The dog is almost 10 years old, and the puppy is sick. I am terrified. How can I comfort myself?

Hello, host! I'm July, and I'm here to help!

After reading your description, I totally get what you're asking. I'm here for you, so don't hesitate to let me know if there's anything I can do to help.

From what you've told me, it seems like you have a pretty good grasp on what's going on right now. That makes it a little easier to figure out how to fix things, since you already know what the problem is.

I totally get it. The thing is, your dog is your best friend and you love him so much. He gives you so much love and care, and you don't get that from your family. So, you're worried that if he goes, you'll be devastated. I'm here for you, and I'll give you a big hug if you need it.

Your dog has been your friend and companion for a long time, and it's clear that it's brought you a lot of joy. But, as with everything in life, it's only a matter of time before it's time for your dog to leave you. After all, birth, aging, sickness, and death are part and parcel of life. But, while you're going through this, try to cherish every moment you spend with your dog because you really love it. Do everything you can in the present, and don't blame yourself too much because every dog has its own mission. Of course, your dog also hopes that you will get better and better, and you shouldn't blame yourself too much because of it.

I've also put together a few tips to help you cope with the situation. I really hope they'll be helpful!

(1) Spend more time with your dog and be there for them through the tough days of their illness. It might be tough, but you can do this for them right now.

(2) Do your best to make your dog as comfortable as you can and, when it's ready, take it to the vet.

(3) If you're feeling down, why not try keeping a diary? It's a great way to get those negative emotions out of your system!

(4) Try to distract yourself and not dwell on your sadness for too long. It's okay to feel sad, but try not to let it take over your whole day.

(5) You can talk to a good friend and express your thoughts and feelings, rather than letting negative thoughts and feelings accumulate inside. It's always good to have someone you can talk to!

The world and I love you so much, ♥️

Take care of yourself, sweetheart!

Good evening, question asker.

My name is Xiaobai. I am here to help you overcome your concerns.

I would like to extend a gesture of support and offer some suggestions for consideration.

Let us first examine the particular issue that the questioner has raised and attempt to interpret and analyze it.

My dog is almost 10 years old. I am concerned about his health and well-being. How can I provide comfort to myself in this situation?

I have owned dogs for an extended period, ranging from one month old to almost ten years old. The puppies are like my family. I grew up in a family where boys were valued over girls, and my parents and family did not take me seriously.

My dog has been with me for a considerable length of time, through innumerable days and nights. It also accompanied us when we relocated to a new residence. I recall that, when we moved to a new residence, it followed me around, going shopping trip after trip. When I worked overtime, it consistently laid down and awaited my return at the door.

I previously visited the provinces, and it appeared to resist leaving me, as though it were a child. Recently, it has become somewhat unsteady on its feet and has occasionally fallen over and convulsed. I am concerned that it may have developed an incurable disease and is suffering. I am afraid to sleep, as I am afraid that it will suddenly fall over again. I am particularly sensitive to noises, and I feel that I am becoming increasingly anxious. In fact, I am not afraid of its departure; I will be sad and miss it for the rest of my life. However, I am more afraid that it will suffer.

Please advise on how to provide comfort.

As someone who has experience caring for both dogs and cats, I can empathize with your situation. My father purchased a dog, named Dahuang, when I was a child. The dog grew up with me and was always by my side.

One day when I left for school, I may not have secured the door properly. When I was in the third grade, Rong Rong followed me to school. When the homeroom teacher discovered this, she instructed me to send him back, but he refused to go. The teacher then instructed me to hide, and I did so. I observed as Rong Rong was removed from the premises by the security guard and expelled from school by the teacher. I was visibly upset, and the sadness and grief I felt then still affect me when I reflect on it.

Dogs are not influenced by social status or other factors when forming relationships. They view their owners as lifelong companions. However, circumstances may arise where a separation is necessary.

There are times when it is necessary to let go, and I am aware that this can be challenging.

While time will help to ease the pain, the emptiness will remain.

It is important to remember that animals have a shorter lifespan than humans and will inevitably pass away before us. By ensuring that they are well cared for, we can avoid any regrets. It is also beneficial to ensure that they have happy memories of their time with us.

It is important to value the time spent with your pet and to demonstrate your affection. Place items that your pet enjoys in locations that are familiar to it, and provide gentle physical contact.

It is of the utmost importance to ensure the animal is comfortable. You may engage in conversation with it or even sing to it.

When it becomes evident that a pet's life is nearing its end, it is crucial to prioritize quality time with the animal to ensure a peaceful and comfortable end.

Consider creating a scrapbook of your special, happy memories together.

Everyone experiences positive and negative periods in their lives. It is important to maintain a positive outlook, as it can significantly impact your overall well-being.

In conclusion, I would like to present my views and suggestions, which I hope will prove useful.

My name is Xiaobai, and I am at ease with the world and its challenges.

I would like to take this opportunity to wish you all a happy and prosperous future.

Hello! I'm sending you a virtual hug from afar. It's been a couple of days since you posted your question, and I'm wondering how the dog is doing now and if your mood has improved.

I've also had a puppy before, and I used to tell it about my joys and sorrows. I've also experienced the process of gaining and losing, so I really understand and empathize with your current feelings. Even though dogs can't speak, and they may seem like just a pet we own, they've really become companions in our lives, family members, close friends, and even loyal guardians. They bring us companionship and comfort in our hearts and lives.

