Once a good friend, now I don't want to deal with her, and it's painful to listen to her. What should I do?

Good morning. From your written account, it is evident that you are experiencing a state of anxiety.

As the college entrance examination approaches, it is reasonable to expect that one will not be disturbed. However, it transpires that one's former best friend has returned and is seated adjacent to one. She remains unchanged, preoccupied solely with her own interests and disregarding one's feelings and thoughts.

Memories of the past continue to resurface, and the indifference and negative sentiments you previously experienced with her persist, akin to the tenacity of chewing gum.

Indeed, you were exceedingly benevolent towards her initially, yet your kindness was not only unacknowledged but also resented. I am curious as to how you managed to persevere through those trying times.

It is unclear whether the subject will experience an improvement in their emotional state following the subject's departure. However, it is certain that the subsequent formation of friendships will not entail the same level of mistreatment. Now that the subject has returned, it is pertinent to inquire as to the subject's current perception of the relationship.

It would be beneficial to consider the type of attitude you would like to adopt when interacting with this individual. It is likely that you have not yet had the opportunity to reflect on this matter, so it is now an opportune time to do so.

Should you persist in maintaining the status quo, the inevitable consequence will be that you will be met.

Do you retain the same level of concern for her well-being as you did previously? Are you still anxious about her potential criticism?

One must also consider whether concern for her anger would influence one's decision-making. Would one still choose her over one's own needs and wellbeing?

It would be beneficial to consider how one might safeguard against potential hurt. In a manner similar to how one might address other irritating situations, what type of attitude and approach would be most effective when discussing the endorsement in question?

In the event that she fails to acknowledge the input of others or respond to queries, what course of action would you pursue? Is it inevitable that you must remain in her presence when she is causing you considerable distress?

What is the most significant objective for you during this three-month period? What is your primary goal?

What are your expectations for achieving this goal? What can you realistically achieve, and what can you relinquish?

In this brief response, I have posed a number of questions, some of which may already be part of your contemplation process, while others may be more novel. It is possible that the answers to these questions may require some time to formulate. However, I am confident that once you have done so, you will have a more nuanced understanding of the appropriate course of action in this relationship and during this period of time.

Ultimately, it is my hope that you will treat yourself as you once treated your closest friends, prioritizing your own happiness and interests while also ensuring your own well-being before attending to the needs of others. Additionally, I hope that you will approach your revision with a positive outlook and achieve the results you expect.

In the future, you will reflect on your actions and either feel gratitude or regret. If you experience difficulties during this period, you are encouraged to seek support from us.

I wish you the best of luck!

I am gratified to have been of assistance. When confronted with a significant life decision for the first time, or an examination, it is common to experience considerable anxiety and confusion. It is evident that the pressure felt in such circumstances is substantial.

Concurrently, the dissolution of a prior friendship prompted us to engage in communication with other individuals, thereby facilitating our comprehension of the genuine essence of friendship. Upon her return, we began to experience a sense of unease or to undertake an examination of this friendship and its associated individual. Our maturation has coincided with an increase in academic pressure, giving rise to feelings of anxiety.

Anxiety can be caused by a number of factors, including personality traits, family dynamics, and environmental influences. These factors can contribute to the development of stressful situations. As evidenced by the aforementioned statement, the root of the problem can be found in the conflict between one's perceived level of maturity and the demands of the examination, which can lead to feelings of anxiety.

The optimal solution is to address the issue from within, that is, to disengage from the friendship on a personal level. However, as the examination date approaches, it is necessary to alter the perspective for resolving the issue and seek a solution from external sources. The specific measures are as follows:

Firstly, it is essential to avoid the source of distraction, namely the friend in question. We have provided a comprehensive account of her characteristics, and it is possible that we know her better than she knows herself.

Therefore, the aforementioned conflicts and contradictions towards her cannot be a factor that interferes with our future prospects. If she is our good friend, she will naturally understand our temporary avoidance; if she does not understand, we will, of course, feel more relieved.

Secondly, it is essential to consider the methodology employed. It is necessary to temporarily avoid the subject in question, however, this should not be perceived as a means of concealment. The objective is to reduce the emotional connection with the subject.

To summarize, the act of chatting with this individual is not driven by a desire to converse, but rather by an emotional need to do so. When there is a lack of reciprocal engagement, such as a lack of expressed opinions or active attention, there is a natural decline in the desire to continue the conversation.

The same can be said of "her." It is also necessary to adapt to circumstances and act in accordance with the situation at hand.

A contemplation of the concept of friendship will undoubtedly facilitate our maturation, yet our primary objective at this juncture is the completion of our studies. Consequently, when we have the opportunity to engage in such reflection while studying, it is undoubtedly beneficial. However, if we are overwhelmed with the demands of our studies and still find ourselves contemplating this topic, it can be considered a detrimental distraction.

Ultimately, the objective is to enhance the level of self-differentiation. In simplified terms, this entails the capacity to engage in rational thought and decision-making regarding mundane matters, while maintaining emotional equilibrium.

Specific methods for improvement include undertaking homework tasks independently and formulating a study plan autonomously.

It is my hope that the aforementioned responses prove beneficial to you.

Once upon a time, you were the best of friends, inseparable girlfriends, good classmates, and sisters who couldn't be more in tune with each other. But time flies, and many relationships can be destroyed by the sea drying up and the sky collapsing. One of the most effective and thorough ways to destroy a friendship is to make them sit at the same table.

Why do you say that? Well, basically, most of the time, you can see each other in the corner of your eye! You can see the other person's indifference, various shortcomings, talking to others but not to me, the other person's colorful circle of friends, and sometimes the other person may even ignore you!

● We used to be good friends, but now you don't want to talk to her.

● What if it's hard to listen to? Well, the good news is she's still sitting with you!

●She kept saying "really pushy" when she saw you endorsing something.

☂︎☂︎☂︎☂︎ Friends

It's a challenge, but we can do it!

All kinds of things can happen to change the dynamic between two people. I noticed you used to sit next to each other in class, and her attitude didn't seem very good. It seemed like she was saying you were spying on her, right?

The other party's language is not very standardized, but it can be adjusted!

❉❉❉❉❉❉ Absolutely! It's always best to stay calm and tackle the issue head-on rather than letting it fester.

❉❉❉❉❉❉ If you don't want to be friends, you can consider changing seats!

You've got three months until the college entrance exam, so it's time to focus your energy on your future plans for college! While friendships may change after you get to college, what you have now is what you can have.

You can think about what you want to do now, and it's a great idea to say it and do it now! You won't have the chance to say something from the heart in the future, so you might as well seize the moment! If the other person is always rude, then you can explain the situation to her. I'm sure other students can also testify.

Every student has a different personality, and that's what makes us all special! Maybe you just happen to have such a suspicious and narrow-minded friend. Others are very nice, but when it comes to her, she is very strange. You have paid a lot of attention to her and asked after her well-being, which is great!

But she doesn't seem to be grateful at all. The other person may even be jealous that you don't want to work hard. These are all very negative ways to interact. But don't worry! You can still talk to the homeroom teacher about yourself and sit with her.

Students who want to study hard can sit with hardworking students and work hard together. She once wanted to take a break from school as well, but this attitude is really questionable. Although everyone has their own reasons for taking a break from school, it is really difficult for students who take a break to catch up. I highly recommend that you talk to your homeroom teacher or psychology teacher, or you can talk to a heart exploration coach or psychological listener. Best of luck and focus on getting into a good university!

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