I've had enough. My mother always scolds me. How can I kill myself without pain?

Hello! I'd like to offer you a warm hug from afar if I may.

It is understandable that you may feel a sense of grievance, anger, helplessness, and powerlessness inside you when your mother always scolds and treats you unfairly.

It might be helpful to consider what underlying needs you are trying to fulfill by considering suicide. What are your inner feelings when you think about suicide? Is it possible that you are using suicide as a way to express your resistance to your mother's unfair treatment, to make her feel a strong sense of guilt and change the way she treats you?

While this approach may, to some extent, encourage your mother to pay enough attention to you to reflect on the way she treats you, it is important to consider the potential consequences of responding in this way to meet your own internal needs. Your safety is of paramount importance.

Your mother's actions may seem cruel, but it's important to understand that they may be driven by deeper emotional needs. It's possible that she's using you as a means of expressing her own inner struggles and seeking validation. It's crucial to recognize that your worth is not determined by your mother's actions.

Perhaps the best you can do is try to bravely and sincerely tell your mother your true feelings and needs at that moment when you were scolded. It might be helpful to avoid judging her actions in any way, so that she can clearly realize that her actions deeply hurt you. If necessary, you can call 12315 for help.

My name is Lily, and I'm the little ear of the Q&A Museum. I just wanted to say that the world and I love you.

Hello. From your description, I can see that you're resentful, hurt, and feel like your mother is being unfair in favoring your younger brother, who she always asks you to look after. It's a tough situation to be in.

The gap between what we expect from family and what we expect from mothers is so big that it's hard to accept and face. It hurts so much that you don't want to live.

It's clear that the mother is out of control when it comes to her emotions. She lashes out at her daughter as a result.

This is because the mother doesn't have the skills to handle things. She doesn't have enough control over the parent-child relationship and family life, so she vents her emotions on you by scolding and beating you.

First, let's look at the situation from the mother's perspective. This is how she's dealing with things, but there's a problem with her approach to problem-solving.

In this part, you need to love yourself more. Don't lose confidence in yourself and your future because of your mother's scolding. The problems of others are not your fault, and you don't need to deny your own future and beauty.

Once you've affirmed yourself, it's time to think about your mother. Think about her emotions and how she's lost control. Think about her marriage, her relatives, and how that's affected her life and emotions.

Children are the most important part of a mother's life, and this can make a mother choose to hurt her children. We need to understand what life has given her.

If her family, marriage, and family have given her an overload of responsibilities, there may even be mental storms. A mother chooses to endure everything and bear it, but when her emotions cannot be self-regulated, she may vent on her closest child.

If it weren't for you guys, I wouldn't have to deal with all this. There are plenty of mothers like this in society.

So, you can figure out where your mother's emotions are coming from. Then, think about how you can change your own life situation.

If you look past your mother's tough exterior to see if there's any vulnerability or weakness behind it, you'll know how to get along with her and avoid being hurt by her emotional outbursts.

Once you understand where your mom's coming from, you can start taking care of yourself. If you feel like your mom is protecting your brother, it'll be even harder to see her love for you. When you're grateful to your parents, talking about protection can bring up emotions and comparisons, which can make you feel worse and lose more of the love and warmth you felt at home.

However, nothing is really comparable, and you don't need to focus on how your mother treats your brother. You might as well have the energy to love yourself, do something you like, and make yourself happy.

Love yourself, do your best in everything you do, every day, so that your life has more meaning and is worth loving and caring for.

I truly believe that when you love yourself more, you will also love your family, brother, and mother better. You'll understand the reasons behind things instead of just looking at appearances. I really hope you will soon have a harmonious family environment and life. I hope you'll soon gain inner peace and happiness.

I love you, Jingyi, and I think the world does too.

Hug your girl.

From your description, I can see your countless feelings of grievance, fear, and helplessness. "My mother always scolded me and sometimes hit me when she was in a bad mood or unhappy."

The story is sad. You have suffered. Hug again.

[Original family]

The term "nuclear family" refers to a family in which children still live with their parents.

That is, your current family.

You weren't born into a happy family. Your mother scolded and beat you. She favored boys over you.

But you must believe that none of this is your fault. It is all the mother's problem.

The mother also has her own family of origin, and her character and state of mind come from there. Her irritability and patriarchal values are probably a continuation of what she experienced in her family of origin.

She projects her own trauma onto you. She is unhappy when she scolds you and afterwards she also regrets and blames herself. But she cannot control it because her wounds have not healed.

A "new family" is a family formed by a husband and wife and their children. For example, your father and mother have a new family with you and your younger brother.

The new family is also affected by the original family.

You didn't mention your father. What does he think of your mother's behavior? Does he take responsibility for the family?

A father who is absent often makes a grumpy, domineering mother. A wife who lacks support and care from her husband suffers psychological trauma.

Mothers are also in pain.

"Fly like a bird to your mountain."

"Fly Like a Bird to Your Mountain" is an autobiographical novel by Tara Westover, first published in 2018. It tells the story of Tara, a girl born in Idaho, USA, who broke free from her family and was redeemed when she reflected on her past.

We can't choose our origins, but we can choose a different life.

Try to understand your mother. She may seem strong on the outside but be weak on the inside. If you understand her and care for her, she will change.

Give it a try. You love your mother, and she loves you.

Love yourself. Every child loves their mother and wants to be loved by her. Every mother loves her child, even if she shows it differently.

Once you know this, you can face yourself. You are good and worthy of love.

Open your heart and accept yourself, your family, and your situation. The writer Eileen Chang said, "Life is like a gorgeous robe, crawling with lice."

You're not alone. Your mother and I have been through this too. Suffering is universal.

From the book To Live Is to Do Something: We've been through a lot, but we should be happy today. No matter how far we've come, we should always find something to enjoy. Why be sad all the time?

Life is bitter, but we can make it sweeter.

Read the book Fly Like an Elephant to Your Mountain. It will give you courage and strength.

Good luck, brave girl. I love you.