I can see that you're feeling a bit confused right now, and I'm here to help. There are two main reasons for this confusion.

Because the family you grew up in was patriarchal, you have been in a situation of neglect since childhood. It's so sad, but you haven't been taken seriously in terms of your emotional needs. This has also affected your emotions, and you have been in a state of long-term suppression and neglect. Sometimes you may hide your emotions and keep them bottled up inside for a long time. But the presence of the dog has given you warmth and companionship, and brought you unforgettable happy memories.

I can see you're really worried about your dog, so let's start with the question of how to deal with it.

I'm so sorry to hear that something has happened to your dog. It's possible that it's because it has reached a certain age and will experience some discomfort. Or, it could be that due to the impact of the epidemic, we have not been able to take it to the doctor in time. I can understand why you're worried and distressed that it is suffering from illness, so you have become very anxious.

So, to get a real diagnosis, we can first contact the vet. The good news is that with all the technology available nowadays, we can tell the vet what's wrong with the dog via video, and get professional and timely treatment.

Let's take another look at your current situation together.

It's totally understandable to feel anxious and helpless in this situation. Losing a pet is always hard, especially when it's someone you've shared your life with for so long. It's okay to take some time to process your emotions. You don't have to go through it alone.

For instance, you might want to talk to your family. You said the dog followed you when you moved to a new home and went shopping trip after trip, so I can tell you've left your parents and have your own family. That's great! You can talk to the people in your family about your worries and anxieties to relieve your emotions.

You can also chat with your friends who have dogs. They might have had similar experiences and could offer some helpful tips. For instance, have they ever had a dog eat something they shouldn't have or come into contact with something unclean?

There is another way. If you feel particularly sad or painful inside and want to cry your heart out, then go right ahead and cry! Sometimes this way of venting can also relieve your inner anxiety.

We say that everything in the world has a process of birth, aging, sickness, and death. This is the natural law, and we cannot stop or change it. So we just face it and accept it, my friend. Sometimes the occurrence of certain things is related to our emotions. Dogs, in particular, are very spiritual animals, and they can sense our emotions and be affected by them.

So, my dear friends, we have to try to accept reality, no matter what it may be, and do our best to do what needs to be done. Then, I'm sure we'll have no regrets.

Hi, I'm Yunqing, a psychological counselor who has been on this path for a while now. I really hope today's answer can help you! If you want to release your emotions, you can send me a private message. I wish you all the best ??

Good day. I extend my support and understanding to you.

From your written account, it appears that the puppy is akin to a cherished individual, a source of profound emotional attachment and a significant aspect of your identity. From a psychological perspective, the puppy occupies a pivotal role in your life, offering a vital source of emotional sustenance.

The dog is now 10 years old, which is an advanced age for a dog according to its life expectancy. It has been experiencing occasional collapses and convulsions, which has led to concerns about its health.

I assume you are aware of the dog's age and that dogs of this age are susceptible to illness.

However, there is a distinction between being aware of a situation and facing the reality of it. It is likely that you have already considered the possibility that your dog may pass away.

When faced with the situation of a beloved dog suffering due to factors such as aging or illness, or due to the inability to provide the necessary treatment, it is common to experience feelings of self-blame and powerlessness. In such instances, it is important to recognize that these emotions are a natural response to a challenging situation. Many individuals may feel self-blame and condemn themselves when they are facing their own powerlessness and helplessness. It is essential to understand that these feelings are not a reflection of personal weakness but rather a natural response to a challenging situation.

However, it is important to recognise that there are many factors beyond our control. Once we have done our utmost, it is essential to accept the outcome, regardless of whether we are satisfied with it.

There are three categories of matters in this world: your own affairs, other people's affairs, and the affairs of heaven. In this regard, you should focus on your own responsibilities, avoid interfering in other people's affairs, and allow the affairs of heaven to take their course.

Locating a cure for your dog is your responsibility and your decision. Controlling the epidemic is a matter for the authorities.

In light of these circumstances, you have taken all possible measures to alleviate your dog's suffering. Your efforts are commendable and will be duly acknowledged by your dog.

It is also important to recognize the emotional value your dog provides. From your question, it is evident that your family may not have provided you with sufficient emotional support, which has led you to seek this support from your dog. The loyal dog has indeed provided you with warmth and emotional value.

It is important to recognise that the time a dog can spend with you is limited. In fact, the most loyal travel companion in our lives is ourselves. The people we meet can only accompany us for a certain period of time or on a certain journey. It is therefore crucial to be grateful for all the people and things that are willing to accompany us and are able to do so.

Similarly, your dog can serve as a model for this approach.

It may be beneficial for you to seek out individuals and activities that can provide you with emotional value. I am unaware of your age, but I encourage you to consider developing your own intimate relationships or pursuing new hobbies.

In conclusion, I will offer you a hug. It is important to recognize that there are always factors beyond our control. Therefore, it is essential to strive for excellence in all that we do.

We are all ordinary people, and if we perform to the best of our abilities, we can have a clear conscience.

I am frequently both Buddhist and depressed, an intermittently optimistic and driven counselor, and a representative of the world and a source of love for you.

