The situation with netizens is quite complex. What should you do if your family disapproves of being with them?

It would be prudent to express gratitude for the opportunity to engage in this encounter.

The questioner has conducted a comprehensive examination of the entire process and the present circumstances. I will present a few observations based on my personal experiences and associations with the situation, which I hope will be of benefit to the questioner.

1. The questioner employs three distinct terms to represent the same individual: "depression/the-situation-with-netizens-is-quite-complex-what-should-you-do-if-your-family-disapproves-of-being-with-them-11916.html" target="_blank">netizen," "he," and "ta." The term "he" is exclusive to the title, while "netizen" is utilized initially in the main text and subsequently in reference to the relationship's initial stages. As the relationship matured, the questioner adopted the gender-neutral term "ta."

2. TA was previously diagnosed with depression but has since recovered. Additionally, a former psychological counselor provides an explanation of TA's needs. While depressive moods and states are a common emotional experience, depression is a more complex condition.

The course of recovery from the flu virus varies considerably from one individual to another. Some people have no problems at all, some have mild symptoms, some can ride out the flu cycle on their own strength, some just need to drink some tonic and get better, while others have severe symptoms and even have to be injected with fluids, suffering terribly. Therefore, after a person has recovered from the flu, the follow-up maintenance and treatment paths are different.

Psychological treatment/counseling is an essential component of the recovery process for individuals struggling with depression.

3. Based on the questioner's account, it appears that she has previously sought psychological counseling but has not continued doing so. However, her statements indicate that her previous counselor advised her that she would be unable to obtain what she desired from her parents during her formative years. Nevertheless, she currently seeks a counselor who will meet her needs unconditionally, akin to a parent, rather than a partner.

TA hopes that the questioner will assume this role. It is not implausible, but it is evident that it is a significant burden for the questioner.

If one is unable to care for oneself, it is unclear how one can adequately care for others. Is self-sacrificing love truly an appropriate form of love?

From this sentence, it seems that TA still has a long way to go before she can provide psychological counseling. It would be prudent to leave the professional work to the professionals.

4. Has the questioner ever been involved in other intimate relationships? Is this also a source of distress?

What are the underlying factors contributing to the persistence of such a complex relationship, and what are the associated emotional states? What aspects of the individual's intrinsic needs are being met, and how does this influence the continuation of the relationship?

This may be a direction in which the questioner can engage in contemplation and introspection.

It is my hope that this information is of some assistance. Wishing you the best.

Hello!

From what you've told me, it seems like you and your online friend have really grown close. But it's also clear that you have some ongoing issues. It seems like you're still together because you care about each other and don't want to let go. But the relationships-and-personal-conflicts-11345.html" target="_blank">conflicts between you have never really been resolved, and it seems like they're happening more often.

Your parents also don't support your relationship with him. You want him to improve, but you don't see his efforts. Now that you're facing graduation, you don't want to hurt your boyfriend or your parents, but you can't reconcile their conflicts, which is very difficult. I'm here for you, and I hug you.

It's totally normal to have conflicts with your boyfriend. We all have our own needs and wants, and sometimes they don't align perfectly. It's also normal for your boyfriend to feel unhappy in the relationship, but he's made compromises along the way. It's also okay to feel submissive in the relationship. It's a choice you make, and it's not about being unhappy or dissatisfied. It's about finding a balance that works for you both.

And your boyfriend's depression, his family doesn't approve of your relationship, but you still choose to be with him, so you've made a compromise. It's so important to remember that you matter too! Has your boyfriend considered your feelings when he insults you in games?

It seems like your unwillingness and compromise aren't really working for him, sweetie. Are you more of a person who obeys others? You can think about it, and I'm here to help if you need me.

In your relationship with your boyfriend, you've become aware of your discomfort, but you haven't expressed it. It's as if you think that doing so would make him feel that you don't love him, which I'm sure is not the case! Your boyfriend is very good at expressing himself. He tells you about his dissatisfaction, his anger, his thoughts and feelings, and he also demands that you do this and that. He even uses the words of a counselor to "threaten" you with, saying that you need to compromise with him.

You already feel uncomfortable, but you still satisfy him. How long do you think you can continue suppressing yourself to satisfy your boyfriend's needs? It's so important to remember that when you suppress yourself to satisfy your partner's needs, your negative emotions cannot be released, which will hurt you.

