Senior high school students, why is it that they often cannot perform up to their true level in exams?

From your description, I can see that you are feeling a bit tense and stressed, and you've got some negative thoughts about your ability to do well in the exam. These behaviors are preventing you from concentrating during the exam, but I can help you with that!

I call this effect a loss of connection with one's own strength – a "disconnection" is taking place. But there's good news! You can reconnect with your strength.

I think you've already developed a fear of the exam and told yourself that you are unable to cope. Perhaps you've discovered that you just want to get the exam over with as soon as possible. This is totally normal! It's just a way of wanting to escape faster, and the present moment has already become unbearable for you.

I can see that you are sensitive to your body's sensations, which is great! I have three suggestions for you:

I can see that you are sensitive to your body's sensations, which is great! I have three suggestions for you:

First: When you feel tense, it's time to tune in to your body! Use a colored pen to draw the areas of your body that feel tense.

One: When you feel tense, it's time to tune in to your body! Use a colored pen to draw the areas of your body that feel tense.

Now for my second tip: you can calm yourself down by regulating your breathing!

Take a deep breath as if you were smelling a beautiful flower! Inhale, and let the air flow through your nose.

And now, exhale through your mouth!

Repeat the action with gusto! Inhale through your nose and exhale through your mouth.

It's amazing what a difference it makes when you pay attention to which part of your body you are breathing with! Keep practising and you'll be amazed at how much better you feel!

Now for the third tip! You can take your breathing exercises to the next level with some abdominal breathing. Place your hand on your abdomen and feel the rise and fall of your hand with each breath.

With patience and love for yourself, feel the sensations in your body. You're on your way to feeling more and more calm!

Step 4: Give yourself a big pat on the back for all your hard work and flexibility. Being grateful is the opposite of being harsh. This positive behavior creates a friendly and compassionate atmosphere—an atmosphere that is perfect for self-growth!

✿ These regular exercises are a great way to give your brain, blood, and body plenty of oxygen, so they can perform at their absolute best!

Note: In the grip of the epidemic, our state of mind is in a precarious situation every day, and books are a haven for the soul. When all those painful experiences of loneliness, vulnerability, anger, and trauma are faced, they can be contained and shared with kind words, and we can better bear these pains.

Note: In the grip of the epidemic, our state of mind is in a precarious situation every day. But there is hope! Books are a haven for the soul. When all those painful experiences of loneliness, vulnerability, anger, and trauma are faced, they can be contained and shared with kind words, and we can better bear these pains.

We would love for you to join our book club to discuss the book "The Power of Self-Healing Mindfulness." This book shows how mindfulness self-healing can break through the inertia of over-brain development, successfully reduce stress, and become a way to be at ease in oneself.

I can sense the guilt, restlessness, and anxiety in the questioner's heart. The pressure of entering the senior year is much greater than that of the first and second years of high school. However, one's test scores just won't improve. They either stay the same or go down after entering. There is a certain gap between them and one's desired ideal scores. Unable to understand and accept this situation, one feels like one has lost to others and oneself, and even feels that one's test-taking ability is also poor. All of this is understandable.

But these are just surface-level issues. They don't address the core of the questioner's inner struggles. It seems like the questioner is using their test scores as a way to prove that they're struggling with test-taking. This then leads to feelings of guilt, anxiety, and unease.

When it comes to sharing your feelings, it's important to identify who you're feeling guilty towards. This person is the one you should express your inner emotional feelings to. However, your guilt can sometimes overshadow and protect your inner emotional feelings. This makes it difficult for you to be aware of your other emotional feelings. To address this, you can go deep within yourself to become aware of these feelings and see what they contain. This process can lead to valuable insights.

Every student wants to get good grades and get into their ideal school. But it's tough to put your ideas into practice in the real world.

Some students know that they need to work hard to get ahead. They'll try anything to improve their learning efficiency and academic performance. They'll do whatever it takes to get better grades and achieve their goals. Some students also know that they need to study hard and get good grades. But what they do in many situations doesn't help them improve. It makes it harder for them to study and their grades suffer. Their actions and thoughts are off-track. The more off-track they are, the more intense the inner conflict becomes. The more intense the conflict, the more painful and difficult it is for them. But they don't know why. They can't stop or solve this pain. Their inner powerlessness and helplessness makes it worse.

To solve these issues, it's important to understand your emotions and needs. Think about how you feel when you do poorly on an exam and whether you get a sense of satisfaction from it. Also, think about what kind of "good grades" you want and what they mean to you.

From what the questioner said, it seems like he lost to others and lost to himself. It's clear that the questioner cares a lot about winning and losing, and links academic performance with winning and losing. This kind of thinking seems to have some generalizations from a specific point of view. That is, the questioner treats a specific point of winning and losing as something that can affect his overall winning and losing, and treats his academic performance as if it's his life's winning and losing, which isn't very objective.

In the big picture, exam results are just a way to test how much knowledge you've absorbed from the textbook and how much you still have to learn. One or two bad results doesn't define your future. If you don't do well on an exam, find out why and work to fix it. Your grades will improve.

Life is the same. Not being able to do one or two things well doesn't mean you can't do anything well, and it doesn't mean you're worthless. Everyone has things they can and can't do. You can keep doing the things you can, and you can ask others for advice and learn from them if you can't do something. If you master the right methods, you'll naturally get better at it with more practice.

I think another key issue for the questioner is why they're studying for exams. Is it to live up to their parents' expectations, to live up to their own expectations, or something else? This question will affect how they approach learning, as well as how enthusiastic they are about it. This will then affect their learning state and grades. Once this question is answered, many problems will have an answer.

Everyone is a beacon of light! When you ask a question or answer one, your words can illuminate the hearts of many people. This is a power that we all share, and it's an amazing thing!

Hello, dear child! I am a heart coach, and I'm here to help. I can see you're feeling a bit distressed. You've been working hard at your studies, and while you haven't achieved the results you hoped for, I know you'll get there! It's totally normal to feel a little hurt, but try not to feel guilty towards your parents. You've made so many great efforts, and I know you'll get there!

Let's embrace each other from afar and identify the root of the problem.

1. Self-blame and shame

Guilt is basically a feeling of remorse for doing something wrong, and it is a basic human emotion.

Guilt is originally beneficial to humans! However, when people are unable to reciprocate and cannot restore the balance in their relationships, they will feel guilty. A long-term sense of guilt can affect endocrine function, causing suffering, which can turn into aggression.

