Senior year, feeling like crap, want to tell your parents but afraid of breaking their hearts?

Hello, After reading about your troubles, I can see that you are trying your best to overcome them. It is admirable that you are using all your strength to break through the clouds and welcome the dawn. It is a challenging process, but I am touched by your resilience.

If I might suggest, when you are already under a lot of pressure and in pain, you might consider your mother's feelings. It seems clear to me that you are a stronger person than the average child.

Perhaps it would be helpful to take things one step at a time, at our own pace.

I believe you have a vision of an ideal state in your heart. Perhaps it would be helpful to start painting this image in your mind, or writing it down on paper.

It might be helpful to remember that many things we think are difficult are not difficult every step of the way. One way to approach this is to break them down into small steps, starting with the easiest, and work our way up little by little. For example, you might start with 5% today, then 20% tomorrow, and then 40%, 65%, and 75% over the next few days. As long as you get started, things will develop towards completion, right?

At this point, it might be helpful to consider which step is the most challenging to complete. It's understandable if you feel a bit of pressure at this stage. However, it's important to remember that repeated problems don't always have the same negative outcome.

I believe there will always be one or two times when things are slightly better, even if it is just a little. Perhaps we could focus our attention on those one or two times when things are slightly better and spend a little more time thinking about why things were better this time.

I wonder if I might ask why things didn't get worse this time. Could it be that I took some action unconsciously? Or was it the environment or some people who gave me a good influence or help? If so, I would be very grateful if I could grasp the reason that made things change, deliberately practice it in my heart, and if I encounter the same difficulties in the future, create opportunities for this favorable situation to happen again.

Even the most extraordinary person cannot solve things overnight. However, if you were to break down the difficulties and overcome them gradually, just like playing a game and defeating monsters, I believe that you, being so strong, will discover an even stronger self in the process of overcoming difficulties. The thorns along the way will also become the steps that lead you to brightness.

I will continue to keep you in my thoughts. Let's get started!

Hello, question asker! You asked, "I'm in my anxiety/a-18-year-old-female-in-her-senior-year-is-confused-how-can-she-devote-herself-fully-to-her-studies-26054.html" target="_blank">senior year of high school, and I feel like I have a bad mood. I want to tell them, but I'm afraid they'll be sad, so I don't know what to do anymore."

Let's take a closer look at your question.

You mentioned that your family of origin has caused you psychological harm. You've been unhappy since junior high school, and you've been depressed for a long time. You've been engaging in self-harm and feeling like you want to be selfish.

It was the same in high school, but the number of self-harm incidents has decreased significantly. Now in your senior year of high school, you are particularly prone to anxiety and easily fall to tears. You never seem to feel happy, and you can't find a way to solve this problem. You feel like the only way out is to die.

Later, you felt like you were in a bad mood and wanted to tell your parents, but your father didn't think these were serious. Since you'd already told your mother you felt miserable, she might have told your father you had psychological problems.

One time, when they were arguing, your father was pretty dismissive and disbelieving about your psychological problems. You didn't want to tell your mother, but life was just so exhausting.

You're not home much, and when you do talk to her, she cries too. You feel so much pain and blame yourself for making her suffer. You feel your mother really loves you, so you're confused.

It's really tough to be torn inside out.

After reading your question, I get the sense that you're dealing with a lot of internal conflicts that are causing you a lot of pain and making it difficult for you to cope. Spiritual and mental pain is a kind of pain that isn't always visible or tangible, but it can have a significant impact on a person's life.

When you told your mom how you were feeling, she probably felt really sorry for you and also felt bad for herself. That's why she cried. She couldn't take in all those emotions, so she probably talked to your dad about it. He might have had to accept them, but she still couldn't take them in.

Your emotions are painful, and they need to be seen, cared for, and taken care of. Your mother has been a good listener, quietly listening to you. She couldn't handle the negative emotions you were conveying, so she told your father, who obviously couldn't handle it and exploded in a conflict with your mother.

Stress is a part of life.

