Unable to express emotions, and when angry, do you turn from anger to sadness instead?

Hello, I'm Kiss the Wind, your whale social worker.

In our actual work and life, how might we express our emotions in a more constructive manner? The following principles could be helpful in this regard.

If I might suggest, the first step is to identify your feelings and emotions.

It would be beneficial to understand what your current emotion is, as well as to consider what event may have caused it. It is also helpful to reflect on whether the event was a reasonable cause of the emotion, and to consider whether there might be other interpretations.

Secondly, it would be beneficial to understand the distinction between emotions, words, and actions.

It is important to note that the way we express our emotions and act on them depends on the emotion in question. To illustrate this, consider a scenario where your boss is commenting on your report and you feel frustrated and displeased, as well as a negative opinion of your boss.

However, it is important to consider the potential consequences of this approach. It may lead to a situation where you do not express your feelings or take any action.

It would be beneficial to have a rich vocabulary of emotions.

As an ordinary person, it's understandable that the vocabulary for expressing emotions is limited. For example, the common ones may only be happy, sad, scared, and so on.

It is worth noting that each emotional word has a different degree of intensity. For instance, fear is slightly less intense than being scared, and slightly more intense than feeling anxious. This highlights the importance of developing a habit of collecting a range of emotional words, as it enables more accurate expression of emotions in our daily lives.

If I might make one more suggestion, it would be to express a variety of emotions.

It is also worth noting that when we express emotions, we may not just have one emotion, but a variety of other emotions may also be present. To illustrate this, let us consider a scenario where a friend has agreed to meet at 9 a.m., but when the time comes, they are still absent and unable to be reached by phone.

If you would like to express your emotions to your friend, how might you do it? If you haven't yet learned how to express your emotions, you might find yourself getting angry and not wanting to talk to your friend anymore.

If you learn to express a variety of emotions, you can say something like this: "When you didn't show up at 9 o'clock, I felt a little anxious. I called you, but I couldn't get through, so I started to worry about your safety. It wasn't until 10 o'clock that you showed up, not even apologizing, and I felt a little frustrated."

If you have a number of different emotions that you wish to express, it may be helpful to do so in a particular order according to the time. This could help to avoid any misunderstanding on the part of your friend, who might otherwise think that you will be upset if you are kept waiting.

He will be able to see the changes in your emotions through your expression.

I wish you the best (Yi Xinli, Whale Social Worker)