But when it turns to aggression, people are prone to grumbling and complaining. And complaining can easily make people feel frustrated.

So, it's important to pay attention to your emotions to figure out what kind of guilt you're feeling: guilt for doing something wrong and hurting others, or guilt for being in debt to others.

Spreading love is a great way to help others and regain spiritual abundance! For example, parents have the awesome responsibility and obligation to raise their children, and children have the amazing responsibility and obligation to respect and care for their parents.

There are so many wonderful ways to show your filial piety! You can respect your parents, support them, and honor them. As a student, you have the amazing opportunity to start by showing your parents respect. In the future, you'll be able to support and honor them in so many ways!

There's nothing more rewarding than making your parents proud! It's the ultimate expression of filial piety, and your love for them is reflected not only in your studies and grades, but in everything you do!

Instead of dwelling on what you think you should have done differently, take a deep breath and look at what you did do. Sum up and reflect on why you haven't been rewarded with the results you deserve despite your efforts. Then, get ready to make some changes!

Time management? Method and technique?

Mental strength? Absolutely! Coincidence and so on. "Walking the same old path in new shoes" will naturally lead to the same old result. "Sharpening the knife does not delay the firewood cutting work." Summarize and reflect, find a new path and breakthrough!

"I am the root of everything." What have I learned from this experience? How can I avoid similar things from happening again? And most importantly, what do I need to do to achieve the results I want?

Once you find the cause, you can solve it! And you know what? Ability can be improved through training and cultivation.

This is a great way to shift your focus from the past to the present and future. It allows you to see hope and feel full of strength! You can even enlist the help of a teacher or close friend to help you accomplish this task together.

?2. Inferiority and frustration Let's turn this around!

I can also sense from your words that you feel frustrated because your efforts are not being rewarded in proportion to your efforts, which makes you doubt yourself and feel negative about yourself. But don't worry! This is something we can work on together.

Our whole life cannot and will not be "defined" or even "frozen" by a single achievement. As Professor Xue Zhaofeng said, "We are all writing our own resumes for our lives." In other words, every contribution you make has already been marked with a price tag, waiting to be rewarded by time. There is no need to rush!

The good news is that you can absolutely benefit from what you've learned! The more anxious you are, the less you can absorb new knowledge, so try to relax and stay in a good mood.

So, despite the fierce competition and everyone being "rolled up" at the moment, there is absolutely no need to compare yourself with others! That belief that you are not good enough is just restrictive.

You've come so far! Compared to yesterday's self, at least your grades have gone up after your efforts, even though there have been setbacks. You will definitely be able to find the reason.

Seeing your own efforts and growth and giving them recognition is so important! It brings self-acceptance, a heightened sense of value, and thus continuously improved self-confidence. It's a virtuous circle!

I really hope the above has provided you with a new perspective, with more choices, and that you love the world and yourself just as much as I love you! ?

If you want to keep the conversation going, just click "Find a Coach" in the top right corner or at the bottom. I'd love to keep chatting with you one-on-one!

Hello, my child. I hope this helps.

You seem unsure and unmotivated. You may panic during exams and get the wrong answers. I'm here to support you.

I hope these suggestions help. You can regain your motivation and confidence by making some psychological adjustments. You will be able to calmly face the exam.

There is a way to learn. Acknowledge your efforts and adjust your expectations.

It's normal for our academic performance to fluctuate. Each exam has a different focus, and some students will be stronger than us in some areas. This can make us feel like we've regressed. But exams help us understand our learning situation. If we did poorly, we shouldn't blame ourselves. Instead, we should see where we need to improve. Self-blame and anxiety won't help. Instead, we should accept ourselves, become more calm, analyze our weaknesses, and remember that a bad exam doesn't mean we'll fail every time. We should focus on improving ourselves in a targeted way.

We also need to avoid comparing ourselves with others because we may be at different learning levels. While you are working hard, others are also working hard. Don't pay attention to their progress. Adjust your learning plan and help yourself make progress.

Set reasonable goals to regain confidence and motivation.

You don't need to copy other people's goals. Set a goal that's right for you. If you're not sure about your level, ask your teacher for help. Sometimes, we can't judge our own level. Just ask two teachers, and they'll tell you where you are.

Set yourself learning goals of a moderate level of difficulty. If your current daily vocabulary retention level is 5 words, set a goal to memorize 7 English words every day. This is a little higher than your original level, but not by much. Only such a goal can motivate you to learn.

So, adjust your expectations and goals. Setting the goal too high will cause anxiety. We just need to do our best. We should not be too competitive. We just need to maintain our pace and stick to our revision plan. We will make progress every day.

2. Think positively and appreciate progress.

A good study plan is helpful, but we might still have doubts and procrastinate.

Believe you can improve and learn better. See your efforts and hard work, and feel the strength you gain.

Recall past successes and say to yourself, "I can succeed in this exam too." This will eliminate tension and evoke self-confidence.

We should focus on what we have gained, not on our shortcomings. Focus on what you can do and what you have learned. You will see that you have gained something every day. You will feel joy from making progress every day. Your heart will slowly settle down.

3. We can handle nervousness.

Breathe deeply when you feel nervous. Hold your breath for four or five seconds, then slowly exhale. Repeat a few times to relax, then go on with your day.

Practice whenever you have time to calm down when stressed.

Do some aerobic exercise. Exercise is a good way to adjust your mood and release stress. Do it about twice a week.

Don't overdo it to avoid injury. Each session should last about half an hour to an hour. If you think it's a waste of time, you can reuse the time. For example, you can listen to lectures on your headphones while walking.

You need to accept your nervousness and tell yourself that it is normal. The more you fear it, the more nervous you become. But when you know what it is like and accept that you will be nervous, you will not be afraid of it. So, when you are nervous, don't panic. Then you will notice that your nervousness will slowly subside. But if you care about it more and resist it more, it will affect you.

It's normal to feel nervous about an exam. When we care about an exam, we will feel nervous. There's no way to eliminate exam nerves.

It's normal to be nervous during the exam. Everyone cares about it, so they'll be nervous too. I accept my nervousness and believe I can do well.

Good luck!

Hello. From your question, I can see that you are facing some challenges and I can also sense your frustration.

