Dear questioner,
It's totally normal to put things off until the last minute! We all know that some tasks just have to be done, but we never get started until the deadline is approaching. It's so easy to get nervous and anxious that we end up not doing the task or doing it well. We end up feeling remorseful and warning ourselves that we must not procrastinate next time, but we continue to procrastinate and feel anxious, which can really affect many aspects of our lives.
1 [Positive procrastination: Let time work it out] Let time work it out! This is what I call positive procrastination. It means we can make choices about some things, choose to accept or give up, and accept less-than-perfect results. We try to actively solve almost everything without giving time a chance. This is true procrastination. Sometimes it seems that acting to solve immediate problems doesn't give us a sense of accomplishment, but only makes us feel more empty. Letting time work it out means we can make choices or reject them on our own, knowing in our hearts that we are facing the things that really matter, which will enhance our sense of self-worth.
2 [Negative procrastination: the real procrastination] We all procrastinate sometimes. It's only natural! But there's a difference between putting something off because it's not urgent, and putting something off because it's important but not urgent. Sometimes, urgent things aren't actually important. And sometimes, important things aren't urgent. It's okay to procrastinate sometimes. But it's also important to remember that putting things off in the long term can make things worse.
How can we solve this together? I've got a few ideas:
Let's break down our goal into smaller, more manageable steps. We all know that procrastination can be harmful, but it's often out of our control. Just like smoking is harmful, but many people still do it, the harm of procrastination might not seem like a big deal right now, but it can have a bigger impact over time. So, let's divide our big tasks into smaller, more manageable ones. This not only reduces stress by breaking down tasks, but it also puts everything under our control, which will help us feel more confident and, with a little practice, overcome procrastination.
2. [You can appropriately increase the pressure on yourself] Although increasing pressure will make the task more difficult, giving moderate pressure will motivate us to do things. Making good use of our self-esteem is the best way to give pressure. If you want to become a certain kind of person, you must first prove it to yourself before you can prove it to others. Pressure will drive us to complete our tasks.
3. [List the benefits of getting things done] As the title suggests, what happens when you complete a task?
Think about all the ways it will make you feel good! You can also list all the ways procrastination can drag you down and make you feel bad about yourself. This approach can help generate enthusiasm for doing things, and it can be used as a standard to measure whether something is worth doing.
4. [Always give yourself a little nudge] Subliminal prompts are a great way to encourage you to be more proactive when faced with a challenging task.
Absolutely! Positive mental suggestion leads to positive psychological improvement.
Psychologists believe that mental suggestion comes from a certain ability to be "independent and autonomous" in people's self-awareness. Once a good mood is established, it will form a special iron force that motivates us to change reality. We can often use short phrases to give ourselves positive and powerful suggestions. We can also use motivational pictures, books, mottos, celebrities, etc. as tools for positive self-suggestion. We can often watch inspirational movies or books to regulate our emotions and persevere. You will find it useful. Always motivate yourself and tell yourself, "I can finish on time, I must finish!"
I really hope this helps the person who asked the question.


Comments
I can totally relate to feeling stuck in this cycle of procrastination. It's so frustrating when you know what needs to be done but can't seem to get started until it's almost too late. The anxiety just piles up, and even when you do start, the work doesn't feel good enough. I've been there, and it's really hard on your confidence.
It sounds like you're under a lot of pressure, and it's understandable that you'd want to escape by scrolling through your phone. But I wonder if there's a way to break this pattern, maybe by setting smaller, more manageable goals each day. That could help reduce the overwhelming feeling and build some momentum.
I hear you about the guilt from letting others down in group projects. It must be tough knowing that your delays impact others. Perhaps talking openly with your group members about your struggles could lead to more understanding and support from them. Sometimes sharing your challenges can bring people closer.
It's heartbreaking to see how this has affected your selfesteem and relationships. You're not alone in this; many students face similar issues. Seeking help from a counselor or therapist might provide strategies to manage the anxiety and improve your selfworth. It's okay to ask for help.
The desire to connect with your class leader is admirable, but it makes sense that you'd feel hesitant after causing trouble with late submissions. Maybe starting with a sincere apology and a commitment to change could rebuild trust. Small steps towards reliability can make a big difference over time.