Started boarding at 15, not accustomed to hostel life, disliked roommates, suffered from severe depression.

I'm worried about you. You're an adult, but you're still very unstable emotionally. Your emotions will still be affected by your roommates or things around you. If you have major depression, go to the hospital for a diagnosis.

Talk to your parents or homeroom teacher. As children, we can't easily solve everything on our own.

You still need your parents and elders. You're not used to boarding school, but have you tried day school? Let's try a different learning environment.

You keep a lot to yourself. You don't have many friends you can trust. Your heart is already closed off, and too much closure can also be a kind of emotional suppression. Those suppressed emotions may not suddenly disappear.

Your patience might run out when you face future setbacks. It seems like there are too many things that make you uncomfortable. You should seek psychological counseling to vent.

You've been through a lot recently. It's best to let it out. There's also a counseling room on the platform where you can talk, as well as one-on-one counseling, accompanied chatting, or other meditation methods to help you find your calm self. You're still young, and you can learn from your experiences and improve your ability to identify emotions. I wish you the best.

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Hello! I'd like to extend a warm hug from afar to you.

It's understandable that you might be feeling a range of intense emotions, including injustice, anger, guilt, loneliness, and a lack of acceptance. It's natural to crave understanding, acknowledgment, value, and care.

I can appreciate your feelings about not being used to living in a dormitory. It's understandable that it might present some challenges, particularly in terms of adjusting to new routines and navigating social interactions. It often takes time to adapt to these changes, and it's something that many students living in dorms have to navigate. Unless you have the option to choose a different living arrangement, it's important to try to embrace the experience and find ways to thrive within it.

However, if you are not used to living in a dormitory and find that your roommate's actions are not in line with your expectations, it can be challenging to accept and adapt to dormitory life. Even if your roommate is kind and considerate, it's not always easy to recognize their kindness due to the influence of your inner beliefs. It's important to recognize that your inner presuppositions might be holding you back from fully embracing the dormitory experience. You can remind yourself, "Although I have reservations about dormitory life, it's something I can't change, so I choose to accept it."

I believe that how I treat others is how others will treat me. Therefore, I am confident that I can handle my relationship with my roommate. I love myself and I love my roommate, and I feel that we will become good sisters.

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You mentioned that you've been spending a lot of time by yourself, and that you've been feeling better. However, it's important to remember that we're social creatures and that we need relationships to thrive. Having a support system in place can really help us to feel better mentally and physically.

It is possible that any emotion is hiding a hidden unmet expectation or need. Could you try to be aware of what unmet needs are hidden behind your quarrel with your boyfriend over trivial matters? For example, it might be that you desire to be listened to, to be accompanied, to be accepted, to be understood, to be supported, to be needed, to be cared for... And could this part of you be lacking because you are self-withdrawn?

It might be helpful to allow and accept your current feelings of depression, pain, and sadness, and then try to get along with these emotions. You might find it beneficial to record your current emotional feelings in writing by keeping an emotional diary. This could help you better perceive and understand your emotions, cultivate the ability to self-reflect and care for yourself, explore the needs hidden behind your emotions, and thus seek better ways and methods to respond to and meet your needs.

For instance, you might consider telling your boyfriend directly what you need and how you would like to be treated. At the same time, you could try treating your roommates in the dormitory in the same way you would like to be treated. It is okay to be less than perfect or hesitant, but you could also try doing it and seeing if you get a different result.

It's possible that your dislike of living in a dormitory and your roommates may have roots in an internal inferiority complex, a lack of self-confidence, or an inability to accept yourself fully. When a person has a strong internal sense of rejection due to an inferiority complex and is not fully aware of this part of themselves, they may unintentionally project the emotions of not accepting themselves onto others, thinking that others will not accept them either.

It is possible that you may choose to distance yourself from the relationship out of fear of being rejected and hurt.

It would be beneficial for you to try to accept yourself and cultivate self-confidence. You might find it helpful to make a list of your strengths, and you could consider keeping a gratitude journal to enhance your sense of self-worth.

It is important to be able to recognize your own shortcomings and areas for improvement, while also acknowledging your strengths and positive qualities. Developing a diverse range of interests and passions can help you gain more control over the circumstances in your life.

It's important to remember that being rejected in a relationship doesn't necessarily mean that you're not good enough. It's often because the other person may not know you well enough, or you may not be their type.

