Three months after giving birth, I decided to get a divorce, as I had been holding back out of fear of arguing.

Hello, I'm Wang Li, a psychological counselor. From what you've told me, I can sense your frustration, helplessness, and unresolved issues. It's understandable that your husband's attitude after the birth of your child has caused you to feel this way. It's important for you to know that you are loved and supported. Please know that you can always come to me or your husband with anything you need.

It's so important to let your emotions out! You're just three months postpartum, and as a new mom, you really need to be taken care of.

It's totally understandable that your husband might not be able to understand your psychological and physical needs after giving birth, which can make you feel depressed. If you're struggling to get your husband to understand, you can always talk to your family, close friends, or girlfriends. Or, if you'd prefer, you can seek professional help to relieve your emotions.

You can learn to relieve your emotions yourself in your spare time. There are lots of ways to relax your mind, like listening to music or doing yoga.

Secondly, it would be really helpful for you and your husband to find a way to communicate more effectively and constructively. It can feel really frustrating when you try to talk through things and you end up getting yelled at, which makes it really difficult to communicate and feel like you're not being heard.

It might be helpful to try to understand the main reason for your husband's bad temper. Could it be because he doesn't want to take care of the housework and children?

Is he having trouble at work? Or is there some other reason? You can take a deep breath and think about it. Then, you can start communicating with your husband from this perspective. You understand your husband's difficulties, and you can also talk about your own difficulties, so that there can be a process of mutual understanding.

If you're struggling to find a way out of a tough spot on your own, don't hesitate to reach out to a professional for help. It's important to remember that during this postpartum period, your emotions can impact your physical and mental health, as well as your little one's. Having a happy and healthy mom is essential for your baby's development.

You can also talk to your husband from this perspective: "The emotions of the baby's mother are also very important to the baby's physical and mental health." I really hope he can calmly communicate with you.

I really hope my advice will help you get out of your current situation. If you need to talk, you can always contact me. I love you so much, and I'm here for you!

Good day. I am Strawberry.

In light of the aforementioned confessions and grievances, it is evident that the questioner, who has recently given birth, is in the recovery phase and has endured repeated accusations from her husband. From his statements, it can be inferred that he perceives his actions as solely benefiting the questioner and does not acknowledge his own role in the situation.

In the present situation, the husband of the questioner has expressed a considerable degree of distress. He has unleashed a torrent of grievances accumulated over an extended period of time upon the questioner, without first considering whether the latter could withstand the emotional onslaught at that particular moment.

This is an ineffective communication method.

The husband has expressed his emotions in this manner on more than one occasion. It is understandable that everyone experiences a certain amount of pressure, but it is irrational to direct one's stress towards one's partner.

The most damaging emotion is reserved for the individual with whom one has the closest relationship. The husband feels that his wife will never leave him, regardless of circumstances, and therefore allows himself to express his frustration at her. After experiencing this catharsis for the first time, the wife may not respond as strongly and behave in a way that her husband does not perceive as problematic.

Despite the questioner's attempts to communicate with her husband in order to resolve the issue, the discussions invariably conclude with accusations and insults from the husband. This pattern of miscommunication is likely to perpetuate the problem.

The husband's behavior can be attributed to a number of factors.

He has a tendency to blame others, perceive the questioner's actions as a significant misstep, and exhibit a proclivity for identifying flaws in others' physical attributes. It can be reasonably inferred that his upbringing may have contributed to these patterns of behavior.

Irrespective of the veracity of the situation and the respective rights and wrongs of the parties involved, if one chooses to indulge or to ignore the matter entirely, and if one is subjected to such an unhealthy environment and such poor leadership for an extended period of time, it is inevitable that one's emotional and psychological well-being will suffer. It will become increasingly difficult to bear witness to the success of others, and one will be unable to recognise and acknowledge one's own shortcomings.

At times, communication is only feasible with individuals who are amenable to communication. If we have already attempted to communicate and resolve issues with another person but they are uncooperative or unwilling to engage, the result is often exhaustion, both physical and mental.

It is recommended that the questioner seek assistance.

From the questioner's account, it appears that her husband's verbal attacks have not been limited to her. It is possible that she anticipated that, following the birth of their child, her husband would recognize his responsibilities and undergo a transformation. However, based on the evidence presented, it seems that he believes his actions have been solely intended to provide assistance to her.

The subject in question is an individual who lacks sufficient internal fortitude, rendering him incapable of withstanding a certain degree of pressure. He has consistently employed verbal attacks as a means of expressing his emotions, resulting in the unwitting victim of his wrath becoming the target of his verbal assaults. The detrimental impact of verbal violence is comparable to that of physical domestic violence. It is plausible that the initial sentiments of accommodation, expectation, helplessness, and disappointment experienced by the questioner have undergone a transformation over the course of their marriage.

The situation of the questioner's husband cannot be resolved simply by the questioner communicating with him on her own. In the absence of the questioner's ability to change him, she should attempt to persuade him when he is in a good mood and seek professional assistance to facilitate his recognition of his own shortcomings. If he is amenable to change, the family can still be happy, even if they are compelled to live with this pattern. The impact on the children is significant.

Although three months have elapsed since the birth, the questioner currently requires additional rest and recuperation. While she has already demonstrated admirable efforts in managing her own well-being, the prevailing pattern of interaction with her husband is detrimental to her physical and mental health. It may be more advantageous to the relationship if someone could provide care for the questioner and her child while allowing her husband to temporarily stabilize his emotions and address the underlying issues.

It is my hope that this response will prove beneficial to the questioner.