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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello, question asker!
From your description, I feel very sorry for you. You may have had a similar experience before, and I can really understand how you feel. I give you a warm hug!
I'm so excited to hear what happened to make you feel this way! And I'd love to know what kind of strength supported you through this uncomfortable period.
I want to start by congratulating you on being aware and not giving up. You're already on the path to change! I believe in you and I know you will get better and better.
Let me help you sort out the questioner's problems!
The questioner has the opportunity to develop a stronger sense of self-identity, overcome feelings of worthlessness, tap into his creativity, and embrace interactions with others. He can learn to manage his emotions, including guilt, and recognize his sensitivity. With confidence-building, he can become his own best friend!
I'd love to know when this feeling will arise and when it won't. And when there's no such feeling, what's the state of mind?
I'd love to know what you did at the time!
I'd love to know more about your family life and educational environment! And how is communication with your family members?
Do you feel comfortable at home? Absolutely! Our psychological state is related to the feelings we experienced as children, and of course there is also inheritance.
Austrian psychologist Adler famously said, "The lucky are cured by their childhood, the unlucky cure themselves." So, remember, it's not your fault!
The questioner is actually berating himself, but I see it as a sign that he has high hopes and expectations for himself. When he feels uncomfortable, he's also looking for a way to break through and move past this state.
Then I think the questioner wants to be in a certain state of mind. When you achieve this state, just think of how you'll be different! How will you feel?
Who will be the first to notice your amazing change?
If a miracle happens and you achieve the state you want, then take a good look at what efforts you have made to make the miracle happen!
I want to tell the questioner that the lack of confidence and sensitivity in the heart is a common psychological state that most people will have. I have had similar experiences before, but I have learned that we can break the cycle! I want to tell the questioner that as long as you don't give up, everything will be fine.
For example, I haven't done a very good job and haven't reached my ideal state, but I have slowly become more confident! I used to feel uncomfortable in front of people, get nervous when I went up to the podium, stutter, and blank out. But now I dare to try, and I can even persist until the end of an activity! I have also slowly begun to believe in myself and believe that practice makes perfect. I am willing to work hard for a better living area. Although it is slow, I am on the path to progress!
I don't know the specifics of the questioner's situation, but I'm excited to share some small suggestions that could really help! These tips can help relieve negative emotions, reshape your mindset, and boost your confidence. I hope they're useful for the questioner!
Let's get started! First, adjust your mindset and unite your body and mind.
If you make a promise to yourself and then follow through on it, you'll be amazed at how quickly your confidence will soar! All you have to do is follow through on your promises. It's as simple as that!
It doesn't matter if you're talking to someone else or just to yourself. When your heart and your words are in sync, it means that what you say is totally in line with how you really feel.
Believe in yourself!
Believe in yourself! Confidence is so important in our lives. We absolutely cannot do without it in our careers, our love lives, etc. Confidence makes people happy and gives them strength. Only by believing in yourself can you have the confidence to fulfill your dreams and love the people you love!
With confidence, you can do anything! You'll have the courage to move forward and succeed at anything.
And there's more! A wealth of knowledge
The more you learn, the more your brain will grow! The wider your perspective, the more you will succeed. You will be able to respond with a calm mind to anything that happens, and you will easily understand the ins and outs of things. This is the key to cultivating a calm and composed state of mind, and it will help you to deal with things in a calm and collected manner.
Keep up the great work! You're doing fantastic. When you encounter difficulties, don't give up. You've got this!
Repeat these words to yourself with confidence: "I can do it!", "I'm great!", "I can do better!" You'll be amazed at how much this simple act can boost your self-confidence!
And guess what? This has been confirmed by psychological research!
fifth, exercise more!
The amazing thing about exercise is that it releases a lot of dopamine, which can make us feel happy! It can improve bad moods, make people feel happy, and also effectively prevent and treat the effects of emotional stress and other factors.
When you feel down, don't just let it happen. Get moving as much as possible! Go for a walk, go for a run, whatever gets you moving and excited about life again!
Hippocrates, the father of medicine, once said something really inspiring: "Sunshine, air, water, and exercise are the source of life and health."
Exercise is an amazing mood regulator and a cure-all!
I wholeheartedly believe that the questioner can learn more about psychology and cultivate self-confidence. I slowly changed while studying psychology, and it was one of the best decisions I ever made! The most important thing at the time was to believe in yourself. Only in this way can you have the motivation and strength to work hard, and it's so worth it!
I highly recommend the following books: Inferiority and Transcendence, Mr. Toad Looks at Psychology (the toad in it has some of the same symptoms as us, but it slowly overcame them), and The Courage to Be Disliked.
The difficulties we encounter in life are incredible opportunities for change—as long as we don't give up!
I love you, world!
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I can relate to feeling like a blank page and struggling with selfworth. It's tough when you're around adults and feel out of place, yet with kids, it's easier to be yourself. Social situations can be daunting, especially when they involve people you don't know well. The fear of public speaking is real for many; the physical reactions are uncontrollable despite knowing there's no need to worry. Competing in sports meets while battling inner turmoil is both brave and exhausting. Emotional responses sometimes feel mismatched, like laughing when sadness is expected, which can lead to feelings of guilt and confusion.
It's heartbreaking not feeling comfortable in your own skin, especially around adults. You seem so much more at ease with children, which shows your gentle nature. The idea of being in front of a crowd makes my heart race too, imagining how terrifying that must be for you. Yet, you push through races, even when you'd rather avoid them – that takes immense strength. Sometimes emotions don't come out as we expect, and it's okay to laugh even in moments where others are sad. Sensitivity towards others' feelings can weigh heavily on someone who cares deeply about not causing trouble.
Feeling worthless and like an outsider among adults is something I've experienced too. With kids, though, you find a space where you can just be. Public speaking is a nightmare, but you manage to complete speeches despite trembling. Engaging in activities with unfamiliar people is anxietyinducing, yet you still participate in sports meets, fighting against your fears. Emotions can be confusing, especially when they don't align with the situation, such as laughing during a serious moment. Pretending to feel what's expected can create a heavy burden of guilt. Being overly sensitive to others' perceptions can strip away your confidence.
The sense of worthlessness and discomfort in adult company is challenging. But with children, you have this natural connection that feels right. Public speaking sends shivers down your spine, making it hard to get the words out. Still, you face these fears headon, whether giving speeches or running in sports meets. There are times when your emotional response doesn't match the moment, like laughing instead of crying. This disconnection can make you question yourself and feel guilty afterward. Your sensitivity to others' feelings can be overwhelming and sap your selfconfidence.
You describe a profound struggle with selfidentity and worth, finding solace only with children. Adults gatherings bring isolation and coldness, whereas children bring warmth and relaxation. Speaking in front of groups triggers intense physical reactions, yet you persist through speeches and sports meets. Emotional mismatches, like laughing at somber moments, can leave you feeling guilty and confused. Sensitivity to others' troubles can paralyze you with fear of causing inconvenience. Little signs of disapproval from others can crush what little selfconfidence you have left.