Shanghai, on the 65th day of home quarantine, what should I do if I feel depressed?

Dear questioner, I'm sending you a big, warm hug!

I think people who are not in the same situation may not fully understand this difficult feeling, and that's okay!

I think folks who haven't been in your shoes might not fully grasp this tough feeling.

I know it's tough, but you're doing great!

I'd absolutely love to chat with you! I really hope I can offer you some small comfort and inspiration.

1. You've got this! Actively seek out your own resources.

You're so great for recognizing your own state and actively seeking help!

You are your own strength, my dear.

You said, "These days, I have trouble falling asleep at night, wake up early in the morning, and my mind often reels with past mistakes, repeatedly negating myself." Sometimes this is just the negative impact of doing nothing. I'm here for you, and I hug you again!

I know it can be tough to think about past mistakes, but I'm here to help! When you're feeling down, try to think about the good parts you did.

We're all affected by this epidemic, but you're feeling it more because you've been isolated at home for so long.

The first step we can take is to accept our emotions and state of mind. We hope our husbands can comfort us, but if they can't, we should allow them to sometimes not be able to. We're here for you, and we're here to listen.

What can we think of now that we can improve?

For example, you will come here to seek help, which is a great way to do it. We're here for you!

I may not be able to offer you any practical help, but I can promise you that someone will listen to you and someone will chat with you. I truly believe that will be comforting to you.

I hope you're getting along okay with the supplies in your area!

I really do think it's probably guaranteed!

My husband is playing games, which is a nice change of pace!

This is great news! It shows that there is still a basic level of safety.

When we focus on what we do have, like the fact that we don't have to worry about making a living right now, it helps us feel safer mentally.

Just do the best you can, and don't be too hard on yourself.

2. Take the time to actively arrange your own life.

I know, I know. This isolated life is a big challenge for us, isn't it?

We're all in this together! None of us has any experience.

It's also worth noting that our emotions can change quite a bit during different periods of quarantine.

At first, you may not have to go to work and feel like you're getting a rare chance to rest.

However, if we do nothing for a long time, we might feel a bit disoriented, have irregular sleep and wake up times, and have poor sleep quality. We might even start to doubt ourselves a little!

I'd love to know what you enjoyed doing outside of work before the quarantine!

Or is there something you've always wanted to do, but never had the time to do it? Well, now you do! Why not give it a try? Or take on a challenge that you've never taken on before.

For instance, when the pandemic first started, lots of folks tried their hand at cooking.

I think it would be really lovely if you could find the time to read some books or watch movies you've been meaning to watch.

Or you could learn to paint, for example!

I really hope you can make the days as fulfilling as possible!

I would highly recommend watching the movie Groundhog Day, which is about a protagonist who keeps repeating the same day over and over again. It's a great movie!

I know it can be tough, but try to remember that during this quarantine, we're all stuck in the same routine day after day.

I really hope you can find inspiration in the movie!

I really think you should try watching some good, relaxing, and healing TV shows or reading good books.

Sometimes, reading a book that we've been meaning to read but haven't had a chance to is just the thing to help us relax.

I'd also like to suggest that you try writing and practicing calligraphy. It's a wonderful way to gain focus.

My husband might not always be able to give me the comfort I need, but I can find it elsewhere. That way, he'll feel a little better too.

Or, if you like, you can find your own way to comfort yourself.

You've got this! Be your own strongest supporter.

If you're interested, you can also join the "Epidemic Trauma Companions" or "Psychological Theater" groups on Yixinli. They're there for you if you need them!

The world and I love you so much!

We're here for you, my friend.

Dear question owner,

From reading your account, I can imagine how you managed to survive being confined at home for more than 60 days. It seems that your husband's main focus is on playing games. Perhaps if he communicated more and showed more concern for you, you might not have become depressed. I'm sending you hugs.

1. Could you please explain why staying at home for a long time might lead to depression?

After a long period of isolation at home, due to a lack of communication and interaction, especially the inability to go out at will, it can be challenging to find outlets for emotions, which can eventually lead to feelings of depression.

I believe there is a term in psychology that describes this phenomenon: a nervous breakdown.

A nervous breakdown can be defined as a period of time when a person is overwhelmed by intense stress, depression, anxiety, and emotions that affect social functioning.

There are a number of potential reasons for a mental breakdown, including ongoing stress, trauma, and significant changes.

From an emotional perspective, it seems that one important factor leading to nervous breakdowns is the long-term suppression of personal negative emotions.

Perhaps it would be helpful to accept this emotion.

It might be helpful to accept this isolation and temporary depression. It's important to remember that it's normal to feel negative emotions, and it's not helpful to resist them. Resisting only makes depression worse. The more you resist, the more power you give it, and the stronger it becomes. It's a good idea to acknowledge your emotions, feel them, and accept them, so they become less intense.

It is often the case that acceptance and permission are the first steps in dealing with a problem. By accepting the facts and giving yourself permission, your mind can become unburdened. This is because you are no longer fighting the facts, such as asking "Why am I depressed?"