Hello!

I totally get it! I know how you feel when your beloved dog is suffering from illness and about to pass away. I give you a big hug for your fear and helplessness!

To you, your dog is like family. He gives you warm companionship, and you feel dependent, valued, and needed. He even makes up for what you lacked in your original family. But now your dog may be getting old and sick, and you may face separation. You can't bear the pain, and you feel even more distressed for your dog. But don't worry! There are ways you can help your dog through this.

1. Take charge of your emotions and make them work for you!

Right now, your heart is filled with fear, anxiety, and heartache. But don't worry! I'm here to help. First, pay attention to these emotions. Then, show understanding and acceptance for them. Finally, try to adjust your mood as much as possible. This will help you not be plagued by negative emotions for a long time. And that's what we want! It will affect your thinking and your normal work and life. But don't fret! We can do this together.

There are so many ways to release your emotions! Try talking to someone, exercising, or doing something else you enjoy to distract yourself and ease your emotions.

2. Embrace the future with a positive and optimistic attitude!

The dog may just be sick now, but there's no need to fret! There are plenty of ways to get the treatment your dog needs, even with the current epidemic control measures in place. You can seek online medical advice or find a way to buy medicine to give your dog effective treatment. This way, you can give your dog the best chance of a full recovery, and you can rest easy knowing you've done everything you can to make sure your dog gets the care they deserve.

In life, we inevitably have to face situations such as sad separations. But we can choose how we respond! We can maintain an optimistic and positive attitude, so as not to interpret things in a lonely and pessimistic way. And we can increase our psychological resilience, enabling more positive actions.

3. Build strong, supportive relationships and start the healing process!

Dogs are great! They're loyal and cute, but they can't completely replace our needs in the real world. If a dog leaves, we can still take care of ourselves!

Absolutely! You can find a new dog to raise, which is a great way to find a new outlet for your emotions and temporarily relieve your sadness and pain. At the same time, I should also develop the habit of using more energy to maintain close interpersonal relationships in real life. This is a wonderful way to seek emotional fulfillment in interpersonal intimacy, slowly enter the deeper parts of myself, allow the fearful and immature parts of my heart to be integrated in the process, and also slowly open myself up to inspire my ability to love and be loved, to gain more growth.

I'm thrilled to say that Hongyu's reply was extremely helpful! Thank you so much for your question!

Dear Sir/Madam, I hope this message finds you well. I am writing to express my condolences for your loss. Please accept my sympathies. Best regards, [Name]

The dog's presence provides a sense of comfort and companionship during this challenging period. For the sake of simplicity, I will refer to the dog as "it" or "TA" as I am unaware of its gender.

I can see how sad and heartbroken you are, but I also see the inspiring and warm aspects of this story. I see the endless cycle of love in the world between you and your dog.

When relocating or working extended hours, these scenarios are particularly poignant due to the demands on your time and energy, as well as your aspirations for the future.

Furthermore, the dog will never be absent. Every response and movement it makes is an expression of "I love you." The dog's love is unconditional.

Additionally, the questioner wishes to convey their affection and attachment to the dog, emphasizing their role as a family member and expressing their love for the animal.

It is distressing to observe your dog in a convulsive state on the ground. As your dog's primary partner, family member, and friend, you are likely monitoring its condition throughout the day and night, which may be affecting your own well-being.

For the time being, you can provide additional observation and companionship to ensure your dog's awareness of your support at all times.

Gaze into your dog's eyes and convey your emotions. Assist your dog in relieving its discomfort.

When you are able to seek medical treatment, please take your dog to the vet and follow the advice provided. Select a suitable course of treatment that is in the best interests of your dog.

Please inform the doctor of your wishes regarding your dog's well-being.

It is important to embrace the comfort that this safe, stable companion brings to your heart, and to be the person who feels loved and loves in return.

While you will miss TA for the rest of your life, please also remember to promise TA that when you feel tired and exhausted, you will pick yourself up and face the challenges. You will continue to believe in yourself as a sincere and beautiful person in the future.

I would like to thank you for allowing us to disseminate information about this love and companionship from the dog.

I would like to encourage the original poster to provide further details about the dog and themselves. I would also be interested to hear more about your experience with TA.

It is important to remember that everything has a soul, and that we should be true to each other.

Hello, questioner.

"My dog is almost ten years old. I'm afraid when the puppy gets sick, and I'm unsure how to comfort myself." Let's work through this together.

A ten-year-old dog is equivalent to a person in their 80s or 90s. It is understandable that the degeneration of bodily functions, coupled with the pandemic and lack of timely treatment, is a cause for concern and apprehension.

It is often said that the death of a loved one is one of the most painful experiences we can face. Our puppy, who has been with us for ten years, has become a much-loved family member, sharing our experiences and emotions and offering us unconditional love.

As a result, we are able to empathize with its pain and fear its death.

Perhaps we could try to accept and perceive our own pain and fear, and experience the feelings in our bodies. Then we could take a deep breath and imagine sending fresh air to the part of the body that is most uncomfortable, and feel the changes in that area.

Perhaps what we find more challenging than its departure is witnessing its discomfort and feeling helpless in the face of its illness. We may even feel a sense of guilt.

