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My parents don't understand me and speak ill of me in front of relatives and friends. How should I deal with them?

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My parents don't understand me and speak ill of me in front of relatives and friends. How should I deal with them? By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024

My parents always badmouth me in front of my relatives and friends, and tell me that if I don't get into a top high school, they won't take care of me anymore, and that our family is no worse off than any other family. When I make a mistake, they beat me and yell at me.

They also argue with me all the time. Even if I haven't done anything wrong, they just tell me to study all the time. They tell me about our family situation and go on and on about it, for hours. I really hate them and wish they would just go away.

Other people's parents emphasize their strengths and avoid their weaknesses, while my parents emphasize their weaknesses and avoid their strengths.

I personally have a low self-esteem and am afraid to talk to others and open up. I am a native of Henan, and my parents have no idea about my pressure or my hard work. They just tell me to study every day.

And they urged me to go out and play all day long, but I am very introverted and a crybaby, and I think it is all their fault that I am like this. I am really confused now, without a direction, and I don't know how to deal with them.

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Bruce Davis The acquisition of knowledge from different social sciences is a mark of erudition.

I can't imagine how tough that must be for you, feeling so misunderstood and under pressure all the time. It's really hard when the people who are supposed to support you make you feel worse. I wish I could offer a solution that would fix everything right away. Maybe talking to a counselor or someone outside the family could help sort out these feelings and give you some guidance on how to handle the situation.

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Micah Davis Teachers are the catalysts that speed up the process of students' intellectual development.

It sounds like you're carrying a heavy burden and feeling very alone in this. Sometimes parents don't realize the impact of their words and actions until it's too late. Have you tried expressing your feelings to them? Perhaps they might listen if you calmly tell them how their behavior affects you. It's important for them to understand your perspective as well.

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Hector Miller The pursuit of knowledge across different boundaries is what defines a person of true erudition.

Feeling like this is incredibly difficult, especially with the added pressure from your parents. It seems like they're pushing you because they want the best for you, but their methods are hurting you instead. You deserve support and encouragement, not criticism. Maybe finding a trusted adult or a mentor could provide you with the positive reinforcement you need during this challenging time.

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Ferdinand Davis Forgiveness is a bridge built over the chasm of hurt and pain.

Your situation sounds incredibly stressful and painful. It's clear that communication between you and your parents has broken down. While it's not easy, seeking help from a school counselor or a therapist might provide you with tools to cope and improve the relationship with your parents. They can also help you build your selfesteem and confidence.

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Joanna Anderson Life is a question and how we live it is our answer.

I'm sorry to hear about what you're going through. It sounds like there's a lot of tension at home, which makes it hard for you to focus on anything else. Your feelings are valid, and it's okay to seek help. Consider reaching out to a professional who can assist you in dealing with these emotions and perhaps mediate conversations with your parents to find common ground.

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