I wonder why we feel so isolated here. Is there something I could do to help my husband to care about me a little more?

These are all about facing your challenges and embracing reality.

3. How might you go about reducing your depressed mood?

It may be helpful to use the Internet and communicate with relatives and friends, or some online platforms, when you feel depressed and uncomfortable. It is not embarrassing to ask for help from others when you are in trouble. Asking questions here is a good way to try to relieve your stress.

Additionally, you might consider keeping a diary. There is no need to worry about whether your handwriting is neat or your sentences flow well. Just write down whatever comes into your mind. This can be an effective way to relieve stress.

Secondly, you may also find it helpful to record this event while writing down the real feelings and thoughts it brings to you (for example, you could try feeling the feeling of depression and noting where in the body it is, perhaps in the chest or in the head). You may also wish to try talking to your own "depression and depression". When you feel them coming, you could say something like, "I see you coming, what do you want to tell me?"

Perhaps you could try talking to your symptoms and asking them what they want to tell you.

Perhaps you might gain something new.

People in depressed states may feel as if their thoughts are "trapped" and as if their minds have been "frozen," which can make it difficult to discern what they are thinking. Keeping a diary can be a helpful way to engage in dialogue with our minds.

As you write, you may find that you are able to express your inner thoughts in a way that makes them more objective. This can be a helpful process for revealing thoughts, beliefs and troubles that you may not have been aware of before.

If it is something you feel you would benefit from, you might like to consider doing some moderate aerobic exercise at home every day.

It is thought that exercise can promote the secretion of dopamine in each of us. When a person is exercising, the sympathetic nervous system is excited, and when a person is in a state of stress, the adrenal glands secrete adrenaline and dopamine, which may help to eliminate stress, soothe emotions, and give a person a relaxed and happy feeling. You may find it helpful to practice yoga, jump rope, do squats, etc., whatever suits you. It is recommended that you persevere every day for about 30 minutes.

You might also find it helpful to listen to some audio files about emotional release. There are many good options available.

If you find that you are unable to resolve your issue independently, it may be helpful to seek the guidance of a professional.

I hope you feel better soon.

Hello there!

I'm a mindfulness coach, and I just want to say that learning is the treasure of the body!

From what you've told me, I can really sense how you're feeling inside. It's so sad to see you struggling with depression, boredom, anxiety, suffering, and helplessness.

I won't go into all the details of the depression caused by the long period of home isolation due to the pandemic, but I'd love to give you three pieces of advice that I think you'll find helpful:

I know it's tough, but I really think you should try to accept your current state.

I really think that if you do this, it'll help you feel a little bit better. It'll also help you think about what you need to do next.

You said that you are in Shanghai and have been isolated at home for more than two months due to the epidemic. Your company's business has been suspended, and you have nothing to do at home. Sometimes you feel depressed, and the quality of your sleep has been affected. Mistakes from the past often appear in your head, repeatedly negating yourself. You hope that your husband will comfort you, but he is only concerned with playing games. This makes you feel that the days are hard to bear. I can understand your feelings, because being isolated at home for such a long time will affect the emotions of most people. You can try to accept your state of mind, "see" the somewhat depressed, but temporarily at a loss as to what to do, and painful self. This will give you extra mental energy to think about other things, otherwise your brain will be constantly filled with all kinds of negative emotions.

It's so important to accept your situation, because that's the only way you can change it. I know it might sound a bit strange, but it's true! Change is all about letting things be as they are.

Secondly, I'd like to suggest that you take a step back and view your own state in a more rational way.

Because when you think things through, you can really get to know yourself and the world around you better.

I know it can be tough, but I'm here to help! A rational approach requires you to do two simple things:

It's so important to remember that this situation will eventually pass and life will go back to normal.

I know it can be tough when you're feeling down, but try to remember that this is probably just a temporary phase. It's totally normal to feel this way, and it's okay to take some time to accept your current state. On a positive note, the situation is improving, and the lockdown will soon be lifted!

Second, remember that you have the power to change the situation because you can change.

When you take the initiative to make a change in your own life, you'll start to feel better.

I know it can be tough, but I really believe that when you look at it rationally like this, some of the negative emotions in your heart may be resolved.

Third, I think it would really help you to focus on yourself and think about what you can do to feel better.

For example, you can do something you've always wanted to do but haven't been able to because of work or other things. This could be anything from reading a few classic books, catching up on TV dramas or movies you're interested in, to trying out some gourmet dishes you've always wanted to cook! When you start trying to do things, you're likely to feel better.

It might also help to have a good chat with your husband. You said in your description that you want him to comfort you, and you made it clear, but he only spends his time on games every day. Is it that your way of communicating is not appropriate? You can try to communicate in this way and see what happens. That is, it is best to start with "I" and talk more about feelings, and not or less use "you" at the beginning, because the latter will make him feel rejected and accused, which is not conducive to communication between you. After you communicate in this way many times, I think it is very likely that he will "hear" what you say, and then comfort you, understand you, and give you support. In this way, your mood may also be better.

