Laid off, feeling defeated, what should I do?

You must learn to love others, adapt to people and events, and correct your energy field. This will make it more likely that you will find and have love and suitable relationships and careers.

To truly love others is to wish and give them happiness. This must be done for everyone, the outstanding, the ordinary, and even the weak. Psychologically, one must accept and forgive, or let go of the ego and forgive. If there are mistakes or shortcomings, then one should be able to correct them. Everyone has the right to happiness. People can bring each other spiritual comfort and even joy. It is good to love and accept others and oneself, to tolerate shortcomings and deficiencies, and to be kind at heart. In other words, it is beneficial to others or society to love and accept others and oneself, to tolerate shortcomings and deficiencies, and to be kind at heart.

If you don't get along with most people's magnetic fields, it will lead to negative energy and emotional problems. You must truly love others, adapt to people and things, and correct your energy field so that you can more likely find and have love and suitable relationships and careers. You can also share and exchange what you see, hear, think, and feel, or your interests and hobbies, including books, movies, music, etc., with others in real life and on the Internet, such as Douban communities.

Love your life and be content with the little things.

Negative energy affects your health. Keep your body comfortable and healthy with a full-body massage. Head massage includes the forehead and face, which also have meridians. Massage deeply and firmly with your hands, press the head with a hard massage comb, and don't press your stomach on an empty stomach.

If you have negative emotions or thoughts, don't feel comfortable or healthy, have a lot of things that don't go your way, interpersonal conflicts, relationship or family problems, or even problems with school or career, it is because you are too self-centered or self-absorbed and have accumulated too much negative energy. The more self-centered you are, the more you will have magnetic field problems with other people. You need to learn how to truly love others, adapt to people and situations, and correct your energy field to avoid or reduce negative emotions, resolve conflicts, improve interpersonal relationships, and better solve the above problems. If necessary, you can also help those around you grow and change together.

Hello, question asker.

I get it.

It seems like the jobs just keep getting worse. I've worked for all the big international education companies in this city, but I've only been with each of them for a short time.

I'm not sure what I should do next. I also wish I'd appreciated the job opportunity more.

It's not a great feeling being fired and seen by former colleagues. I can imagine it's pretty frustrating for you right now.

Are these the only three companies in the world?

Clearly not.

I'm not sure why you left the other company. If you've done well there, I think you can apply again.

There are jobs out there, and it's mainly a matter of whether you want to go for them.

Right now, you're in a bit of a passive position.

In the past, you could choose for yourself, but now it looks like the company will choose you.

I think you'll grow from going through this.

You can't be in Cao Ying and have your heart in Han.

If you can be patient, it might seem slow, but it'll actually be fast.

It's great to want to be on the best platform from the start and do work you like, but if you're too eager to succeed, you might make things worse.

For instance, if the third company lets you do research and teaching, it's a great chance to gain experience and learn from what your predecessors have done, as well as try out new things. But since you're working part-time, you'll miss out on a lot.

When you're just starting out, it's better to make mistakes than to avoid them. Youth is your greatest asset.

You have the chance to try things out and learn from your mistakes.

This path might not be the right one for you, but there are plenty of other options.

Even if you only teach private lessons, you can still make a living.

If you're really passionate about international education, show it! Put your heart into your work and I'm sure you'll succeed.

Dear questioner, I can relate to how you're feeling. Being laid off is a tough experience, especially when it's the third company you've changed jobs with this year. I can sense your inner frustration and confusion.

But remember, we all face setbacks and disappointments, and these are part of life. It is these experiences that help us mature and become stronger.

First of all, I want to give you a hug to let you know that there are always people in this world who are willing to support you through difficult times. Your feelings are important, and your experiences are also very valuable.

No matter what happens, I want you to believe in your own value and abilities.

Even though the boss didn't give you a straight answer about why you were let go, we can still think about it. Maybe, while putting together the tutoring materials, we could have paid more attention to workplace norms and company requirements.

I'm not saying your actions were wrong, but in today's workplace, we need to be more flexible in how we adapt.

Now, let's talk about how you're feeling. You're frustrated, regretful, and sad, which are all normal emotions.

It's important to give yourself time and space to deal with these emotions. You can try sharing your feelings with friends and family, or expressing your emotions through writing in a diary, drawing, etc.

Just remember, these emotions are only temporary, and they won't define your future.

So, what should we do next? First, we need to stay positive.

