The work is so tiring, meaningless, and there is no sense of accomplishment. What can be done?

As a career planner with 22 years of experience in cross-industry management consulting, I will do my best to provide a brief answer to your question.

If you're struggling to find a sense of accomplishment at work, it might be helpful to take a step back and reflect on your abilities, shortcomings, self-positioning, knowledge about yourself, and motivation level. By doing so, you may gain valuable insights that could help you identify potential areas for growth and development.

If you find that your current abilities are not aligned with your current job, you may wish to consider exploring other options that better suit your skills and interests. Gradually optimizing and improving your motivation level, further improving your self-awareness, and then influencing your role orientation can also be beneficial. This can positively impact your abilities and confidence. It may also be helpful to look for opportunities to put your career on the right track and regain your sense of accomplishment.

This part also focuses on an original case study article by WeChat public account: Career Planner Vin. In my experience of working for a well-known company for less than three years, I was told by my leader that I lacked the spirit of a wolf. This made me wonder: what actually determines our internal motivation? I hope this article helps.

As a career planner with 22 years of cross-industry management consulting experience, I am available to provide one-on-one career planning consulting. If you are experiencing confusion in the workplace, I would be happy to speak with you.

Dear Question Asker,

I can tell that you are a highly motivated individual, as evidenced by your willingness to work overtime on the company project. However, due to the discrepancy in results between yourself and your colleagues, you have lost confidence in your ability to continue.

Firstly, there is a significant discrepancy between your results and those of your colleagues. Could it be that there is also a significant discrepancy between the results of your colleagues and yours? Do you have less confidence in this?

It is not uncommon for individuals to experience difficulties when working with data, particularly when the results are not as accurate as desired. This is a natural consequence of not yet having reached the required level of expertise. However, your willingness to seek guidance and pursue challenges demonstrates your motivation and drive. It is understandable that you may experience a sense of powerlessness despite your efforts, but it is important to recognize that this is a normal part of the learning process.

Secondly, the project has been perceived as a setback by the questioner, causing concern. The questioner is reluctant to acknowledge a lack of strength and resilience, and is therefore apprehensive about the outcome of the next work project.

Furthermore, is the feeling of "depression" also accompanied by self-blame for failing to meet the expectations of your superior? It appears that "giving up" is the simplest solution to improve your mood.

However, it is unclear whether this is what the questioner wants.

It would be beneficial to seek guidance from more experienced colleagues and industry experts.

Alternatively, you could simply trust your own judgement and practise summarising your own experience.

Best of luck!

Good morning, my name is Gu Yi. I am a humble and consistent individual, much like a valley.

Through perseverance, a great deal of meaning can be revealed over time.

The questioner indicated in his description that he encountered numerous challenges at work due to difficulties in achieving the desired results and sense of accomplishment when processing the data. This led to feelings of discouragement, a lack of clarity on the purpose of our work, and exhaustion. I empathize with your situation, but I suggest exploring this issue from a different perspective.

There is a discrepancy between the data produced by our team and that produced by other teams. Currently, we believe this is due to our own shortcomings. However, wouldn't each of our accomplishments result from a form of affirmation and breakthrough in our work? You are currently facing a bottleneck at work.

We do not want you to stop, but to move forward.

An egg that breaks outwardly is food, but one that breaks inwardly is life. By continually understanding ourselves and challenging ourselves, we can enhance our abilities and overcome our limitations, which can better help us discover our own value and find the sense of accomplishment we want. In this process, we can become a better version of ourselves.

Please accept this advice on adjusting your state of mind.

When confronted with a bottleneck at work, there will be some pressure when dealing with it alone. In order to relieve this pressure, it is important to choose a method that suits you. As an example, in addition to looking for the cause of data discrepancies ourselves, we can also discuss it with colleagues. This is an opportunity for learning.

Any position has a rationale for its existence, and it is important to accept this responsibility once it has been accepted. Addressing challenges at work is beneficial because after resolving the issue and addressing the emotions involved, one can expect to have matured and grown. This process may be accompanied by anxiety and sadness.