You can also try to think more positively about the past. Instead of dwelling on mistakes you've made in the past, remind yourself that you've changed a lot since then. You've gained new knowledge and experience, and if something similar happened again, you'd probably be able to handle it. Give yourself these positive suggestions a few times, and you'll probably notice a difference in your mood.

If you've made a mistake, remember that everyone makes mistakes. You're not a bad person or a failure. You're a good person who deserves love. When you think this way, your emotions will ease up a little.

You can also chat with your loved ones (including those who are also quarantined at home in Shanghai, with whom you may have more in common). This will make you feel better, because once negative emotions start flowing, they have a healing effect. At the same time, you can also get their support and understanding, which will also make you feel better.

If you're having trouble sleeping, don't worry! There are lots of simple things you can do to help. Try doing some exercise before bed, drinking a glass of milk, or listening to a book. These can all help you get a better night's rest. Remember, you can do something to improve the situation!

I know it can be tough, but when you start to take action, all kinds of negative emotions in your heart will naturally be resolved. Believe me, action is sometimes the best medicine for all kinds of negative emotions!

I really hope my answer helps you! If you'd like to chat some more, just click on "Find a Coach" at the bottom and we can have a one-on-one conversation.

Hello, host! I'm so happy to be here!

After reading your description, I have a better understanding of the question you want to ask, so I'll give you a hug in the fourth dimension!

From your description, it's clear you're going through some changes right now. With the epidemic and two months of home quarantine, you've had a lot of time to reflect. And with nothing to do at home, you're experiencing some emotional ups and downs. But that's okay! When people are idle, they think a lot, and that's what you mentioned in your description: you're sometimes very depressed.

It's great that you can detect your emotions! This is a wonderful thing for you. There's no need to worry or feel anxious. Instead, take your time experiencing your emotions as they arise and then accept them as they are. Before you know it, these emotions will disappear, but it may take some time.

Now, let's dive into the fascinating topic of depression. In my opinion, depression is a fascinating phenomenon that can lead a person into a process of negative thinking and perception. It starts with a small failure and then leads to a feeling of overall failure, thus narrowing one's perception.

The core of depression is a sense of powerlessness. But there's no need to worry! You can easily get rid of this sense of powerlessness by getting away from the frustrating environment. For example, although it is during the epidemic, you can try to cultivate some hobbies that interest you. This will help you to distract yourself from the negative environment for a long time!

Your description also mentioned your husband, which is a very important point. After all, your husband is your significant other! So, at the moment, you really want to get the care and attention from your husband, but he keeps playing games instead of spending time and energy on you. So, you feel sad and even a little angry, and you also feel that I am not as important as the game?

The good news is that we can explain your and your husband's behavior using something called "defense mechanisms." Let's briefly understand what they are. Defense mechanisms are the methods by which the self keeps terrible things out of consciousness to reduce or avoid anxiety. They are the psychological mechanisms by which individuals avoid mental disturbances and maintain psychological balance when disturbed.

In other words, you're more likely to show some emotions and let your husband notice them, which is a great way to gain his care and attention! But your husband is more likely to use this method of escape to relieve the tension and pressure on himself, which is a wonderful way to relax through games.

I've also put together a few handy tips to help you turn things around. I really hope they'll be useful for you! ?

(1) Embrace your current emotions! Resisting them will only create more problems in your life.

(2) When you're feeling down, there are so many ways to let those emotions out! Talk it out, go for a run, listen to your favorite tunes — whatever gets you feeling better!

(3) Relax and take things slowly. Don't put too much pressure on yourself! You've got this!

(4) The pandemic is an unexpected event, and it is normal to feel anxious and powerless. But here's the good news: you can choose how you perceive the situation and how you deal with it. So, it is also your perception and attitude towards things?

(5) Try to distract yourself, for example by doing something you are interested in, and watch the clouds part and the sun shine through!

The world and I love you so much! ?

Take care!

Thank you so much for your invitation!

The pandemic in Shanghai this year has touched the hearts of millions of people in a truly inspiring way.

We see that there are many issues that make ordinary people feel bad.

However, there's so much we can do to help! We can start by thinking about how many people are suffering more than usual.

After 65 days of home isolation, it's hard to imagine how all the uncertainties brought about by the pandemic can be contained in the limited space of a small home, from the bedroom to the living room, and from the living room to the kitchen. But we can do it!

The company's business has stopped due to the epidemic, which means you have had the chance to focus on yourself for the past two months!

The resulting psychological activity may be concerned about your future work and income, as well as the impact on household expenses.

Because of the pandemic, there's no knowing when it will end. But that's part of the adventure, right? The feeling of being out of control of unknown events and the sense of restriction on current activities and mentally have all contributed to a feeling of anxiety and depression. But we can conquer these feelings and emerge stronger on the other side!

If you've never been depressed before, but only during the epidemic home isolation period, we may regard this as a stress reaction that occurs under special circumstances.

