Pessimistic in nature, always imagining things in a terrible way, worried about it happening to yourself?

Hello, dear question asker!

I can tell you're a smart, self-aware person who's aware of your own confusion and character.

I think this is a rare and precious quality.

You say you have a pessimistic personality, which means you always think the worst and worry about bad things happening to you.

I can tell that your situation is still very difficult. But don't worry! I'm here to give you some encouragement.

I totally get it. Nobody wants to put themselves in a difficult situation. I get the feeling you've been through a lot and faced a lot of challenges without getting the help you needed when you needed it.

I'm sure you've experienced a lot of bad things during your growth process, my friend.

Even if you haven't experienced it firsthand, you've probably heard or seen a lot of bad things.

That's why you have such a pessimistic personality, sweetheart.

I really feel for you, and I can see how all of your past experiences have shaped who you are today.

Your parents gave you the first 20 years of your life, and now it's your turn to create and change your life!

You want to be able to adjust your state of mind, and this is the first step on your journey to change.

First, you just need to learn to follow your heart.

You can follow your heart and become the person you want to be! It's something we all have to practice throughout our lives, but it's worth it.

Next, you just need to tweak the pessimistic part of your personality.

It's only natural to feel overwhelmed when you're in a tough spot. It's easy to think that things are terrible, or that you're overthinking things. But, it's important to remember that these feelings are just thoughts, and they don't necessarily reflect reality.

This is also a general saying in CBT therapy: one thought is heaven, the other is hell.

Once you've identified a problem, the next step is to use reverse thinking to assign meaning. You can also consider the negative aspects of the situation, as well as the positive ones.

I'm so happy to tell you that this will help you to constantly think in reverse, breaking through previous thinking deadlocks and dilemmas.

I really hope this has helped you, but I don't know if I'm sure.

I really do wish you all the very best, and I truly hope that you will overcome your difficulties and have a wonderful life very soon.

You deserve so much better!

I'm sending you lots of love and hope that things get better for you soon!

Hello, dear questioner!

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'd be more than happy to talk with you.

1. We often gain a sense of control through worrying, which is totally normal!

I know worrying can make us feel really uncomfortable, and it can even affect our daily lives and mood.

Take a moment to think back to when you first started worrying.

I'd love to hear if there have been any times when worrying has actually been helpful for you.

I'm so sorry to ask you this, but have there been any traumatic events in your past?

I'd love to know more about how your parents interacted with you when you were a child.

Some parents are always extremely worried about everything, and their children unknowingly take on this worry as if it were a habit.

Worrying is totally normal!

It's totally normal to worry sometimes. We all do it! But the thing is, you can choose to ignore it if it's not affecting your life.

If you feel like you're worrying too much, just remind yourself that you're feeling anxious.

Worries are about things that haven't happened yet, and that's okay!

It's totally normal to worry when we hope for a good outcome and have high demands for security.

At this time, it's actually telling us that we need to grow ourselves, which is great because it means we're on the path to becoming the best versions of ourselves!

It can be really helpful to try to let go of control over the future and accept that there will be uncertainties in life. You might find that your worries start to ease up a bit as a result.

2. And remember, you can always expand your own knowledge!

We all worry sometimes. It's only natural! We worry when we're seeking to avoid being deceived and hoping for a good outcome to happen to us.

I have a little saying for you that I think you'll like:

If there's a way to fix it, there's no need to worry!

If there's no solution to a problem, there's really no point in worrying, is there?

Just try to expand your awareness a little, my friend.

Worrying is just a habit we've all gotten used to. But don't worry! From now on, you can try replacing old habits with new ones.

Every day, say to yourself:

Instead of worrying, bless!

I wish you all the best things in life!

I wish things will go well for you!

I wish you the strength to face whatever comes your way with grace and courage.

Embrace the mystery of life! It's the very thing that makes life so fascinating.

Just think for a moment. Wouldn't it be a bit boring if someone was happy and successful all their lives?

So, every little thing that happens in life has a meaning.

Some wounds make us feel happiness in a deeper way.

When something bad happens, it makes us appreciate good things even more when they come along.

I really do wish you all the very best for happiness and success!

Even if something goes wrong or you get cheated, it's still a rare experience in life. We've all been there, and we'll all be there again. It's okay!

If we can face it bravely, it's also a valuable asset.

We all have our own unique personalities, and there's nothing wrong with having a pessimistic streak! It might have brought us certain benefits in the past, such as not getting carried away and being cautious.

You don't have to demand that you be optimistic. Just develop the optimistic side of yourself while being pessimistic. That way, you can see the glass as half full, too!

Because people are 360 degrees, my dear friend.

When we're too busy looking at the shadows, we don't notice the sunlight!

So, try to look at the sunshine more often, my friend!

You know, it's so true that "the more attention you pay to something, the more you reinforce it."

In psychology, there's something called selective attention.

I really believe that we can all benefit from paying more attention to the beautiful things and happy things in our lives. I'm sure you'll find that you experience more success, beauty, and happiness as a result!

This is the law of attraction, my friend.

I truly believe that a happy person is not someone who has never had bad things happen to them. Rather, it's someone who chooses to focus on the good, no matter how tough things get. This helps them live a better, happier life.

