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When we visit relatives and friends during the New Year, we will indeed make a lot of comparisons, and these comparisons will bring pressure on ourselves. But at the same time, we should also think about it the other way around: when we feel pressure, the other person actually also feels pressure, because each of us compares from the heart in a different way. And that's what makes us all so unique!
For example, some of us love to compare clothes! We'll say, "Wow, this person is rocking some pretty snazzy threads!"
Some people compare red envelopes. For example, if someone else's family can give a 1,000 yuan red envelope, but our family can only give 500 yuan, they will feel that the other family must have earned more than us this year.
For example, I don't really care about this. My hobbies are probably more towards the second dimension. When visiting relatives and friends, I see the children of my relatives, and there are many action figures in their rooms or in their bookcases. At this time, I also feel a lot of pressure, but it's a good kind of pressure!
In turn, when I go to pay attention to the child's hand-made items and admire them a lot, the child may also be paying attention to how I dress. For example, my younger sister also really likes Hanfu, but she doesn't have any herself. When she sees how I dress, she also feels envious that I have these things, but she doesn't. And you know what? Adults may also compare like this!
So when we feel pressure, we can use this method to relieve ourselves!
For example, when we visit relatives and friends and find that the other person's New Year's clothes are better and more expensive than ours, it's a great opportunity to see where they're spending their money. We can learn a lot from this! Similarly, we spend most of our salary on pleasing ourselves and satisfying our interests, which is a wonderful thing to do.
Comparisons with other relatives are also totally understandable. Nobody's perfect. When a relative is better than us in one aspect, we'll definitely be better than them in another!
Sometimes relatives' praise or gossip is just idle chatter. We should just ignore it sometimes. But here's the thing: will our own parents or partners, our own children, the members of our own little family really care, and will it affect the intimacy of our own family members?
Regarding learning problems, we have the exciting opportunity to sort out our learning situation, combine it with our own learning ability, formulate a learning method, find a learning technique that suits us, make a suitable learning plan, combine work and rest, and relax ourselves appropriately.
If you find yourself stuck during your learning journey, don't fret! Your teacher is there to help. They have the skills and expertise to guide you towards a solution that works for you.
And there's more! You can also actively seek the help of a mental health teacher or a psychological counselor to mediate.
We really hope that with some self-reflection or the help of a professional, you can learn to manage your emotions better. Whether it's visiting relatives during the New Year, social contact, or your own learning situation, you can absolutely find a way to deal with it that suits you!
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Life can be tough sometimes and it's okay to feel this way. The Spring Festival might highlight our personal challenges more. Comparing ourselves to others can lead to feelings of inadequacy, but remember that everyone has their own path. It's important to focus on your journey and what you need to do for yourself.
Feeling conflicted is a natural response when we're under pressure or comparing ourselves to others. It's good that you're aware of these feelings. Try to channel your energy into something productive like setting small, achievable goals for your studies. This can help you gain momentum.
The struggle between wanting to succeed and feeling stuck is real. It might help to talk to someone about how you're feeling. Sometimes just sharing our worries can lighten the load and make things clearer.
Preparing for exams while dealing with these emotions is challenging. Maybe take a moment to reflect on why you're studying and what you want to achieve. Connecting with your deeper motivations can reignite your passion and determination.
It's easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of life and lose sight of what really matters. Take some time for selfcare and relaxation. Doing things you enjoy can reduce stress and improve your mindset towards studying.