Perhaps the best thing we can do now is to keep on being there for her as usual, to stroke her when she collapses, to comfort her, and to talk to her. It's possible that a puppy's intelligence is equivalent to that of a 2-3 year old child, and that it will know that you care.

Petting may also help to relieve discomfort in the body.

Once the epidemic is over, it would be advisable to take her to the vet at the earliest opportunity. The puppy only twitches occasionally, and if it can eat and drink as usual, it seems that the condition is still under control.

I would like to reassure the original poster that there is no need to be too anxious. If you receive timely treatment after seeing a doctor, there is a good chance that you will get better.

The memories we have of our time with our puppy are eternal, as is the warmth, care, and companionship it brings us. It is a blessing to be able to live or pass away in the company of someone.

That's all I can think of for now.

I hope this is of some help to you. With best regards,

Dear questioner,

It is understandable that your dog, who has been with you for almost 10 years and is like a family member, has become a source of comfort and joy in your life. However, the recent illness of a family member has understandably caused you feelings of anxiety and sadness, as the dog has a special meaning in your life.

You grew up in a family where there was a preference for boys over girls, and your parents and family didn't prioritize your input. This may have resulted in feelings of neglect and a challenging childhood. It's likely that you experienced feelings of envy when you saw other parents engaging with their children in playful activities and purchasing them various toys. You may have wished for a different level of parental attention and validation, but circumstances led you to be born into a family where boys were given more attention than girls.

At a time when you feel particularly isolated and vulnerable, you welcome a dog into your life. Over the course of many days and nights, it has become a constant companion.

It can be challenging to accept that a loved one is leaving, and it's natural to feel unsure about how to comfort yourself.

I will then assist you in analyzing your feelings about the dog from a psychodynamic perspective. Once we have a better understanding of ourselves, we will gradually gain the strength to accept and forgive ourselves.

Psychoanalysis suggests that babies are born with a predisposition to form certain relationships, both physical and emotional, because their survival depends on it. For babies, early tactile stimulation, even just being held, is crucial for their well-being.

It is important to note that during the first few years of life, babies require the formation of a secure and consistent attachment to at least one person. This person should be someone who can provide unconditional love and care. This can be with the mother, but it is not limited to that. We refer to this person as the primary caregiver. Given that it is a one-to-one relationship, it is often called a dyad.

It can be said that children who have a secure dyadic relationship are indeed fortunate, as they have an inner foundation that is conducive to a successful future career. They usually feel capable of being loved, that people will care for them and understand them, and that even anger will not destroy their love for them. Conversely, children who do not have a secure dyadic relationship may encounter difficulties in one or more of the above areas.

In conclusion, a healthy dyadic relationship allows the infant to develop a sense of self and to form a positive sense of self-worth. It also provides a foundation for forming loving connections with others, initially through the unconditional love of the mother.

Given that you were born into a patriarchal family and experienced neglect as a child, you may have lacked love and attention, which could have made it challenging for you to successfully navigate this stage. From a psychodynamic perspective, this could be seen as an unfinished episode. After the dog appeared in your life, the positive interactions between you and it, the long years of companionship, and the deepening of your relationship may have led to it taking on a caretaker role in your heart, fulfilling some of the symbiotic needs you may have had as a child.

In a sense, it could even be said to surpass your family members in your heart.

Given the circumstances, it is understandable that you may feel helpless. It is important to recognize that, while the hospital is currently closed due to the epidemic, there are still ways you can provide support for your dog. Prioritizing your energy and attention on finding ways to help your dog is the first step.

You might consider asking a friend to accompany you to the vet in your neighborhood to inquire about the possibility of illness and potential treatment options.

Secondly, if there is no way to rescue it and it is about to grow old, we may experience feelings of sadness. It is important to acknowledge these emotions, as it is natural to feel sad when facing the death of a loved one.

When we are caught up in this kind of genuine and pure grief, we may initially feel helpless and empty. However, in the end, it can nourish our soul and promote our growth. Grief allows us to cry without shame, and these tears can be seen as a flood of the soul that will wash away the wall that separates us from the truth of our lives. When we honestly accept the tragic truth of life, psychological energy is released, which in turn creates new space to embrace life in the future. In other words, grief represents mourning the misfortunes of the past, and grief can help us come to terms with the truth of life.

Please don't hesitate to express your grief. It's a natural and healing process.

Secondly, it may be helpful to consider that your dog now lives in your heart. Even if it is gone, it will always be with you in the spiritual world, and you will always be with it. You may find it beneficial to engage in some imaginative exercises, such as imagining that you are still with it, taking it for walks, playing with it, or even taking it to the supermarket to buy things.

If it is possible for you to do so, you might like to consider treating the puppies well and fulfilling your spiritual needs.

I hope my answer is helpful. I wish you a happy life.

Hello, question asker! From your affection for your dog, I can tell that you are a kind and caring person.

After ten years together, the dog has become a beloved family member, occupying a special place in our lives. I would be grateful for any insights you may have to share.

1. Could you please tell me how old you were when your dog first entered your life? What kind of environment did you adopt this adorable dog in?

In addition to being your pet, could you tell me what else your dog means to you?

2. The dog is already 10 years old and is getting old. It's natural to have concerns about the inevitability of birth, aging, sickness, and death. Are you worried about the dog leaving, or are you worried about the dog leaving because it did not receive timely treatment?