But I see you saying,

These days, I have trouble falling asleep at night and wake up early in the morning. My mind often reels with past mistakes, but I'm learning to recognize that I can stop repeating the same patterns and start creating new ones!

I'd love for you to feel that you used to have self-negation and self-attack.

Guess what? I've discovered the main cause of depression. It's called self-attack.

You want your husband to give you comfort and express it clearly. But he only spends his time playing games every day.

In other words, if your husband doesn't pay attention to your emotions, it will be difficult for you to get his support. But don't worry! There are plenty of ways to get the support you need.

During this period of home isolation, you have the opportunity to disconnect from the outside world and focus on yourself. You have no communication with your husband at home, and he is immersed in his own world of games, while you are immersed in your own psychological world. This is the perfect time to reflect on past experiences and process them in a way that suits you.

When these problems are reflected, it is a great time to deal with them!

I've got some great suggestions for you!

1. The first step to improvement is to stop self-negation, which is to stop self-attack. And the first step to improvement is to recognize that depression is mainly self-attack!

Depression is focused on the past, and when you deny past mistakes, you're not accepting your past. But there's a way to turn this around!

No matter what you've done in the past, you can do this! You can make mistakes, and you can learn from them. You're not perfect, and that's okay.

Your mistakes cannot deny your other achievements!

2. In the early stages of depression, you may experience some anxiety. Not being able to sleep at night and waking up early in the morning are both signs that you're feeling anxious.

Anxiety points to the future and generally to unfinished business. This is your chance to make a plan!

What are you most excited about?

Are the things you worry about real, or are they imagined and exaggerated? Let's find out!

What can you do to avoid potential problems? Before bed, write down what's worrying you. Then, tell your subconscious that you'll find a solution for the things you can handle. If you can't handle them, let them go! Let nature take its course.

When your mind is free of worries, you can sleep peacefully!

3. Find something that you normally don't have time to do that interests you and feels meaningful, and start doing it during home isolation!

What are some of your favorite hobbies outside of work?

Reading, writing, singing, dancing, food, sports – the list goes on! What other hobbies do you have that you'd like to develop?

The recent hit "Liu Genghong Girls" became popular during the pandemic, and it's a great way to get fit together! It'll inspire you and keep you company.

Absolutely! It has a cathartic and improving effect on your emotions.

If none of this is helping, don't worry! There are plenty of other options out there. You could always seek professional psychological help.

We will experience so many amazing things in our lives! And there's absolutely no need to rush or blame ourselves. Sometimes, embracing the beauty of imperfection is the best way to live.

And that's a wrap!

I'm Yan Guilai, a psychological counselor, and I wish you all the best!

Good day, question asker. I am honored to have the opportunity to address your question.

It is understandable that you have been in isolation for 65 days, during which time you have been unable to receive the comfort of your loved ones. It is also understandable that you have been experiencing feelings of depression and other negative emotions. When you wake up each day, it can be difficult to see any change in your circumstances and to imagine a future that seems uncertain. These feelings are completely normal.

It is important to recognize that negative emotions and stress can have a significant impact on an individual's life. It is essential to find ways to overcome negative emotions before they become overwhelming. Learning to detect and eliminate negative emotions and replace them with a positive mindset can be beneficial.

These negative thoughts will not defeat you, but they may help you find the courage to face difficulties in the future.

As the question was posed on this platform, we are unable to provide detailed advice. However, we can offer some guidance on how to cope with the negative emotions that the epidemic can evoke.

It may be helpful to identify any disturbing negative thoughts.

It would be helpful to understand what causes the questioner to have negative thoughts. Some negative thoughts just pop up in the mind, while others are more difficult to identify.

It may be helpful to record any negative emotions that arise in a few words.

It might be helpful to identify the emotions that are causing the subject to feel depressed. For example, if you feel that the epidemic is at home and that you are responsible for not having an income, and if you are worried about a decrease in your work income once work resumes and the economy shrinks, it could be beneficial to note that these negative thoughts are common cognitive distortions, such as overgeneralization, jumping to conclusions, being too extreme, and being certain.

Perhaps it would be helpful to try to stop negative emotions.

When you understand where your negative emotions come from, you can choose to cheer yourself up and overcome them. For example, when you wake up in the morning and you feel that it is going to be a bad morning, you might consider saying to yourself, "It doesn't feel good in the morning, but it will get better after the morning." In this way, you can maintain your positive state of mind.

When you find yourself facing negative emotions, it may be helpful to avoid dwelling on them or talking about them. Instead, try to focus on something positive. With time, you may find this becomes a natural way of thinking.

It might be helpful to pay attention to your own verbal habits.

It is not uncommon for us to verbalize negative emotions when we are faced with challenging situations. For instance, we might say, "I'm so annoyed," "Today is terrible," or "Today I messed up again." These statements reflect a tendency to exaggerate and respond emotionally to things. Unfortunately, these negative words can intensify the negative thoughts that we have about a situation.

It would be beneficial for the poster to avoid using such words. In order to help you turn negative emotions into a positive side, you may wish to consider replacing these negative words with positive thoughts and praise. For example, you could replace "terrible" with "unfavorable" or "below expectations" and "disaster" with "challenge" or "inconvenience."

