Just complaining and feeling like a floating binary ghost?

Hello, questioner! I can feel your mood is cloudy and uncertain.

It's tough, but you're not alone. We'll be here to help you find a way out.

The locals you mentioned are happy, but happiness is different for everyone. They are happy because of their environment and experiences.

We have our own lives and stories. We may not have the same simple happiness, but we can find peace and contentment.

Self-respect and pride are good. But sometimes, for different reasons, we can lose them.

This doesn't mean we should give up. We can start with small things, like saying something encouraging to ourselves every day or completing a small challenge.

Sometimes you may doubt the world and feel afraid. But the world is not absurd. There are rules to follow.

We can accept the world's imperfections while looking for the good. When we appreciate the little things, our fear and doubt will go away.

The literary works you mentioned can make you think deeply. But remember, they are only part of life. They can affect our mood, but not our destiny.

If they make you feel bad, stop reading them and do something else.

I have more advice for you. First, record your mood and feelings every day.

You can also find friends with common interests or join interest groups. This will help you discover the beauty in life.

If you need more help, see a psychologist. They can help you understand your problems and find solutions.

Don't give up on yourself or hope. If you work hard, you'll find happiness and meaning.

I hope you can see the light and embrace your bright future.

From your narrative, I can detect a certain degree of self-centeredness and perceptual bias. This is something we can work on together! You seem to generalize your feelings and confusion, thinking that other people's lives should be similar to your experiences.

However, I would like to remind you that everyone has unique life experiences and challenges, and we cannot simply judge the situation of others based on our own feelings. For example, we also occasionally hear news of successful people who I envy, who have passed away due to depression.

Most people don't understand this and think, "If I were the seemingly successful person, I would be so happy, so how could I get depressed?"

Second, I noticed that you may have a tendency to express your emotions, which tends to be negative thinking and emotional expression. This is something we can work on together! You express your resentment and despair towards yourself very strongly, as well as your envy and dissatisfaction with others.

This emotional expression may lead to a distorted and irrational judgment of reality, trapping you in a cycle of negative thinking. But don't worry! There's a way out.

In addition, I would love to talk to you about self-doubt and frustration. I feel that you have questioned your abilities and worth, and even think of yourself as a failure and a useless person.

However, I want to remind you that everyone faces setbacks and difficulties. But that doesn't mean you've failed!

Let's also discuss your tendency to escape from reality. You seem to escape from reality through negative thinking and emotional expression, transforming your predicament into emotions and thoughts rather than actively facing the challenges of life. This is something we can work on together!

I'm excited for you to become aware of this tendency and work to find a solution!

When we delve into the depths of the human mind, we often encounter a series of internal struggles and confusion. But these struggles are not something to be afraid of! They are simply a sign that we are human, and that we have the capacity to think deeply and to question the world around us. These struggles may stem from doubts about the meaning of life, confusion about one's own existence, or fear arising from uncertainty about the world. But we can overcome these struggles by embracing our humanity and by actively seeking answers to the big questions.

In the fog of such thoughts, a person may feel lonely, helpless, and even desperate. But it is in such struggles that we may be able to find a deeper understanding and a richer life experience!

First, let's focus on self-doubt and struggle. People often fall into deep thinking about the meaning and value of life, which is a great opportunity to reflect on what truly matters to them.

Sometimes, we question whether our existence is meaningful, whether we are on the right path, and whether our efforts are worthwhile. This inner doubt is not only a reaction to the external environment, but also an exploration of the innermost self—and it's a journey that can lead us to incredible insights and growth!

We're on a quest to find answers and the meaning of life. It's a journey full of twists and turns, but it's also an incredible adventure!

At the same time, we often compare ourselves with others, feeling either envy or inferiority. In social interactions, we often find that the people around us seem happier and more successful than ourselves—and that's okay!

They always seem to be able to face life's challenges with ease, maintaining a confident and optimistic attitude. We, on the other hand, have the opportunity to work on becoming more confident and optimistic so that we can reach their heights!

The emotional pressure caused by such comparisons often exacerbates our internal struggles and plunges us into an even deeper predicament. But we can overcome this!

In the midst of such struggles and comparisons, it is easy to fall into depression and despair. The difficulties and challenges of life make us feel powerless and frustrated. But there is hope! We can find our way out of this predicament and discover the meaning of life.

Sometimes, we even fall into despair, feel unable to break free, and even have suicidal thoughts. But we can get through this! This kind of despair is often a manifestation of deep inner struggle and a response to hopelessness in life.

At the same time, our doubts about reality and the world present us with an exciting challenge to overcome. Faced with a complex and ever-changing world, we have the opportunity to grow and adapt.

We question the fairness and justice of the world, and feel that everything is illusory. We worry that our efforts may be in vain, and that the future may be uncertain. But we can choose to see the glass as half full!