Your relationship with the outside world may be influenced by your relationship with your inner self. When you can fully accept yourself, you may find that you have harmonious and beautiful relationships.

My name is Yang Lili, and I am here to answer any questions you may have. I hope you will find my answers helpful.

Dear questioner, Please know that you are in my thoughts and I am sending you a hug.

I am grateful to have had the opportunity to meet you at Yixinli!

I believe the question is asking how someone who started boarding school at the age of 15, was not used to boarding life, and did not like their roommates, ended up feeling so depressed. Could you please tell me where this severe depression came from?

I appreciate your self-awareness, which opens the door to potential change. In light of your circumstances, I hope you will find my thoughts helpful as you navigate this process.

I wonder if I might suggest that we consider the following.

Perhaps we could begin by trying to sort out the specific confusion described by the questioner and then interpret and analyze it.

I started boarding school at the age of 15 and found the dormitory life somewhat challenging. I had differing opinions with my roommates.

The original poster started boarding school at the age of 15, which might be a challenging transition. Was it during junior high school? It's possible that we feel this way because we've never lived in a dormitory before, so we're unfamiliar with the experience. It's natural to have these feelings, and it's not your fault.

It may be the case that we have not been deliberately focused on the "social and emotional" part since childhood. This could explain why, when we first start living in a dormitory, we experience various worries, fears, and anxieties. There is no need to be concerned, however, as this can be done through slow awareness and then specialized training to gradually adapt the "social and emotional" part.

I have experienced emotional challenges since I was 17 years old. At times, I would have periods of depression that were evident to me and those around me. There were instances when I would find myself crying, and there were also occasions when I would choose to withdraw from social interactions for several days.

I'd like to thank the original poster for sharing their thoughts and insights. At the age of 17, they already identified some emotional challenges, such as feelings of depression. It would be helpful to understand more about what they mean by depression.

Sometimes we may find ourselves speaking for days on end. Could these be signs of depression?

I wonder if such emotions might be underpinned by unfulfilled hopes and needs. Could you perhaps elaborate on what these might be?

I wonder if I might suggest that...

I recently turned 18, and this semester I have been more introspective, spending time alone and engaging in solitary activities. I feel a sense of relief and comfort in this newfound independence.

The questioner is 18 years old and has come to recognize that his behavior pattern involves isolating himself from others, including his roommates.

At this point, it seems that the questioner is feeling much better. It is possible that the questioner has gradually adapted to previous patterns of self-closing social interactions and emotional responses.

Could it be that we "acquire" this pattern from the primary caregiver/object relationship when we are young? And that when such a pattern is not discovered and perceived, it may gradually form a "relatively isolated" social pattern?

Could the reason why the questioner feels comfortable, or when we are "used to" staying in that "comfort zone," our own habitual "defense mode" is comfortable, and jumping out of such a "comfort zone" makes us feel less comfortable, be the result of an "acquired" social emotional link model of psychological students?

If you're interested in making a change, it might be helpful to consider breaking out of your previous comfort zone. This could involve breaking the old life script and rebuilding a new one. It might also be beneficial to explore a different way of playing, which could align more closely with what the original poster wants. You might find it helpful to connect with a professional psychological teacher to explore self-growth and achieve change.

The day before yesterday, I experienced a moment of frustration with my boyfriend over a relatively minor issue. I allowed myself to process my emotions in a way that involved some tears and solitude. Unfortunately, I then found myself in a situation where I was unable to fully express my feelings, which led to a subsequent disagreement. This ultimately led to a decision to end our relationship.

Could I ask whether this is a common occurrence, with the subject becoming angry over relatively minor issues? I wonder if it might be helpful to consider whether the source of the anger lies in communication difficulties or emotional suppression.

Could it be that what's behind the anger is a desire to be satisfied by the other person's actions? There are certainly many other possibilities. In any case, it's worth noting that if we didn't get angry, we wouldn't have relationships.

It might be said that having a relationship with someone carries with it the possibility of experiencing something less than entirely pleasant with that person.

- Talking about it, you had another disagreement with your partner and ended the relationship. Is this a common occurrence? When it comes to intimate relationships, it's important to understand the nuances before making any assumptions. Perhaps the pattern of getting along with each other is different or mutually unacceptable, which could contribute to the challenges. Otherwise, we wouldn't have disagreements, anger, or the decision to end the relationship. These dynamics are also closely related to the social-emotional connection in our interpersonal relationship patterns.

