There are many negative emotions, I feel exhausted even without doing anything, what should I do if no one cares about my well-being?

Hello, question asker. I can see you're feeling confused right now, and I'm here to help!

I think what you're trying to say is that your mom is great at telling you to study hard but could use some guidance on how to support your emotional needs.

I think it would be really helpful for you to try to understand your mother's upbringing.

Maybe when she was growing up, her parents treated her the same way. They might not have been willing to let her tell them about her worries.

So, after being influenced by her parents for a long time, she doesn't know that children also need to talk to their parents about their emotions.

Don't blame your mom, sweetie.

It's so sad that her parents never saw her negative emotions when she was growing up. This means that she doesn't know that your negative emotions also need to be vented.

It's so great that you've posted a question here on the platform today when you encountered a problem!

We big brothers and sisters are here for you, ready to listen to your complaints, even if we can't help you as much as you need.

You're also very welcome to seek help from the professional counselors on this platform.

Our wonderful counselors here on the platform are happy to offer a 50% discount for students. All you need to do, question asker, is fill out a form and submit a school certificate proving that you are currently enrolled.

And don't forget, you can also seek help from the instant listeners on this platform.

Or you can even order a heart coach!

I really hope the problem you're having gets solved soon!

Now, all I can think of is the above.

I really hope my answer helps and inspires you, the questioner! I'm the answerer, and I study hard every day.

Here at Yixinli, the world and I love you! Wishing you the best!

Take care!

Hello, I'm listening.

From what you've told me, it's clear you're feeling ignored by your family. I can understand why you want to tell someone, but it's hard to find the right person to talk to. Even your friends, teachers and classmates seem impatient with you, which is totally understandable.

I can see this is really distressing for you. It seems like you're struggling to find anything you can show for yourself that is worth being cared about, apart from studying.

You deserve to feel loved by yourself.

You deserve to love yourself!

It's so understandable that you want to live life to the fullest, especially when everyone else is preparing for the university entrance exams. But there's more to life than just that! Living life to the fullest is the way to unlimited possibilities.

You know, it's so important to learn to love yourself. If you want to cry, cry. If you want to feel sad, feel sad. You can express your negative emotions.

Write down the bad things. It'll help you feel better! Or find a tree hole.

It's okay to go and tell someone your thoughts, and then bury them.

Our emotions have a way of speaking to us, don't they?

At the same time, there's no such thing as a good or bad emotion. They're just emotions, and they're all valid. Don't reject them. Every emotion that comes up is telling you something.

What's going on in your body right now? He's sharing his thoughts and ideas with you, and I'd love for you to listen to them carefully.

Welcome them with open arms! All those emotions of joy, anger, sorrow, and fear that come your way. But have you noticed?

Joy only accounts for 25%. There aren't many happy emotions in life, and we have to turn our attention to the unhappy things. It's a bit of a lose-lose situation, so let's just turn.

If we can focus on the 25% of things that bring us joy, life might be a little different—and it could be a whole lot better!

It's only by accepting the current situation that we can make things better.

It's only by accepting the unpleasant situation now that we can stop wallowing in our emotions, take a step back, and use our rational brains to find a solution. Otherwise, we might get overwhelmed by our emotions, and that would be a very bad thing.

If you really can't stand it, you can always seek help from a counselor. There should be counselors in school specifically for students like you. You can go and ask for their advice. I'm sure they'd be happy to help you.

Good day, My name is Kang Xing, a psychological counselor. It is challenging to experience negative emotions and lack the opportunity to discuss them with someone. It is even more distressing to feel that your well-being is not a concern to others. I will provide some guidance based on my counseling experience, but as I am not fully aware of your circumstances, this is for informational purposes only.

1. Your psychological condition may be relatively serious. This may manifest as fatigue, negative emotions, and a lack of motivation. If you experience fatigue without physical causes and negative emotions, it is advisable to consider the possibility of a serious psychological condition. I recommend consulting a professional. I do not typically engage with minors online for psychological counseling, so I suggest seeking other professionals for confirmation. A serious psychological condition often requires professional intervention.

