Learning difficulties, unable to concentrate, unable to understand the meaning of learning

Hi, I'm 35 and I work in new product development at a company. I only have a college degree, and I'm pretty average in Guangxi! I was in the same situation as you when I was studying. Basically, it's a manifestation of difficulty, inferiority complex, and rebelliousness. When it reaches a certain level, you don't like anything you see, you don't believe in yourself no matter what you do, and you always feel like why it has to be this way. So it's easy not to fight for it and give up. Maybe others think this is laziness, but only you know in your heart that you really want to study hard and work hard. But in fact, more effort is spent fighting with yourself psychologically.

Before, I didn't get it, but now, after many years in the business world, I do. First, we have to accept ourselves as we are, admit that we're not perfect, and that it's normal that we don't do as well as other students with excellent grades. Then, we should try not to think about grades as much as possible because they don't measure how successful a person will be in the future, nor do they determine a person's future, and even less do they measure a person's good or bad character. Understanding this frees us from the pursuit of fame and fortune, and we learn that learning is just a process of enhancing our brains and exercising our brains and thinking. All exams and courses are just studies that human experts put together to exercise students' thinking, comprehension, and hands-on abilities, so that current students can become more flexible in their thinking and more efficient in what they do.

For instance, Chinese students who know the 99 times tables can do mental arithmetic quickly, but students in Western countries still do calculations the old-fashioned way. This is the difference between learning.

As you learn, you can also discover and develop some learning skills that will help you master the skills you need to survive and then make your life better and better. But learning knowledge is just a process of self-improvement. It doesn't mean that if you don't learn, you can't be a good person or won't achieve something in the future. I believe that no matter what level of knowledge you have, it won't affect the future. As long as you are at peace with yourself, you can then give full play to your strengths in the learning process.

For instance, if you have a good memory, you should memorize more; if you have a better comprehension ability than other students, you should read more, analyze and comprehend, write down summaries and your own feelings; if you have a good voice and sound, you should practice singing more; if you are physically fit, you should participate in more sports, exercise the spirit of sports, or dance; if you are not interested in anything, don't think about anything, get up early in the morning and go for a jog, and keep it up for a few days. You will find that exercising without thinking about anything will give you an inexplicable sense of relaxation. As long as you can still move, you are the happiest person in the world, and nothing else matters!

Hello, question asker. I can see you're feeling confused, and I'm here to support you!

If you've had a previous experience of failure, you might think that you'll definitely fail in the future, even if you try hard.

That's why you're reluctant to put in the effort.

Think about whether your parents gave you a lot of negative feedback when you were growing up, like "You can't do it."

This can lead to you internalizing your parents' voices as your own.

Just because you've failed in the past doesn't mean you'll fail in the future.

Ultimately, the more experience and exposure you have, the more likely you are to succeed.

You might want to try some positive self-suggestions.

For instance, you could try saying three times a day, first thing in the morning, "Come on, I'm the best; what I do today will definitely be successful and have a good outcome."

When you do this, you'll replace those negative thoughts with some positive ones.

I really hope we can find a solution to your problem soon.

At the moment, that's all I can think about.

I hope my answer was helpful and inspiring to you, the questioner. I'm the answerer, and I study hard every day.

Here at Yixinli, we love you and best wishes to you!

Just wanted to check in and see how things are going!

No matter what you've experienced or thought about before, it all has meaning.

When it comes to studying and exams, there's a difference between failure and mistakes. But in the long river of life, no one can judge your life. And your life isn't a test paper to be judged.

People aren't right or wrong, successful or unsuccessful. They're different.

I can tell you're really eager to do well in your studies and ace the exams.

These strong desires can also make you afraid of failure. When you fail, it can feel like learning is pointless.

Maybe you can pinpoint where this strong desire comes from? It seems so strong that it affects your ability to learn in a normal, calm state.

If you can, try to put this desire aside for now.

When it comes to learning, it's more about understanding specific knowledge.

Even though this knowledge might not seem to have much meaning on its own, when you understand it and think about it, your concentration, perseverance, and the connections you make between these bits of knowledge will help you think in new ways and even change the way you view the world.

Make an effort to enjoy the process.

How do you define success and failure on an exam? It really depends on the person.

You can also think about what success and failure look like for you.

As you go through this process, you may find that you have lots of different thoughts and opinions competing for your attention. However, you will also find that there is one voice that is uniquely yours.

I hope this is helpful.

Good day.

From what you've shared in your description, I can appreciate your feelings.

In your title, you wrote, "Learning difficulties, unable to concentrate, unable to understand the meaning of learning." This made me think of the famous quote, "Live and learn." I'm curious about your interpretation of "learn" in this context. Could you please elaborate on what you mean by "learn" in the title?

Perhaps it would be helpful to reflect on this on your own. The original meaning of the expression "live and learn" is that no matter what age a person reaches, they should maintain the ability to keep learning.

Perhaps we could suggest that in order to embrace a new beginning in our lives each day, it is important to embrace learning new things, rather than remaining in the same place and following old habits and existing experiences. It is our understanding that the learning we are referring to here is about embracing new things, and this new thing is crucial for you.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider things from a different perspective. It's possible that learning difficulties and a lack of concentration are just excuses. One thing to keep in mind is that if you're interested in something, you're more likely to learn it.

Secondly, you wrote in your description that after failing, you found it difficult to learn, lacked confidence in yourself, thought everything was difficult, and struggled to understand why you had to study such topics and formulas. You also expressed that you didn't want to accept it and ultimately failed the exam. Failure can have a dual impact on individuals. Just as there is no absolute fairness in the world, there is a need for relative fairness.

Failure can indeed make people lose confidence because they lack confidence in themselves. On the other hand, failure can also shape success. However, it is important to note that success often requires a significant number of attempts, even if it may seem otherwise. This requires the ability to think and respond.