It is important to remember that pain is a natural part of the process. With perseverance and belief in yourself, you will eventually see a different side of yourself.

The results of many things are not in our present. The individual planting trees is simply planting trees, and there will always be someone to enjoy the shade. We are planting trees for our own benefit and for our own sense of accomplishment. It will be somewhat challenging and difficult, and we will experience a slight difference, but it is not a significant issue. As long as we are willing to work hard, as long as we are willing to pay, and as long as we are willing to calm down and find and solve problems, we will definitely be able to gain the feelings we want.

Best regards,

Hello!

I'm Kelly. I've been working a lot recently and I'm not in a good state. I understand.

I worked in a foreign company for nearly 20 years. In the first few years, I was under a lot of pressure. Then I found a friend to talk to, and she gave me a few pieces of advice.

1: Work is about learning for yourself.

2: The workplace is cruel. If you don't advance, you'll fall behind. Her words awakened my competitiveness.

3: You think differently now.

You will start to feel like you're working for yourself, to meet your own needs, and to use your abilities.

You feel like you're different from others and doubt your own data. Ask colleagues for advice and learn from more experienced ones. You'll feel good after you make progress.

It's about feeling accomplished, which drives us and helps us achieve our goals. I think this is good, but we can't rush it.

Take vacations when you need them. Some people like to be busy all the time, but the questioner seems tired. Talk to your leader.

If your boss asks about your progress, reply. Or talk to your boss about how you feel.

In the workplace, it's polite to respond to others.

If you don't reply, it won't get solved. Why not face it positively?

The questioner is tired. It's good to think about what you want and listen to your heart.

When I'm tired at work, I take a vacation or do something I like.

Cook a meal and watch a movie.

Best of luck!

I love you, world.

If you embrace the original poster, you may experience a sense of helplessness in your work environment. This feeling may intensify with repeated instances of not being affirmed.

It is not uncommon to experience feelings of tiredness, sadness, and dispiritedness when you find that the results you have achieved are very different from those of others. These feelings are perfectly normal and understandable.

I believe there is only one reason behind these feelings, and that is because you want to become better.

Given your desire to become stronger, you may find yourself reacting in a way that feels meaningless and leaves you without the sense of accomplishment you were seeking.

It is often the case that people must experience a period of despair before they can progress to a state of enlightenment.

1. It might be helpful to review your work every day.

"The evening is therefore fragmented, and I can't get anything done." You might consider setting aside a small amount of time in the evening to review your work for the day.

There seems to be a discrepancy between your data and that of others. Could there be a number of reasons for this?

2. You might consider asking your colleagues or leaders about your questions.

It is not uncommon for newcomers to the workplace to overlook the importance of teamwork, particularly if they have primarily studied independently.

If you encounter a problem, you might consider asking a colleague or leader for help and inviting everyone to look at the problem together.

One advantage is that it allows you to consider things from a different perspective and see more possibilities.

Secondly, it may also encourage the leader to perceive you as proactive and eager to solve problems, as well as curious about things.

"Today, my boss asked me about our progress, and I didn't answer." It would be beneficial for everyone if we could provide more updates on our work progress.

Furthermore, "managing upwards" is a delicate balance of science and art in the workplace. It involves making good use of the boss as a resource.

You might consider asking your boss for advice and communicating more, which could help to improve your relationship. Most importantly, you can learn something yourself.

Thirdly, it would be beneficial to treat setbacks and failures as learning opportunities, try to remain objective, and focus on the task at hand.

It's natural to feel a bit anxious at work when you're not quite meeting the demands of your current position.

This situation is an indication that you have room to grow and learn more.

It might be helpful to seek guidance from others, as working through challenges on your own can sometimes lead to heightened emotions.

It might be helpful to consider adjusting your approach, communicating with more people, and learning from more senior employees in your position.

If you're not entirely comfortable with the people in the company, you might consider making friends with people in the industry to exchange ideas and learn from each other. You could also ask for advice online.

If you keep your mind on your work and your goal, you may find it easier to stay focused and in control of your emotions.