You've got this! You can overcome this setback and find better opportunities. You might also want to think about getting some help from a professional career counselor. They can give you more specific and personalized advice.

I also suggest that you use this time to expand your knowledge and abilities. You can take some training courses or teach yourself about new fields of knowledge.

This will not only make you more competitive, but also prepare you for the future.

It's up to you whether you want to keep working in the international education industry in this first-tier city. If you're still passionate about it, then look for other opportunities or companies that are a better fit for you.

If you feel like this industry isn't the right fit for you, it might be worth exploring other fields or cities. The world is your oyster!

I'd also like to give you some specific advice:

1. Build a positive mindset: Set small goals for yourself every day and work hard to achieve them. For example, read a book, learn a new skill, or exercise every day.

These small wins will add up and help you regain confidence.

2. Find a support network: Stay in touch with friends and family and talk to them about how you're feeling. They can offer you emotional support and advice.

You might also want to think about joining social groups or volunteer organizations, as a way of meeting new friends and like-minded people.

3. Create a solid career plan. Think about what you're interested in, your strengths, and your goals. Then, create a plan that'll help you understand your career path better and find job opportunities that'll work for you.

4. Beef up your resume and skills: Use this time to brush up on your resume and skills. You can take some training courses or programs related to your career goals to gain some hands-on experience and level up your skills.

5. Look for job opportunities: Send out more resumes and keep your eyes open for something that's a good fit. You might also want to think about some non-traditional ways of working, like remote work or freelancing.

Finally, I just want to say that no matter what difficulties you encounter, don't forget your own value and ability. You are a talented and capable person who has just encountered some temporary setbacks.

Believe in yourself and the future will take care of itself. We're here for you, cheering you on.

Best of luck!

If you're a valuable team member who contributes to the company and excels at your tasks, even if you occasionally slack off, your boss probably won't fire you. That's why it's important to look at the other reasons that led to your dismissal.

How long you can stay in a company depends on your abilities and the degree to which your needs match those of the company. If you find a company that matches you, you will naturally be able to stay there. So, you can make a table, with the first column being your abilities, and the second column being the abilities of the people with better performance in the company or the company's assessment indicators for you. You can break it down into many items to compare and see where the gap is. After analysis, if you see your own shortcomings, you can find a more suitable company, or talk to your boss and tell him what you will improve on and ask him to give you another chance. If you improve your abilities according to the company's requirements, you will learn something and will be able to jump ship better and better in the future. Even if you don't jump ship, your treatment will also increase.

If you feel there are a few companies you'd like to focus on, it might be helpful to make a list. In the first column, write down what you're hoping to gain from the company. In the following columns, list what each company can actually offer you or what they can offer their key personnel. Then, take a moment to think about what you'd like to change about several companies. Do you notice any common themes? Why haven't these companies met your needs? You have the power to change these points that make you unhappy.

What can't you change, and what can you understand and adapt to? Then, just adjust your expectations of the company and look back to see if the things you are dissatisfied with can be understood and adjusted. I know it can be tough, but you've got this!

When you find your own room for growth, find your perspective on the company, adjust your expectations, and adjust yourself, you will definitely find a company that matches you and can develop better. Finding a job is inherently a technical activity that requires analysis, judgment, wisdom, risk-taking, decision-making, and so on. It is not something that is done based on feelings, so you don't need to add an emotional factor. Just treat it like a subject for homework.

It's so important to remember that the world doesn't revolve around you. The best way to avoid getting stuck is to adapt to the environment around you.

Hello! I'm so happy to be able to answer your question. I really hope some of my suggestions can help you.

I totally get it. You're in a tricky spot, and I know you need to proceed in two directions.

First of all, let's think about our career planning.

It's so important to figure out what you want to do with your career. Whether you're working full-time or part-time, it's good to have your own focus and goals.

It's so important to make sure we're focusing on the right things during this process.

It can be tough juggling both full-time and part-time jobs. We all know how important it is to give our full attention to our main job, even if it means having to say no to other commitments. It's not easy to find that perfect balance, but it's so worth it! If you're able to work full-time in the company and do the work of the part-time job at home on your own, that's the best situation.

If there are priorities during the full-time process, for example, while we are steadily doing our own work at hand, the superior leader issues a new task. At this time, we can first sort out what the content of the new task is, and on the basis of being able to complete the original work at hand, we can figure out if we can complete the new task within the limited time.

The second part is our emotional state.

