Mom has a heart condition, and I can't communicate with her. What should I do?

Good day. I can discern from your query that you are currently facing a challenging situation. You have demonstrated resilience, independence, and responsibility in navigating this complex scenario.

You are a highly dedicated individual, managing a demanding workload while providing care for your parents and managing your own emotional state. As an only child, you have assumed significant responsibilities. If I could see you, I would offer my support in the form of a reassuring gesture.

From your description, I am reminded of a situation in which an individual is cycling against the wind, struggling but persisting in the face of adversity. They are driven by a force within themselves that inspires and motivates them.

This experience will undoubtedly contribute to your personal growth. As you have described, you have merely adapted to the situation.

I believe you have invested a great deal of time and effort into your own psychological work and have provided yourself with a great deal of support and encouragement. While this encouragement and support is not something you have chosen, it is often the case that a person's abilities and growth are stimulated when they encounter new situations.

I am confident that after this incident, you will feel more confident and empowered.

Regarding communication with your mother, her current state may be due to internal fear. As you mentioned, she is unable to face her illness and the changes in the family, and her temperament has changed drastically. She must also be under a lot of pressure right now, facing the uncertainty of life and the future. Sometimes strong emotions come over her that she cannot control, and you cannot resolve them either.

Therefore, you are faced with an even greater challenge. When an individual is emotionally distressed, their ability to reason is impaired, rendering conventional rational persuasion and advice ineffective.

When you sense your mother becoming emotional, it is advisable to temporarily avoid her, allow her time to calm down, and then engage in constructive dialogue when she is in a more rational frame of mind. You may also consider providing her with the contact details of Yixin Listening, which offers counseling services to assist individuals in expressing and processing their emotions.

For those seeking confidential assistance, Yixin offers a dedicated service accessible via the organization's website.

I would also like to remind you that your current priority should be to focus on your own wellbeing. Once you have taken care of yourself, you will be in a position to support your father and mother. Your own needs are paramount.

As an illustration, posing this query on this platform is an effective method for self-care. A resilient individual will actively seek assistance when needed. It is our hope that our response will assist you in managing your stress and anxiety.

I am confident that everything will be fine.

Hello! I'm sending you a warm hug.

You feel the hardship, grievances, and desire to be seen and supported as the only child taking care of your parents who are recovering from illness.

Your mother is angry and temperamental because she is afraid and feels helpless. She is also worried about you. She feels pressure from the family's finances and life. She feels guilty and blames herself.

You've already noticed and understood your mother's emotions. Now, notice and respond to your own emotions and take care of your body. Your family needs you.

It's important to know what you're feeling and respond in a good way.

Keep an emotional diary to understand your feelings better.

Take care of yourself.

I'm Lily, the listener at the Q&A Pavilion. I love you.