Life is full of pressure, and the pressure of senior year is really intense. It's to be expected that senior year students will have some bad moods. How are you doing?

If that doesn't work, you can go to the school's counseling office and talk to a professional for some counseling and guidance. You might feel better afterwards.

Best of luck, OP! I hope my answer is helpful. All the best!

Hello, host. I'm honored to answer your question. If I understand your information correctly, you've been unhappy and depressed since junior high school because of problems in your family of origin. You've also engaged in self-harm and suicidal behavior.

Once I got to senior year of high school, I was so stressed that I cried all the time and couldn't seem to be happy.

You want to tell your parents about these problems, but you're worried that they won't understand and that it'll add to their burden. You're a kind and sensible child, and you're worried that these problems will affect your parents.

You can bring these issues up with a professional, and you'd prefer to solve these problems with the help of a professional.

When people face psychological challenges, they tend to react in one of two ways: by pushing down their emotions or by avoiding the problem altogether.

Introverts with low self-esteem and sensitive personalities often deal with problems in this way. They suppress a lot of the fear, anger, self-blame, and other negative emotions in their lives, which causes a lot of pressure. They keep these emotions inside, which leads to depression and unhappiness in their daily lives. They release these negative emotions and the pressure they cause by self-harming, in order to maintain inner balance.

From what you've said, it seems like you're not feeling well. If you have the chance, you should ask a professional to administer the Minnesota Multiphasic Personality Inventory test. The results will give you a more scientific and objective assessment of your current psychological state.

Leave the professional issues to the professionals. I'm on your side. Parents love us, but they can't make a scientific and rigorous judgment about our current state and provide us with constructive opinions and suggestions because of their circumstances and knowledge.

This way, they won't be worrying or feeling anxious about these things. It's a good idea to be honest but not give away everything.

I'm pleased to have an appointment. 1983. The world and I love you!

Hello, From what you've said, it seems like you're in a depressed state and want to ask for help. However, it seems like your father doesn't understand, your mother is also very helpless, and you feel very helpless. First, I want to give you a big hug. I'm a psychiatrist at the hospital, and I'm willing to help you!

First of all, your family environment doesn't support you much. Your father's stubbornness and control make it hard for you to express your true feelings. You can only express them by repressing them, turning aggression inward, harming yourself, and even having suicidal thoughts. You need to go to a regular hospital for an assessment and diagnosis, and receive medication according to the degree of depression.

Psychotherapy. Your parents don't understand, so you can ask the doctor to explain it to them. I see a lot of cases like this in the outpatient clinic. As long as the parents go to the hospital, most of them recognize the doctor. You can talk to your mother first to get her support. For your father, you should also insist on going to the doctor for your own mental health.

Second, you also have to accept your own state. It's just a disease that can be alleviated through regular treatment. Learn to express yourself. Depressive states are usually manifested as low mood, slow thinking, sleep disturbances, early morning awakening, unwillingness to interact with others, accompanied by somatic symptoms, fatigue, and a sense of worthlessness. You can do things to relax yourself, such as listening to music, exercising, confiding in others, and keeping a record.

Ultimately, you need to find the resources and support around you. Don't give up. I can see your confusion as you express yourself on the platform and seek help. That's your strength. Your teacher is willing to help you. The world and I love you, and you must love yourself too. Come on!

Hello, child.

You're a anxiety/a-senior-high-school-student-about-to-enter-his-third-year-lacking-motivation-scoring-around-300-points-how-to-adjust-ones-psychology-5970.html" target="_blank">high school student facing a lot of pressure. You suspect you may have psychological problems and find it hard to talk to your parents about it. I can help you face these emotions and problems together.

Let's learn about anxiety.

Anxiety is worrying about something that might happen in the future. It can cause symptoms like nervousness, restlessness, worry, a fast heart rate, and trouble sleeping.

If you have any of these symptoms, don't be afraid. Anxiety can be treated. Most people have anxiety to a greater or lesser extent. Don't feel ashamed. It's a very common problem. Look at it in the right light. It's not scary.