It is important to remember that while the host may experience periods of depression, it is not a lifelong condition. The key is to tackle problems as they arise.

It is important to believe in yourself and your abilities. By studying hard, listening, asking questions, learning and leveraging your efforts, you will undoubtedly make progress in the workplace.

Good day, host.

My name is Li Xuan, and I am a practicing psychological counselor.

I am gratified to observe your dilemma and commend your fortitude in disclosing it.

Participate in a relatively large project at work, working overtime every day, which results in a fragmented evening routine.

We experience a sense of fragmentation and an inability to accomplish the tasks we have planned. Following the conclusion of our workday, we find ourselves

Ultimately, we discern a significant discrepancy between our own accomplishments and those of our colleagues, which instills a sense of self-doubt.

We are experiencing a sense of lack of interest in ourselves. We are unable to identify the source of this problem, and as a result, we are becoming increasingly

These feelings manifest as resistance, a lack of confidence, and a sense of futility.

Indeed, a considerable amount of effort has been expended with regard to the undertaking in question, yet the outcome remains unsatisfactory, thereby engendering a considerable degree of self-doubt.

Furthermore, the lack of clarity regarding the source of the problem contributes to feelings of helplessness and frustration.

It appears that you are someone who enjoys independent thought. A project of considerable magnitude will inevitably involve numerous individuals, each of whom will approach the matter from a distinct perspective.

How might one navigate disagreements at the workplace? Is it possible to convene a discussion to determine the optimal course of action?

It may also be beneficial to reflect with our superior about the challenges we are currently facing and request assistance. Alternatively, we could potentially identify experts in this field through other means and solicit their input on the complex issues we are currently confronting.

The appointment of an expert in this field would enable the resolution of the current difficulties.

On occasion, individuals restrict themselves to their own perspective, thereby impeding the ability to identify a solution to a problem in the immediate term. However, seeking assistance from external sources can facilitate the resolution of such issues.

Furthermore, you are a more contemplative individual who recognizes that persisting in the same mindset and approach from the previous project may result in similar challenges. Therefore, it is crucial to consider alternative strategies and approaches to ensure a more productive and fulfilling experience in the upcoming project.

It is my hope to provide you with a different perspective.

It is my sincere hope that you will be able to extricate yourself from this situation in the near future.

I will be available to provide assistance and support should you require it.

Dear questioner, I'm Peilü, and I'm here to help!

First, let me give you a big, warm hug ♥️

Let's dive into the exciting world of work pressure!

You're feeling low in mood and low in self-confidence, and you're physically and mentally exhausted.

Data interpretation

The questioner said that recently, due to a new project, they have had the opportunity to work overtime frequently, resulting in a lack of rest time and the whole person being in a very tired state. In addition, the questioner encountered some difficulties at work, which led to self-doubt and a sense of difficulty, which was manifested in behaviors such as self-deprecation and passive resistance.

I feel that you are suffering from unbearable pressure, as well as helplessness and exhaustion when facing difficulties. It has been really hard to persevere for so long while being physically and mentally exhausted. But I know you can do it! I hope that a warm hug can bring you some strength and support.

The questioner said that he could not find a sense of value in this job, and one project after another was a source of torment. The nature of this kind of work makes you feel bored and uninteresting, and you are caught in a vicious cycle, becoming passive and decadent. But there's hope! I can understand your appeal. You hope that the work you do can give you a sense of accomplishment, not just material satisfaction.

Let's dive into the reasons!

Let's dive into the exciting world of work pressure!

The questioner has already conducted a relatively detailed analysis of their current state, which is great! As you said, the negative emotions you are currently experiencing mainly come from the difficulties you encounter in your current work, which is something we can definitely work on together.

In fact, at work, we will inevitably encounter challenging problems. Those that are beyond your ability to handle will disrupt your inner balance, and stress will arise. The current self-deprecation, doubt, and resistance of the questioner are all normal stress responses. But don't worry! This is totally normal and nothing to be ashamed of.

Let's dive into the exciting world of personal needs!

