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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello! I saw your question. It seems you care too much about other people and are prone to self-projection.
1. You said your brain is slow to respond. This is because you overthink, are suspicious, and doubt yourself. You suppress yourself, so you respond slowly.
2. Family members say you don't think before you speak. This shows you suppress your thoughts.
It also has to do with how you express yourself.
Family members can be a little reckless because they know each other so well. They judge you based on their impressions, but you are the only one who knows the real you.
You can't speak up at home because you don't express your opinions. Others will treat you this way.
3. You said that when someone swears at you, you go blank. This shows that you are not strong enough and have not defended your boundaries well.
If you don't let others treat you this way and speak your mind, they'll respect you.
If you always live by others' rules, your life will be very painful.
4. Learn to set your own boundaries, defend your dignity, and speak up.
If you feel your dignity has been violated or you feel mentally unbalanced, express your feelings.
Expressing yourself is not about arguing with others. It is about communicating in a non-violent way to express your own position and boundaries.
5. What others say and think is their own. Don't project onto yourself.
It doesn't matter what others do. The key is what you do.
6. You're afraid of being judged by others and don't have the courage to speak up when you have a good reason. This is also because you haven't expressed your own boundaries.
Be brave and defend your boundaries and express yourself.
When you have boundaries and self-confidence, you won't fear other people's comments.
You have a reason to speak up. You're afraid to express it because you're afraid of receiving a bad influence or hurting others' feelings. But this way you're hurting yourself.
7. Change what you can, and accept what you can't.
You can't change how others see you or how they treat you.
You can control yourself, set boundaries, and support yourself. If you love yourself, who can you fear?
We don't live to please others. This kind of life is exhausting.
Go back to yourself and see what you need. Be strong and support yourself.
I hope these answers help you!
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I understand how frustrating it feels when words don't come out the way you want them to. It's like there's a barrier between your thoughts and speech, making it hard to express yourself clearly or respond in the moment. Facing such criticism from family, especially in public, can be really tough. I think finding a quiet space to gather my thoughts and practicing what I want to say might help me feel more prepared for future interactions.
It's painful when people we care about make us feel small or misunderstood. Your sisterinlaw's reaction seems to have left you feeling vulnerable and afraid of social situations. Maybe seeking support from someone outside this circle, like a friend or counselor, could provide a fresh perspective and build up your confidence again. It's important to remember that everyone has moments where they struggle to find the right words, and it doesn't mean you lack intelligence or value.
Being treated unfairly by family members can really affect one's selfesteem. The fear of being judged or criticized is valid, but it shouldn't define who you are or limit your life. Perhaps setting boundaries with those who treat you poorly and surrounding yourself with supportive voices could help you regain your sense of selfworth. Remember, it's okay to take time to think before responding; not everyone needs to react instantly all the time.
Communication challenges can create a lot of anxiety, especially in confrontational situations. It sounds like you're carrying a heavy burden from past experiences. Learning effective communication skills, including how to articulate your feelings and set boundaries, might empower you to handle difficult conversations better. Sometimes, professional guidance through therapy can offer tools to manage these situations and improve relationships over time.