I've done something wrong, my family life has become difficult, I'm ashamed to go on living...

Hello, I get it.

I'm not sure I understand. Did you do something wrong and now your family is upset with you? Is there a way to fix it, or is it too late?

Have you ever thought about whether your parents would be even more saddened by your actions if you ended your life to make up for it? What you have given them is not financial support, but a complete blow to the heart.

If you love your parents and family, you have to face up to your mistakes. Find a way to solve them and start anew.

As the old saying goes, a prodigal son who returns home is worth more than gold. What's more, you haven't reached a situation of extreme difficulty.

When you're facing difficulties, it's worth thinking about what other solutions might be out there.

Sometimes, it's good to have someone on your side. You can get help from the government and community, ask for support from people in your network, turn to your family and friends, or get in touch with a psychologist. Talking about your concerns can also be helpful. You can also visit a temple and speak with the abbot. All of these options can provide support and help you overcome depression.

We all have to start from somewhere. One problem doesn't mean you're a failure. If one approach doesn't work, it's worth changing your thinking and approach. You might gain new insights and ideas.

"There's always hope as long as you're still alive."

My dear, I know you've had a hard time. I'm here for you. ?

Does this make you feel more energetic and think about how you'll die? What is it?

No ordinary death can leave parents with enough money to live worry-free for the rest of their lives.

As I write this, I feel like crying because I'm also a parent. I wonder what I'd do if my child did the same thing.

I stopped and thought about it. I imagined it was like this:

First, I believe my child didn't expect this. I'll feel sorry for him. Good kids make mistakes. He's still a good kid, and I'll still love him. I hope he knows how much I love him.

Second, I believe my child will feel guilty and blame himself. I feel for him more now. A good child makes mistakes, and a child who knows he is wrong is still a good child. I will love him more. I hope he feels my love as a parent.

Finally, I believe that after this mistake, my child will be hopeless and helpless for a while and will have a hard time walking. I must be careful with my child.

Good kids make mistakes. Kids who can see their mistakes and move on are good kids. I'm happy to help my kid through this.

I hope he knows I love him.

I love him because he's the most important person in my life. Without him, I'll be lonely and afraid. I'll think of him all day and cry.

I can't imagine getting through a day like that.

My dear, I'm so sorry. Let me hug you again. I think your parents feel the same way.

You love them and want to make sure they have enough to eat and wear.

Will they be able to eat and wear clothes because of this? If it were me, I would find every meal unbearable.

You love them and don't want to see them like this.

You say you can't go on living, but you'd still want to be with your loved ones. Is that really true?

Let me talk with you as a parent.

When we can't cope, we feel tense, anxious, ashamed, and self-blame. This is normal.

When we face major setbacks, we use different coping strategies. You have just used withdrawal to escape. We can also choose to respond positively.

Think about what you did, what others did, and what the circumstances were. You will see that you are not entirely to blame.

This isn't about avoiding responsibility. It's about understanding what happened so you can learn from it and move on.

Think of another situation. What would the person you admire do?

If not, you can find a professional to talk to. Search for "National 24-hour Free Psychological Helpline" and call. You will hear a warm voice.

Dear, are you better now?

Your parents will always be waiting for you. I'll give you another hug full of love. It will give you strength and hope.

Hello, questioner! It's clear you're blaming yourself and even considering ending your life to give your parents money you feel you owe them.

The current situation is undoubtedly challenging. I can imagine you must feel quite helpless.

However, no matter what you choose, you should give yourself a pat on the back for taking responsibility when you were almost at your wit's end, instead of simply running away and giving up.

You need to think more clearly about the following questions before making a decision.

(1) This mistake cannot be undone for the rest of your life.

I know you must be going through unimaginable things right now, and I know this has also had a huge impact on your family. But I really hope you think about this carefully:

You need to ask yourself: are you really sure that you can't solve the current problem with the life you have?

— You can support this idea without hesitation or anxiety.

—How would you feel if you didn't think this way? Take action.

These are some life assignments from the spiritual teacher "A Change of Heart." Think about them. You can make up for this mistake in the second half of your life.

You want to leave your parents a fortune, purely out of filial piety or because of the mistake you mentioned. But if you live, you can spend the hard times with someone. You can redeem yourself.

(2) Is ending everything and leaving your parents alone really the best solution?

I know you're feeling desperate right now. I can see you're longing for relief, but have you really thought this through? Is this really the best solution to your problem?

Mr. Luo Yonghao was once in debt and felt like there was nothing to live for. However, he found the path to rebirth through repeated setbacks. Similarly, Mr. Yu Minhong experienced a collapse of New Oriental, which was once at its peak. But they saw hope in the recent Oriental Selection.

I know it's easy to give up completely, but you need to consider whether leaving behind a fortune and guilty parents is really the best way out.

(3) Assess whether it is easy to satisfy your hope for "an end."

You hope that there is a way to end that will leave a large sum of money for your parents. I can see your beautiful humanity in this, but I am certain that this is the biggest obstacle to you making such a choice.

You may think you're doing the right thing, but no matter which way you choose to end up and receive a huge compensation, it will be the innocent others who are put to the test of humanity.

Your kind and beautiful humanity makes it difficult to choose to give up.

I am not the right person to persuade you to give up this choice. You must think carefully about it. If you can't end it, you should just continue and see what other tests life will give you to truly break you.

Shi Tiesheng said, "Death is not something that needs to be rushed. It is a holiday that will inevitably come. I will make sure it comes naturally without me."

I will not let it come naturally.

The world and I love you. I hope you can feel it for a longer time.

Hello. I've read your sentence over and over, and I don't know how to comfort you. You must have experienced a big problem in your life, and the wrong thing you mentioned must have brought unexpected difficulties to your entire family. I can feel how you feel right now: guilty, painful, self-blaming, helpless, and desperate.

But even if you want to die, you're thinking about leaving your parents money to make up for your mistakes. Can money make up for it? Do your parents think so?

Is money more important than your life to your parents?

I see you're kind, but I don't support your idea.

You're avoiding your responsibilities and the condemnation of your conscience. You don't want to live with guilt or see your parents struggle. You wanted to make life better, but your mistakes made it more difficult. You can't accept this or your failure.

I understand why you feel ashamed to face your parents. We all want our parents to approve of us. We don't want them to know when we've done something wrong.

But parents will always know. Even if they find out, what's the worst that can happen? Is there anything worse for parents than losing their children?

Nobody's perfect, and nobody's mistake is a mistake. Mistakes show us that things aren't always as good as we think. They might be traps or scams. We haven't experienced them yet because we're too kind and too eager for instant success. There's no such thing as a free lunch.

We all know the truth, but we still fantasize about profit. Many scams use heavy profits as bait. They start by offering a little sweetness and then trap you.

How can we spot a scam if we don't know any better? We'll only know when we feel the pain.

There are bad people in the world, but if we don't get excited, no one will be able to deceive us. We must fight social immorality, not our loved ones. If we go too far, only our loved ones will suffer.

Admitting mistakes is the first step to being brave. Taking responsibility is the best way to redeem yourself.

All hardships help you grow and learn. You can get through anything if you keep going. Life is still beautiful, and there is still so much for you to discover. You will definitely become stronger in the future.

I hope this helps!