From your description, it's clear that your current job doesn't meet your career expectations. You're always working overtime, which leaves no time for you in the evenings. You don't feel like you're achieving anything. I understand completely. I've been there myself. Indeed, working in a job that you are not interested in and is always stressful can accelerate burnout. But there is a way out.

Let's dive deeper into this from a personal needs perspective. What does your dream career look like? What are some key requirements you'd love to see in your ideal role?

What kind of career would be a perfect fit for you? If you encountered a similar challenge in your ideal job, how would you tackle it?

Now for some personal advice!

Embrace setbacks!

Embrace the fact that setbacks are inevitable in your work! Don't see them as stumbling blocks on the road to success. Instead, view them as opportunities to grow and learn. Setbacks don't just play a hindering role. They can also be a stepping stone to success!

Our attitude towards setbacks determines our response. If we regard setbacks as a test of our abilities and face them without fear of failure, then we can gain a sense of achievement by overcoming them with a positive and courageous attitude!

Seek support!

Individual abilities are limited, but teamwork and communication are always there to help! You are never alone in the fight. If you encounter difficulties at work and realize that you are unable to solve them, you can always seek help from your leader or colleagues. Focusing only on the immediate problem will make you lose control of the overall situation, which is not only detrimental to the solution of the problem, but also hinders the progress of other departments.

A comprehensive consideration is exactly what you need!

If you feel that your current job is really far from your expectations, has completely deviated from the set direction, and continuing will only drain your energy and not bring you any positive impact, then it means that this job is not suitable for you. But don't worry! "Among the 360 occupations, there is a champion in every trade," and you can find yours! Everyone has a suitable track, and everyone can give full play to their potential and initiative to prove themselves.

We can absolutely help you make the best choice for you! We'll consider all your needs and the reality of the situation, and I'm confident you'll find the perfect fit.

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I love you, world!

Hello,

The host has been working overtime on a big project.

A large project shows the customer is satisfied and trusts the company. Without this, there would be no large workload and pressure.

Orders and projects provide opportunities for businesses. Without them, businesses cannot survive.

Many companies went bankrupt because they lost customers and no longer had orders due to the epidemic.

Big projects take a long time and require more management.

The difference in results may be due to the tools and methods used.

You can use other methods to improve or prove your data.

Just work hard. The original poster can't do things they can't do.

Some things you can do, and some you can't. Spend your time on the things you can do and get the points.

Good day.

"In fact, the most important reason is that in the process of doing it, I found that the results I got were very different from those of others, which made me doubt my own data. I've come to realize that self-doubt and self-negation are not good habits, so I'd like to make sure of something with you:

Could I ask whether your data are comparable to the results of others? By comparable, I mean that they are only comparable under exactly the same preconditions.

Could I ask whether the project you are working on is the same as the one others are working on? Would it be possible to explain why there are two people in charge of the same project?

It would be helpful to know whether the data you have obtained was gathered under exactly the same conditions as his. If you are not able to make a comparison, perhaps it would be best not to do so.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider things outside of work. Do you often compare yourself to others? If you are better than others, you gain confidence, but if you are worse, you feel frustrated. Have you had this experience?

It might be helpful to consider that constantly comparing yourself to others, both at work and outside of work, might not be the most effective way to build your confidence. We can compare ourselves to others to discover each other's strengths and weaknesses, and try to keep up with them over time. This can be a positive thing, but to determine whether we are making progress and feel a sense of accomplishment, it might be useful to compare yourself to yesterday's self.

Additionally, if you are experiencing a lack of accomplishment at work and feelings of fatigue, it might be helpful to consider whether this is a job you are truly interested in and if you feel a sense of passion for it.

If you feel that the work you do does not align with your interests or passions, it might be challenging to maintain a long-term commitment to it, which could potentially lead to feelings of exhaustion. It might be helpful to reflect on the direction of your work and consider whether it truly aligns with your values and aspirations.

I hope my answer is of some help to you.

Insight into the mind, sharing becomes a habit!

If you think your job is meaningless, ask yourself:

Why did you choose this job? Did you like it?

Is it the pressure of work? Or do you just want any job?