It's understandable that being in your senior year of high school can be challenging. You have the desire to do well, but it's possible that the more you want to do well, the less you're actually doing well. Based on your description, I've identified four potential reasons, which we can explore together:

1. A strong desire to learn

First of all, it seems that there is an inverted U-shaped relationship between learning motivation and learning efficiency. It appears that learning efficiency is highest when learning motivation is at a moderate level. However, if learning motivation is too high, it may result in strong emotional arousal, which could manifest as anxiety and tension. If there are too many of these emotions, they may affect our concentration and narrow our focus. Consequently, when an exam is approaching, we may become nervous, which could potentially lead to poor performance.

As you mentioned, it is possible that poor test-taking skills and a tendency to panic may be caused by excessive motivation.

2. Excessive pressure from personality and environment

"But either you stay in the same place or you make progress and then regress. It's a challenging situation. At the same time, I feel sorry for my hard-working parents and my past successes. I feel like I've lost not only to others but also to myself."

From the above words, it can be roughly seen that the questioner's personality may be relatively sensitive, and people with this type of personality may also be relatively more likely to experience anxiety.

At the same time, the college entrance examination, external environment, parental expectations, and peer competition can all contribute to feelings of pressure, and previous efforts and achievements may become a source of concern. It is understandable that a person's concentration may be limited when trying to balance the need to satisfy their own expectations with those of others, which can make it challenging to focus on improving learning efficiency.

3. Negative interpretation and attribution

"I've been trying to make progress, but I either don't seem to make any headway or I make some progress, only to find myself back where I started. It's a frustrating cycle."

From what you've shared, I can sense the frustration and disappointment you're experiencing, and I empathize with how you're feeling.

However, American psychologist Weiner once suggested that an individual's attribution of a behavior's outcome may potentially influence their expectations, emotions, and level of effort for the next behavior.

Let's consider the questioner as an example. If the questioner feels that the reason for not doing well in the exam is because he is useless and incompetent, and labels himself with these words, it could potentially lead to a situation where he may work less hard, have lower expectations of himself, and feel a sense of learned helplessness.

4. There might be room for improvement in the learning methods being used.

"I've been trying my best to improve in the exam, investing a great deal of time and energy."

It seems that the ratio of effort to gain may not be proportional, which could potentially affect our emotions. We empathize with your feelings.

However, if this persists over a long period of time, it may also be a reminder that we may have entered a vicious cycle of inefficient efforts, which could be worth exploring further.

After analyzing the cause, let's consider some potential adjustments. There are three main areas to explore: adjusting our thinking, managing our anxiety, and trying new approaches.

1. Adjusting cognition

At the cognitive level, it would be beneficial to let go of our obsession with grades. While exams will affect whether we get into university, they are more of a test of what we have learned. It might be helpful to let go of our expectations and concerns about grades and focus on the process.

It might also be helpful to consider the positive aspects of failing an exam. For instance, it can help us identify areas for improvement and provides us with an opportunity to make adjustments.

There is a concept in psychology called the law of attraction, which suggests that the more we focus on something, the more likely it is to happen. If we consistently focus on the possibility of getting bad grades, there is a higher probability that we will experience that outcome.

Perhaps a change of attitude would be beneficial.

In particular, it would be beneficial to adjust the pressure of parental expectations. It is possible that this pressure stems from parents having higher expectations of the questioner, or from them saying things that make the questioner feel bad about not studying well and sorry for their efforts.

However, it is important to remember that parents' expectations do not need to be met by you alone. It is helpful for the questioner to understand that everyone is responsible for themselves and cannot expect others to meet their expectations. Having this awareness can help to reduce the burden on your shoulders.

Secondly, it would be beneficial to try to ease anxiety.

It is important to remember that anxiety is something that everyone experiences, but we can take steps to adjust it to normal levels. There are many ways to relieve anxiety, including breathing exercises, meditation, listening to music and watching comedies, exercising, and so on.

3. Strategy

You may find it helpful to learn scientific methods from the excellent people around you, or to read books such as Learning Master and other books for reference.

It might also be helpful to consider learning tools such as mind maps and error books, which could assist in developing our own knowledge system.

Ultimately, it is essential to set a realistic objective that aligns with one's circumstances. The individual in question displays a commendable drive to learn, and I am optimistic that with the right blend of motivation, goal, and positive outlook, they will undoubtedly achieve commendable outcomes.

I am Lailai, a person who is on the path of psychology. I hope my answer can offer some assistance to the questioner. I wish you the best of luck.

Good day. I extend to you my sincerest encouragement and support.

From your inquiry, it is evident that you are currently a senior high school student who has invested time and effort in an effort to enhance your performance on examinations. This is your behavior of devoting time to studying.

However, the ultimate outcome is that grades remain unchanged or even decline following an improvement. This is a consequence of behavioral factors, and the grades have not shown an improvement.

Let us consider the ultimate outcome: the emotional state of the subject, which may be characterized by feelings of embarrassment, remorse, confusion, anxiety, and agitation.

Furthermore, the rationale provided for the outcome of these actions is attributed to deficiencies in test-taking abilities. Additionally, it is understandable that there might be a desire to ascertain the existence of other potential factors that could contribute to the lack of improvement in academic performance.

Let me provide a brief overview of my perspective.

Firstly, you stated that you are not proficient in test-taking, yet you also expressed remorse for your previous achievements.

We may therefore conclude that the success in question pertains to good test scores. If this is indeed the case, it would appear that the subject has previously enjoyed success in this domain. It may therefore be posited that this success is not merely accidental, but rather the result of a more stable and consistent performance.

In the majority of cases, success that is not the result of one's own efforts is attributed to luck, exceptional performance, or the ease of the questions.

This also demonstrates that your capacity to take tests may not be deficient. Rather, by the time you reach your third year of high school, it appears that your previous aptitude for test-taking no longer proves effective.

Secondly, you demonstrate a profound concern for your parents' efforts.

In your question, you indicated that you feel sorry for your parents, who work hard for your family. Without knowing more about your family's financial situation, the atmosphere within your family, and the topics your parents typically discuss with you, it is difficult to provide a comprehensive answer.

From a psychological perspective, the third year of high school represents a pivotal point in an individual's life. It is a period of transition, marking the transition from adolescence to adulthood. The legal implications of this transition are significant, as adulthood is associated with a set of responsibilities. Concurrently, this is a period of preparation for the next stage of life, which often involves leaving the family home and pursuing higher education. It is not uncommon for individuals to perceive their hometown as a place with limited seasonal variation, akin to the stark contrasts of winter and summer.