Second, I started self-harming in junior high because of my family. Do you still do that now?

If you still think this way, we can buy a doll. When you feel like hurting yourself, use the doll instead, and tell your mother.

You said that you had told your parents about your psychological problems before, but your father didn't believe you and even scolded your mother. This made you afraid to speak up. Many parents don't know how serious psychological problems are. We are rarely taught about psychological knowledge and rationality.

It's normal to have psychological problems. Especially in today's society, students and adults alike will have some psychological problems, but the problem is not taken seriously. In other countries, children have their own psychologists at a very young age, so it's not shameful to have psychological problems. We must seek professional help and treatment in a timely manner.

Finally, I want to tell your child to view themselves normally. You are no different from anyone else. Other students may also have psychological problems, but they don't talk about it. This just shows that you are more able than others to perceive your own inner feelings, which is great! And it took a lot of courage and knowledge to come to our Yixinli platform for help. Our platform has many professional psychological counselors who can help you.

Your parents love you, especially your mother. Go tell her. Let her help you. If you have any more questions, you can also chat with me privately. I'm happy to help.

I hope you're happy.

Hello!

I'm a mindfulness coach. Learning is a treasure.

From your description, I can tell you're feeling a lot of things.

You're torn between telling your parents you're in a bad mood and keeping it to yourself. I have three pieces of advice for you:

First, try to understand yourself and accept your situation.

It will make you feel better and help you think about what to do next.

You said that since junior high school, you have often been unhappy, engaged in self-harm, and even had thoughts of leaving this world. You don't want to tell your parents that you are in a bad mood because they don't care and you don't want to make things worse. However, you are having a hard time dealing with it yourself, so you are very confused and don't know whether to tell them. I can see that you are a sensible and filial child, so you have to try to understand yourself and comfort yourself.

Allowing yourself to understand and accept your current state makes it possible to change it. Change is based on allowing for no change.

Secondly, think about your own state.

Rational thinking helps you understand yourself and reality.

To be rational, you must:

People are limited in what they can do on their own. When problems arise, it's important to have family support.

Your mother loves you and wants to help. She doesn't want you to suffer because of your problems.

You don't have to blame yourself. It's not your fault. Parents are there for you.

You can change the situation.

Once you've taken the initiative, you'll know what to do and feel better.

You are young and have time to improve. See the power of time.

Focus on yourself and think about how you can feel better.

If you never tell your parents, your state will likely stay the same. Depression makes you feel low. You might think that if you tell your father, he'll worry. You can talk to your mother first because she loves you. You're worried that your mother will suffer because of you. Think about it: if you never get better, it will affect your studies. Your mother will be sad. She can face difficulties with you. Try to let go of your guilt and have a good chat with your mother. This may make you feel better. You can also tell your mother why you don't want to talk to her. She'll probably tell you not to feel guilty. She loves you and is willing to help you face difficulties.

After talking to your mother, she will probably take you to a good hospital to get diagnosed. If you're not depressed, great. If you are, it's okay because modern medicine can cure it. This will make you feel better and help you get through the pain.

If you don't want to talk to your mother, you can talk to the school counselor. If the counselor suggests you tell your parents, ask him or her to explain to your father. He or she will believe it, and you won't be so worried. When you can't do something, find someone to help you.

Also, mental illness is not your fault. Anyone can have it. Take your time and you will be fine.

I hope my answer helps. Click "Find a coach to interpret – online conversation" at the bottom to talk to me one-on-one.

Hello, my dear child. My name is Yu Hengbo, and I'm a psychological counselor. I can see you're going through a really tough time, and you're thinking about your parents. You're so kind, and I want to give you a big pat on the back!

It's so important to remember that you are the most important person in the world. You deserve to be cherished and protected. Here are some perspectives for you to consider.

