My mental state has been poor. Do I have depression?

Good day, question asker!

My name is Sunny Dolphin Floater, and I'm a psychological counselor. I'm happy to answer your question.

?‍♂️I can sense your inner distress through your words. Fortunately, you seem to be in a relatively stable state of mind. It's encouraging to see that you're able to seek help independently, which could be an important first step in your journey towards change. I wish you the best of luck! I tend to be more detached emotionally, but I'm here to support you in any way I can.

I believe that the fact you are able to give me this feeling shows that you would benefit from some help.

It might be helpful to express your discomfort to your parents and ask them to take you to the doctor to see a neurologist to check whether there are any organic lesions in your body. Organic lesions are a sign of neurosis, and medication can help you recover.

I would like to suggest the following:

?‍♂️Ultimately, it is up to you to decide how to proceed. It may be helpful to consider making some changes to better align with your goals and facing life with a positive outlook.

I'm not sure if this is something you'll be able to accept, given your current circumstances. From what I can gather, you're still in middle school, so it might be a bit challenging for you at the moment.

I wonder if I might suggest that the first thing you could try is learning to smile. I'm sure you'll agree that everyone smiles, so it's something we can all do.

Indeed, laughter can take many forms: a smile, a hearty laugh, a sneer, a mockery, a fake laugh, a mixture of laughter and tears, a forced smile, and so on. This is all I can think of for now, but I'm open to hearing more.

Perhaps the key is simply to learn to smile. Allow yourself to smile as much as you like.

Perhaps you think it's funny, but I would encourage you to practise.

Perhaps you could try smiling at yourself in the mirror every day until you feel satisfied. What does satisfied mean to you?

Perhaps you could try smiling to yourself until you feel like your smile can spread. It's a feeling that can make you feel good when you see it.

If you're interested, I'd be happy to show you how to achieve your goal.

I wonder if I might ask you a question.

I'm often corrected by my family, but I'm not sure who specifically. Is it my parents?

Or perhaps it's your siblings who scold you?

If you learn to laugh, you can simply acknowledge their scolding with a smile. Do you think they would still scold you?

I was on the receiving end of some rather strong criticism from my teacher for a period of three years during my elementary school years. I'm curious to know what you did to elicit such a strong response from your teacher.

Could this have contributed to the development of your social phobia?

It might be helpful to remember that teachers are also human. They are not as scary as you think.

It's important to remember that everyone, including teachers, has their weaknesses and makes mistakes.

If you look closely, you may be able to identify some areas where the teacher could improve. Why don't you give it a try?

As for your social phobia, it might be helpful to consider that it's actually just a fear of speaking. We can practice speaking.

I believe this exercise is actually quite straightforward. Perhaps you could try practising smiling every day?

If I may suggest, perhaps you could set aside ten minutes to read. If it is not too much trouble, I would recommend reading aloud.

You may choose whatever you like. Poems, essays, humorous jokes, tongue twisters, or any kind of book would be fine.

If I may make a suggestion, perhaps you could start reading from humorous jokes.

?‍♂️ Of course, these are all things you can do after you have shown that you are healthy. You may be wondering why I suggest that you start with humorous jokes.

If I might make a suggestion, I believe that the first step to overcoming social phobia is to please yourself. Try to make yourself feel good.

You may find that things become less difficult. You may also find that you have the inner strength to fight against yourself and social phobia.

If you are open to the possibility that what I am saying might be helpful, you can consider trying to follow my advice in a gradual way.

I'm optimistic that you'll see results in the near future. Best of luck to you.

I would like to express my gratitude to Yi Xinli World and to everyone I love.

Hello, question asker! From your description, it's clear that you're often scolded by your family and isolated for long periods of time. You can't express your needs, and you're lonely, depressed, sad, and grieving inside. I want to give you a hug.

I have also been isolated before, and I know exactly how you feel. You need someone to be by your side right now.

Your best friend stopped playing with you, which caused you to become depressed and anxious. You are sad, but you need to find someone to talk to and hug you back.

You are still young, and you need friends and peers to feel a sense of belonging and identity. As you get older, many people prefer to be alone and enjoy their time alone.

When you are isolated, I suggest the following points for your reference.

Leave on your own terms.

Take the initiative to leave those people who isolate you. They will isolate you because they want to feel superior to you. It will not do you any good to let them do so.

Second, know how to say no.

Those people isolate you and make you do things you don't want to do. You must firmly say no to them as long as it goes against your will.

If you are hurt, you must seek help from an adult immediately.

3. Make good friends.

You had a good girlfriend before, so you know you can make friends who share your interests. You just have to believe in yourself.

Don't label yourself as socially phobic. You can do it.

If your best friend broke off your friendship, you should have tried to mend it. You should have taken the initiative to reconcile with her.

You've been friends for so many years, so you should consider whether you want to regain his friendship.

4. Focus on your own affairs.

If you're still in school, focus on what you need to do now. When you're good, you'll gain self-affirmation and socializing won't matter as much to you.

5. Express your needs appropriately.

Your long-term unmet needs can also make you feel depressed. Tell your parents and friends about your needs and learn to express them.

You can do this. It may be difficult, but you can ask for help. You are already expressing your needs, and you are already doing great!

6. Release your emotions.

You must learn to release negative emotions. Don't doubt whether you have depression. Sometimes mental identification will also make you fall into such sad emotions. Release these negative emotions through sports, relaxation, or writing and pouring out.

I am confident that the above message will be useful to you. Best wishes!