A significant number of individuals experience difficulties in the process of separation from their parents. This can be attributed to an inability to fully detach from their parents, potentially due to concerns about potential adverse circumstances that might arise in the absence of their parental figure.

The college entrance exam is a significant event in the lives of many families, often resulting in a peak in divorces. This is because many parents are reluctant to divorce for the sake of their children. However, as their children become adults and pursue higher education, parents may also desire autonomy and independence. This can result in a shift in dynamics within the family, leading to the dissolution of the marriage. For children, the dissolution of the marriage may be a source of distress. They may not want their parents to divorce or may sense the underlying tension. This can lead to feelings of insecurity and a sense of loss, particularly if they perceive the dissolution of the marriage as a loss of family structure.

In order to maintain the integrity of the family unit, individuals may resort to self-defeating behaviors such as presenting learning or psychological challenges.

Additionally, one might inform their parents that they have already made significant contributions and inquire as to why they would even consider such a drastic measure as divorce.

In this regard, it would be beneficial to consider whether you have similar concerns. One can envisage the potential consequences for your family if you were to leave the family home. It must be acknowledged, however, that this is merely a theoretical proposition.

An alternative perspective is that the individual in question expresses remorse for the efforts their parents have expended and a desire to fulfill their expectations, such as by gaining admission to a reputable university and subsequently providing financial support. However, they may experience apprehension regarding their ability to meet these expectations, leading to concerns about their parents' potential disappointment. Consequently, they may choose to forego university and instead utilize suboptimal academic performance as a means of avoiding the attainment of high grades. This approach allows the individual to avoid the potential distress associated with not meeting their parents' expectations, even if it results in a less structured upbringing.

This is, in fact, a psychological defense mechanism. It should be noted, however, that this is merely a theory.

It is imperative that you ascertain the root cause of your concerns.

The tenet of psychological counseling that symptoms have a function and are, on occasion, an ingenious solution suggests that your current concerns may be a method you have developed to address a specific issue.

The specific issue at hand is one that must be determined by the individual in question.

In light of the aforementioned, it can be reasonably deduced that your previous examination performance was satisfactory. However, the absence of a definitive causal factor precludes the assertion that your current performance is inherently problematic.

Furthermore, identifying the underlying cause of the behavior and psychology is essential for developing a targeted solution.

I am frequently both a Buddhist and a pessimist, yet I also possess the capacity for occasional positivity and motivation as a counselor. I embrace the world and its inherent goodness.

Good morning, My name is Jiang 61.

Firstly, I would like to thank you for placing your trust in us and for taking the time to share your concerns. You have noticed that you have made an effort, but the results are minimal, and you would like to understand the reason why.

Let's examine this together.

1. The Phenomenon

Despite my best efforts, I have not made the progress I had hoped for in the examination. I have invested a great deal of time and effort, but my performance has either remained static or declined.

1. There is a lack of understanding.

The phenomenon is as follows:

Despite your best efforts, you have not seen the progress you were hoping for in your studies. In fact, you have spent time and energy without seeing any meaningful results. At times, you even feel like you are regressing. You are unsure why this is happening.

The reason for this is

From your description, it seems that you are not allocating your efforts effectively when it comes to studying.

2. Emotional State

You experience feelings of embarrassment and regret for your parents and past achievements. You perceive that you have not only failed others but also yourself.

Please describe your feelings.

You experience feelings of embarrassment, remorse for your parents, and self-recrimination regarding your inability to prevail over others and yourself.

The reason for this is as follows:

I believe your embarrassment stems from a tendency to care excessively about the opinions of others. You express remorse to your parents and to yourself, indicating a sense of guilt.

You believe that you cannot lose to others or to yourself, but in reality, you are constantly comparing yourself to others, which places you under significant pressure.

Your lack of self-confidence and low mood are caused by some unreasonable beliefs about yourself.

3. Recommendations for Action

What steps can I take to enhance my confidence and motivation? I also have concerns about my test-taking abilities. I tend to experience anxiety and panic, which impairs my performance on questions I know the answers to and hinders my ability to demonstrate my true capabilities.

You wish to enhance your confidence, motivation, exam-taking abilities, and emotional resilience.

1. About Learning

Learning Methods

As previously stated, your efforts have not yielded the desired results, which is affecting your self-confidence. It is evident that the learning method you are currently employing is not optimal for your needs.

There are various learning methods that can be employed, and these are influenced by factors such as age, habits and learning styles. When the appropriate method is used, the effect can be significantly enhanced.

If the method is not appropriate, the result will be ineffective or even counterproductive.

Learning methods are techniques for rapidly assimilating knowledge that have been distilled through learning and practice. There is no universal standard for learning methods, as the methods selected vary according to individual circumstances, circumstances, and the environment.

There are several common learning methods, including recitation, dictation, shorthand, and note-taking. The most suitable method for an individual will depend on their personal characteristics.

Emotional Management

You feel inferior, sorry for your parents, and unable to lose to yourself. This is due to an over-reliance on external validation, a tendency to internalize guilt, and a proclivity to compare yourself to others. These factors contribute to a lack of self-confidence, which in turn leads to feelings of depression and depression.

It is not the act of having emotions that is problematic; rather, it is the underlying cause, the release, and the management of those emotions that present challenges. However, with the right approach, progress can be made.

Good emotional management is essential for effective interpersonal relationships and personal growth. Emotional management encompasses the ability to detect, accept, express, and cultivate emotions. The specific methods include:

Perceiving Emotions: This is the initial step in emotion management. When emotions arise, it is important to identify the specific emotion, such as anxiety, anger, sadness, etc. In your case, your current emotions are likely a result of academic challenges, low self-esteem, feelings of guilt and sadness, and a tendency to compare yourself to others.

The objective of accepting emotions is to cultivate a state of emotional well-being. This entails aligning one's emotions with the circumstances at hand, ensuring a consistency between emotional experience and objective reality.

When your emotional experience aligns with objective events, the first step is to reassure yourself that your current emotions are normal. This is known as accepting your emotions. By doing so, the emotional tension will decrease, and your heart will naturally return to a state of peace.

Your perception of your emotions is aligned with your actual emotional state. You have come to believe that this is who you truly are, and it is normal to associate and feel emotions when encountering things. You accept your emotional state, and you will not let your emotions make you more nervous.