3. In light of these concerns, it would be helpful to understand whether we can influence the outcome through our own efforts. If so, what efforts could we make? If not, what other options are there besides worrying?

It is only natural to feel concern when faced with such a significant topic as life and death. We are eager to witness the arrival of a new life, yet we find it challenging to accept the departure of a life. This is understandable. However, the end of life is a reality that we all must face. With your loving companionship, I believe that even if the dog leaves, it will have lived a happy life, and the memories you share will surely be an invaluable journey in your life.

Love him, not to control, but to accept the good and bad it brings us, the joy and hope it brings us, but also the disappointment and regret it brings us.

Could it be that everything is the best arrangement? Perhaps it would be beneficial to cherish the present moment and accompany your dog every day with all your heart.

It is also possible that your concerns about your dog may be a reflection of your broader anxieties about your own life. In the context of the ongoing pandemic, our lives are currently characterised by a heightened sense of uncertainty. If this is a persistent issue, it may be helpful to consider seeking psychological support to address these concerns.

The dog is important to you. It watches over you like a friend. It might be like a child you haven't seen or loved in a long time.

You feel bad when your dog gets old and suffers because you can empathize with its pain. You want to make it feel better.

You say you're not afraid of losing it, but won't you feel lonely after it's gone?

Having a pet and then losing it is like being neglected by your parents.

We know that people and dogs die. But you may still be afraid.

You're afraid of your dog dying and being abandoned.

You are a sensitive girl. You are allowed to be afraid of losing your dog. Even if no one cares, you know that your dog cares about you. It doesn't want you to suppress yourself.

Dogs get old and sick too. Spend more time with your dog and take care of it. If it dies, take time to remember it and then move on.

The dog loved you, and you loved it back. You have learned to love yourself too.

OK, hello, thanks for your question. I'm Coffee, and I'm going to answer it.

It's clear to me that you have a strong and enduring bond with your dog. Your dog has been by your side through countless days and nights.

Your dog has been a rock for you in a family that lacks care and attention. They are more than just a pet—they are your best friend and part of your family.

When your dog is sick, you will feel very bad, very heartbroken, and sad. You will feel that you cannot bear it if your dog really gets sick.

If it's a serious illness, you're especially worried that your dog will leave you.

You want the dog to stick around for at least another five to ten years. It would be a shame to leave it behind. If you do, you'll probably feel better than if you left because of illness.

Given the circumstances of the epidemic, it is not possible to take the dog to the hospital at this time. It is also possible that the dog is suffering from a lack of calcium or a certain vitamin.

The convulsions caused the convulsions. I researched the cause of the dog's convulsions, and it's likely that it has epilepsy.

When the situation improves, we will take the dog to the hospital for a diagnosis and prescribe medication to control the condition.

For now, focus on the dog's diet. Dogs typically live for about 12 to 17 years.

Take good care of your dog and it will live to be 15, 17, 18, or even 20 years old. My family has a dog named Mao Mao who is already 8 years old, and he's still going strong.

I know my dog will only live to be a teenager, and that he may leave me in a few years. It makes me sad to think about it, but I tell myself it's okay. Death is a natural part of life, and there's nothing I can do about it. I'm going to take care of him now.

The dog's departure will undoubtedly be a topic of conversation. We will accept his departure and gradually fade him out.

Your dog is sick, which is obviously worrying for you. You can search online for epilepsy and also check the relevant symptoms online, which will help you feel a little better.

This is also a kind of separation anxiety. You have already considered the possibility of your dog dying, and I am doing the same.

We must overcome this topic. The dog's current illness is distressing you.

You care about your dog and want it to be healthy and comfortable. It also shows your kindness and gentleness.

If the epidemic is better, you must take your dog to the hospital. If your dog is usually fine, except for occasional seizures, it is not a serious problem. If diagnosed and treated in time, it will be better for the dog.

I am confident that our dogs will stay with us for many more years. We can take better care of them to make them more comfortable. For example, we can feed them their favorite foods, take them out for regular walks, and pet and hug them more often.

Make the most of every day with them.

I appreciate the inquiry. I love you, and I'm grateful you asked.

Hello, question asker!

It's tough to give you advice on the last moments you'll spend with your dog in just a few sentences. But I hope to start a conversation in my answer and show you more possibilities to consider when you're feeling particularly worried and anxious.

[The little angel will still be around, it's just that it's now returned to the dog star]

I saw your question and I could tell you were feeling reluctant and sad about your dog's impending end of life. At the same time, I really envy you for being able to spend almost ten years with each other and for being able to love him unconditionally in the final stages of his life. You have spent countless days and nights with such an angel, and you are so lucky!

Now, seeing that it is no longer as agile as it once was, moving slowly and occasionally collapsing, it seems like life has come to an end. As its owner, you can't help but feel distressed. You know that the little angel will leave you soon, but it won't disappear; it will just return to the dog star.

When you look up at the night sky, you'll remember everything about him.

[Make the most of your time together]

Given that you can't take your dog to the vet right now because of the epidemic and you're stuck in the community, could you ask the vet at the clinic over the phone or online about your dog's falling to the ground and convulsing, how to take better care of it, whether there are any relevant drugs, and what to pay attention to so you can give it more care and reduce its pain? Wait until the epidemic eases and the community is unblocked, and then take your dog to the vet in time.

