Primary school student, parents only use me as a tool, I get beaten up left and right, might as well kill myself

Good day. I am Enoch, the respondent.

From the description provided by the questioner, it appears that the questioner's parents exhibit a tendency to be overly controlling. Additionally, the parents in question seem to lack the requisite mindset to facilitate positive familial dynamics. Their own lives appear to be characterized by a lack of stability and organization, which may contribute to their tendency to exert excessive control over their children. Furthermore, they seem to be experiencing a degree of confusion regarding their own aspirations for their children's future.

The questioner experiences a profound sense of distress in this environment. I am uncertain as to the most appropriate course of action.

It would be beneficial to offer the original poster a gesture of physical affection.

The issue that the original poster is grappling with is the prospect of spending the entirety of the holiday period in the company of their parents. This may potentially lead to a situation where the original poster is subjected to the emotional outbursts of their parents upon waking up in the morning. The original poster's parents exhibit a lack of emotional regulation, which extends to their inability to effectively manage their own lives and parenting skills.

In light of these circumstances, it is evident that the subject's life within this familial context is inherently challenging.

It is recommended that the questioner accompany his parents to a professional family counseling session. This will enable the parents to adjust their mentality, manage their emotions and lives on a daily basis, and establish the correct parenting concepts under the guidance of a counselor.

Given that the questioner is still in primary school, it may prove challenging for them to make such a request of their parents. Should they encounter difficulties in the process, it would be advisable for them to reflect on their situation and seek assistance from their homeroom teacher. The teacher's guidance and support could prove invaluable in this instance. It would also be beneficial for the teacher to communicate with the parents in a patient and understanding manner. With the teacher's guidance and support, it is likely that the parents will be willing to cooperate and make certain changes.

Additionally, the questioner may wish to discuss with their parents the possibility of enrolling in a tutorial class during the holiday period. This could help to maintain an appropriate distance from their parents, allow them to concentrate on their studies, and, once their studies and homework are complete, enable them to assist with some housework upon their return home. It is possible that this could lead to a change in family relationships.

In conclusion, it is my hope that the questioner will develop a sense of confidence and optimism about their future. As they grow older, they will undoubtedly experience positive changes.

It's really tough to hug a child who's hurting. You're so brave to come here and ask for advice. I'm here to help you in any way I can.

It's so sad when your parents only see you as a tool and don't show you any love. It makes you feel very uncomfortable, doesn't it?

They want you to study every day because they have high hopes for your future. But this approach isn't working for you, and it's causing you pain. Instead of making you study happily,

"I haven't even had a chance to play for a while before I'm told to do my homework. Is that right? I'll do it, just let me finish. But before I've even started, they tell me to do the housework." It seems like your parents could use a little help planning things out. If you want to stop feeling controlled, you might benefit from learning a few communication skills.

It's not good to feel forced, and it's totally understandable that you feel scared when your parents threaten to hit you. You deserve to feel safe and loved at home, so it's really important to learn to communicate with your parents in a way that works for you.

For example, you could say something like, "My schedule, my ideas, what are your ideas? We can talk about it."

Parents want their children to succeed, which is a wonderful expression of love. However, they may not always know how to balance that love with their demands.

So for you, who are feeling oppressed, learning to express yourself and how to communicate with your parents is a really important topic. If you don't feel you have the ability to do it yourself, it's totally ok to get help.

Before you look for help outside the family, it's really important to be able to say exactly what you want to say and to write down all the ways your parents have hurt you. This will help them to understand what you need.

Your parents are also new parents, and they're still learning too! Remind them that they're doing a great job, but there's still a long way to go in life, and there are still many difficulties to overcome. You're doing great, little man! The world and I love you, and I'm excited to see you grow and be happy!

Good morning.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider that when parents give orders and tell us what to do, it might feel a bit limiting. It's understandable that we might not always feel comfortable expressing our own requests. If I can't fully embrace my own pain, it's worth asking who will truly value our bodies and care about how I feel.

It would be inaccurate to view parents as symbols of God, as they have their own limitations.