Expressing Emotions: The act of expressing one's emotions is a form of self-expression. It is often conveyed through phrases such as "I...," "my feelings..." As an example, you were discussing personal matters on the platform while also expressing your emotions.

I observed your emotional expression and sensed the tension and suppressed emotions.

Cultivating Emotions: To manage emotions effectively, it is essential to engage in regular training and practice, as well as cultivation. There are several techniques that can be employed to help you handle your emotions and learn to grow.

(1) A regular lifestyle will also help to stabilise your emotions.

(2) Cultivate a hobby, embrace positive emotions, practice self-love, and appreciate the beauty of life.

(3) Providing care and assistance to others, fostering a loving environment within yourself, and offering help to others is the most fulfilling experience. It is about enabling others to help themselves.

(4) Connecting with nature and immersing oneself in the world's essence can facilitate mental expansion and emotional stability.

(5) Form connections with individuals who are dedicated and emotionally stable to minimize emotional interference and fluctuations.

By establishing emotional connections, you can improve your emotional state, enhance your ability to learn and live happily, and effectively manage your emotions. You will feel better, and you will be able to perform tasks in a relaxed state, leveraging your strengths and specialties. Your success will increase, and so will your self-confidence, and your feelings of fear and worry will disappear.

2. Build self-confidence

Confidence is derived from a comprehensive understanding of one's strengths and limitations, an acceptance of oneself, and a commitment to authenticity.

It is important to understand your own capabilities, limitations, strengths, and interests.

It is important to accept yourself, including understanding your own shortcomings and accepting that you are imperfect. Remind yourself that you are who you are and that you are at peace with yourself.

Play to your strengths. Identifying your strengths and areas of expertise will boost your confidence and enable you to focus on tasks that align with your capabilities.

Be true to yourself. Once you have identified your strengths, focus on the tasks that you excel at. It is not your concern how well others perform, regardless of how well they do. Avoid comparing yourself to others.

By establishing these boundaries, you effectively eliminate the pressure that would otherwise be exerted.

It is important to dispel the belief in perfection. Repressing the development of emotions is counterproductive, as it hinders the growth and evolution of an individual. The inner competitive consciousness, driven by the desire to be a perfect person, can impede progress. The constant pursuit of perfection can lead to an unhealthy preoccupation with winning at all costs, which can ultimately result in a lack of flexibility and resilience.

You wish to safeguard the idealized image you hold of yourself. You are accustomed to comparing yourself to others and are unable to discern your true self. Unconsciously, you exert significant pressure on yourself.

By eliminating internal expectations of perfection and the associated mental pressure, you can achieve a state of authenticity.

3. Enhance your professional capabilities

Identifying your weaknesses is the first step in developing a plan to improve them. By focusing on enhancing your abilities in areas where you are less proficient, you can become a more well-rounded individual, while also leveraging your strengths to their fullest potential.

As a result, your strengths increase, your self-confidence increases, and your emotional states decrease.

The questioner should provide themselves with the confidence to generate their inner motivation, which will then allow them to learn to improve and grow. If they do not compare themselves to others and do not concern themselves with the opinions of others, their negative emotions will naturally decrease.

Have confidence in your ability to succeed.

I would like to take this opportunity to wish you every success with your studies.

Good day, classmate. I can discern the confusion you are currently experiencing.

The issues you are currently experiencing are related to your personal growth and development. Please accept my sincerest apologies for the inconvenience.

You inquire as to why you frequently underperform in examinations.

The answer is that a number of factors may be involved.

For example, did you obtain sufficient restorative sleep the night before the examination?

Insufficient rest may result in a decline in performance.

On occasion, you did not rise at an early hour on the day of the examination. As a result, congestion on the road caused you to be delayed in reaching the examination venue.

As a result, the stress response may have affected your ability to recover fully, which could have subsequently impacted your performance in the exam.

In some cases, the source of the issue may be that the exam room has been relocated, potentially causing a disruption in the candidate's accustomed environment.

It is also possible that the examination was relocated to a larger auditorium rather than the classroom in which you are accustomed to attending classes.

If one is to relieve anxiety during an examination, it is essential to complete preparatory tasks beforehand.

For instance, if one is not enrolled at the same institution, it is advisable to conduct preliminary review of the material and ascertain the estimated time required to complete it.

It is advisable to leave one's residence two hours before the scheduled commencement of the examination.

Furthermore, it is advisable to prepare the necessary items for the examination the night before, including the admission ticket and any required stationery.

It is advisable to view the examination as a form of classroom practice, as this may result in an unforeseen outcome. This is a strategy that I have employed with success.

It is recommended that students attempt to go to bed at 11:00 pm the night before the exam, regardless of the extent of their review, to ensure that they obtain a minimum of seven hours of sleep.

Indeed, the content of the examination should be continually accessible to the examinee, obviating the need for further deliberate review.

It is likely that you have reviewed this material on a regular basis, which should have resulted in the knowledge points being relatively solid.

It is my sincere hope that you will be able to identify an effective solution to the problem you are facing in the near future.

This is the extent of my advice for the time being.

It is my sincere hope that my above answer will prove both helpful and inspiring to you, my esteemed colleague. I am the answer, and I study assiduously each and every day.

At Yixinli, we extend our warmest regards to all and wish you the best.

Hello, I'm Jianlin, a counselor at Yixinli.

I've read about your situation. You're an excellent student who wants to improve.

I hope the assessment will prove your hard work and achievements. I also hope it will reward my parents' hard work.

You can't always perform at your best in every exam. You get nervous when things go wrong.

It makes you distressed and you don't know what to do.

This is a common problem for students.

Some students have bad grades but do well on exams.

Outstanding students often lose points during the final exam because they make mistakes or don't check enough.

There's a gap between grades and our normal grades.

We can also look at students who are not very good at school but do well in exams. These students are not usually at the top of the class.

They also like to have fun. They are outgoing and adapt well to new environments.

He's friendly and calm.

He can perform well on exams, but he's calm, doesn't overthink, and doesn't dwell on failure. He just does the work and is accurate.

Such students often have higher grades than average.

He did well because he has good mental qualities.

He treats it like any other test.

He doesn't worry too much. He can focus on the questions.

Just answer each question carefully. Our usually good students do badly at the critical time.

What do we think when we take an exam?

First, I must do well and get a good grade. Second, I must answer the questions correctly.