Why are you tired of this job today? Is it boring?

Is there no chance of promotion? Do you not get the recognition you deserve?

Let's talk about the workplace. I hope my sharing helps.

Everyone who enters the workplace dreams of doing something.

Everyone starting a new job wants to find their place, make achievements, show their value, and be recognized. But there are obstacles, like the work environment, the job itself, and the people you work with. These can affect how you feel about your job.

Circumstances can change a person.

Choosing a job is a way of testing whether you have made the right choice.

Most people choose a job for many reasons. They may want a job that suits them, one that offers room for growth, a good salary, or job stability. It is rare for people to take a job without thinking about it.

When we start a job, it can be different from what we imagined. It can be hard to know if it's right for us without trying it out. Some people stay because they think they made the right choice, even if it's not what they expected. Others leave because they think they made the wrong choice.

There is no right or wrong in these two types of people. They just have different attitudes towards work.

Your success and value at work aren't defined by your job.

Many people think they can't succeed at work because they don't have the same opportunities as others. But whether you succeed at work often has nothing to do with the job itself. What matters most is your own hard work and dedication.

People only see the good lives of others when they succeed. They don't see the hard work and hardship. But those who fail blame their failure on not having a good job.

Successful people have successful experiences. Unsuccessful people have their own reasons.

One last thing:

This job has made you dispirited.

Think about it.

You feel helpless today because you made yourself feel that way.

or the job itself.

If you think you can do it, it's the work that's holding you back.

I hope you have the courage to leave.

If you think it's your fault

I hope you can fix it fast.

Good day. I am Strawberry.

Upon observing the experiences of the questioner, it becomes evident that the pursuit of employment is a common trajectory for individuals following graduation. The selection of a profession is often driven by a combination of factors, including personal interest and perceived competence. When individuals find work that aligns with these factors, they may perceive their professional experience as both enjoyable and growth-oriented.

Recently, I have been working overtime on a relatively large project, which has caused a relatively large change in the rhythm that the original questioner was accustomed to. When there is a sudden and drastic change in our accustomed lives, we can adapt in the short term; however, if it persists for an extended period, we will begin to feel overwhelmed, both physically and mentally.

Due to the physical and mental fatigue that results from the work, the questioner experiences a lack of motivation and is unable to identify strategies for alleviating the significant pressure they are under. Additionally, they observe that the outcomes of their efforts differ considerably from those of others. This discrepancy in results leads to a sense of doubt regarding their abilities and efforts.

Are you experiencing fatigue, a lack of motivation, an absence of the so-called sense of accomplishment, and a sense of despondency in your professional endeavors?

It is important to acknowledge one's limitations and accept that everyone has abilities that differ from one another.

Given the inherent differences in abilities among individuals, there will inevitably be discrepancies in the time required to accept new information and complete tasks. Excessive focus on these differences can lead to stress and anxiety, which are detrimental to work performance. Such emotions impede the ability to complete tasks effectively and may even result in a decline in performance.

The questioner has invested a significant amount of time and energy into their work. When they observe discrepancies between their results and those of others, they may begin to question the accuracy of their process. However, without a clear understanding of the questioner's methodology, it is challenging to determine the source of these discrepancies.

In the case of work with data, it is advisable to have multiple individuals review the material together in order to obtain the most accurate result. This will prevent the questioner from being disappointed by the outcome. Furthermore, it allows the questioner to discuss the material with their colleagues and avoid the negative mindset that they are always wrong, which can negatively impact their daily life. It is important to note that admitting limitations and seeking assistance from others does not imply a lack of competence. This approach can facilitate personal growth in unique ways.

It would be beneficial to consider all that this position has brought you thus far.

In exchange for remuneration, employees are expected to perform the duties of their roles. When presented with a greater number of options, individuals are inclined to select a position that aligns with their personal preferences. It is plausible that, initially, the questioner was satisfied with this role and therefore persisted with it. However, the introduction of a significant project has led to feelings of distress and anxiety, indicating a potential shift in their emotional state.