It's totally normal to have more than one job at a time! We all have different experiences and preferences, and that's okay. Each company has its own unique culture, environment, and team. It's natural to have different comparisons and experiences.

When this happens, it's important to remember to take a deep breath and adjust your emotional state. It's okay to feel a little out of sorts when you're used to doing things one way and then you're suddenly faced with a new way of doing things. We all have different personalities and different company cultures and work environments, so it's natural to feel a little out of sync at first.

These differences can be a bit overwhelming at first, but with a little time and patience, we can learn to adapt to working with different people in different work environments.

Work is a two-way street, so it's totally normal to change jobs a few times. We all need to understand what doesn't work for us personally and whether we're right for the job. And if it's not a good fit, it's okay to move on!

When we're fired, it's also a good idea to take some time to sort out our emotional state and think about why we were let go. We can find out more by asking the leader or human resources. But in most cases, we might miss the chance to do that, and it can be tough to ask again later. So it's good to think about it as much as possible. The answers we get might not be 100% accurate, but they could still help us avoid making the same mistake in our next job.

I really hope that self-reflection can help you better understand your career direction. And I really, really hope that you'll find a job that suits you in the future!

I love you, world! And I love you too!

Hello, question asker! I'm Gu Daoxi Feng Shou Lu, your Heart Exploration coach.

The first step to change is realizing it! The questioner has taken the initiative to reflect on his actions after resigning, which is a great start. Reviewing and summarizing makes people grow!

Life is a line made up of individual dots. Every dot is a chance to try again! A temporary failure is just a stepping stone to success. How to get up from failure and start again may be more important.

The good news is that trust can be rebuilt, and a temporary failure doesn't mean anything. The questioner has the opportunity to rebuild trust. I once read a little story that illustrates this point perfectly. When Liu Qiangdong's successor Xu Lei first started, they weren't liked by Liu Qiangdong. In fact, the two of them even undermined each other. But after Xu Lei officially joined Jingdong, they not only rebuilt their relationship, they also became Liu Qiangdong's successor!

The company may have laid off the employee because they were goofing off, but it may not have been because of the action of goofing off. It may be more likely that the company needed to reduce staff and increase efficiency due to economic pressure. Or perhaps the employee did not present the results of their work first, but instead chose to consider themselves first, making the company worry about whether the employee would be dedicated to their work in the future. But here's the good news! If you can understand the psychological motives of the company behind the dismissal, you can adjust yourself better.

What we cherish most is what we cannot get and what we have lost. When we are in a company, we may also dislike it in every aspect, but once we are let go, it's a whole new ballgame!

For example, if there is no better choice, the pressure is great at the moment; the employer may feel that I will feel better if I leave, and being laid off may easily lead to self-doubt. However, work is inherently a two-way process, and the questioner may not have to be anxious about this. Just like in a relationship, if it doesn't work out, it's best to part ways amicably.

The questioner may have worked for a well-known company in the city, which proves that the questioner's overall quality is at least not bad. Even if the questioner changes jobs again, a company smaller than these companies will also look at the questioner's sparkling resume with a high opinion. The questioner may not have to be overly anxious—in fact, they should be excited about the possibilities!

The questioner didn't join a well-known position, but that just means there's an opportunity for them to make a fresh start in a new role! There may not be many people who know the questioner, but that just means there's a world of possibilities out there. The questioner may not need to be so pessimistic. If this branch doesn't work out, they can always change to another one! Or, they can even change to the same company in a different city.

The question is: does the questioner need to find a good job, or does he want to find a job that he likes and is willing to work hard at? This may be quite different, but either way, it's an exciting journey ahead!

It's like a mobile phone. It doesn't matter how high-end it is, if it's used by an elderly person, what's the point of having such a phone? It's more important to ask yourself what you want!

Company resources are limited, but that just means there's plenty of room for everyone to shine! When the questioner reaches a certain level of experience and seniority, they'll realize that what they saw at the time may not have been the full picture. Give yourself some patience and let yourself settle down and hone your skills in your next job—it'll be worth it!

If there is one lesson that must be learned in life, then I think the lesson of "adversity quotient" is a must! The sooner you fail, the sooner you can review your mistakes and identify problem areas to avoid in future attempts. But it would be embarrassing if you encountered this problem again when you are older.

I highly recommend reading "Grit," "A Change of Heart," "Reviewing the Past," and "Burns Anxiety Self-Help Therapy." These books will help the questioner open up their mind and adjust their state!