I would like to offer some suggestions for your consideration.

1. A lack of confidence in learning can be a significant challenge. It's important to nurture your self-confidence, and one way to do so is to seek success. Learning with interest can be an effective way to boost your self-confidence.

2. Learning is akin to building a house: it requires a solid foundation. Many people find it challenging to establish a strong foundation for learning. Once they have acquired a basic understanding, they may perceive subsequent learning as relatively straightforward.

3. There is a common educational model in management and learning that suggests that we may not remember everything we read or hear, but we will remember what we do.

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Hello! I really hope my answer can help you a little.

You say that after having failed, you can't learn anything, you have no confidence in yourself, you think everything is difficult, you don't understand why you have to study for exams and learn these formulas, you are unwilling to accept them, and you end up failing the exam. But in the end, you realize that you actually could have learned it, but you had the wrong perception. You want to know why you thought that way, right? Let's explore together and find out!

Our thoughts are shaped by our experiences. When we embrace negative thoughts and beliefs, we become passive in our behavior, creating a state of "learned helplessness." But here's the exciting part: we can change this!

The father of positive psychology, Professor Martin Seligman, conducted a classic experiment called the "learned helplessness" experiment, which was truly a groundbreaking moment in psychology!

In this fascinating experiment, Seligman put the dog in a cage from which it could not escape. Inside the cage, he installed a shock device that could cause the dog a certain degree of pain, but would not harm the dog's body.

As soon as the bell rang, the experimenter gave the dog an unbearable electric shock.

In a fascinating turn of events, the experiment revealed that when the dog was first shocked, it would put up a valiant fight to escape the cage. However, after persistent efforts, it realized that it couldn't escape through its own struggles and gradually ceased its struggles.

After many experiments, they put the dog in another cage, which consisted of two parts separated by a partition. The partition was high enough for the dog to jump over easily. One side of the partition had an electric shock, while the other side did not.

In a fascinating turn of events, the dog that had undergone the previous experiment exhibited a striking change in behavior when placed in this cage. Instead of fleeing to the side without electric shocks, it fell to the ground, moaning and trembling in pain before the electric shocks even started. This is a classic example of learned helplessness in action.

In an amazing turn of events, the dog was actually able to escape the electric shock after being placed in the second cage. It had the opportunity to do so, and it seized it! However, most of the dogs in the experiment did not do so. They laid on the ground and endured the electric shock. This shows that they already had an ingrained belief within them: "I can't escape the electric shock, I can't get out." But here's the exciting part: they could have chosen to see the opportunities and their own abilities hidden around them!

The good news is that we are all the same! According to attribution theory, if we always attribute failure to internal, stable, and uncontrollable abilities, then we will develop a sense of learned helplessness. But there's a way around this!

So, when you have failed before, you can't learn anything, you have no confidence in yourself, and you think everything is difficult. This is also a kind of "learned helplessness." But there's no need to worry! It's time to go and see your own beliefs. Perhaps they are "I can't learn well, it's useless to try hard, learning is difficult...".

It is these beliefs that hold us back from feeling powerful and make learning more challenging for us.

And the great news is that we can choose to change our beliefs. When we do, we can choose different behaviors and get different results!

2. It's time to establish some new positive beliefs! Start by adjusting your beliefs and cultivate your ability to be "acquired optimistic."

The great news is that optimism can be learned! When you can rewrite your beliefs and replace unreasonable beliefs with positive ones, your state of mind will gradually change. For example, you can tell yourself, "One failure does not mean that you will fail every time."

"I absolutely believe I can do it! I know that through my hard work, I will definitely achieve the desired results." "I can learn easily and happily, and I can enjoy the growth and fun that learning brings to myself."

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When you have positive beliefs, you will also become more positive in your actions, and you will find that the results will be amazing! You must take back the right to control your own thoughts. You must see yourself as the master of your own thoughts, not be bound by negative thoughts, but choose your own thoughts, choose positive thoughts, and choose an optimistic attitude!

3. And there's more! To really make learning fun and get the most out of it, we also need to activate our internal learning motivation and have a good learning method to help us truly gain a sense of achievement and a sustained enthusiasm for learning.

It's time to get excited about learning! To activate our internal learning motivation, we need to set reasonable goals for ourselves in learning. This is the best way to ensure we can achieve our learning goals. If your learning goals do not match your abilities, and you set yourself too ambitious goals, you will find learning difficult and keep feeling that you are not good enough. This will lead to constant frustration. So you need to adjust your learning goals and set yourself goals that are in line with your abilities, based on your actual situation. For example, if your daily English vocabulary learning level is 10 words, then it is not a realistic goal to ask yourself to learn 50 words every day. Instead, a reasonable goal would be to learn 12-15 words every day. In this way, after you have completed your learning goals every day through your own efforts, don't forget to give yourself timely positive feedback, sincerely affirm your abilities in learning, and experience this feeling of "I can do it." This will give you continuous motivation!

Now, let's dive into the world of learning methods! I've got three awesome tips for you. First, make sure you're listening carefully in class. Not only should you jot down the key points your teacher makes, but also the bits you're not totally sure about. This is where we often get stuck in our studies, and it's the part that needs a little extra love based on what we already know. Second, review in a timely manner to really help us soak up the day's knowledge. If you wait too long, it'll take more energy and affect learning efficiency. Third, make the most of the time before bed and when you wake up to memorize. These two periods, one without post-recency inhibition and the other without pre-recency inhibition, are perfect for remembering things like English words, ancient poems, and more!

You will absolutely grow steadily according to your own rhythm and learning plan! I truly believe you will go further and further in your studies and become more and more confident.

I hope this is helpful for you! Best wishes!