When a primary school student protests that "my parents treat me like a tool," this is already a very good ability to detect the enemy. At least before the standard of living rose with material abundance, many children grew up cautiously under the authority of their parents. Children had no say and no opportunity to express themselves, and gradually their emotional awareness also decreased. Therefore, it is surprising that the questioner is very young but has the ability to perceive themselves. It would be helpful to try to give yourself more strength and allow yourself to better accept the limitations of your parents' existence. For example, they cannot control their own automated thoughts and behaviors. When they see that their children cannot satisfy them in time, they may feel anxious and manic. This may be caused by life stress, or it may be that they urgently need an outlet, so they turn to their children, who need to take on the least responsibility, but don't understand that children are not their replicas. Children have their own perceptions and thinking abilities, and if the emotional connection is not healthy, pain may arise.

It may be helpful to consider the limitations of your own upbringing and to express yourself and ask for help if you feel you need it.

It is worth noting that the practice of "beating" children is no longer as freely accepted as it once was. If a parent resorts to physical punishment solely to satisfy their own needs, they may even be held legally responsible. However, it is understandable that not all parents are professionals when it comes to raising their children. In some cases, parents may resort to inappropriate methods or lose control of their emotions. However, it is crucial to ensure that such unexpected situations do not become the norm. If, in a particular situation, physical abuse has become a significant concern, it is important to seek external help. This could include calling the police or, with the help of other trusted adults, reporting the incident to the authorities for further investigation. It is essential for parents to understand that their actions may potentially challenge the boundaries of the law. If they fail to address this issue, they may lose the ability to continue raising their children. However, if parents only resort to verbal threats to control their children, they do not need to be afraid and can express their true feelings and thoughts. It is my hope that parents can adjust their words and actions to treat themselves and their children with greater understanding and respect. Through open and constructive communication, parents who love their children can make positive changes.

Perhaps the value of life is not so much measured by the attitude of others towards our lives, but rather by our attitude towards ourselves. It may be helpful for us to learn to value our own lives, which could represent a symbol of our willingness to value our own worth.

I hope this message finds you well.

It is understandable that this situation is challenging for you.

It is a prudent decision to solicit guidance through this medium. It is an auspicious juncture that can facilitate a transformation in one's experience.

I commend you for your perceptiveness and fortitude in recognizing these issues and articulating them with clarity.

Indeed, a considerable number of the parents' actions were inappropriate or inconsiderate.

It is possible that they have not considered the matter in depth. This can result in a sense of being constantly interrupted, lacking sufficient time to concentrate, and a lack of autonomy in one's own life.

Affirmative. These are the feelings in question.

These feelings are uncomfortable, and the individual in question feels disrespected and unseen. The individual is merely fulfilling their parents' wishes. The individual feels like a tool. The individual also feels smothered, which is why the individual felt compelled to say those things at the end.

You have identified these issues and articulated them with clarity. By doing so, you have taken an important step towards reclaiming your personal strength.

You have perceptively identified and articulated these issues with remarkable clarity. It is now time to draw upon our inner strength and resilience to confront these challenges head-on.

Let us first examine the positive aspects of the parents' interruptive behavior. They instruct me to engage in outdoor play, which is undoubtedly more beneficial than remaining indoors. I proceed to do so, but before I can fully engage in play, I am directed to complete my homework. This prompts me to comply with their request and begin my homework. However, before I can even begin, they urge me to assist with household chores, as if I were a necessary contributor. I inform them that I am currently occupied with my homework, but they respond by demanding to know the specifics of my assignment. They then threaten physical violence if I do not comply with their demands for assistance with household chores.

I am acutely fearful of pain, so I comply, but before I can complete the task, I am instructed to perform a series of additional tasks (the child is also a member of the family and contributes to the household by performing some of the household chores). Each time I refuse to comply, I am subjected to coercive tactics to force me to comply. As a result, I experience suicidal ideation due to the lack of viable alternatives. I am subjected to pressure from both sides (because I want

A process of emotional development occurs during this period.

Initially, children believe that their parents are correct in some respects and that they must adhere to established norms. This belief is evident in their attitudes towards activities such as playing outdoors and completing homework.