2. It is important to communicate, but excessive negative discourse may result in avoidance, which is a natural response. Additionally, individuals often refrain from engaging in negative discourse that exceeds their coping abilities. This is because it may evoke feelings of anxiety, powerlessness, and confusion in the listener, potentially leading to adverse outcomes. Therefore, it may be necessary to adjust the length, frequency, and scope of your disclosures, focusing on topics that the other person can handle. This may enhance their receptivity, although it may be challenging for you.

If there is no suitable individual with whom to discuss your concerns, you may wish to consider writing them down or even talking to inanimate objects such as a tree, stone, or mobile phone. This is because emotions need to be expressed. However, if you find yourself talking and talking without finding resolution, it may be advisable to seek alternative methods.

3. Normalize your negative emotions. It is important to recognize that negative emotions are a natural part of the human experience. Psychological conditions that have developed to a certain extent are not uncommon, and it is inevitable that psychological conditions will give rise to negative emotions.

Negative emotions serve as a mirror, reflecting the severity of your psychological condition and the related content that links to your psychological condition. They are also typically the starting point for counselors to understand and assist their clients, and have become an essential tool for effective psychological intervention. It is important to note that your negative emotions are not a sin.

4. You have mentioned the challenging relationship you have with your mother, and also talked about envying girls whose relationship with their mothers is like that of best friends. It is natural for children to desire a particularly close and supportive relationship with their mother. However, many mothers begin parenting before they have learned to be a mother and find it challenging to recognize their own situation or have the opportunity to learn to be a good mother. The former may lack the ability to put themselves in other people's shoes, while the latter may not have the conditions to learn. Many children in such families are hurt or do not receive effective psychological support due to their parents' serious psychological conditions. I have received many visits from people whose main psychological trauma stems from their parents' inappropriate treatment.

5. If you have the resources, I recommend seeking the assistance of a professional counselor. If you lack the necessary resources, I suggest learning how to manage negative emotions. There are numerous resources that can teach you how to cope with negative emotions, varying in quality (such as books or online courses, which I will not endorse). Identify the resource that best suits your needs and strive to improve as much as possible. This will enhance your overall well-being and provide a solid foundation, potentially leading to a sense of hope and positive developments.

6. Based on my experience, the situation you describe is not more serious than some of my more challenging cases. With the right support, you can make significant improvements and gradually regain your health. I encourage you to pursue higher education. Many universities have excellent professional psychological counselors who can assist you in making these improvements. These counselors adhere to ethical standards and their services are provided at no cost. Will this become a positive driving force for you?

I wish you the best of luck.

Dear Question Owner, I am older than you, but after reading your description and seeing that you've mentioned your age, I can relate to your confusion at that age. I felt the same way, with lots of negative emotions and fatigue even when I didn't do anything. What should I do if no one cares about my life and death? Best regards, [Name]

Please accept my condolences. You have indicated that you require a significant level of emotional support, particularly in the form of understanding and companionship. However, you have also stated that you are unable to rely on those around you, including your long-term friend. This has led to feelings of helplessness and guilt. In light of your subsequent remarks, it is evident that you anticipate rejection and disapproval from those you care about. Despite this, you continue to nurture fantasies. Should these expectations be realised, it is likely that you will experience an emotional crisis, characterised by distress and tears.

You may experience feelings of helplessness and vulnerability.

Furthermore, you are aware that no individual is willing to offer unconditional love. This implies that everyone in the world may face their own challenges. Is your perception and thought process therefore confused? You experience distress, yet simultaneously inquire about your mother's concern for your well-being and academic performance. Your mother's response is indirect, yet you believe you understand her intentions. You envy other mother-daughter relationships. Your life is centered around test preparation and minimal social interaction. You are unhappy, and even interactions with your mother evoke stress responses. You feel extremely distressed.

I will provide you with another hug. I want to inform you that I am typing out every word because I can see the 16-year-old me in your words: misunderstood, out of place, and if I were chosen, I would definitely be the one abandoned. I also thought that I wouldn't live to be 18, but I am almost 30 this year. Therefore, you are suffering, helpless, and troubled, but you have a long life ahead of you.

