, but you're still feeling the pain. You're ready to mature quickly and don't want to feel insecure. You may be ready to work on one of your character traits!

It's clear you have a lot of questions about this relationship and some things you're struggling to let go of. I'm excited to help you dive deep into each of these things based on your specific text descriptions, uncover your true inner state, and together discover the emotional direction of your future, as well as how to improve your character traits!

First of all, you said that it's been almost half a year since you broke up, but you still can't let go. You two were in love for two years, which is pretty amazing! It's totally normal to still feel a bit in love with her, even though you broke up. It's not easy to accept, but you'll get there!

I think it's so great that you two just graduated from university! Or maybe you met by chance?

The two of you are in a unique situation where your hometowns are not in the same place!

At this time, we can analyze the whole thing from your perspective and the perspective of your ex-girlfriend.

First of all, it's your perspective. For you, she's married into your family, and you can completely support her and take care of many things so that she doesn't have to worry too much. You're a particularly considerate guy, and I can understand that you'll take care of every aspect of a girl's life, because you want to make sure she's happy!

Or maybe you keep an eye on her words and deeds because you're so excited to see her happy! You're afraid that if you say something that makes her moody every day, you'll find it hard to accept.

I also have a feeling that she's the stronger party in this relationship with you! Is that right? She was the one who proposed the breakup, and she decided to break up with you because she didn't want to marry someone from a different place.

Then you are in a passive, broken-up state, a state of being arranged, and at this time we have no initiative. Maybe you don't feel like arguing with him too much as a guy, and you think she might be happier that way, so you don't cause too many arguments with her.

If you two had a very heated argument, it might have ended badly, but it also might not have been the end of the world. You don't want this to be the way things go, but you know what? It's not!

So there's probably more to it than meets the eye! The truth of many things, or maybe it's because of how much he did, she may only perceive a part of it.

You love her more than she thinks! Otherwise, she may have passed up the chance to marry you. She'll be fine either way. She's on your side!

What about her personal perspective? It's an exciting time for you both! You'll be living far away from your families, and she may feel that she will be relatively familiar with her living habits and interpersonal relationships in her local area, and will feel more comfortable there.

If she marries far away, she'll get to adapt to a new environment! And since neither of her parents are in your area, she'll have the chance to feel secure and supported in a new way.

After all, if she is a more dominant personality, then she has always wanted to be in control, and she definitely doesn't want to be in an unfavorable situation.

So, when you were in love for two years, maybe you had an amazing opportunity, or something incredible happened, and she proposed the decision to break up because of the changes.

Maybe when you first started dating two years ago, you didn't think about it so much, and you felt that it was pretty good that the two of you might fall in love. So was getting married far away something you could consider later?

I'd still love to know how you decided on this relationship in the first place! You were a bit stressed when this part of the relationship ended, and you felt that this girl you had been with for two years and who wanted to marry you was going back to his city.

If you're emotionally invested, this is a great opportunity to learn and grow! At the beginning of this stage of your breakup, I believe your heart felt like a bolt from the blue, and you felt completely broken.

You feel as if the sky has fallen in without her, and for quite some time you are a bit indifferent to outsiders because you are so uncomfortable inside. But you know what? That's okay! It's a chance to grow and learn and become the best version of yourself.

You were broken up with and lost such a girl who you had been thinking about every day. You definitely couldn't accept the fact that you had become such a person who spent every day calmly on your own—but you were ready for a change!

So at that time, your state towards outsiders can also fully reflect your overall inner state, which is really exciting!

And at the beginning, it was like that, but then you definitely tried to accept the current situation of the two of you. After all, you may have tried to salvage it, right? But I personally feel that she may not look back once she has made up her mind, and that is a character trait she has.

Then you can choose to accept it, and in these past six months, you have occasionally thought about the good experiences. After all, you still can't let go, but these past two days in particular, I feel especially nostalgic for the past—and it's a wonderful feeling!