It would be beneficial to approach each day with a positive mindset.

It would be beneficial to approach each day with a positive attitude. When you wake up in the morning, it might be helpful to think of five happy things first.

You might consider some of the little things in life that can bring happiness, such as listening to a nice song, watching a good movie, enjoying a cup of tea that smells good today, or even getting vegetables yesterday. It might be helpful to think more about these things and say them out loud, so that you can greet the day with a positive mindset.

It may be helpful to consider that a positive mindset could be a useful foundation for starting the day, potentially making it more difficult for negative emotions to take root.

You may feel a bit uncomfortable saying positive things out loud, but studies have shown that saying positive things out loud helps you believe in what you are saying. This can make you happier, more focused, and help you avoid dwelling on negative thoughts.

It may be helpful to consider seeking outside support.

If you feel that the above approach may not be the most effective for you, you might consider seeking external help and finding volunteers to help you find a professional psychologist or counselor for psychological intervention. You may find it beneficial to describe your negative emotions to these professionals. You can talk about them openly and honestly, as these interventions are confidential.

It would be helpful to explain clearly how these negative emotions make you feel, how often they usually occur, and how you respond to them. If necessary, it might be beneficial to maintain ongoing communication with these professionals until these negative emotions no longer affect the questioner.

I hope my answer provides some assistance to the questioner.

Hello! I'll give you a hug.

You feel restless and depressed after being stuck at home for 65 days with no work due to the pandemic. You want to be understood, comforted, accompanied, and supported.

It's normal to have emotional feelings and want psychological support when facing a crisis. Try to understand and accept your feelings of unease, panic, irritability, and depression. Then, try to respond to these feelings through your own efforts.

Keeping a mood diary helps you understand your emotions better. You can also try doing some comfortable aerobic exercises to help you feel better.

You can also take time for yourself. Read a book, watch a movie, or watch a TV series you like.

Learn to cook a delicious meal for your family. Do it if it makes you happy and relaxed.

You told your husband you wanted companionship, but he ignored you. This made you sad, angry, frustrated, lost, and powerless. Your husband may not want to give you what you need. He may also be trying to relieve his anxiety and sense of powerlessness.

When he's not dealing with his emotions, he can't meet your needs. He also needs your understanding, support, and company, but men aren't good at expressing their emotions.

Try to understand your own feelings first. This will help you to accept your partner for who they are. When you understand yourself better, you will be able to accept your partner's needs. This will help you to communicate better with your partner.

The pandemic has changed our lives, but we can choose how to deal with it. Accept what we cannot change and respond to life with love.

The world and I love you! Let's end the epidemic!

Hugs! We're in this together.

Hello, I am Good Will Hunting, a national second-level psychological counselor.

I have taken the time to read your account in detail.

On the 65th day of being confined at home, the company's business has been suspended due to the epidemic, and I have no work to do at home. Sometimes I feel rather low. These days, I have trouble falling asleep at night and wake up early in the morning. I find myself dwelling on past mistakes, which can sometimes feel overwhelming. I hope my husband can offer me comfort and guidance, but he spends most of his time playing games, which can be difficult to accept.

I can sense that you are going through a challenging time and have sought comfort from your husband, but it seems he is preoccupied with gaming.

It appears that he is spending his time playing games, which seems to be a more appealing option than being stuck at home. Do you have a similar perception?

Perhaps it would be beneficial for us to find something to occupy our time.

Perhaps there are some activities you've always wanted to try but haven't had the chance?

If it isn't an imposition, might I inquire as to whether there are any TV series you'd be interested in watching that are currently being broadcast on the major media players?

I wonder if you might be interested in sports and fitness.

In your narrative, you mentioned past mistakes and self-doubt. Perhaps this is an opportunity to explore personal growth and undergo an in-depth growth enhancement while you still have time. If you're interested, you could arrange an appointment with a counselor.

If I might make a suggestion, perhaps you would enjoy reading some books?

If I might inquire as to whether you are interested in karaoke?

I hope that what I've mentioned here has piqued your interest. There are many possibilities in life, and there are many things you can experience while staying at home like this.

I hope you find this information useful. Please feel free to leave a comment if you have any questions or require advice.

I've only been here for a few days and I've been trying to find questions about Shanghai, but I haven't had much luck. I'm not sure if it's the search engine or if I'm not searching in the right way, but I couldn't find any relevant questions.

Upon seeing the question you posted, I immediately clicked on it.

I can only imagine how challenging life must be for friends in Shanghai. Given that you have been confined to your home for 65 days, I can understand if you are feeling overwhelmed. It is important to remember that this is a difficult situation for everyone who is isolated.

It would be beneficial to consider whether you can withstand a disaster and return to normal life after it is over.

Facing this kind of disaster that doesn't kill you all at once but leaves you powerless can be challenging. It can be difficult to maintain motivation and resilience in the face of prolonged uncertainty and adversity.