While you're spending time with your dog, you can also take some photos and videos of you two together. These will be great memories to look back on when you're feeling down.

"Take care of yourself and let's take it easy."

Your dog's condition is making you really worried, so you can't sleep and you're very sensitive to noise. You're stuck at home because of the epidemic, which is making your negative feelings worse.

Right now, it's important to focus on your own health. On the one hand, you need to stay healthy and energized to take better care of the dog. On the other hand, if the dog could speak, it would probably want you to stop worrying so much and enjoy your time with it.

I hope the owner can find some joy in these last moments with their dog and not have any regrets.

Hello, I'm Ah Bai.

Your ideas make me feel your emotions. Hugs!

Dogs are family. They love us and we love them. When they get older and have health problems, we worry they'll leave us. We're sad.

How can we adjust our emotions?

Don't be anxious.

Second, we must understand life rationally.

There are things we can do during this long process.

Afterwards, we must adjust our state of mind. We must allow ourselves to grieve. Is there any way to keep our grief in check?

Think ahead about what you can do if something happens. For example, an electronic memorial, turning hair into diamonds, writing an obituary, or cross-stitching a photo of your pet.

All living things must die. If a dog has a happy, peaceful life, it should feel content. If it has a good owner, it should feel happy and peaceful. It should be allowed to live out its remaining days happily and peacefully.

Hello, question asker. I can see you're feeling a bit confused right now, but I'm here to help! Let me give you a big hug!

I can see you're having a tough time. Let me give you a big hug again, okay?

Our furry friends go through the same things we do, like being born, getting older, getting sick, and eventually, dying.

I believe that a dog's age is roughly equivalent to a human's age of seven. So, your dog is almost 10 years old, which is equivalent to a human being being 70 years old.

In human terms, that would be an old man.

I can understand why you're afraid that one day it will leave you like that. I don't want to see you suffer either.

I think the dog is really humane. It doesn't want its owner to be sad.

I heard a similar story when my mom was still alive. She had a good friend who had a dog at home that had reached the end of its life. So she had something to do that afternoon, and before going out, she specifically told the dog: "You must wait until I come home before you die."

But the sweet dog knew that its friend, its owner, usually loved it the most and didn't want to see her saddened by its death. So it died before it even got home.

Later, when her friend returned home, she was really upset that her dog, who had been so understanding for so many years, had died. She was so sad, she started crying and couldn't stop.

While you're going through this, try to spend as much time as you can with your dog doing the things it loves. Even if you're stuck at home, there are still ways to make memories! Take lots of pictures of you two having fun together.

These moments will become your precious memories.

This operation is really quite simple! All you need is a camera, and it doesn't have to be the most expensive brand.

Once the epidemic is over, it's really important to take your dog to the nearest veterinary hospital as soon as you can. Ask the vet if there's anything they can do to make your dog more comfortable.

I'm wondering if you could tell me more about the different ways this can be done? For example, injections, intravenous infusions, and so on?

My young nephew in Singapore had a dog about seven years ago that suffered from a chronic illness. It often had to go to the vet for injections and intravenous drips. Later, my young nephew could no longer bear the dog's constant trembling, fear, and panic every time it went to the vet, so he asked the vet to end the dog's life early.

My young nephew lives in Singapore, where they have a kind and compassionate approach to euthanasia for pets like dogs.

I really don't know if euthanasia of pets like dogs is allowed in China. I'd guess it isn't, because it seems a bit inhumane.

If it's allowed where you are, I'd really recommend considering this option. It can help to alleviate the physical suffering. Then, before taking it to the operating table, you can apply to the veterinarian for a private conversation with the dog. You can tell it: "I'm really sorry, but there's really no other way. You hope that after euthanasia, it will go to another better world, where there is no pain."

And tell it how much you've loved having it by your side for the past ten years. You'll live on for its sake, and you'll make sure it has a good life in the next world.

I really hope the problem you're having gets solved soon.

I'm so sorry, but I can think of only these things right now.

I really hope my answer was helpful and inspiring for you! I'm the respondent, and I study hard every day.

Here at Yixinli, we love you and the world loves you too! Wishing you all the best!

Give the questioner a hug! I can feel how deep the questioner's feelings for the dog are, and I can also see that the dog holds a very important place in the questioner's heart.

Parents and family members may favor boys over girls, but dogs will not. Dogs have brought the questioner companionship, attention, and care that they cannot obtain from their parents and family members. It's been 10 years, so much care for such a long time. The questioner's relationship with the dog has surpassed the relationship with their family. This relationship is deep.

Dogs experience the same natural processes as people: birth, aging, illness, and death. These are not subject to personal will. If you don't want your dog to die, it won't. My neighbor had a black-and-white poodle named Huahua. He was raised for over ten years, but eventually lost his eyesight and hearing. He couldn't walk, so he just laid in front of the house all day. When I passed by, he would bark. I would call out to him, and he would stop. He later died of old age. My neighbor dug a pit and buried him.

If someone wants to adopt a dog, the neighbors won't sell it. They've kept it for over ten years and it's been guarding the house for the same length of time. It's like having a family member. They're not selling.