Subsequently, there is the phenomenon of forced resentment, whereby an individual may experience a sense of trepidation regarding the potential consequences of their actions, yet proceed to engage in the behavior in question.

Subsequently, the child may engage in rebellious behavior, perceiving themselves as constantly being pushed around.

Two aspects: parents are also well-intentioned when engaging in certain behaviors, but they also employ some inappropriate methods and engage in some wrong behaviors.

Two aspects: parents are also well-intentioned when they engage in certain behaviors, but they also employ some inappropriate methods and exhibit some inappropriate behaviors.

1. Frequent interruptions. 2. Failure to solicit the child's input. 3. Utilization of physical punishment.

The focus is on identifying positive aspects to address the aspects that are unclear or in need of change.

The parents' inability to engage in self-reflection is a consequence of their limitations.

For example, one might cite a lack of education as a contributing factor.

2. It is possible that parents have themselves grown up in a similar manner, and thus perceive no alternative to the way of life they experienced during their own childhood.

3. Stress experienced in adulthood has been observed to transfer emotional states to subsequent generations.

This section may be somewhat discomforting, but it is nevertheless important to gain an understanding of the situation, as the individuals in question may be lacking in certain knowledge or awareness.

Direction for improvement:

It is imperative to be clear.

One establishes a routine and rhythm for oneself.

To illustrate, I am able to assist with domestic tasks for a period of 20 minutes. Following this, I must then attend an online class.

I must request that I be allowed to complete my online course before I am able to assist with any additional matters that may arise.

This is an indication to one's parents that one is capable of managing one's own time, that there are certain periods when one is unavailable for interruption, and that one does not intend to reject them.

4. I possess a sense of self-control.

It is advisable to seek out support systems.

In the event that one's parents' behavior causes distress, it is important to identify sources of support. It may be beneficial to consider whether there are other elders or relatives in the family who could facilitate communication and potentially mediate the relationship.

It would be beneficial to ascertain whether the teacher is able to assist in facilitating communication between the student and their parents.

If feasible, family therapy may be a viable option. It is crucial to facilitate an understanding with parents that there are alternative approaches and that the family unit can serve as a source of support for personal growth.

May blessings be upon you.

My dear child, let me give you a big hug! It's so hard for you to talk to everyone here, which shows that you have more knowledge and experience than your peers.

First, let's talk about mom and dad. We all have our own unique patterns. Dad has his own childhood experiences and life experiences, and mom has her own childhood experiences and life experiences. Every mom and dad is doing this for the first time. Where does their experience come from? It comes from their parents and from the teachings of society. So it is inevitable that there will be mistakes in the process of educating you, but what is certain is that mom and dad definitely love you very much.

In today's fast-paced world, education (including school education and family education) has become very inward-looking. It's only natural that parents' anxieties will be passed on to their children. We're not taking the side of parents here when it comes to educating you. One thing is for sure: if parents often hit you, that is definitely inappropriate and wrong. This is not the era of filial piety achieved through beating. What we need is equality, mutual respect, and seeing each other. For example, as a child, can you see the hardships of your parents? Can you see that no matter how much hardship and fatigue they will bear? Similarly, can your parents see your efforts, see your progress bit by bit? This is mutual.

As the wise ancients said, "The hair on our bodies and our skin are a gift from our parents. We should not damage them, for this is the beginning of filial piety."

The meaning is this: Everything on our body, even a single hair or bit of skin, is given to us by our parents. Since our body and hair are entrusted to our parents, we should appreciate our parents' love for their children and protect our bodies, not daring to harm them in the slightest. This is the beginning of filial piety.

So, it's best not to hurt yourself. You'll always be your parents' treasure and their favorite one. Even if they hit you or scold you, it won't change how much they love you.

The teacher suggests that you talk more with your parents about your feelings, such as your sadness, your anger, your happiness, and your expectations. It's so important to have open communication with your mom and dad. They want to know everything about you! Talk to them about your innermost thoughts, once, twice, three times. I believe that your mom and dad will definitely see it and there will definitely be changes.

I'm so happy to see you! I can't wait for your next visit, when I'll get to know you better and hear more about you and your parents.