Wishing you the very best!

Hello, I'm Zeyu, and I'm thrilled to be here with you today!

First, ask yourself this question: "Is what we did really unforgivable?" Or did we do something that would make the entire industry target us?

From what I can see, the problem isn't as bad as it seems. We tend to make things seem more serious than they are because we focus on the negative impact they have on us. But imagine if you were your good friend in this situation. What would you say to comfort her? What advice would you give her?

Feeling frustrated about being laid off is totally normal. It's a natural physiological reaction and emotional outpouring. Losing a job is probably going to be hard for anyone at first, but it's also an opportunity for something new and exciting! If we put this event in the context of our lives, it is just a very small part of our life experience. Our future will actually have countless opportunities waiting for us. Therefore, instead of tying ourselves up, we might as well take a chance and give ourselves the tomorrow we want!

We can't go back and change what's already happened, but we can control the present! If we look at the situation differently, the current resignation could be seen as an opportunity for change. We just need to ask ourselves if we're ready to embrace the possibilities. If we're not yet ready, we can focus on the things we can control in the present and take steps to calm our emotions. Seeing the things we have rather than focusing on what we've lost will help us take action!

2.8 Being fired is extremely frustrating.

Hello, I'm Coach Yu, and I'm going to discuss this topic with you.

First, let's talk about mistakes. Making mistakes is a necessary part of growing up. If we never make mistakes, or are never allowed to make mistakes, our physical and mental state will often not be very healthy.

Make no mistake: it's better to make a mistake late than early. In the early stages of our careers, our mistakes generally do not have serious consequences. We can be guided and corrected at the first opportunity to help us face and deal with them together. We can also learn from the experience and lessons immediately.

As the original poster said, I feel remorseful and sad.

Ask yourself what you were thinking when the boss dismissed you. What emotions and feelings did it bring out in you?

We must also ask ourselves what we were thinking when we left the first and second companies. What emotions and feelings did it bring you?

We must also ask ourselves: what is the need in our hearts that made us a little irritated by the third company? And what is the need in our hearts that made us feel so frustrated and aggrieved by leaving the third company?

Tell it like it is. If this frustration and dissatisfaction could be expressed at this moment, what would it say to you?

However, awareness is the first step to change. We must recognize that we can correct mistakes when needed and that it's okay to make a mistake once. What's not acceptable is not recognizing a mistake and continuing to make mistakes.

We can and should try to reconcile with our emotions. When we feel frustrated, we can say "stop" in time, take a deep breath, and watch them without any judgment. We can let emotions come and go freely like clouds, and drift away slowly like leaves in the water. We can also try writing therapy, writing and drawing out our feelings to find an outlet and release them.

Let's talk about loving yourself. Bad moods will impact your life, but you are aware of your emotions and have clear values. Start by caring for yourself. Take care of your body and your feelings.

You can ask for help. This matter is troubling you, and it will take time to overcome it. Find a family member or friend you trust and who has always given you positive support to talk to. If you feel the need, you can also find a counselor, because emotions must be released to relieve the heaviness and blockage in our hearts.

Affirm yourself and empower yourself. You have the ability to enter this relatively famous company and take root and develop in this industry. Use this period of time off work to enrich yourself by reading books, going on nature outings to feel happy, participating in group activities to experience interpersonal relationships, and experiencing real life. Life is a marathon, and temporary successes and failures are just a drop in the bucket of our lives. You have the right to choose.

There's a saying I live by: When I don't know what to regret, I don't care about it. When I know what I will regret, I won't let it go.

Hello!

I get it. Losing your job and going through job changes can be frustrating and anxiety-provoking. Here are a few tips to help you:

Don't dwell on your emotions. Being laid off and changing jobs are common. While you may feel frustrated and disappointed, accept this as a reality.

Think about your performance at each company. What could you have done better? Did you communicate your ideas and plans effectively?

Are you trying to fit in with the company and team? Are you doing your best at work?

Ask your former boss for feedback. This can help you understand your strengths and areas for improvement.

Change your attitude. Losing your job is not a failure. It's an opportunity to improve yourself.

Seek career counseling if you're confused or unsure. A counselor can help you figure out what to do next.

Share your feelings with family and friends. They can help you get through this.

If you're stuck in your current career, consider changing it or starting your own business. It will take time and effort, but if you're passionate and determined, it can work.

Everyone's situation is different, but the key is to stay positive, believe in yourself, and find a career that suits you.