The former supervisor fabricated facts, destroying my efforts, creating an oppressive workplace darkness.

Hello, I'm Yi Ming, a heart exploration coach.

I'm Yi Ming, a heart exploration coach.

It's pretty mind-blowing when you come across a senior executive like that.

Take care!

I'd love to chat with you and I hope I can offer some comfort and inspiration.

1. Confront the darkness and sexual harassment in the workplace and do what you can to protect yourself.

Right now, we're in a period of low status in the workplace.

Right now, we're in a period of low status in the workplace.

It doesn't matter if it's our boss or a senior executive, they can all have a big impact on us.

It can be tough to find our footing in a company like this and make sure our rights aren't violated.

If we want to stay fit and improve ourselves, we can put in a bit more work than we're normally required to.

I just wanted to say that you really deserve a round of applause for bravely rejecting sexual harassment!

This takes courage.

How many women in the workplace are too afraid to speak up and end up dealing with a lot of problems as a result?

Tolerance might not be the best approach. It could even make the higher-ups more aggressive.

So, say no, stay alert, minimize the risk of harassment, and do what you can to protect yourself.

If you can, find a way to keep evidence.

We need to be brave in fighting against the darkness in the workplace.

It might also take a lot of wisdom.

Of course, we need to do this while also looking out for ourselves.

2. Look after yourself emotionally and try to reassure your sensitive side.

Dealing with these issues at work can be really tough and draining.

You've clearly put in a lot of effort, but it seems like you've received an unfair evaluation.

Right now, the best thing we can do is take a deep breath and calm down.

It's not our fault.

Even if the supervisor says something, it doesn't matter. Some colleagues who know you well will definitely know that you are not like that.

We can just choose not to agree with that.

What other people say isn't always that important. What matters is how we see ourselves and how little we let it affect us.

It's not our problem if people don't like us.

We can learn to not let it bother us.

Some people find comfort in the fact that people who turn right into left don't deserve to make you angry.

It's like being bitten by a mad dog—we can't bite the dog back.

Don't be too hard on yourself for other people's mistakes.

Psychologists often talk about the separation of issues, which means being able to distinguish between other people's issues and your own, and other people's emotions and your own.

He's been blamed for your problems because he didn't report the sexual harassment.

That's his issue.

Dealing with injustice, falsifying facts, and feeling aggrieved are our own problems to deal with.

If we're not planning to leave for the time being, we'll find ways to make the best of it in this unfavorable environment.

We do a job partly to earn money, but more importantly, it's to improve our skills and experience.

He didn't quite deliver on what he said he would, but I think that over time you've gained valuable experience through working hard and learning more.

This way, we'll feel more at ease.

You can also think about your career path. If the work environment here isn't great, we can always explore other options.

The most important thing is that we learn to grow up and develop our own strength.

No matter how tough the situation is, you can always find a way to cope.

Believe in our abilities.

Please feel free to share these.

Best of luck!

I love you, the world, and I'm here for you!

Greetings! I extend a warm embrace from a distance to you first.

The experience of being treated unfairly by the unspoken rules of the workplace can evoke a strong sense of grievance, anger, and a desire for respect and fairness.

In the event of encountering such leaders and supervisors, it is imperative to permit oneself to experience feelings of resentment, anger, and revulsion. This is due to the fact that all of one's efforts have been disregarded and rejected by the failure to meet the sexual harassment demands of one's supervisor. Despite the lack of response that one's efforts have received, it is crucial to understand that this does not signify the inevitable failure of said efforts. Each and every effort will eventually be rewarded. Concurrently, it is essential to acknowledge the courage demonstrated in refusing one's supervisor's inappropriate behavior and in taking measures to safeguard one's own well-being.

From your account, it is evident that you have also relinquished your position at this organization with fortitude and resolve. Despite the transient nature of your departure, I continue to hold you in high regard and commend your courage and determination. In the context of an organizational climate where the leadership exhibits a tendency to deflect responsibility and provide mutual support, and where the advancement of the company is not a primary objective, such a corporate culture is not conducive to the growth and survival of capable and ambitious newcomers. Consequently, it is advisable for you to seek a more conducive and supportive unit that values talent and allows you the opportunity to fully utilize your abilities and contributions.

Although one may choose to leave one's job, the discomforting emotional sensations that arise from one's work persist. At the time of departure, one may instinctively suppress and conceal one's authentic emotional responses in deference to the demands of one's profession. As a result, these distressing emotional sensations have not dissipated but have instead lingered in the subconscious.

It is now necessary to accept and allow oneself to experience these emotional feelings and then attempt to express and release them. This can be achieved by maintaining an emotional diary in which the emotional feelings are recorded in words, thus enabling the emotions to be observed and expressed. Subsequently, it is important to explore the underlying needs that give rise to the emotions, such as the desire to be respected, affirmed, seen, and supported, in order to identify more effective ways of responding and meeting these needs.

At this juncture, one will discover that when the words and actions of others evoke feelings of discomfort and distress, it becomes imperative to express the genuine sentiments within one's heart with courage and sincerity. This can be achieved by articulating with gentleness but resolve: "Your actions have caused me profound unease. I request that you cease your current course of action and hope for..."

It is important to note that the ability to desire and expect fair treatment from others is contingent upon one's capacity to treat oneself with the same respect and consideration. The manner in which we treat ourselves often serves as a model for how we expect others to treat us. Therefore, it is essential to develop the ability to care for oneself at work and in life, to respect one's physical and mental feelings, and to assert oneself when faced with unfair treatment or harm.

My name is Lily, and I am the designated listener at the Q&A Center. I extend my love and respect to you all.

It's awful to have a boss who avoids responsibility, lies, disrespects your work, and sexually harasses you. You could have made a name for yourself and a successful career.

But it's people like this who have destroyed you. It's outrageous. I remember your boss promised you the moon, told you to work hard, and even handle things for him even though they weren't part of your job.

This is exploitation in the workplace. Your superior is adding tasks and making you work too much. Even though you've already worked hard, your superior is still harassing you. It's hard to watch.

I can't believe there's someone like this. He's inhumane. We're all employees, so why are we treated so unfairly? We must refuse the other party's harassment and read the company rules carefully. We should also protect ourselves with the law.

Also, collect photos and videos to build a case. The boss is lying to you to get you to do what he wants. Don't let him get away with it. What kind of boss is he? Think about your future. Good luck.

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