Now that you're graduating, it's time to think about your relationship with your boyfriend. You might want to consider whether the conflicts between you can be resolved or whether both of you are willing to work on improving them. When your boyfriend makes a demand, it's important to try to satisfy him, but it's also good to remember that his childhood needs were given to him by his parents. If he didn't get enough of his needs met when he was younger, he might end up demanding them from his partner when he grows up.

However, the needs that the other person gives him may not be able to satisfy him, and instead make the other person very tired and depressed. Of course, there are also people who have learned to satisfy themselves and know how to satisfy their own needs without asking the other person for them, so it's important to figure out how much your boyfriend can give you on his own and whether he is aware that he is excessively demanding from you. You've got this!

I know you don't want to hurt your boyfriend or your parents, and I'm here to support you. Your relationship is healthy and moving in a positive direction. Your parents may not stop you, and that's okay!

On the other hand, your relationship is full of contradictions. Even if your partner isn't depressed, your parents will still worry that you're being hurt.

I really hope this helps! Wishing you all the best!

Hello, Topic Master, I see from your writing that you have been interacting with TA on the internet for quite some time. It is evident that you are a kind individual, and you have striven to express your love and sincerity in an effort to improve TA's well-being. Your actions have also led to positive changes in TA's condition. You have made numerous adjustments along the way, and your efforts have been duly acknowledged. You have discovered a sense of fulfillment in what you have done.

TA knows you as a sincere online friend and has someone other than a counselor who is also willing to express themselves sincerely. This provides TA with an additional outlet for their inner, hidden stories, which can be challenging to find in the real world outside of the internet. At the same time, this demonstrates your excellent ability to listen to others.

As you continue reading, you may find yourself sharing your own story with TA. This can be a way of establishing a balance between you both. It may be that the kindness and equality in your heart prompt you to do so.

It seems that you have formed a close bond through this process of mutual trust and support. However, I would like to gently invite you to consider the future. Have you imagined what your life might be like with this person? What are their characteristics? What does he or she look like? What kind of work does he or she do? What are the scenarios of your interactions with him or her?

I can see that you have raised some concerns about your current situation and that your deeper self is also unsure about this relationship. It seems that you are seeking more perspectives to help you decide whether this relationship is worth continuing and whether it is possible to continue. You have these concerns to protect yourself and hope that you will not regret your judgment. In fact, you are also thinking about the advice your parents gave you: should you listen to it?

Could I ask whether the care that family members show you is genuine? Is it really for your own good?

Perhaps there is still room for improvement in your understanding of your communication with your child. It is natural for parents to hope that their children are safe, happy, and cheerful.

As an adult, you have the right to expect your family to offer their support and blessings in your personal matters. It is understandable that you feel disappointed when their feedback does not align with your expectations.

I would like to suggest that you read the story in several paragraphs. In the first paragraph, you will learn how to help the other person, listen to their story, and support them to get better. This is the role of a listener or counselor.

The second step is to share your own story with him, which will help him to feel more at ease and allow you to treat him as a friend. This will also help to create a more equal dynamic between you. Currently, you are friends on the internet.

The third paragraph: As you continue to interact with each other, you may find that the other person is increasingly aware of your secrets. This can make you feel uneasy and insecure, as if you are losing a sense of privacy. To maintain a sense of balance, it is important to continue building a connection with the other person and sharing personal experiences. In this process, the other person's role can be seen as a reflection of your inner self.

Once a decision is made to partner with someone, it can be challenging to imagine being apart. When there's a sense of being incomplete, it can lead to feelings of discomfort and distress.

I can sense the challenges you've faced. You've invested a great deal of time and effort, yet you haven't received the recognition you deserve from your family. It's understandable that you're struggling with self-doubt, particularly given the expectation that this person would be your partner for the next phase of your life. However, engaging in arguments with them doesn't seem to be a constructive approach. What might be the underlying reasons for this?

I would like to understand myself better. I am interested in finding answers to these questions.

Please take your time to reflect on these questions that may not have been on your radar during your growth process. These are also the kinds of questions you may want to consider during your growth process, as they can be valuable in helping you to improve and grow.