1. It's totally normal to feel anxious and prone to breakdowns in your third year of high school. It's a tough time, and it's okay to feel unhappy and like you want to die. You're under a lot of pressure right now, and every third-year high school student feels that way. You're not alone in this battle. First, accept your emotions. Allow yourself to be anxious and in pain. When you're under a lot of pressure, it's important not to allow yourself to be unhappy. Being stuck in a dilemma is particularly likely to cause mental depletion. Therefore, allowing yourself to have bad emotions can make you relax.

2. It's really important to identify what's causing you stress and what's making you anxious. Is it the pressure of the college entrance exam?

Are you feeling a bit overwhelmed by all the choices? It can be tough to decide on a major or university to apply to.

Or maybe you'd like your parents to show you more affection? What kind of support would you like from your parents?

Do you feel like you have a harmonious family atmosphere? Do you get the support you need to overcome your difficulties?

Or is it being patient with yourself? First, take some time to think about what you need and what you want. When you can figure out what's going on inside you, it'll be easier to handle things. It'll also be easier to talk to your parents or other people you trust.

3. From the perspective of family education, taking care of children is the parents' duty. We all need to be cared for when we're in a bad mood, and there's nothing to be embarrassed about. It seems like your parents could use some help learning how to support you better, and their relationship could use some TLC. But what I see is that even though your parents have been arguing a lot, they're still together, which shows they still have feelings for each other. So I think it would be really helpful for you to ask your parents to go to family therapy together. You could ask the family therapist to help you figure out what's going on in your family and find a way to fix it. As long as it helps your family feel better and better, I think your parents would be willing to give it a try. It might be tough to convince them to work on their own problems and get motivated to solve them. Do you have any other relatives or people your parents respect, like a teacher you trust, who could help persuade them to seek professional help as soon as possible to improve the family environment and work with you through the most important time in high school?

4. It's important to learn to distinguish between what is your business and what is your parents' business. If you try every means to persuade them, but they still fail to realize their own problems, we have to learn to draw a psychological line with them. It's okay, though. We can do this together!

It's okay to feel like your relationship isn't the best, and it's okay if your parents aren't the most emotionally intelligent. We all have different experiences and ways of processing emotions, and that's totally normal. It's not anyone's business but yours and your parents' to understand each other's emotions. But you are you, and you are only responsible for yourself. You have the right to take care of yourself, understand yourself, accept yourself, and let go of the burden they have given you. You can relax and just take good care of yourself.

5. Find a support system. It's so important to have someone you can trust to share your worries with, isn't it? It can be really tough when you're facing a challenge on your own. If you can find someone you can talk to, it'll make you feel like you've got someone on your side. It could be a teacher or relative you trust, or even your best friend! The more you talk about it, the less pressure you'll feel. And they might also give you some new perspectives to think about and help you see things differently.

6. Give your brain a little love! Make time for rest and relaxation. Get your body moving with some exercise or other fun activities to help you feel your best.

Moderate stress can actually help the brain improve concentration and enhance efficiency! However, excessive stress is toxic and affects the brain's normal function. In addition, a pleasant and positive environment, sleep, exercise, and nutrition all affect brain function. Without a healthy body, learning performance cannot be improved. So, remember to take care of yourself!

7. It's clear that you're going through a rough patch. You might benefit from a visit to the psychiatric department of a top-tier hospital or a mental health center. With the help of a professional doctor, you'll be able to find some relief. When you're feeling better, you'll be able to see the problem in a different light. Don't hesitate to go for a diagnosis and treatment!

Hey there! I know the third year of high school can be really tough, but I promise you'll feel so accomplished when you make it through! It's a great idea to think about what you need and what you want during this time. It's also really important to know your limits when it comes to stress. When you feel stressed, try to do something simple to relax, like exercise, get some sleep, or do something else to unwind. It's not helpful to push yourself too hard when you're struggling with something. It's okay to accept that you have some weaknesses, accept what you can't change, and work on what you can. If you're struggling with something and you can't talk to your parents about it, you can always express your disappointment to them and find your own way to solve the problem. You can also talk to other teachers, friends, or family members you trust. Most importantly, remember that you're valuable and worthy of love. You have so many options! As long as you love yourself and take your time to discover them, you'll gradually see that there are so many opportunities for love and resources out there for you.

