Recently, the school was evaluating students for awards and honors, and my roommate didn't vote for me. I'm so sad. What should I do?

Hello, my name is Gu Yi, and I try to be as humble as I can be.

It would be helpful to identify the root cause of the problem.

Everyone has their own way of dealing with the world. This way of dealing with the world is formed by a number of factors, including family culture and upbringing, level of education, and experiences in various areas. It is a dynamic process, so what we see and feel may not be the most accurate or permanent.

Facing an isolated roommate, you took the initiative to approach and warm the other person. You thought that if you did this, the relationship between you would be good, and he should remember your help. However, it's possible that your expectations of gratitude from the other person may have been a bit misguided. It's also important to remember that when we help others, it's not always guaranteed that they'll feel the same way about us in return.

You brought up the issue of your roommates and they acknowledged it. You felt that your friends were improving and that this situation was something you could work with. However, when it came time to vote, you realized that they didn't support you. You were disappointed and felt a sense of frustration and sadness.

Perhaps it would be beneficial to adjust your expectations of others.

It's not uncommon for us to fall into this trap. We may have good intentions, a positive outlook, and feel good about the situation. We've invested a lot of effort, so it's natural to expect others to stand with us. However, it's important to recognize that the starting point doesn't necessarily determine the outcome, and good intentions don't always guarantee positive feelings.

I believe it is important to do things for the right reasons. If we do something because we hope to get something in return, it may not be as meaningful as we intend it to be. It can also make it more difficult for us to truly empathize with the problems of others.

Your kindness, goodness, character, and values give us hope that we can become a little more open-minded ourselves. However, we should not use these qualities as bargaining chips or criteria to judge others. Classmates and friends have experienced some things together, and those that are suitable will move forward together, while those that are not suitable will slowly fade away.

I hope the original poster will not let these things interfere with themselves. I believe that being true to oneself is the best way to become a better version of oneself.

I hope this finds you well. Please accept my best wishes for the future.

You think that since you supported her in the past, she should repay you now. But when your mother was sick, didn't she react in a way that was similar to the result of this vote?

Now, it's up to you to decide whether she lacks emotional intelligence or has opinions about you that you are unaware of. It's also up to you to decide whether she has not shown the normal comforting and supportive behavior of a classmate or friend. This is an exciting opportunity for you to analyze and judge for yourself!

This is the reason behind her behavior. At the same time, you may feel that "returning kindness for kindness" and "giving and taking" are normal social principles, but you also need to understand that not everyone thinks this way, which makes things more interesting! Some people are gregarious, while others are solitary. Could this be why she was isolated in her previous dormitory?

This is her own problem, and she can work through it!

And who knows what she really thinks of you! Maybe she was already full of resentment when you decided not to go with her, so how can you expect her to remember your kind gesture of "standing by her side"?

There may be many accidental and specific points in how a person behaves that you or other people cannot control. For you, of course, her lack of support makes you angry and upset. But you can analyze the possible reasons and causes, and more importantly, figure out how to explain and respond to her behavior, as well as how to get along with her in the future!

And of course, don't forget that you are a candidate for the award two years in a row! This is an amazing opportunity, so make sure you accept any comments and votes from others.

I wish you all the happiness in the world!

"A strong connection between friends is always valuable, and a close friendship is worth a great deal."

It is advisable to adopt a light-hearted approach when dealing with friends. It is important not to take things personally and to remain calm if you do not receive a high number of votes. It is essential to gain an understanding of ourselves and to learn to let go of negative experiences. We are all alone and will encounter these things at school and in society. There will always be people who do not view us favourably, but we should also be aware that there will also be people who become our close friends. This is something that will happen, and some things will not change us with just a few words from others. We need to gradually learn that life is about letting go. Our friendship is stronger than the sky, but we will still encounter results that are not like this. It is like learning to drive and turning corners. We need to plan our dreams, not study and not get upset if we do not receive a high number of votes. It is important not to let the things that are currently bothering you affect you. We will only grow after experiencing them. We need to know that life is not about getting lost.