I really think you'd benefit from reading "Living a Life of Blossoming Joy." It's a great way to adjust your mindset!

Wishing you all the best!

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Hug the questioner. From your description, it's clear you're dissatisfied with yourself and worried.

You feel very pessimistic. In life, you are constantly worrying about the worst-case scenario. From your description of the problem, it's clear you want to change this side of yourself.

I can give you two pieces of advice.

Test your thoughts in real life. See how many situations there are in which the worst-case scenario you imagine will happen. When you feel that you are going to face the worst outcome in a certain situation, compare the worst outcome in your mind with the situation in reality. See how different your thoughts are from reality.

You must consider the worst-case scenario and plan how you will handle it. When the worst happens, you will be prepared and able to deal with it effectively.

The second is to enhance the recognition of your sense of self-worth. The questioner describes his own character as pessimistic, for example, and seems to believe he may be betrayed by others. He also appears to lack recognition of his own value.

You will be able to deal with such situations more confidently when you strengthen your recognition of your own value.

You've got this!

Hello!

From what you've said, I can tell you're dealing with a lot of stress, anxiety, and fear.

You say you have a very negative personality, that you always think the worst, and that you worry about bad things happening to you, like being cheated on. These feelings and thoughts have affected your daily life and mood, causing you a lot of pain, so you want to know how to adjust.

Next, I've got three pieces of advice for you to think about:

First, think about when you started to become so negative and always think the worst, and what happened at that time.

You'll only be able to move on from this if you figure out why you're like this.

Maybe you didn't get enough love from your parents when you were young, which made you feel like you weren't good enough and unworthy of love. This might have made you become very passive. Or perhaps you experienced a lot of bad things, which left you with lingering fear and made you always afraid that something like that would happen again. Or maybe you had a cheating experience that left a lasting impression on you. In short, you need to think about why you have a negative personality and always feel like no good things happen to you.

This kind of sorting out and reflection can also help to reduce some of the negative emotions you're feeling.

Second, I suggest you think about why you found that.

Once you figure out why you're the way you are, I suggest you think about that reason rationally. This will help you recognize reality, and recognizing reality will also ease your inner anxiety and worries.

To rationalize, you need to do the following two things:

One thing you can do is to realize that the things that worry you are unlikely to happen and are just in your mind's imagination.

In your description, you said that you always think of bad things happening to you, such as being cheated on, etc. So now, you should ask yourself: did those things actually happen?

It's unlikely that it will happen.

Second, remember that you've grown and are different from who you used to be (including the person you felt unloved as a child or the person you have been cheated on).

To put it another way, you need to see yourself growing. Even if you encounter those rare bad things again, you'll probably be able to deal with them. You need to believe in your own strength.

When you look at it from this perspective, your negative emotions will also subside.

Once again, I suggest you focus on yourself and think about what you can do to feel more relaxed.

Once you've considered the reasons you've identified, you might still have some anxiety and worry. In that case, think about what you can do to alleviate that state of mind.

For instance, you could talk to your family and tell them how you really feel to get their support and help. You could also try to avoid being cheated by not doing things involving money and personal information. You could also look for the good things about yourself to make yourself stronger and become more positive and optimistic. In short, there are things you can do to make yourself feel better.

Taking action can help ease negative emotions because sometimes, taking action is the best way to combat them.

Also, if your situation doesn't improve after following the above advice and things get worse, you should go to a professional and authoritative hospital for further diagnosis because you may be suffering from persecution paranoia. But even if you are diagnosed with this disease, don't be afraid because modern medical technology is very advanced and it is very likely that this disease can be cured.

I hope this helps.

Hello. From your description, it seems as though you might be facing some challenges in your daily life. It's possible that these challenges are causing you to feel fearful.

Could I ask if there is any basis for your current concerns?

Could I ask if anything has ever happened that made you feel similarly?

You mentioned that you are concerned about the possibility of something unfortunate occurring, such as being cheated. Have you ever experienced such a situation?

If so, could you please tell me what happened at the time? How did you respond? How did the event leave its mark on you at the time?

It's worth noting that pessimism can sometimes be related to past experiences, but not always. For instance, a recent concern about potential negative outcomes might actually stem from a more generalized anxiety, possibly related to a challenging relationship or difficulties in coping with academic or professional demands.

It might also be helpful to focus on the present moment as a way of dealing with it.

If it isn't too much trouble, could you think of anything that has been going wrong for you recently? What things have made you feel anxious or out of control?

If there were any challenges, how did you approach them? What were the outcomes?

You may find the answers to these questions by asking yourself some questions.

If you can identify the specific issue that causes you to feel a certain way, you may find that your emotions are less intense and more manageable. It may also help you to understand your feelings better and to place them in a more constructive context.

If I might make one more suggestion, it would be to consider paying closer attention to your emotional state, keeping an emotional diary, or seeking counseling to help you work through any negative emotions you may be experiencing. It's important to remember that holding on to these emotions can sometimes lead to negative and pessimistic views. It might be helpful to find someone you trust to talk to about your feelings.

I hope you will be able to emerge from this situation soon and regain your confidence.