The neighbor's breakup left them emotionally distraught, causing them to cry for days, which deeply saddened me.

Question Owner: Greetings!

From your narrative, it is evident that you possess a high degree of empathy and are adept at empathizing with others.

The individual may report that when they hear another person experiencing distress, it evokes a painful emotional response within themselves. This illustrates the influence that external stimuli can have on one's emotional state. If such instances occur with regularity, it is probable that they will leave an imprint on the individual's psyche, potentially influencing their subsequent emotional experiences.

It is important to note that significant experiences from one's early childhood tend to leave a profound imprint on the psyche. While these experiences may not be consciously perceived, they can be triggered by external events, leading to the retrieval of information linked to a deeply embedded memory. This can result in the sudden emergence of past emotions and sensations, akin to the reaction one might have to hearing their neighbor cry, prompting a recollection of past experiences.

It can be reasonably assumed that everyone has experienced some form of traumatic event during their lifetime. When an individual listens to their inner voice with curiosity and awareness, they may become aware of the images that their mind conjures up in similar situations. This awareness may then facilitate the discovery of the original memory, the invitation of past experiences, and the confrontation of these unresolved issues in a constructive manner.

It is recommended that the aforementioned steps be repeated on each occasion that a similar situation arises, as this will facilitate the healing of the inner trauma.

I am a metaphorical representation of a rain-soaked straw hat. It is my sincere hope that my sharing can be of assistance to you. Best wishes,

Hello, question asker.

You can't see or hear people crying, whether they're children or adults. It's uncomfortable when you feel someone is sad and in tears. When someone cries heartbreakingly, it's as if your heart is being torn open, and you cry in grief.

You are putting yourself in this situation. You feel like the person crying in front of you. You empathize with the other person's despair and helplessness!

You feel an urge to go up to the person and help them, as if you are the only one who can make the sad person feel better. But you know full well that you are just a stranger to the person, that you know you can't help at all, or that you don't have the right to interfere in other people's affairs!

You know it, and you understand it perfectly! So, why do you feel so uncontrollably bad?

Do you suspect you are ill?

This is called "self-projection." It's when you judge others based on your own experiences, project your own emotions, will, and characteristics onto others, impose them on others, and believe that others are the same.

You were a child with a little inferiority complex, often feeling lonely and helpless, longing for the care and attention of others. You shed silent tears in times of pain and sorrow, longing for someone to comfort and care for you, to pat you on the shoulder and help you get through the difficult times.

The lonely you simultaneously feels unwanted and unworthy of being embraced. You feel sad, and you know that painful people are the most in need of comfort. You know that you can help others and make a difference. Your inner impulse has this logic, which may be your inner needs, and the way things are done in reality and the hidden inferiority complex in your heart at the same time tell you not to cross the line and you are not worthy. These may be the motives behind your actions, but this motivation belongs to a habit. The thinking mode when you were a child is subtly at work.

This is not a disease. It is a psychological phenomenon that exists in normal people. It is similar to "empathy," but it adds the needs of the self on the basis of empathy.

You need to communicate with your former self and reconcile with your past self.

The above is a definitive conclusion. For reference only. Best wishes!

Hello! I don't know why you feel that you have a mental illness. In fact, you are such a compassionate and righteous person!

In today's fast-paced society, many people have slowly become independent individuals, dividing themselves and others into different little boxes, thinking that they only need to mind their own business. But in fact, when they encounter difficulties, they desperately want to get help from others, and there are ways to overcome these existing barriers! Everyone can get help from others if they're willing to open up and communicate. People with strong empathy skills like the questioner, whose kind and moral sense in their hearts constantly whips them, want to provide comfort and help to others, and they can do so by recognizing that their actions are not meddling.

But on the other hand, if the original poster is already feeling heartbroken because of the neighbor's sadness, at this point, you have the incredible opportunity to make a difference in someone's life! You can choose to take this step and comfort the neighbor, while also distracting yourself by not caring about her and giving your sympathy a perfect ending in your mind.

If you choose to take this step to comfort your neighbor, you'll want to consider gender reasons and personal character reasons. Then, you'll be ready to carry out a reasonable act of consolation that doesn't make people feel uncomfortable. The result of the consolation may be good, and you may establish a new friendship as a result. The result may also be bad, and perhaps the neighbor will reject your kindness. But don't blame yourself! You're a brave person with a high sense of morality, and you're helping to make the new world a warmer and better place.