I wish you the best of luck!

I hope that my response will prove helpful to you.

I perceive you to be kind and sensible. You are currently experiencing sadness, yet you are also contemplating your mother. However, it is crucial to understand that your parents serve as a vital support system for you. Consequently, it is imperative to communicate with them during this challenging period.

This is due to the following reasons:

1. It is possible that parents are the cause of the patient's illness. A significant portion of the etiology of psychological disorders is likely to be shaped by childhood experiences.

2. Parents are pivotal figures in family therapy.

3. Parents are the individuals with whom the child is most intimately acquainted and who are therefore best positioned to provide the child with the most efficacious psychological assistance and support.

Fourthly, the assistance and backing of one's parents can facilitate a more expeditious recuperation.

5. Parents are capable of providing a greater degree of intense and unconditional love than that which is typically experienced by the general public. The love that parents offer has the capacity to facilitate healing.

It is therefore evident that parents play a pivotal role in their children's psychological development. When parents offer their children support and understanding, it facilitates the child's psychological rehabilitation and growth.

The question thus arises as to how one might inform one's parents of one's desire to engage in counseling.

It is possible that parents lack sufficient knowledge about psychological counseling, in which case it may be necessary to explain the nature of the service and the reasons for seeking it. This will require a certain degree of understanding of psychological counseling on the part of the practitioner.

Psychological counseling is a process that employs the principles and methods of psychology to address the psychological issues of the client. It is not merely a matter of treating the symptoms; rather, it delves into the underlying causes of these outward manifestations of psychological distress, with the aim of comprehensively understanding the root of the problem and facilitating the client's growth and transformation.

Furthermore, the objective of psychological counseling is to assist individuals who are not experiencing any significant cognitive or neurological impairment.

In the event that mental health issues are the result of inadequate intelligence or impaired brain function (such as schizophrenia), it is advisable to seek the guidance of a neurologist at a hospital or a mental health center. These professionals may prescribe medication and recommend medical treatment. However, for conditions such as severe depression, it is often beneficial to combine medication with psychological counseling, as severe emotional distress can have a detrimental impact on brain function.

What are the categories of psychological counseling?

1. The nature of the consultation allows for the classification of psychological counseling into two distinct categories: developmental counseling and health counseling.

1. The nature of the consultation allows for the classification of counseling into two categories: developmental counseling and health counseling.

The scope of developmental counseling encompasses personal growth, career confusion, and the repair and healing of personal trauma within the original family structure, among other areas.

The scope of healthy psychological counseling encompasses a range of emotional and relationship-related concerns, including depression, anxiety, emotional instability, and feelings of sadness and distress. Additionally, it addresses difficulties in forming and maintaining healthy relationships with family members, colleagues, and others.

2. The scale of the consultation determines whether it is individual or group counseling.

3. The duration of treatment can be classified into three categories: short-term (1-3 weeks), medium-term (1-3 months), and long-term (more than 3 months).

3. The duration of treatment can be classified into three categories: short-term (1-3 weeks), medium-term (1-3 months), and long-term (more than 3 months).

4. In accordance with the theoretical foundation of counseling, it can be classified into four distinct categories: psychoanalytic, behavioral, cognitive psychology, and humanistic orientation counseling.

4. The theoretical basis of counseling allows for the classification of counseling approaches into four distinct categories: psychoanalytic, behavioral, cognitive psychology, and humanistic orientation.

5. The form of counseling may be further classified as outpatient counseling (the most effective form of counseling), telephone counseling, and online counseling.

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In the event that one's verbal efforts are not met with the desired level of persuasion from one's parents, it is recommended that one first visit the school's psychological counseling room and request a psychological assessment from the school's designated psychological counselor. If circumstances permit, one may also request the psychological counselor to facilitate communication between oneself and one's parents, offering guidance and advice.

It is recommended that, when communicating with parents, the use of non-violent communication be employed.