Subsequently, additional workloads of a similar nature will undoubtedly emerge following the completion of this significant project. It is therefore reasonable to conclude that this particular state of affairs will persist for an undetermined period of time. I recently experienced a period of mental and physical exhaustion that was comparable to the one described by the original poster. A considerable volume of work that demanded a great deal of mental and physical energy ultimately led to a state of collapse. It is possible that this was a consequence of my own self-imposed expectations, which led me to believe that acknowledging my shortcomings would result in ridicule from others. After persevering for several months, my body could no longer tolerate the demands placed upon it. I subsequently came to realise that I was considerably more relaxed after acknowledging my limitations.

The questioner may benefit from introspection to identify the impact of this demanding role on his cognitive resources and overall well-being. It is evident that the role has become a significant source of stress, leaving little room for personal fulfillment. It is crucial to understand the underlying thoughts and emotions that arise when confronted with such a challenging situation.

Given my personal experience, I believe it is important to emphasise the necessity of making a decision promptly when confronted with a work situation that is overwhelming. While contemplating the options of remaining in or leaving the situation, it is crucial to allow oneself sufficient time to process and prepare for the transition. I will present a series of strategies that I have found effective in navigating similar circumstances.

Meditation: Due to the excessive workload on my brain and the relatively low mood I experience, I have experienced several instances of crying without relief, which has subsequently affected my sleep. I have found that meditation is an effective method for improving my sleep. Each day, before going to bed, I open the platform's Meditation Planet and select the Bedtime Relaxation option. I allow myself to lie in bed, relax my entire body, listen to music, and listen to the teacher's guidance. Gradually, I release my irritable mood and tired body and focus on each part of my body. This process seems to indicate that I require a more restful state.

During my lunch break, I would engage in the body scan technique described in the book, which would facilitate a distinct state of relaxation. I hypothesize that by meditating regularly, I can enhance my sleep quality, which in turn provides me with the energy to confront the challenges of the next day.

Secondly, exercise is beneficial. During my tenure at the office, I would rise from my desk and walk for a few minutes after working for a while. I would then play music and engage in light exercise. The area designated for exercise does not need to be expansive; it can be tailored to suit one's circumstances. Even when seated, one can perform a series of movements to open the shoulders, expand the chest, and stimulate the armpits and lymph nodes. These actions can be performed with a towel, which can be pulled across the shoulders to open the chest. The heart is situated close to the chest, and when the chest is expanded, it can provide a sense of relief.

③ Learn to find a balance: A considerable amount of work is accumulating, and there is a desire to complete it expeditiously. The faster the work is finished, the more others may perceive the volume of work as excessive. As a hasty individual, when faced with work, the inclination is to complete it rapidly. Consequently, before one is aware, the workload has increased. Subsequently, it became apparent that a balance was necessary. If the work is completed in a hasty manner, there is no opportunity for praise, and the result is simply an increase in the workload. Therefore, it is more beneficial to complete the essential tasks first and then proceed with the remainder at a slower pace. This approach has been found to reduce anxiety.

I am no longer concerned with the opinions of others. I conduct myself in accordance with my own principles and preferences. I find the notion that life is not a sprint but a marathon to be particularly apt. This concept is discussed in the book Anxiety Self-Help Manual. I would suggest reading the two books The Body Knows the Answer to gain further insight. After reading them, you may be better equipped to make informed decisions.

It is my hope that this response will prove beneficial to the questioner. Best wishes,

Good day,

Host:

My name is Zeng Chen, and I'm a mindfulness coach. I've taken the time to read the post carefully, and I believe I can understand the internal conflict you're experiencing from the content.

At the same time, I also noticed that the poster has courageously expressed his own distress and actively sought help on the platform, which will undoubtedly help the poster to better understand and recognize himself, thereby adjusting his perceptions. It might be helpful to find a sense of accomplishment.

I hope that sharing my observations and thoughts from the post might help the poster to view themselves from a more diverse perspective.