At 12 o'clock today, I posted a little secret in my space and was scolded because I felt very depressed and wanted to talk to someone. I had an emotional breakdown and cried until now.

The test indicates that there may be an underlying issue of severe depression.

It seems that the questioner is eager to communicate with others, especially after having repressed emotions. Perhaps this was one of her ways of venting emotions.

I wonder if that is not allowed. Could I ask why you did not yell back?

... So afterwards, the pent-up emotions came to the surface, and she had a nervous breakdown and burst into tears... It's heartbreaking to hear! If I may, I'd like to give the questioner a hug and show my support.

I hope you can find some warmth in this moment.

Regarding the test results indicating "severe depression," it might be helpful to consider these as a reference point. It's not clear to me whether the questioner has previously been diagnosed with depression or if this was an online test they took independently.

It is worth noting that a clear diagnosis of depression requires not only a visit to a regular hospital, but also a qualified doctor who can make a diagnosis based on multiple data conditions, information, and relevant examinations.

In light of the actual situation of the questioner, it might be helpful to consider a different approach.

Perhaps it would be helpful to accept all that we have done in the past and try to understand the ins and outs.

1. It may be helpful to consider that the way one gets along with others was not necessarily born with, but rather learned during the postnatal growth process. This could be a factor in the questioner's current feelings of relative isolation and lack of social and emotional connections.

2. It may be helpful to recognize that we were not adequately nurtured during our growth process. Once we become aware of this, we can work towards establishing new interpersonal communication/environmental adaptation and interaction patterns in new relationships. If there is a school psychologist, it could be beneficial to have some in-depth exchanges and communication with them.

Secondly, it may be helpful to seek professional assistance in order to identify the underlying cause of your problem and to facilitate your personal psychological growth in a healthy manner.

You might find it helpful to read books on your own, such as Embrace Your Depressive Mood and Meet the Unknown Self.

2. You might consider finding a school psychologist to gain a deeper understanding of who you are, discover your own patterns of interaction with others and the environment, and achieve personal psychological growth as soon as possible.

3. It may be helpful to seek a professional psychological diagnosis at the hospital to clarify whether you actually have depression and to determine the best course of treatment. If the diagnosis is depression, it is important to take the medication as prescribed and to consider supplementary psychological counseling if needed.

I hope my understanding and response to the question asked by the questioner will be helpful. I pray that the questioner will first get a clear diagnosis and then carry out the appropriate treatment.

I hope this finds you well. I just wanted to drop you a quick line to see how you're doing. I'm sending you lots of love and positive energy. ?

I am a person who is generally optimistic and positive, and I believe that the world is a wonderful place. ?

Hello, question asker. The recent events you have encountered have made you prone to anger. You got into a fight with your boyfriend over a trivial matter, and you cried for an hour and a half, and then you got sick yourself. You quarreled over trivial matters later, and eventually broke up. During this semester, you have also shut yourself in and avoided dealing with your roommates.

Your mood swings have been pronounced recently, and you are also showing signs of emotional collapse.

The test says you are severely depressed, but you should still go to a professional hospital for a diagnosis. The results of the test are for reference only. Human emotions are affected by life events. For example, if you started living in a boarding school at the age of 15 and got along with your roommates, you may have interpersonal relationship problems and have difficulty adapting to your new environment. These situations will make us feel depressed and unhappy. You need to find a way to vent your emotions in time and get enough support. If you don't, you may become more and more reluctant to communicate and interact with your roommates.

Your emotions are currently unstable. Communicate with family members and friends you trust. Don't bear it all silently by yourself. Find someone to talk to. You will be attacked after you post something, but you will not let it affect you.

You need to distract yourself from your current emotional state. Listen to soothing music or watch relaxing videos and movies. If you find it difficult to get out of your current emotional state on your own, seek professional psychological counseling. If your school has a psychology teacher, talk to them.

You may be wondering if you are depressed. The advice is clear: go to a doctor in the psychiatric department of a specialist hospital or a general psychiatric outpatient clinic accompanied by a family member to talk things over. Early intervention and treatment will help. Best wishes!