This kind of doubt about reality often exacerbates our inner unrest and struggle, but it also gives us the chance to face our challenges head-on and emerge stronger than ever!

In the midst of such struggles and confusion, we often doubt our own position. We feel like a binary ghost floating in a virtual world, lacking a sense of substantial existence. But there is hope! We can choose to embrace the journey and discover our true purpose.

We don't know the meaning of our existence, nor do we know how we should position ourselves. We feel lost and lonely, not knowing where to go or how to move forward. But we can find our way!

However, it is in this struggle and confusion that we may be able to find a deeper understanding and experience. This struggle is not a negative experience; it is an incredible exploration and discovery of the depths of the heart!

It is through struggle that we discover the incredible strength and courage within ourselves, and truly understand the meaning and value of life. It is through struggle that we truly come to know ourselves, find our place in the world, and discover our calling.

So, when we face inner struggles and confusion, don't be afraid or despair! Instead, open your hearts, face the challenges within, and courageously explore the depths of your inner selves!

In this exploration, we will surely find a deeper understanding, a richer life experience, and the meaning and value of life. It is through struggle that we can truly grow and progress, and truly live the wonderful life that is ours!

I think your question needs to be broken down a bit to answer it fully.

One: Why is it so easy to be happy for other people?

Happiness is simple: it's a state of mind. It's not something you can find outside yourself. It's an internal capacity.

Happiness isn't something you can quantify. It's not a collection of facts; it's a state of being.

The world isn't lacking in happiness, but in the ability to feel it.

The less we need, the more freedom we have. A simple life is a simplified life.

Bertrand Russell looked at why people are unhappy and what makes them happy. He didn't do this just as a philosophical exercise. He was interested in how it affects people's lives. He thought there were many reasons why people are unhappy. These include competition, boredom, fatigue, envy, guilt, persecution and fear of public opinion.

However, it is his take on what makes people happy that shows us what it takes to be healthy. Russell said that a person's sense of well-being depends more on their interest in other people and things than on other factors.

We've learned that the more varied a person's interests, the more likely they are to be happy and the less affected they are by the ups and downs of life. This is because even if they lose something, they can still rely on other things.

Two: Self-esteem and pride are like bombs planted in childhood.

There's a good reason why emotional neglect has been overlooked. It's not so much what's going on as what's not going on. It's the empty space in the family photo, not the photo itself.

It's in those childhoods that "were not said," "were not seen," and "were not remembered," but not in those "that were said."

– "The Neglected Child"

The family of origin is one of the most important social environments in an individual's growth process. It has a profound impact on the shaping and development of an individual's mentality. The family of origin is where a person lives and interacts with their parents or other family members. Factors such as the family atmosphere, the behavior and attitudes of family members, etc., affect an individual's self-perception, emotional management and mental health.

The vibe in the family of origin has a direct impact on how someone thinks. A happy, supportive family is great for positive growth and a good mindset. But a tense, conflict-filled family is likely to lead to mental health issues like anxiety and depression.

The quality of relationships between family members has a big impact on how people think and feel. When relationships are stable, warm, and intimate, people feel secure and confident. But when relationships are indifferent or conflict-ridden, it can lead to emotional problems and psychological stress.

The family of origin has a big impact on how we see ourselves. What family members say, what they expect, and how they react shapes how we see ourselves and how we evaluate ourselves.

A positive family environment and support from family members help people develop a positive self-concept. On the other hand, a negative and critical family environment may lead to impaired self-esteem.

The family of origin affects an individual's self-confidence. When family members are encouraging and supportive, it helps an individual develop a positive sense of self-confidence. However, a negative and critical family environment can lead to a reduction in an individual's self-confidence.

Emotional neglect is usually more subtle than physical neglect, which makes it more easily ignored. Many adults who are affected by emotional neglect hide their own problems as depression, anxiety, irritability, marital problems, interpersonal problems, parent-child problems, etc. when they go to counseling. Even the person involved may not realize this is happening, making it more difficult for professionals to help.

Kids who grow up with unresolved emotions often feel like they're "wrong" as adults, but they can't pinpoint why. They're often overwhelmed by negative emotions, struggling with sadness, anxiety, or a sense of emptiness in life.

Kids who grow up feeling ignored have a switch inside them. When this switch is flipped, it feels like their body and mind are falling into an abyss. What follows is a long period of suffering and torment, engulfed by loneliness. They can't express this, nor can they find an explanation.

They're plagued by an inability to recognize and articulate the issues they're facing in their inner lives and how they've been hurt. However, when it comes to meeting the needs of others and fulfilling the expectations of others in social interactions, they're quite adept.

It might sound a bit strange, but it's not really contradictory.