Third, we will think about what if we don't do well on the exam? We will fail our parents and teachers, and also fail our own efforts.

Thoughts like these affect us. When we encounter a difficult problem in an exam, we think, "I'm screwed."

I'm sure I won't do well on this exam! When we encounter an easy question, we think:

This is a great chance for me to get a good score. While you're thinking about it, others are already answering it.

When you think you've finished, others have already checked your answers. The quality of your work depends on your mindset.

The final score difference is obvious, right?

How do we overcome normal problems?

First, remember that learning is important now.

It's also something we can look forward to in the future.

Don't focus on the end result. Just work hard and relax.

Before an exam, go for a walk and enjoy nature.

Relax and enjoy the process.

A good result comes from a good process. We should do more outdoor activities.

Join more groups. Don't isolate yourself.

Take on things you can do or that you can try your best to do. Try to do things you can't do yet, but that you can do with effort.

We can build resilience and adjust our psychology. This takes time.

When you have these thoughts, don't worry. First, change your mind.

Enjoy the process. The result isn't that important. Relax.

Face your challenges with confidence.

We've analyzed your confusion and given you suggestions to help with internal tension and depression. Thank you.

Good day, my child. It is my hope that the suggestions I offer will prove beneficial.

In their senior year, students are under considerable pressure to succeed, whether it be the hopes of their parents, the expectations of their teachers, or their own aspirations. This pressure is not exclusive to students; it also affects children.

From our discussion, it is evident that you have a relatively objective and realistic understanding of your abilities. You have invested significant time and energy in your studies and have demonstrated a commendable grasp of the exam content. However, when the exams are taken, you are unable to perform at the level you have previously achieved. Following the release of the results, you experience a sense of disappointment with your grades and a sense of guilt. You also feel a sense of responsibility towards your parents and teachers. In order to enhance your performance, I suggest the following:

First, it is essential to set specific goals for monthly examinations. In the third year of high school, examinations become more frequent, particularly monthly examinations. It is crucial to make full use of these opportunities and set specific goals for oneself. Even if there is only a slight improvement each time, it is still worthwhile to celebrate and share the joy with parents and teachers.

Secondly, it is crucial to allocate time effectively. In addition to the standard schedule, it is essential to set aside a specific amount of time for independent study. Learning to manage time efficiently and tailor training to the unique demands of each subject is vital. Prioritizing review of foundational concepts before the Spring Festival is crucial to ensure comprehensive understanding. For each exam question answered incorrectly, it is essential to first identify the underlying cause and then engage in intensive training on similar questions.

By establishing a robust foundation and engaging in rigorous training, one can gradually enhance their self-confidence.

Thirdly, it is essential to cultivate a tranquil state of mind. By treating each examination as though it were the college entrance exam, one can discern the underlying causes of their anxiety, conquer their panic, approach the examination with composure, and enhance their test-taking abilities.

Fourth, it is important to learn to reward oneself. When an improvement is made on an examination, it is beneficial to implement a reward system. The specific form of the reward should be based on the individual's needs and preferences.

For example, if one enjoys watching movies, it may be beneficial to set aside one's academic concerns for a period of time and engage with the film in question with undivided attention. Another example is that if one is inclined to play basketball during recess, it may be helpful to invest in a pair of suitable footwear.

In conclusion, it is essential to cultivate a relaxed state of learning, develop the habit of calmly preparing for exams, and face each day with equanimity as the college entrance exam approaches.

I have been working hard, spending my time and energy, but I am not getting the results I want.

I also had this misunderstanding in high school, and it wasn't until university that I understood. The more important the college entrance exam, the less you should be overly anxious.

At the time, I also attached great importance to rankings, how many places I had advanced or fallen. In fact, there was no great pressure from the outside; I was the one putting the pressure on myself.

You get anxious and want to improve your grades, and you should.

If you do, you will fall into a vicious circle of anxiety-self-blame-defeat. This will further undermine your confidence and prevent you from performing at your best.

The exam paper is designed to identify gaps in your knowledge. However, you should not assume that this will necessarily affect your performance in the next exam. Exams also involve an element of luck, so before the college entrance exam, it is essential to fill in the gaps in your knowledge as much as possible and become familiar with the frequently tested points.

Let go of the obsession with ranking and focus on filling in the gaps in your knowledge. You're not wasting time, and you're not sure if the questions you missed will appear again.

Stop blaming yourself for things you can't control. Don't feel guilty about your parents. And learn to accept failure as part of life.

You are carrying a lot of burdens. You feel pressure about your future and guilt towards your parents.

You doubt yourself and take responsibility for everything that goes wrong because you feel like you've fallen behind. But as I said earlier, there is also an element of luck involved.

I don't know what questions will be on the exam or whether I've reviewed them. It's up to fate. I'll accept it and learn from it.

In the movie "3 Idiots," there is a character who loves engineering and studies hard, but his grades are still not good. The protagonist points out that he is afraid, and he needs to conquer that fear.

His family income is low, and the whole family relies on his success in school to support them. His sister has never married because the man she was going to marry wanted a car as a dowry. This kind of invisible pressure made it impossible for him to relax and study, and he was always immersed in the darkness of pressure. This is a movie plot, but there is much to learn from it.

Do you also feel sorry for your parents? It's a kind of pressure, but it's not productive. Moderate pressure can make you nervous, but excessive pressure is counterproductive.

In fact, I think we can all agree that what your parents want is for you to be happy at school.

You need to find confidence, especially during high school.

You need to find your strong subjects – whether it's Chinese, math, English, etc. When you find that you are very accomplished in one area, you'll see that the lack of confidence in subjects where you are weak will be buffered by the confidence in your strong subjects and will not last long.

I'm not saying to neglect your weaker subjects. You need to find confidence in one or more subjects so you understand you're not bad at them. Then, actively study subjects that are not as strong.

You've got this! Best of luck!

Hello! I'm the place of peace.

You're in your third year of high school, and it seems like exams can get you pretty worked up. It's totally normal to feel anxious, frustrated, and impatient when you don't perform up to your true level.

I'd love to know if this has been going on for your whole school life, or if it's something that's only just started. If it's the latter, I'd be really interested to know when it first started.

Oh, what happened? I'd love to know what you were feeling and how you were reacting at the time!