You have the option of doing many things to help you cope, such as keeping a diary, exercising, thinking, or studying. I understand that these activities may not be relaxing for you, but they can be beneficial. Having a sense of purpose and motivation can help you cope with the challenges you're facing.

Perhaps it would be helpful to try to identify your own driving force, whether that be beauty, wealth, health, or going abroad, for example.

Could you please tell me what you gained from this disaster? Was it pain, a lesson, or something else?

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider finding your motivation based on your gains.

Regarding your husband, I feel he could have done a better job and perhaps could have handled the situation better. It seems he is experiencing similar feelings to you and may be looking for ways to vent and escape.

From what I can gather, you and your husband are on good terms. It seems that there are no significant issues between you, and your relationship seems to be quite strong in your daily lives.

Experiencing a disaster together can be an opportunity to strengthen the foundation of your marriage. It is not necessary for one spouse to be more mature than the other. The spouse who is more mature in thought can offer guidance to the other spouse on ways to strengthen the marriage.

A spouse is someone who can truly accompany you for the rest of your life. It is important to consider how you are handling your relationship. If you can discuss it with each other and face this challenge together, it is likely that your request for help will not appear here.

It might be helpful to have a serious talk with your husband. You could let him understand your thoughts and let him know that you know it's hard for him too. But this home, the one you share, the days ahead are to be borne together.

No matter what the future may hold, you are willing to walk together, if that is how you feel.

Perhaps it would be helpful to discuss your future, your present, and how to face it.

I hope these suggestions will be helpful to you.

May the disaster pass quickly, may the people be safe, may the perpetrators be held to account, and may we be able to shape our future!

Thank you for your question. I am currently studying.

After reviewing your inquiry, I believe I can provide some suggestions and ideas that may be beneficial.

First and foremost, it is essential to identify the root cause of depression and understand its underlying factors. Is it due to a lack of engagement and a sense of emptiness, or are there other contributing elements?

If we are in self-isolation at home, it is important to recognise that this is just a part of life. Self-isolation can exacerbate some of the challenges we face.

Even in the absence of a quarantine, the issue will persist. In today's world, what solutions can be identified to

It is important to enrich oneself. Do you have any hobbies?

There are a number of ways to enrich oneself, including pursuing a hobby.

As an example, reading books is a viable option. The internet is a valuable resource that can be utilized for a variety of purposes.

We have the option of taking online courses, studying for certificates, and learning new things to enrich ourselves. However, this will require a significant time commitment.

The days will pass quickly, and you will find that learning new things on a daily basis will make you feel very fulfilled and happy.

Additionally, it is an effective method for personal growth. Engaging in reading and reflection on a daily basis has been shown to enhance overall well-being.

This will help to alleviate feelings of depression.

It is also advisable to maintain a regular exercise routine. There are numerous exercises that can be performed at home during periods of self-isolation.

For example, yoga and meditation, as well as walking. Maintaining a healthy lifestyle is also a highly beneficial practice.

It will maintain our physical and mental well-being, enhance our self-assurance, and elevate our mood.

There are also numerous online resources for identifying suitable part-time job opportunities. Researching your skills and interests can help you find a position that aligns with your abilities and goals.

This is a reliable source of income. It also helps to reduce anxiety.

Having a material foundation and material security will lead to increased happiness and a sense of well-being, while also fostering confidence.

It would be beneficial to identify a number of hobbies. Additionally, it is possible to generate income from these activities. When these two factors are combined, it is likely that a positive effect on well-being will be observed.

Furthermore, you are discussing self-denial. Given your awareness of this concept, you are effectively denying yourself.

It is therefore pertinent to inquire as to why we deny ourselves. What, precisely, are we concealing from ourselves?

It is a form of self-denial and can also be a manifestation of aggression.

Have you ever considered releasing your anger and aggression? It may also be beneficial to consider releasing your depression and emotions.

It is important to allow yourself to feel calm and happy. You can achieve this by imagining the release of negative emotions in your mind without causing any substantial harm.

Furthermore, you indicated that you feel uneasy when you observe your husband engaging in gaming activities on a daily basis. Have you ever considered communicating with your husband on this matter?

Identifying a shared interest and pursuing it together can also enhance quality of life.

Thank you for your question. I hope my answer has been helpful. It is possible to regulate emotions.

Furthermore, it is important to allow emotions to occur and arise without resistance or struggle.

Allow the emotion to run its course. Observe the emotion without judgement.

The emotion will gradually dissipate, allowing your mood to return to a state of peace and beauty.