It is advisable to set long-term goals. It is unproductive to dwell on immediate challenges. Adaptability is essential. It is prudent to address issues promptly. We should embrace the duality of nature, including both sunshine and rain.

It is important to promote yourself forward, not backward. Both boys and girls should strive to be unique and one of a kind.

It is unwise to judge things by appearances. It is erroneous to assume that just because someone is happy every day with someone, they can promise to be together forever. Sometimes things are just for show. There are too many of these kinds of things, so we should not worry about them. We have to be able to withstand the stormy weather, withstand being slandered, and fight on with our emotions. We have to overcome ourselves, not others.

When you encounter sincerity, do not be arrogant. Some things are true for you, some are illusions, and some will doubt our capabilities. This is normal. We must persevere and appreciate life. We desire recognition, but there is still a long way to go.

Friends, It is important to remember that none of us is perfect, and we all have flaws. There is no voting taking place, and you are free to reflect or not reflect as you see fit. It is therefore sufficient for us to just be ourselves.

If a connection is meant to be, time and distance are not obstacles. The universe is vast, as is our potential for interaction, and we may meet again in the future or never see each other again.

We should proceed according to our own plan, disregard the opinions of others, and terminate the relationship if it is not working out.

It is important to note that friendship is never the primary objective, and that school friendships are typically more innocent.

Good friends, it is important to recognize that a friendship does not need to be overly saccharine, and that a genuine friendship can withstand the test of time. A friendship that is nurtured and maintained can be a source of great joy.

I am aware of your benevolence and recognize your integrity. It is imperative that we maintain a positive and satisfied disposition.

It would be beneficial to adopt a more open-minded approach. Having a positive outlook is likely to lead to success.

I believe you are the best person for the job.

Hello!

Hug you ~ don't be discouraged. Not every friendship is beautiful. Sometimes it can also be painful.

My roommates didn't vote for me. How should I choose friends?

The school voted for students for awards. I was voted for twice, but my roommates never voted for me. When the other roommate was voted for, I voted for her. I felt sad.

I don't know how old the original poster is. Our relationships change as we grow. Friendships have different effects on us at different times. A good, stable friendship is good for our health. But there are other things that affect the quality of a friendship.

Teenage friendships usually last a short time. The friends spend a lot of time together and share the same goal of "studying." They can become a group and reach a consensus to become friends. However, even if they enter a group, they will still be divided into different groups due to their different personalities and values.

Adults make friends less often than teenagers, but they still value loyalty, honesty, and trustworthiness. They can choose friends who suit them better because they already have their own values.

Adults are less likely to feel insecure, vulnerable, or betrayed than teenagers.

Seeing each other's needs and making good friends.

I used to hang out with my roommate B all the time, but then my mom got sick. When I found out, I cried, and she stayed away from me. That's when I decided not to hang out with her and chose to hang out with my roommate C. And now here I am, voting in this poll.

I'm angry and sad. My roommate B disappointed me. I stood by her side at first, but now she has done this to me.

Social anxiety is part of our lives at work or school. We want to be seen in a good way, but if we feel uncomfortable or in conflict with others, it makes us feel worse. This can lead to social pressure and anxiety.

Just like Friend B in the story, when she was in a state of "helpless isolation," the questioner accepted her "weakness" and gave her encouragement and support, which made the friendship better. But when the questioner encountered the same "weakness" and her mother was seriously ill and could not bear the pressure, she did not receive her comfort and support, and she left in defiance. This was a denial of the questioner's "weakness" and her own vulnerability.

It is powerful to be strong and independent, but it is even more powerful to know how to express vulnerability at the right time. This shows that nothing can defeat her. No matter how big the problem is, she can maintain an open and positive attitude to accept and solve it. This is a kind of strong willpower and self-confidence that comes from within. On the other hand, weak people are afraid to face their weaknesses, so they avoid them. Courage is replaced by timidity, and they become vulnerable.

If someone is different from you, don't feel sad. Leave with dignity. When someone rejects you, think about whether your principles have been touched.

Then deal with it reasonably and properly, and find common ground while keeping your differences.

A good friendship is based on mutual respect and understanding.

Good luck!