It's so sad when we don't succeed in something we're really trying our best at. It can feel like a real blow to our self-esteem. I can relate to this, as I've been there myself. You've always been a hardworking student, spending a lot of time and energy on your studies, but your grades haven't improved as expected. It's so hard when things don't go the way we want them to. I can imagine how you must feel. You feel very ashamed. At the same time, you feel sorry for your hardworking parents and your past successes. You feel that you have not only lost to others, but also to yourself.

It's totally normal to feel a bit down when you've been successful in the past and then things change. It can feel like you've lost not only to others but also to yourself. It's okay to feel ashamed if you do, but try not to let it last too long. Do you feel like you've lost your sense of glory? It's natural to feel that way sometimes. It's not about losing face, it's about feeling like you've lost something important to you.

I'd love to know what feelings success brings you, or what needs it satisfies.

I'd love to know when you succeeded in the past. I'm really interested in your understanding of success!

I'd love to know more about what you think success looks like and who has influenced your ideas about it.

Parents? Teachers?

Or is there another way? I'd love to hear your thoughts on this.

I'd love to know what your relationship with your parents was like when you were young. Did your parents pay much attention to your academic performance?

Have you ever talked to your parents about how important it is to study hard and expressed your hopes for the future?

As the college entrance exam draws near, it's worth asking: What's their attitude towards you?

"If I don't do well in the exam, I feel sorry for my hard-working parents." Have your parents ever expressed how hard they work and hoped that you will achieve something? I'm sure they have!

"Exam-taking ability is also poor. It is easy to panic and make mistakes on questions you know, which means you are not performing to your true ability. Why is this so?"

Maybe you've realized that you're carrying too much pressure. We all have! Hardworking parents, past successes, and an unacceptable reality can add up to feel like three mountains weighing you down, keeping you in a state of anxiety, tension, and unease.

It's so important to remember that the more we fear failure, the more likely we are to fail. But when we let go of thoughts of success and failure, and calmly and composedly face the exam, we open ourselves up to the possibility of success coming our way!

You have the power to choose, my friend.

How do you choose? Maybe you just need to calm down, take a deep breath, and listen to your true self. Listen to what your heart is telling you and what you really want.

How can you make your own dreams come true? What can you do to make your own needs a reality?

You could always ask your parents for help. They'll be happy to hear what you have to say and will be more than happy to help you achieve your dreams.

You can take the initiative and, with lots of love and gratitude for your parents, make a specific request of them.

With the love, understanding, support, and tolerance of your parents, you'll be able to face the exam again with confidence and ease. No matter what the result is, you can accept it with an open mind.

I really hope my answer will be of some help to you, because I truly hope that you will do well in the college entrance exam and soar to the top!

I'm sending you all my best wishes! Go for it!

Good day, question asker. I am Warm-hearted Girl 1219, and I am honored to answer your question on Yi Xinli.

From the description provided, it is evident that you, as a high school senior preparing to take the college entrance exam, are facing significant pressure and experiencing a range of concerns.

?1. Test scores remain unchanged or even decline

?2. The act of taking examinations can have a detrimental impact on one's emotional state.

3. A significant source of concern is the tendency to blame oneself.

The following suggestions are offered in response to the aforementioned concerns:

It is recommended that the student engage in physical exercise for a minimum of one hour per day, as a means of alleviating the stress and anxiety associated with academic pressures.

Despite the considerable pressure and demanding schedule characteristic of the senior year, it is still advisable to engage in at least an hour of daily physical activity.

Regular exercise has been demonstrated to regulate emotions, relieve stress, and significantly enhance overall physical and mental health.

Failure to relieve stress in a timely manner can have adverse effects on one's physical and mental health, as well as their academic performance.

2. Provide a comprehensive analysis and synthesis of the factors contributing to the observed decline in academic performance.

It is hoped that you will be able to compose yourself, obtain a sheet of paper and a pen, and undertake a detailed analysis and summary of the reasons for your current or declining grades.

From my experience as a high school senior, a decline in grades is typically attributable to a deficient learning attitude, an inappropriate learning method, or anxiety and depression resulting from interpersonal relationships.

In order to address this issue, the following efforts can be made:

(1) Adopt an appropriate learning attitude

It is important to remind oneself to study assiduously.

It is recommended that students prepare for class in advance, pay attention during class, and review their notes after class.

(2) Update learning methods

It is recommended that students take the initiative to communicate with their instructors and classmates to request assistance in updating their learning methods.

It is only through a process of continual reflection, learning from past errors, and adapting one's learning strategies that one can achieve continuous improvement in academic performance.

(3) Manage interpersonal relationships effectively and enhance your emotional well-being.

Should one encounter interpersonal problems that are beyond one's capacity to resolve, it is advisable to seek assistance from parents and educators in a timely manner.

They possess a plethora of life experience, which enables them to assist in the resolution of problems, the elimination of negative emotions, and the restoration of a typical study routine.

3. It is imperative to maintain a calm state of mind when taking the exam.

From the description, it is evident that the questioner typically demonstrates academic excellence and possesses remarkable capabilities. However, due to an overwhelming sense of nervousness, they were unable to perform at their optimal level during the examination.

It is my hope that you will be able to remain calm and handle each exam with ease. Only by doing so can you take the college entrance exam without panic, calmly face the exam, and achieve your ideal results.

The following strategies can be employed to enhance one's performance in the examination:

In advance of the examination

(1) It is advisable to familiarise yourself with the key points of your studies in order to commit them to memory.

(2) Provide yourself with encouragement and motivation.

It is imperative to maintain a healthy diet, adequate rest, and an optimistic outlook prior to the examination.

During the examination period

(4) When confronted with a challenging problem, it is advisable to temporarily set it aside. Prioritize the completion of less complex tasks and then return to the more demanding problem.

This will mitigate the effects of exam-related stress, conserve time spent on each question, and enhance overall efficiency in the examination process.

? 4. Approach the college entrance examination with courage and fortitude.

The college entrance examination represents a significant juncture in one's life. It is my hope that you will approach this pivotal moment with composure, address the challenges that arise in your academic and personal endeavors with resilience, strive for excellence, and ultimately present a commendable response to the challenges and opportunities that life presents.

It is my sincere hope that you will find this response to be of some assistance.

I wish you academic advancement and success!

My dear child, I give you a hug. Let's be honest. Most people who have experienced three years of high school have felt the sense of powerlessness that comes with working hard but getting little result.

Let's analyze it and see if it helps.