Firstly, it is important to note that the individual in question has been confined to their residence throughout the period under discussion. The restrictions imposed by the pandemic have effectively curtailed their ability to leave their home, a situation that can induce feelings of depression. It is a natural human response to resist limitations on one's freedom. The author of this text can empathise with the individual's situation, having experienced a similar state of confinement. Over time, the individual may experience symptoms such as breathlessness and chest tightness. These symptoms can contribute to feelings of depression. The individual may also express a desire for their spouse to provide them with a sense of well-being. However, the spouse's tendency to engage in gaming activities may not align with the individual's needs. This can result in feelings of boredom and a lack of interest in engaging with external stimuli. In such circumstances, the individual may seek external sources of stimulation. One potential approach is to engage in a simple task, such as frying an egg. This can provide a sense of accomplishment and improve the individual's mood. The individual should focus on maintaining a steady heat and avoid becoming impatient. This task can be rewarding and help to combat feelings of boredom. It is important to recognise that everyone desires attention and care. We all seek love and affection. When we feel unloved, it is essential to love ourselves.

Ultimately, each individual is responsible for determining their own destiny, and no external entity can make decisions on one's behalf. It is, therefore, essential to cultivate an attitude of self-satisfaction. Prolonged solitude can, indeed, prove to be a rather tedious experience.

Dear Host, I hope my response is of some assistance to you.

It is challenging to maintain social distancing and isolation from others, particularly when one is confined to their home for an extended period. The inability to leave the house and engage in activities outside of one's immediate surroundings can lead to feelings of boredom and a lack of purpose. These feelings are not uncommon and are to be expected during this period.

It is not uncommon for individuals to experience negative thoughts when they have more free time. As you mentioned, you find yourself dwelling on past mistakes, which can lead to feelings of self-doubt. This is a natural consequence of our brains being unable to fully rest when there is no immediate work to occupy them. Our brains are wired to be active when we have tasks to focus on, but when there is nothing to engage them, they may still seek stimulation, leading to a proliferation of thoughts.

You also mentioned that you hope your husband can provide some level of comfort, but he spends his time playing games daily, which makes it difficult for you to endure. It seems that you have become particularly helpless.

Please relax, refrain from excessive concern, and do not allow fear to impede your progress. I am confident that the epidemic will be over in a relatively short period of time. It is important to recognize the value of your isolation at home and the contribution you are making to society as a whole. Furthermore, there is no viable alternative to this situation. Instead, we must focus on enhancing our lives and improving our emotional state in the context of these circumstances.

From your description, it seems that your husband has already identified a coping mechanism for navigating this challenging period, which is engaging in gaming activities. This is a personal choice that he has the right to make. We can approach him and express our needs. If he is unable or unwilling to accommodate them, we must accept that reality and avoid creating additional conflicts. In this situation, it is essential to identify ways to maintain engagement and fulfillment, so that our minds can focus on positive things and experience more positive emotions.

Please find below some suggestions:

1. It would be beneficial to communicate with close friends and relatives via phone or video call. Due to your busy work schedule, it may have been challenging to connect with them. However, now that you are isolated at home, it is an ideal time to catch up.

You may choose to confide in them about your troubles and worries. In doing so, you will likely feel their care and support. You will undoubtedly feel happier and more relaxed.

2. Engage in indoor sports that align with your preferences. For instance, you may choose to follow Coach Liu Genghong's guidance and practice aerobics on a daily basis. In the live broadcast room, you will perceive a sense of togetherness, despite the isolation of others. You will feel connected through the shared experience of exercise and communication in the live broadcast room.

Furthermore, regular exercise has been shown to promote relaxation and enhance mood. The release of dopamine, a neurotransmitter associated with feelings of happiness, is one of the mechanisms by which exercise positively impacts our mental state.

3. Utilize your time effectively by reading the books you've always wanted to read but never had the time to. It is possible that your work commitments may have previously limited your ability to read those books you really wanted to read.

The present circumstances provide an excellent opportunity to engage in quiet reading of your preferred books, to absorb their wisdom, and to engage in dialogue with the authors. This is also an excellent way to communicate and relax.

4. Set objectives and plan your daily tasks. Having clear goals provides motivation and direction.

Although there is no obligation to complete tasks at home during this period, the perception of inactivity can lead to a sense of confusion and the emergence of negative thoughts. By setting goals and maintaining a regular schedule, individuals can reduce this confusion and find the days pass more smoothly.

For instance, if you anticipate needing a specific skill at work in the future but currently lack proficiency in it, you can set a goal to acquire that skill within a specified time frame. This could include learning writing, presentation, sales, or financial skills, among others.

Best regards, Wishing you the best of luck,

It's hard to stay home for 65 days. It's hard for someone who is able-bodied and healthy and can't just "idle" away the days.

"I've had trouble sleeping and woke up early. How did I spend my time before? Are these days any different from the past?"

It takes about 21 days for the body to form a habit. During this time, it reacts strongly to new behaviors and environments.

The body will adapt after a while. But the questioner has reacted strongly in the last few days. Is there anything different about the last few days compared to the previous days?

How has falling asleep become more difficult, and how much earlier does the questioner wake up in the morning?

"My mind often comes back to past mistakes and makes me feel bad." Do you remember the first time you thought about the "mistake" in your mind?

When did these mistakes happen? Have they happened since? Are they still happening? Have they happened to people your age?

If it's important, write it down.

If it hasn't happened again, the questioner has already made corrections. If it hasn't improved, the questioner can use this time to think about how to prevent future mistakes.