Dogs typically live for about 15 years, and only a few live longer than 18 years. As they age, their physical functions decline, they become blind and deaf, and they may even starve to death because they can't eat. Even if they don't get sick, they will naturally die. This is similar to the human life process, and you need to face and accept it.

The questioner must accept these emotions towards the dog in real life and the reluctance to let it go. They must cherish the companionship, attention, and care for each other while it is still not at the end of its life. This will ensure that there will be less regret and more happiness in your life and the dog's life.

In real life, epidemic prevention and control is not within your control. Neither is whether the dog will get sick and suffer. This is also the case, and it is not subject to your will. You must accept these uncontrollable factors. Accept the various uncontrollable factors in real life. Accept the various worries and pain in your heart.

You must face it, and you can control cherishing each other's company. At the same time, the questioner can transfer some of their inner emotions to other people. Some emotions can be given by dogs, but some emotions can only be given by the same kind, and dogs cannot replace them.

Dogs can understand and express some words, but there are more words they can't understand or express in a reasonable or appropriate way. These dogs can only gain the emotions they can't understand or express from their interactions with people.

However, the questioner may face challenges in establishing and maintaining this transfer relationship. They may experience pressure and frustration, but they can overcome these challenges with courage and persistence. The questioner can set themselves a small goal and take it slowly. They can do it.

My dear,

We cannot stop or change many things in life, and we must learn to accept them. One important aspect of this is how to coexist with others without overlapping, or in other words, how to set boundaries. In your narrative, how to relieve the emotions that arise when faced with unbearable situations is precisely about setting boundaries and emotional isolation.

Emotional isolation is not a complete lack of love. It is a sense of boundaries in the release and control of emotions. This does not affect our physical health or normal life. This is not indifference. It is not an eternal objective perspective. It means integrating appropriately. It also means calmly withdrawing when needed.

The original poster is right: the dog that has been with you for ten years will one day leave you, and you will miss it. But your rational mind will tell you that this outcome is inevitable. We often feel sad that we know a lot of principles, but we still can't live a good life. This is because we don't integrate knowledge with action very well. This is the meaning of lifelong learning.

That is, you must improve your awareness and put it into practice consistently, in both your actions and beliefs.

One of the biggest pitfalls in this situation is that perception lags behind action. We often substitute perception for action and mistake perception for reality. For example, the owner's dog is already ten years old, and death is just the end. The struggle before death is an instinctive reaction or part of his life experience. We cannot replace or stop this.

Cheer him up so he can live the rest of his life with a good spirit. Add nutrients to slow down aging or alleviate pain. Create happy moments so you and he won't regret it.

The value of life does not lie in its length, but in whether it is rich. If the time spent together is full of the taste of love, then it can already be reminisced about for a lifetime, even if it is only a momentary reunion. And from your account, the dog was just as attached to you.

Mutual love and concern do not distinguish between ethnic groups. What matters is the intensity and duration of the feelings. Take Hachiko, the faithful dog in Japan, for example. Even after his death, he is still fondly remembered by those who loved him.

Dear Sad Questioner, It is evident that you have a kindhearted friend. You can be so good to the little animal, and I believe it will love its little master dearly. Furthermore, I believe that the dog does not want to see its owner sad and upset. I would like to tell the little owner to live their life well. Birth, aging, sickness, and death are things that happen to all of humanity and all things in the world. There is a point to everything. Your worries, sadness, and anxieties are very painful for you. You have had them for so many years, and now the dog is sick. Medical care is very advanced these days, but it is inevitable that it will not be cured. Therefore, my friend, you need to adjust your emotions and not be overly sad. If you get sick because of the little dog, then your family will worry about it. What is more important? Do you see the logic in this?

It is inevitable that we will experience periods of sadness; however, it is crucial to recognize that we have all done our utmost. It is evident that you are unwell. What is the recommended course of action?

It is imperative to accept the reality of illness, cease dwelling in sadness, and strive to achieve tranquility. It is imperative to recognize that life will inevitably continue after this period. It is acceptable to venture outside during the pandemic. If feasible, it is recommended to engage in a brisk walk or other form of exercise to distract oneself from the anguish and discomfort. It is essential to divert one's attention from sources of distress. It is hoped that the questioner will emerge, which would be a significant source of solace.

It is recommended that you offer yourself a degree of encouragement and gradually emerge from this situation. Based on my previous experience of keeping small animals, I have decided that I will not do so again, as I am unable to accept the emotional distress associated with separation. I anticipate experiencing greater distress than you, as we are all similarly affected by feelings of helplessness. It is important to recognise that this situation is inherently sad and that it is preferable to avoid prolonging it. Despite the imminent departure of the dog, there is a finite period during which you can recall and be with it. It is therefore crucial to value this limited time.

Furthermore, I observed that you indicated a preference for males over females. This is a prevalent phenomenon, yet it can only be overcome through strength of character. It is essential to strive for self-improvement and strive to become better. The current social landscape is much more conducive to this than it was in the past. We can only hope to effect change by giving back with a grateful heart. If things do not change, at least we can do so with a clear conscience. I fully comprehend this, and as a result, I am now very calm, and I do not hate anyone because there is no need to. We can only achieve this by seeing beyond the vicissitudes of life. We must learn to appreciate the beauty of the world, not the painful memories that unsettle the mind.