1. Could I suggest that you explore why you are so tired and can't find a sense of accomplishment?

From what I can gather from your post, the main reason you're struggling is that the results you're getting are very different from what others are getting. This is making it difficult for you to identify where the discrepancies lie, which is understandable. It's natural to become more resistant and lose confidence when you're facing challenges.

After reading this information, I sense that the poster still has a keen awareness. I believe this awareness could potentially assist in navigating the current situation.

Additionally, it seems that the original poster has experienced feelings of doubt. From a psychological perspective, excessive self-doubt can lead to a significant expenditure of energy.

If you take on a project like this, you may experience fatigue due to the workload. When we add self-doubt and frustration to the mix, it can further deplete our energy, leading to a sense of exhaustion. It's understandable that this can lead to feelings of tiredness.

Perhaps we could consider what we can do for ourselves in the present?

2. Consider cultivating self-confidence.

After reading your story, I was reminded of a similar tale. This story is about how a graduate student from Peking University overcame his inferiority complex and became confident.

In the story, the male protagonist confides in a counselor that he used to be quite self-conscious. Because he was the top scorer in his province and got into Peking University, his grades gave him a lot of confidence at that time.

Upon entering Peking University, he came to understand that the caliber of students there was exceptionally high, and his own academic performance was not as strong as he had hoped. This led to some feelings of doubt and uncertainty.

During the learning process, many of his classmates had the opportunity to study at prestigious universities abroad, while he only got into graduate school at his own university. This made him feel that he had missed out on some opportunities.

The counselor inquired once more, "How did you transition from feelings of inferiority to a sense of self-confidence?" He replied, "I came to recognize that there are always individuals who excel beyond my abilities. When I find myself in comparison to others, I tend to lose confidence. However, I've come to understand that self-assurance provides me with strength, as self-doubt can often lead to a sense of depletion. Conversely, self-affirmation has the opposite effect, giving me a sense of resilience and fortitude."

Previously, I believed that confidence was only attainable if one was adept at a particular skill. However, I have since come to understand that true confidence is a prerequisite for excellence in any field. How, then, can one cultivate confidence?

On the one hand, it would be beneficial to learn to be self-confident. This story is somewhat similar to yours, so it is my hope that it will provide you with some new inspiration.

3. Self-acceptance

We touched on two aspects of self-confidence just now: self-affirmation and self-acceptance. It seems that the more a person accepts himself, the more confident he becomes.

Perhaps we could define acceptance as accepting your own strengths and also seeing your own weaknesses.

By accepting the parts of ourselves that cannot be changed and focusing our energy on the parts that we can change, we can work towards becoming a better version of ourselves and gain confidence in the process.

Indeed, confidence is not about being able to do everything, but rather about acknowledging one's limitations and still maintaining a positive self-image. Embracing one's imperfections can also be an important aspect of developing confidence.

When a person is able to fully accept themselves, they may find that their confidence grows.

I hope that these words will be of some help and inspiration to you.

You've got this! Hugs to you, the questioner (ง ̀_ ́)ง, and good luck!

I was in a similar state to you for a while. I was "stuck at work, with no progress and no direction," which led to a series of events that made me crazy at the time. I felt like the whole person had closed up, but in my normal life I was the kind of person who liked to set the mood. My colleagues and friends didn't know what was going on in my mind, so they just joked with me as usual. I really couldn't get motivated to do anything, and I was smiling very fake, which caused others to be embarrassed too. I felt guilty that I couldn't get motivated.

This state of mind lasted for about a week. One day, I came home from work and realized that I had run out of food. I didn't want to go grocery shopping (I really just wanted to lie down), but I also knew I couldn't go on like this. So I went to the market downstairs (which was a real surprise). The market is a lively place. I bought some of my favorite vegetables and meat and went home to cook myself a hot pot.

After dinner, I tidied up the house a bit and then bought myself a new outfit (from a Chinese online shopping site), which made me feel completely refreshed.

It's time to separate your life from your work. Get your life in order first, and you'll see your happiness index go up, feel more joy, and your work will naturally become more organized. You'll also be better at handling pressure.

I'm sharing these experiences and thoughts because I know they can help you, my friends.

Be a happy adult.