You have several problems: 1. You try hard to keep studying, but the results are not good. You either stay where you are or make progress only to regress. 2. Because of your grades, you feel a strong sense of guilt, towards your parents and also towards your former self. 3. You are not convinced, and you feel that you have lost to others and to yourself.

You need to be more confident and more motivated.

You have succeeded in the past and you want your child to do well in school. You were once the pride of your parents, so you are willing to work hard to improve your grades. I appreciate that you don't blame others, that you look for reasons within yourself, and that you are willing to work hard to achieve your goals. You have never thought about getting something for nothing or being passive.

This is also why you have a rebellious streak in your heart. When your efforts don't seem to be paying off, you get anxious and come to the platform to seek help, right?

2. You are a kind and filial child who does not want to see your parents toil for you. You currently want to comfort your parents with your good grades, and for that, you deserve another hug from me. This shows that you come from a happy family and that your parents love you very much. You understand their expectations because you can see how hard they work. This is also one of the reasons why you work so hard.

3. You have concluded that you are poor at taking tests, so your test scores are never satisfactory. This shows that you have high expectations of yourself. You know that if you aim for 100, you will get 80 at the very least; if you aim for 60, you will generally fail.

You have high standards and high expectations of yourself, and that makes you an outstanding person. Well done!

Solution: 1. First, let's look at your emotional ups and downs. You used to do well in school, so you are competitive and unwilling to admit defeat. This is good. A soldier who doesn't want to be a general is not a good soldier. You have aspirations, which is great. But you need to learn to be more reasonable with yourself.

Set your standards based on reality. You may have been first in your class in primary school, but in junior high school, you may have been fifth.

By the time you reach high school, you will probably be ranked 20th or even lower. After nine years of compulsory education, only those who can continue studying are the ones who have passed the entrance exam. If you can pass the exam, you are not doing badly, right?

It is extremely rare to be number one from childhood to adulthood. You need more than just hard work; you need talent too. Set your goals based on the specific situation of your school and class.

If it's not good enough, then you need to push yourself harder. Every little bit of progress is a success.

Success is the result of persistent effort. A small exam in high school is just a test. The college entrance exam is not the ultimate goal of your lifelong struggle, let alone a test during high school. Your anxiety is caused by the fact that the small exam was not ideal. You are worried that you will not get the desired results on the college entrance exam and thus fail to get into the desired school. You will get into the school you want to get into.

Anxiety causes panic, which is a bad cycle. So, my child, you must calm down and sort out your thoughts and standards. Spend a few hours figuring out your state and adjusting your standards. This is very important.

This is the inner strength that will rebuild your confidence and inspire you to take action.

2. I'm going to discuss life with you. What is the most important thing in life?

You're already in your senior year of high school. You're about to enter university and enter the world of adults.

You must take responsibility and enjoy your youth. I have seen the things that trouble you. At the moment, you are troubled by your grades, and you are sorry for failing the exam. You are also hurting your own vanity. This is a typical concern for someone your age.

You need to understand that in the grand scheme of things, one exam is nothing. It's insignificant compared to the things you want to do and stick with in life. What's important is to always do what you think is right.

You think getting into a good university will comfort your parents, do you? You think it'll save face for you too? You think you can slack off after getting into a good university? Think again.

You will work hard in the future. Life is not over, and neither is the struggle.

Look ahead. Imagine your future. Picture the life you want to lead, the career you want to pursue, the life experience you want to give your parents. One failure doesn't matter. Have you seen Forrest Gump?

A child who seems mentally disabled can achieve great things with persistence. As the Chinese proverb says, "Water wears away stone," and with perseverance, you can achieve anything.

Those who are successful never give up. They stick to one thing until they succeed. So what is the point of a temporary setback?

Ultimate success comes from perseverance and time.

3. The problem is your learning method. You have poor test-taking ability.

If you want to do well on tests, you have to prepare thoroughly. If you study only superficially and don't really understand the material, you won't do well on tests. It's that simple.

You're already in your senior year, so it's not realistic to start from scratch. Spend a few days going over your subject knowledge.

Look at the table of contents. You should be able to recall all the key points. Close the book. You should be able to remember the entire outline.

You must start reading by making the book thin. This is a process of summarizing and generalizing. Then you have to read the book thick. This is a process of restoring the knowledge points. Only if you can do this can you say that your efforts have been effective. Only on this basis does brushing up on questions have targeted significance.

This is how I teach my children to read, and I am confident that it will help you too.

Kid, I'm rooting for you!

"To achieve your ambition, study the five classics in front of the window." You're already good, but let's relax and learn together. I'll list a few points for you to think about. Can they help you?

Let's see if we have the right self-confidence.

If you skim your exam paper, you'll get a very different score.

If you don't learn to read flexibly, you'll fail the exam. Let's just forget about it so that learning is not painful.

If you study for the test, you will lose even if you get a few questions right. Those who don't carefully examine the questions, don't connect the knowledge points, and don't analyze the questions will be filtered out. The standard answers on the college entrance exam are comprehensive, and the scoring points are detailed. You think you're almost there, but it's not as easy as you think.

I know this is a big year for you, but we need to take it one step at a time. Don't rush. I understand your parents want you to do well in school. I know you work hard for your future. I'm proud of you for studying and for your parents' hard work.

It's normal to fail an exam. I've been there. We can change our way of thinking, but we need to let go and absorb more sunlight. Breathe in the fresh air, listen to music, and exercise.

Before the exam, review the key questions, pay attention to the details, and find your own inspiration. Without space to observe and think in your daily life, you will lose points. This time, let him learn a lesson. This is a serious flaw. I'm just sharing with you so you can find your wonderful life.

This won't happen during the exam. If you don't understand something, ask your teacher or classmates. This way, you won't suffer any disadvantages. Otherwise, if you still don't succeed, what can you do?

Start with the easy questions and work up to the more difficult ones. Practice as many questions as you can. Focus on the key points and master them. You will succeed.

Confucius had 3,000 disciples. He set an innovative exam question: he asked the students to plow the field while arranging a drum band next to them, and also buried gold ingots in the field. Some students were distracted and failed the exam. Only the students who were unmoved by the distractions eventually passed the exam.

This passage will help you.

Our learning career is the most important course we must pass. We must not take it lightly. There is no magic pill. We must be responsible for ourselves and keep a clear mind.

Think positively to get a high score!