You are aware of the Q&A Hall, which is beneficial. You are troubled because you are highly motivated, you envy others because you long for love, and you say you are guilty because you are kind. It is important to learn to accept yourself. Then, you should relax. When you feel agitated again, you should learn to turn inward and meditate.

Should all other avenues be exhausted, you may wish to consider engaging the services of a heart exploration coach on the platform for a text-based consultation. If the cost is a barrier, you can also post questions in the Q&A Hall. If necessary, you can discuss the possibility of seeking professional psychological counseling with your parents.

That is all I have to say on the matter. At Yi Xinli, we love and appreciate you.

If you only pursue the self, you'll end up with a lot of negative energy! But if you focus on self-growth and change, you can learn to truly love others and avoid or reduce negative emotions.

To truly love others is to wish them happiness and to mentally accept, forgive, and forgive everyone, the outstanding, the ordinary people, including the weak. If there are mistakes or shortcomings, then they can be corrected. Everyone has the right to happiness, no matter how close or distant the relationship is, whether it is right or wrong, gain or loss. We all hope that others can be happy and get better and better! People can bring mutual comfort and even joy to each other. It is good to love and accept others and oneself, to tolerate shortcomings and lack of ability, and to be kind at heart. That is, to be beneficial to others or society, not to dislike or reject ordinary people, not to be jealous or intolerant of outstanding people.

If you don't get along with most people, it can lead to negative energy and negative emotional problems. But don't worry! You can easily correct your energy field to find and have a loving and suitable relationship and career. And you can share and exchange what you see, hear, think, feel, or are interested in with others in real life and on the Internet, such as Douban communities.

And don't forget to love your life and be happy with the little things!

Your physical health is affected by negative energy, so it's important to keep your body comfortable and healthy! Give yourself a full-body massage to feel your best. The head massage includes the forehead and face, which also have meridians. Massage the head with deep, firm strokes, and massage the stomach with a firm massage brush. Do not massage the stomach on an empty stomach, and then take a walk!

If you have negative emotions, thoughts, or behaviors, you will not feel comfortable physically or mentally. You will often encounter unhappy people and things, interpersonal conflicts, relationship and marriage problems (which will affect your magnetic field), and even problems in your academic or career life. But there is a way to change all of that! When you are too self-centered or pursue self-interest, you accumulate a lot of negative energy. The more self-centered you are, the more your magnetic field will be out of sync with other people's. But you can learn how to truly love others and adapt to people and things, so as to correct your energy field, resolve conflicts, improve your emotions and interpersonal relationships, and better solve the above problems. In addition, if you know how to truly love the people and things in the world, you will not be too attached to love, and you will be able to alleviate negative emotions such as separation anxiety and pain. You will not feel lacking inside, and you will be able to feel happiness. And that is how your life can become fulfilling and meaningful!

And if necessary, they can also help those around them grow and change together!

The way in which excessive self-centeredness manifests itself varies from person to person: the psychological motivation to pursue self-satisfaction, striving for self or repressing self-deprecation to please others, blindly giving in order to gain, being afraid of losing, or disregarding the gains and losses of self-interest and emotions. Being too narcissistic or inferior, paying too much attention to oneself, generating stress and worry, social phobia, being caught up in one's own emotions and thoughts, attaching too much importance to what others think of oneself, not accepting one's own shortcomings and deficiencies, forcing oneself to be perfect, being obsessive, controlling, possessing others or forcing others to satisfy oneself, otherwise resenting and being discontent, being unable to let go of oneself to forgive and forgive, and brooding. All of these things are things that you can change!

If you only pursue the self, you will become anxious, depressed, and tired, and you may even be unable to adapt to the people and things in your school or workplace environment. But if you truly love others and adapt to people and things, you will naturally look down on the self and restore positive energy!

In short, go for it! Have good intentions, and do no harm to others. Because no one wants to suffer!