Dear question asker,
When faced with a challenge that seems insurmountable, people often react in one of three ways:
One might consider three possible responses to a challenging situation: fight, flee, or freeze.
As you mentioned, you have become numb, unsure of how to handle the situation, and have become frozen.
Could I ask what you think might have caused the breakup?
You mentioned that she is tired. Could it be that you are expecting too much companionship because you come from a single-parent family and are looking for the love that you did not receive as a child to find in your girlfriend, which might be putting a lot of pressure on her?
And with the college entrance exam approaching, it's understandable that the pressure of studying can be quite intense.
It might be helpful to try to understand her perspective.
I believe that when we are independent, we are better able to enter into and gain true love.
It might be helpful to consider that if someone is not mentally or financially independent, their so-called love for another person could be more about dependence or even taking.
If you want others to love you, it would be helpful to first learn to love yourself.
After all, you are still in high school, and it would be beneficial for you to continue growing and developing in order to be able to love in a more mature way.
In just two short months, the college entrance exam will be here.
I believe your ex-girlfriend made this decision probably to focus on her exams, and that she didn't necessarily want to hurt you.
You may be experiencing a sense of abandonment, as if your mother abandoned your father and you. This could be a painful feeling to revisit.
It's important to remember that she's still just a high school student. She made a choice based on her own wishes and didn't lie to you.
It's important to remember that relationships come and go, and that's perfectly normal.
If you become stronger and more independent, you may find that you attract the opposite sex.
You might consider talking to that part of yourself that is wounded, to understand what you feel and what you can do to feel happier and more relaxed. Your college entrance exam is also a turning point in your life. If you want to avoid regret, you might try to persevere for these next two months. I believe that you and your ex-girlfriend will both get good results.
I wish you the best of luck!


Comments
I can relate to feeling numb when things get overwhelming. Maybe taking small steps towards what you enjoy can help lift your spirits a little at a time.
It sounds like you've been carrying a lot on your shoulders. Reaching out for support, even just talking about how you feel, might start to ease that numbness.
Feeling numb can be a tough place to be in. Focusing on selfcare and perhaps seeking professional advice could provide you with strategies to cope better.
Suddenly feeling exhausted and numb can be really challenging, especially when you're yearning for companionship. Perhaps engaging in community activities or hobbies can connect you with others and alleviate those feelings.