It is sometimes the case that animals are perceived as being superior to humans. They are capable of healing our lonely hearts, yet they are not people in the same way. Dogs, for example, provide us with the opportunity to be compensated within the family unit. However, there are inherent problems with this, as they inevitably encounter the realities of birth, aging, illness, and death. The inevitable separation that occurs as a result of these factors is something that we must all face at some point in our lives.

If one is unable to cope with the emotional distress caused by a situation, it is advisable to avoid dwelling on it. This can help to alleviate some of the pain. It is essential to love oneself and to take care of one's wellbeing. Action is the most effective form of help. The generous and chubby question owner must adjust their emotions, as this can affect sleep and other aspects of one's life.

It is therefore necessary to challenge oneself actively, to break through one's limits, to break away from unhappy emotions, to accept the outside world, and to show a new self.

It is recommended that you gradually accept the situation, adapt to it, and embark on a new life. It is crucial to avoid allowing self-anxiety to overwhelm you, as it can lead to physical discomfort and poor sleep quality. It is essential to adjust your mindset and promptly address stress and negative emotions. It is important to remember that we still have a life to live and that we must confront issues such as eating and drinking on a daily basis. It is advised to maintain a sense of love and affection for your dog and to embrace it. It is hoped that the questioner will emerge from this experience with resilience. It is believed that they will succeed.

Good day.

As a mindfulness coach, I believe that learning is the greatest asset of the human body.

From your description, I can discern the presence of significant internal distress, including worry, fear, heartache, sadness, pain, and a sense of being overwhelmed.

I will not delve into the specifics of the challenges you have faced with your dog over the past nine years. However, I do have three recommendations for you:

Firstly, it is recommended that you attempt to accept your current situation.

This will result in a slight reduction in stress levels, which will in turn facilitate a more considered approach to decision-making.

You stated that you grew up in a family that valued young girls, and that your parents and family members rarely cared about you. However, your dog, which you have had for almost 10 years, has consistently demonstrated care, value, support, and affection towards you. It is akin to a member of your family, but recently it seems to be unwell. On occasion, it will fall to the ground and convulse. You suspect that it may be old or unwell. And because of the pandemic, you are confined at home, which makes it challenging to take it to the hospital. This situation is understandably distressing for you. In fact, if you were in this situation, other people would likely be in a similar position, as almost everyone would be sad and hurt to see their dog, which they have loved for so long and treated like a family member, become unwell. Additionally, it does not discriminate between boys and girls and especially loves you. Therefore, it is important to try to understand yourself and accept yourself. Identifying and acknowledging the anxious self inside you, who is afraid, worried, and temporarily unsure of how to respond, will provide you with the mental energy to consider other things. Otherwise, your mind will be filled with negative emotions.

Furthermore, allowing yourself to understand and accept yourself will facilitate change in the current situation. This may seem counterintuitive, but it is, in fact, the key to effecting change.

Secondly, I recommend that you adopt a rational perspective on your own situation.

Rational thinking can assist in developing a deeper understanding of oneself and the surrounding reality.

To take a rational approach, you should:

Firstly, it is important to recognise that the current state of medical technology is highly advanced, including in the field of pet medical care. There is a very low risk of your pet suffering as a result of this technology, so it is essential to have trust in modern medicine.

Secondly, it is important to recognise that the current situation can be altered, as you have the power to make changes.

By taking the initiative and making a change, you can gradually improve your situation and potentially resolve the issue with your dog. It is important to recognize your own capabilities and believe in your ability to make a difference.

I reiterate my previous advice: focus on yourself and consider how you can improve your own situation.

When you consider your situation from a logical perspective, you may also be able to identify a course of action. At this juncture, it is advisable to focus on your own needs and strive to achieve the best possible outcome.

As an example, you may wish to contact the vet by telephone, given that you are currently confined to your place of residence. Once the vet is aware of the specific circumstances, they may be able to provide advice which could also have a positive effect on your mood.

Additionally, you may wish to consult with friends who have dogs in the area. This can be an effective method for improving your mood, as sharing your feelings with others can have a positive effect on your emotional state. Furthermore, your friends may be able to provide advice and support, given their own experiences with dogs.

If the aforementioned methods do not result in an improvement in your well-being, you may wish to contact your local neighborhood committee to inquire about the treatment of pets during the current lockdown. It is my opinion that there should be corresponding measures in place in all areas, which may also have a positive effect on your mood.

It may also be helpful to focus on building your own psychological resilience. Remind yourself that the natural order of things includes birth, aging, sickness, and death. Even if your dog eventually grows old, becomes sick, and leaves you, you can accept this. You can also allow your dog to feel your warmth and love while it is still alive. This may help to reduce your worry, allowing you to focus your energy on dealing with the more frightening aspects of your pet suffering right now. In short, it is important to understand that there are things you can do to improve the situation.

Once you begin taking action, negative emotions will gradually dissipate. In some cases, taking action can be an effective method for overcoming negative emotions.

I hope this information is helpful to you. If you would like to discuss further, please click on "Find a coach to interpret—Online conversation" at the bottom of this page. I will then be happy to communicate with you one-on-one.