I'm excited to point out that in these few days, whether it's a common anniversary for the two of you or a beautiful experience you've shared together, it's happened recently!

Because after all, it is also said that the recent May Day holiday is also combined with May Day. You will definitely go out to play together, or go out to eat something delicious together, have a lot of good experiences, or also spend a lot of time together. Such a time, an experience of this time is very important to you in your heart.

So when this time node arrives, it will naturally generate a memory, and you'll be flooded with happy thoughts!

I also found that you have a high opinion of this girl. You think she is a very special person! You feel that if you lose her, it will be difficult for you to meet someone like her again in the future. You are very depressed, but you will get through this!

I really think this girl is great! You've been together for two years, right? Do you think there's any chance of saving the relationship? And how does she feel about the two years you've spent together?

You gave it your all, and that's what matters! But what about her? When she broke up with you, was she the strong type I mentioned, not expressing her emotions much, or did she express her reluctance to let go and show some signs of behavior? You can go back and think about it.

And now for the big question: is there any chance of reconciliation, or should we say goodbye to the relationship?

Now that you've taken all this into account, you've got a great understanding of yourself. You know that you're not quite there yet, but you're ready to move on from this relationship. You're excited to start a new chapter in your life!

So, I've got some suggestions for you that I think you'll find really helpful!

The great thing about being in a relationship is that it can also be influenced by the other person. If they show anxiety, you can pick up on it through their expressions, actions, and words, or hints at it. You can detect this very carefully, which is a fantastic trait of highly sensitive people!

As a member of this group, you are excited to do a great job! You want this person to have a good experience with you, so you'll give them your all. You'll be sincere and treat them with respect.

So, you will be affected by the other person's mood. For example, if she is unhappy, we have the chance to create something interesting to make her happy! But what about your own state of mind?

In fact, when you do something with all your heart for the other person, you may feel a bit reluctant at first, but you'll get there!

But you may tell yourself, "As a guy, as his boyfriend, I should do this, it's my duty..." But do you really accept it in your heart and are you really happy? Absolutely! You're his boyfriend, and you're proud of it. You're happy to do whatever it takes to make him happy.

So, it's time to start focusing on yourself again! Whether you're in a relationship or you're single for a while, it's important to start paying attention to other people and devote yourself to them fully.

Just because we don't devote ourselves wholeheartedly doesn't mean we're not loyal to the relationship!

So, let's make sure we're in a great place every day, and then we can treat the person you love most with the fullest enthusiasm!

Just as you have concluded in the previous situation, some of the other person's expressions may have affected you. At this time, you will also feel uncomfortable and insecure, and want to escape and leave the two people. Is it possible that there will not be a little bit of a rift because of this, or the possibility of a fight?

If this happens in your relationship, it's time to pay attention! Turn your attention back to your own body and consider what kind of person you want to be inside yourself. Do you agree with the idea that you broke up with her? Did you really do something wrong? Or did you really do your best in this relationship?

And because there is no way to solve things, you have tried very hard to reconcile with her and work things out. You've given it your all, and that's what matters!

So let's go and say goodbye to this relationship. Let's end this relationship in a relatively dignified way.

In fact, it's absolutely amazing that you two are now just letting nature take its course and going through a stage of events that will heal with time. Even though you have said nasty things to each other, the beautiful feelings you two have for each other are still there!

But if the two of you are very angry after an intense verbal exchange, and you just break up like that, and you hate each other, then I personally feel that such feelings may lead to remorse, regret, and self-blame when you look back on your relationship. But don't worry! There's still plenty of time to turn this around.

Now it's time for the fun part: healing!

Your self-awareness is excellent! Now, let's talk about this insecurity you're facing. I've already given you some great advice. You can start by summarizing your relationship and the inner changes you experienced at the moment of the breakup. Once I've finished analyzing, you can ask me questions on my personal homepage after you've organized your thoughts.

I'm excited to help you analyze the situation more specifically and work together to get you out of your current predicament!

I'm looking forward to hearing from you! I wish you all the best!