What happened to the people and things involved in the questioner's "past mistakes"? If they're still around, the questioner can contact them to see what they think of the "mistakes."

I hope my husband can comfort me and give me suggestions. But he only plays games every day.

It's good that the questioner can ask for help from those around them when they can't handle a problem alone.

People can't always help us as much as we want. It depends on who they are and what they can do.

They may not be unhelpful, just forgetful.

I hope this helps. Best wishes!

Good morning, my name is Huang Xiaolu.

65 days of isolation is a significant period of time. I commend the original poster for their resilience. What factors contributed to your ability to persevere for over two months? This reason must be of great importance to you.

As human beings, we are emotional creatures who require communication. Prolonged isolation at home can result in emotional distress, including depression and anxiety, which is a normal response. Given your awareness of these changes and the difficulties you are experiencing with sleep and low mood, it is clear that your body is sending you signals that require attention.

I see that you have sought assistance from your husband, but he is unaware of your need for companionship, communication, and conversation. Due to your inability to work, you are uncertain about your capabilities. The longer you remain at home, the more your communication with your husband declines. You are unable to identify engaging and meaningful activities, and you are unsure when this situation will change. Consequently, you are preoccupied with thoughts about the future, your past, and other matters.

It is important to note that these are all tests for individuals who have been in long-term home isolation. Everyone will go through them to some extent. The host only experienced this after 65 days at home, which demonstrates that the host is a person who values life and can find joy in their own lives. With a little assistance, I am confident that you will overcome these challenges in a timely manner.

1. Adjust your own work and rest schedule. Despite the current circumstances, maintaining a regular work and rest schedule can help to ensure a sense of happiness and motivation.

2. It is advisable to regulate the amount of sleep you obtain. Despite the absence of work obligations, it is recommended not to sleep at home for more than eight hours. In particular, it is important to avoid excessive daytime sleep, as this can disrupt the quality of your nighttime sleep and affect your daily routine.

3. Isolation does not isolate emotions. Despite being isolated at home, it is still possible to communicate with friends via video calls. Some friends even use video to play mahjong, play online games, and play board games. All of these are acceptable forms of communication, ensuring that your life remains accompanied by friends.

4. Identify your interests and pursue pastimes you previously lacked the time to engage in, such as painting, cooking, and baking. Avoid the assumption that these activities are uninteresting. Life is replete with pursuits that may initially seem inconsequential but can enhance one's experience.

5. Learn some professionally sound ways to relieve emotions or reduce stress, such as mindfulness-based stress reduction and relaxation exercises. This information can be found on the Yi Xinli service platform.

6. It is recommended that you engage in regular physical exercise. There is substantial evidence to suggest that exercise has a positive effect on mental health. Allocating a few minutes each day to exercise with the live broadcast can help you to feel happier, interact more and improve your physical fitness. Once the restrictions are lifted, we can work together to make a positive impact on the world.

7. Should none of the aforementioned strategies prove effective, it is recommended that you seek the guidance of a professional counselor. With the right support, you will undoubtedly make a full recovery.

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The epidemic is still raging, and there is no end in sight. The current situation in Shanghai is unprecedented. It has caused immense disruption to people's lives and jeopardised employment. Many industries are now facing significant upheaval.

In this crisis, no one is safe. We all influence each other, and the impact of the epidemic is undoubtedly like a night rain on a leaking roof. It's like no one is there to care for you, leaving you to fend for yourself in the storm. If you are isolated alone or have no one to comfort you, you will feel even more lonely.

You have been in home quarantine for 65 days.

If you are feeling depressed, here's what you can do. Because of the epidemic, the company's business has been suspended.

I am depressed when I stay at home with nothing to do.

Isolation

Depression

When you are isolated at home, you will feel depressed, in pain, and think that this era is terrible, or that there are many things that are difficult for us as ordinary people to control.

Monitor your own emotional changes proactively and talk about them.

Emotional changes are a person's state beacon.

Protect your sleep quality. Sort out your thoughts.

Circumstances can make heroes, but we cannot afford to be depressed just because we are in a difficult period. We must look on the bright side. We may not have a time machine, but we have more experience and there are always ways to get through difficult times.

The epidemic will not last forever. It may only be temporarily in Shanghai, and the epidemic seems to have stabilized recently. Shanghai will gradually be unblocked. You have had trouble sleeping at night these past few days, and you may still be thinking about a lot of things, but you will get through this.

You need to relax and deal with the things in your life that are still bothering you. You have time now, so use it to read more books, exercise more, and learn more skills at home.

Improve your job skills. Check the job listings on the recruitment software to avoid being caught off guard. You wake up early in the morning, which means you are not getting enough sleep. Seek the necessary psychological counseling.

You should go to the hospital for a check-up. Poor sleep affects you in every way. You still think about your past mistakes and feel self-doubt, which is sad. Your husband doesn't support you. Get help from a counselor or psychologist. Read more books on trauma healing. Don't isolate the trauma and don't put too much pressure on yourself. I wish you well.

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