Suddenly imagining some violent acts, the doctor says I'm too stressed. What's wrong with me?

Good day,

Host:

My name is Zeng Chen, and I'm a heart exploration coach. I've taken the time to read your post carefully, and I can sense some confusion in the content.

At the same time, I also noticed that the host of this forum has courageously shared his struggles and proactively sought assistance on the platform. This could potentially assist the host in gaining a deeper understanding of himself, enabling him to make necessary adjustments and potentially achieve a more positive state of mind.

I hope that sharing my observations and thoughts in the post might help the poster to gain a more diverse perspective on themselves.

1. Could I ask whether you suppress your emotions in daily life?

From my observation, it seems that the poster mentioned in the post may have a tendency to fantasize about slapping someone when talking to them, or even fantasizing about their demise.

In a moment of distraction, I found myself entertaining the thought of cutting off my puppy's ears with scissors and jumping off a tall building.

Or the sudden death of a close friend. This can evoke a sense of aggression in me.

Perhaps it would be helpful for the host to consider why he feels the urge to "attack" others and where this "aggressiveness" may be coming from.

It is often the case that our aggression stems from the fact that we have repressed our emotions. These repressed emotions have not disappeared, but are hidden deep in our subconscious. It may be the case that they are also looking for an opportunity to express themselves.

If we allow ourselves to become overwhelmed in our daily lives, we may find that these thoughts emerge and cause us difficulty. It might be helpful to consider whether there are areas of your life where you feel a sense of pent-up emotion.

This is merely an exploration, as the information obtained is limited due to the nature of the inquiry.

2. Catastrophic thinking

Sometimes we have thoughts that are not entirely within our control, and they can manifest in ways that are difficult to anticipate. For instance, when I am driving, I have occasionally experienced a sudden concern about whether I might crash or have an accident.

I'm not sure exactly how it works, but I've found that when I become aware of these catastrophic thoughts, I can often interrupt them by consciously stepping away from them.

One way to handle these thoughts is to consciously interrupt them. This helps to prevent them from taking over.

As a potential strategy, I've found that singing a song (even if it's not perfectly executed) can be an effective way to shift my focus.

In my experience, these thoughts often slowly disappear when I do this. So when the original poster has a lot of these thoughts, we could perhaps try to distract ourselves.

It may be helpful to try to distance ourselves from these thoughts, without letting them influence us. If we can remain unaffected by them, we may also find it easier to stop taking them seriously.

It might be helpful to step away from the situation and take a moment to regroup when talking to someone.

3. Thoughts are just thoughts.

Sometimes, when we become aware of our less constructive thoughts, we may experience feelings of worry or anxiety. It's important to remember that these thoughts are just that — thoughts.

It is important to remember that our thoughts will not hurt anyone. If we are unable to control our wandering thoughts, we can try not to control them, but also not to let them lead us astray. We just need to refrain from acting on them.

We can even act reasonably. The renowned psychologist Wu Zhihong once discussed the "heart-searching theory."

He suggests that our thoughts and actions may not always be directly correlated, and that our results may not always be a direct reflection of our actions. For example, I have the thought of hitting someone, but I don't act on it.

I might also consider going for a run to distract myself, and so on. It's worth noting that none of these things actually affect or harm other people.

Perhaps we could consider whether it might be helpful to allow these thoughts to simply pass by.

You might consider setting a time for yourself to allow your thoughts to flow freely. At other times, you could remind yourself that you are engaged in work or study and gently bring your attention back to the present.

I hope these ideas will be of some help and inspiration to you. If you have any questions or would like to discuss further, you can click on Find a Coach, and we can work together to find solutions to your problems.

Hello.

These thoughts are uncomfortable. You're curious about why they arise.

If these thoughts have been going on for a while, I think you're more stressed. These thoughts still affect your sanity.

If these thoughts are weak, you can handle them. But if they get stronger, more frequent, and intense, they'll pressure you more.

You say you can lead a normal life. These thoughts don't affect your life much, but they bother you.

You attack others and yourself. How would it feel to attack and destroy others?

Some people get pleasure from thinking about hurting others.

This is related to hatred. Think more about hatred.

If you attack others to protect yourself, you're self-destructive if you want to jump off a building. We're afraid of falling and protect ourselves by being careful.

You're thinking about jumping. This will make you feel a certain way.

Be aware of this.

Third, these thoughts are part of our daily lives and are related to our emotions.

This needs to be taken seriously.

Ask yourself if you are happy with your life and your relationships.

For example, relationships with your spouse, family, friends, and others.

Fourth, these thoughts didn't start when you were a child. They came later and are related to your life and your mind.

We can understand these thoughts and find ways to reduce them.

5. You must have thought of ways to fight these thoughts. When they arise, suppress them or think about the good in others, beauty in the world, and feel good.

6. If these thoughts are strong, you need help to understand them and change them.

See a counselor to sort out these thoughts and improve them.