The objective of communication is not to engage in a debate about right and wrong, but rather to facilitate mutual understanding, foster the growth of the relationship, and identify a solution that is mutually satisfactory.

The process of non-violent communication involves four fundamental steps: first, stating the objective facts; second, expressing one's feelings; third, expressing one's needs; and finally, requesting the other person's action.

It would be beneficial to communicate to your parents that you have been experiencing a decline in mood and motivation recently. You may find yourself lacking the energy to engage in activities that were previously enjoyable, such as attending classes, reading, or engaging in leisure activities. It is important to be honest and objective when describing these feelings. You may also experience feelings of discomfort and a sense of being unable to cope with these challenges independently. It is crucial to express your genuine feelings and acknowledge your need for support and care. You may benefit from seeking professional assistance, such as that provided by a psychologist, to help you navigate these difficulties. It is important to communicate your specific request for support and care, such as a request for your parents to take you to see a psychologist this weekend. This will help you and your parents understand each other's needs and work towards a solution that benefits you both.

This form of communication allows parents to gain insight into their child's true feelings and thoughts. If parents are also willing to express their own feelings and needs, they can be invited to engage in a more profound exchange. This approach facilitates deeper communication and bonding, enabling parents and children to gain a more comprehensive understanding of each other's perspectives.

If one is reluctant to engage in direct communication, the written word may offer an alternative avenue for expression. By composing a letter, one can convey their thoughts and feelings in a manner that is both personal and accessible to the recipient.

In the event that one's parents are unable or unwilling to comprehend the situation and the individual is experiencing significant distress, it is advised that they seek the assistance of a qualified professional, such as a school counselor, an online public welfare psychological counseling service, or a family member with expertise in the field of psychology.

Moreover, with regard to self-harm, it is advised that one employ constructive methods to replace self-harm, thereby facilitating more effective management of emotions and stress.

If self-harm is used as a means of evading discomfort, one may choose to express their most profound sentiments and thoughts in written form. There is no need to concern oneself with the neatness of one's handwriting or the logical coherence of the content; the objective is to articulate one's innermost feelings as freely as possible. Additionally, it is possible to identify an appropriate individual with whom to engage in a dialogue, sharing one's inner concerns and stressors while simultaneously receiving the love and support of one's friends.

If self-harm is employed as a form of self-punishment, it is recommended that the individual be assisted in developing a more positive self-identity, provided with constructive feedback, and encouraged to engage in self-affirmation practices. Additionally, enhancing their awareness may be facilitated through reading materials such as "Accept Yourself: Transcend Your Inherent Weaknesses" and "Accept Your Imperfections."

If self-harm is used to attract attention, it is possible to identify the individual with whom the person in question wishes to connect, engage in a sincere exchange, and express their need for care. Only when needs are expressed will the heart be less suppressed.

If self-harm is used as a means of releasing anger, it is possible to achieve this through a variety of physical activities, including boxing, running, kicking, and so forth. Additionally, there are various methods of releasing emotions through more passive pursuits, such as squeezing stress balls, pounding pillows or sandbags, tearing paper, and so on. Furthermore, the empty chair technique can be employed to facilitate the release of emotions. This involves placing an empty chair in a room and assuming that the individual with whom one wishes to communicate is sitting in the chair. The individual can then express their thoughts and feelings, including any abusive or angry sentiments, to the chair as much as they wish.

In order to facilitate the healing process, it is essential to provide the individual with the necessary support and resources to address the underlying issues that may be contributing to the self-harm behavior. This may include offering guidance on improving self-esteem, providing positive reinforcement, and encouraging self-affirmation. For those engaging in self-harm as a form of self-punishment, it is crucial to assist them in developing a more positive self-identity and to help them recognize their inherent strengths. Reading materials such as "Accept Yourself: Transcend Your Inherent Weaknesses" and "Accept Your Imperfections" can be beneficial in this regard.

In conclusion, it can be stated that the process of identifying a solution to one's own difficulties represents the initial stage of personal growth and recovery. Best wishes for success in this endeavour.