It's because they weren't "seen" during childhood, lacked attention and appreciation from the outside world, and had their emotional needs unmet that they have difficulty gaining a sense of self-identity and often feel a lack of presence in groups.

Kids who grow up like this never really get the message that they matter to their parents. They're taught not to focus on themselves. Even if they become really successful as adults, they still find it tough to recognize and understand themselves and accept themselves with love. They're likely to focus on everyone and everything outside, and they feel valued by meeting the needs of others. But they often feel empty, lonely, and ashamed when they get the attention and love they want.

People with a pervasive sense of loss may be present in the moment, but they're unable to fully engage with the present.

Low self-esteem isn't a defined disease in the APA's Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-V), but it can have a big impact on people.

3. Unstable values and doubt about the world

There are two possibilities. First, you've fallen into the trap of nihilism and skepticism.

Skepticism says that human suffering comes from value judgments. It stops taking the value judgments of others and society at face value, takes a skeptical stance, and refrains from making any judgments to achieve inner peace.

Skeptics believe that human suffering stems from this. There are too many value judgments that aren't based on reality, such as moral judgments, educational scoring standards, advanced individual evaluations, parental lectures, and so on. We can see that almost all of these value judgments are created by those in power for those who are not, while they themselves are outside this system. The same goes for education. The purpose of education has never been to make people into a sound individual with an independent personality, but to become a member of society who is highly useful and easy to manage.

However, existence is a process of encountering trauma. Trauma brings pain, pain inspires doubt, doubt leads to reflection, and reflection creates philosophy. Therefore, in my opinion, doubt is a valuable part of human nature. We shouldn't suppress or reject this thing that seems to be outside our body and mind. We should face our own doubts directly. Doubt isn't some kind of parasitic tumor. It's just the pain of our hearts. We feel distressed by doubt because it seems to destroy our past lives that seemed harmonious and beautiful. But if we think about it carefully, we'll find that the harmony and beauty we felt in the past only came from our previous ignorance of the world and ourselves. We always believe that a harmonious and beautiful world can be given freely without struggle, and that one can always survive in the world without alienation and setbacks. Those who think they can remain innocent will in fact only suffer deeper alienation and become disgusted with themselves. Innocence is a very expensive thing. It requires the use of one's entire rationality to understand oneself and the external world in order to maintain it. The contradictions and tensions of the real world will inevitably manifest themselves in the form of an internal impasse in the depths of each individual's mind. This internal impasse is mainly manifested in the three stages of the slave consciousness described by Hegel.

To understand Nietzsche's nihilism, we first need to understand the historical context in which he proposed it. Nietzsche believed that the essential meaning of life is the will to power. All living things live to overcome obstacles, increase their strength, achieve self-transcendence, and evolve from plants to humans.

In Nietzsche's time, people put a lot of meaning into religion. They focused on the afterlife and neglected the present. At the same time, religion encouraged humility and forbearance. This suppressed people's will to power.

This is meaningless for the individual, and this is the first level of nihilism, which is brought about by religion itself.

Nietzsche famously declared, "God is dead," which led to the collapse of some people's belief in religion and the loss of traditional meaning. This marks the second level of nihilism. Then, with the advent of the industrial revolution and the subsequent development of science and technology, humanity once again turned to science as a new "religion," leading to a new kind of nihilism.

The above are the three levels of meaning in Nietzsche's nihilism, but they don't mean that life is negative and meaningless.

The real meaning of nihilism is that if we just give up without thinking, we end up with a meaningless life.

As Socrates said, life without reflection is not worth living.

Nietzsche thought that the key to life is the will to power. All living things want to overcome obstacles, build strength, achieve self-transcendence, and evolve from plants to humans.

How can you avoid the pitfalls of skepticism and nihilism?

It stops you from doubting everything and limits the scope of your suspicions. It's a form of moderate skepticism.

It's okay to have doubts, but it's also good to have some trust in what you believe.

Doubting everything is no better than believing everything. Both are superficial.

The second possibility is dissociation of the personality.

Dissociation affects how a person experiences life in five main ways: depersonalization, derealization, amnesia, identity confusion, and identity alteration. These are the main areas investigated by the Structured Clinical Interview for Dissociative Disorders (SCID-D).

If you notice any of these characteristics in someone, it could be a sign that they have a dissociative disorder.

Derealization is when you feel like the world is not real. Some people say it feels like the world is fake, blurry, distant, or veiled.

Derealization is when you feel like the world isn't real. Some people say it seems fake, blurry, distant, or like it's veiled.

Some people say it's like watching the world from a distance, like a movie.

While dissociation may not be accompanied by violent emotional surges like other disorders and may even numb your painful response to the outside world to a certain extent, it's important to pay attention to it.

If you experience high-intensity and repeated dissociation, it can gradually make you lose your ability to respond to the outside world. You might even lose your sense of self and fall into an endless emptiness.